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Why are people freaking out about Palin’s teen daughter being pregnant?

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 5:33 pm

How many teenagers do you know that listen to their parents?
Her daughter made the choice to have sex.

I bet your family is perfect. No cousin that took drugs or aunt who had a baby too soon. I bet no one has ever divorced in your family or drank a beer. You guys sit down every night for a candle light bible reading before going off to bed. Long dresses and long hair. You are all SO perfect you get to cast that first stone at her daughter don’t you? (sarcasm intended)

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How much formula should I be feeding my daughter?

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 5:33 pm

On average how much formula does or should a 4 month old drink? My daughter takes approximately 26oz a day.
my daughter weights 13 lbs

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Do you feel sorry for this illegal or was justice served?

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 5:07 pm

He was one of 107 Mexican men who had started out that morning in shackles at the York County Prison and had been placed by immigration officials on a chartered plane at Harrisburg International Airport for a flight to the border. The journey was part of a now daily exodus that has made the south-central region of Pennsylvania a critical hub in the federal government’s efforts to deport undocumented immigrants.

Now 37, Mr. Cruz had not been in his native country since crossing illegally more than two decades before. He was leaving behind his parents, siblings, a young daughter he hardly knew and a seven-year prison stint in Virginia that followed a 2002 night of binge drinking and a hit-and-run crash. He had no clothes except his brown prison jumpsuit and a pair of blue slippers.Mr. Cruz, who became a devout Christian during his time in prison, plans to continue his religious studies and spread the word of God as a Mennonite missionary in his homeland.When Mr. Cruz crossed the border as a teenager in the 1980s, it was “kind of easy,” he said last month while awaiting deportation. The United States had far fewer border patrol agents than it has today.

His parents were already living in Los Angles, and Mr. Cruz wanted to join them. Most of his four brothers and three sisters would make similar journeys.

After a decade living on the west coast, the family decided to move to Harrisonburg, Va., to get away from the growing dangers of gangs and crime in Los Angeles. In Virginia, Mr. Cruz found work in a poultry factory, where he put turkeys on hooks before they were slaughtered.

By then, Mr. Cruz’s older brother had developed a drinking problem. Mr. Cruz, a regular churchgoer, initially resisted such temptations. But he soon started drinking with his brother.

“It was just little by little,” he said. “Then I was an alcoholic.”

The pair also smoked marijuana, despite admonitions from their parents. Mr. Cruz attended rehabilitation programs, but he didn’t have any success until he left his family to live on his own in Phoenix.

There he met Rosario Mendoza, a devoted Christian who helped him recover from his addictions. She also persuaded him to reconcile with his parents and return to Virginia. Mr. Cruz brought Ms. Mendoza with him, and the couple had a daughter named Paula.

Mr. Cruz also reconnected with his old group of friends, and he again started drinking and using drugs.

In November 2002, an intoxicated Mr. Cruz tried to drive home after watching a boxing match. He struck a woman’s car and kept driving before crashing again. He woke up in the hospital with a broken shoulder and neck and chest injuries. He later learned that the woman in the car had been pregnant and suffered a miscarriage.

During his first night in prison, Mr. Cruz tried to hang himself with a sweater. Guards put him under suicide watch.

At the prison health clinic, a nurse gave him a Bible and told him, “I’ll be praying for you.”

Her words provided comfort. Mr. Cruz resolved to change. He pleaded guilty to criminal charges and accepted a 10-year prison sentence and the loss of his visa to stay in the United States, which his parents had helped him get a decade before.

At Green Rock Correctional Center in Chatham, Va., Mr. Cruz immersed himself in Christianity, attending Bible study and theology classes sponsored by Jerry Falwell’s Liberty University. He served as a translator at weekend services for other Latinos in the prison.

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I over did it with drinking alcohol on Christmas. Why is my family still upset with me?

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 4:33 pm

My daughter is out drinking today at a bar with my son. My husband is still upset with me. I do occasionally drink a little too much, but most of the time I am a moderate drinker and really watch myself.

He wants me to go with him to a MacDonald’s in our town tonite. We have to watch our budget…and thats fine with me.

I asked him if he would buy a six pack of beer….NO! He said. I really drink moderately just a few beers at night. Should I just forget about the beer and enjoy McDonald’s anyway? I could go for a cold one tonite…:-)

What are your thoughts and feedback on this. I think they are a little too hard on me sometimes.
Hey good feedback here. I REALLY could go for a MacDonalds malt! Honest.
Yes. I have gone for a week or almost two without a beer. Ahhh. Sometimes its a beautiful way to end the day though. Otherwise, its kind of bleak at night. Besides that taste so good too. I’ve had non alcoholic beer and love it. I dislike pop or soda.

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Conventional or Alternative Medicine is not Enough: Go Green

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 4:20 pm

Whether you are strictly a proponent of Conventional medicine or a combination of both Alternative and Conventional to cure your health problem, it does not make sense if you have harmful habits.  One must not smoke, drink, or do drugs. One must manage one’s stress, exercise moderately, and, most importantly one must eat well ~ food is your medicine.

Components of the Greens Diet

When asked, the type of diet or healthy eating practice I preach is a diet I call “The Greens Diet”. I actually stumbled on it at a Overeater’s Anonymous meeting.   It consists of:

12oz of protein (chicken, fish preferably salmon)

1 fruit per day (at least)
20 oz of Green leafy vegetables:

  Beet tops (red and green leaves)

  Kale

  Spinach

  Collard Greens

  Swiss Chard

  Mustard greens

 Other vegetables include: Turnips, Parsnips, Jicama, Green beans, Summer and Winter squashes

I tell my friends, my family, and, my patients, at a minimum to incorporate features of the Greens Diet into their diet, if not replace their diets completely.  The green vegetables I recommend above are the leafy and cruciferous kind. Fresh is always best but if a particular vegetable is not in season, by all means, there’s plenty in the freezer section of your local supermarket.  If the choice is between frozen or none at all, I would go with frozen.

Benefits of Greens
The benefits of green leafy vegetables are endless.  Kale’s constituents primarily include: Vitamin K, A, C, and manganese.  It is also rich in dietary fiber, calcium, potassium, iron, and magnesium. Some studies list that Kale helps prevent cancer, it’s nutrients neutralize potentially carcinogenic substances.  The International Journal of  Cancer lists that those who consume kale and other cruciferous vegetables have a lower incidence of lung, colon, breast, and ovarian cancers.

Spinach, like Kale is another vegetable rich in Vitamins K, A, C, B6, E, folate, manganese, iron, and potassium.  Spinach helps protect against heart disease, arthritis, and, the type of cancer it helps protect against is that of the colon. Swiss Chard like Spinach and Kale is also rich in Vitamin K, A,C, E, and folate, manganese.  Research show that it helps with bone health and the type of cancer it protects against are in the digestive tract.  Because Swiss Chard is an excellent source of magnesium, so it helps regulate nerve and muscle tone by  balancing the action of calcium.  Insufficient magnesium can thus contribute to high blood pressure.   Like Kale, and Spinach, Swiss Chard is an excellent source of Vitamin C and E.  It has antioxidant powers that help battle free radicals that cause damage to cells.  Not having enough antioxidants in the body can result in inflammatory conditions like arthritis.  Vitamin C is also essential for immunity, excellent for the prevention of the common cold.   

All the greens and squashes listed above are excellent sources of fiber and shown to reduce high cholesterol levels which in turn help prevent atherosclerosis.  It’s also been shown that fiber helps keep blood sugar levels low, therefore helpful to those with Type 2 Diabetes.   Including bulky greens, and, squashes  in one’s current diet gives one a sense of fullness and contributes to weight loss.  I’ve seen this in my senior patients.  Some of my patients tout 1-3 lb/week losses. Some of the vegetables above contain some protein, but this Greens Diet includes 12 oz. of protein a day and I recommend fish, and if possible, salmon.  Salmon is a great source of omega oils excellent for heart, brain, skin, and vital in the reduction of high levels of cholesterol.  These dark green leafy vegetables, and  squashes  are easily available in your neighborhood supermarkets. Remember to add yellow, and, green squashes.  Low in carbs, and, sugar, they add texture to your greens. The most common type of squashes are either summer or winter squash.  When selecting your squashes, the summer squash should be fairly heavy for its size, and, free from blemishes.  Winter squashes are usually sold immature.Remember, think dark green Leafy, and yellow. In the 5 Element theory of Chinese medicine, squashes which are basically yellow, represent Earth; the organ: the Pancreas.  In Chinese Medicine theory, it is the pancreas that transforms food and drink into qi (energy), and, blood.     

You may blanch the greens, keeping them crunchy and tasty with your favorite salad dressing.  Remember that vinegar is an astringent, it holds in Lung Qi; the energy of breathing.  For frozen vegetables, check the instructions on the  package.  Remember not to overcook!  Feel free to garnish with nuts.  Squash is excellent baked or steamed.  Summer squashes can also be mashed and served with a little bit of butter or low-fat cream. Squashes can also be boiled before you toss in the greens cooking for an additional minute or two.  Spinach is great fresh.  Mix it with other salad greens.  I’m a fan of olive oil and vinegar as a dressing.

Patients Benefit from the Greens Diet

One of them let’s call Morris, a boy of 8 with ADHD.  His mother is a jewel of a woman with infinite patience, and, rationale.   Morris has everyone in the house inspired with how the Greens Diet has changed him.  He is calmer, and now can be still in order to listen.  “I want my daughter to have what you gave to Morris.  He is so much calmer, and, nicer,”  his classmate’s dad told Morris” mom.   Of course Morris’ mom and dad are on the program for weight loss, coz why not? They say.

My senior patient I will name Olivia, aged 70 came to Acupuncture because she had open heart surgery.  She was overweight, and worried about her heart.  She was sent to me by her cardiologist.  Olivia had a stroke, and open heart surgery.  A patient on blood thinners is not a candidate for herbal therapy.  She is kept on her conventional medicine protocol, and immediately put her on The Greens Diet.  The following week, Olivia happily reported that she lost 1 pound!  We were encouraged to continue,  balancing her coronary health, and diet.  Olivia is a good patient. She has an open mind, and, looks forward to alternative medicine complementing her HMO plan.  We were encouraged to continue, balancing her coronary health, with this Greens Diet and Acupuncture.
 

Another is a television actress we will call Gwen.  She is young, and, very talented.  Gwen needs to be clear of mind as she goes from one film set to another.  Gwen is a large woman of 5’9″ who thrives on the Greens Diet because it keeps her energetic, and she continues to fit well in her size 12 suits.  I am in my thirties, and, I feel fabulous~ “let’s take as many pictures of me now while I am young, and pretty!” she says. 

An elderly lady we will call Rita has glaucoma.  She comes to Acupuncture, and, herbal therapy so that she can see better.  Acupuncture treatments always improve her vision.   In Chinese Medicine, Glaucoma is damp.  The Greens Diet drains damp, and cools the blood that is stored in the liver.  To help drain damp and tonify her pancreas, we replaced her soda pop habit  with fresh ginger juice and honey.   Her vision continues to improve with Acupuncture and a customized Chinese Herbal formulation.  

Nancy is 49.  Recently diagnosed with type II diabetes, she came to my clinic seeking alternative medicine to support her decision to get better.  So focused was Nancy with her new diet, and, exercise regiment, that her numbers cleared up and balanced out rapidly.  In 6 weeks, her doctor was surprised with her recovery.  You are a model patient.  Would you be willing to speak in my coming Forum on Diabetes at the University next month?   Nancy’s recovery includes her will and determination to get better.  The Greens Diet easily manages diabetes.

Karena, 55, had surgery that incised the cancer she had in her breast.  She has Acupuncture to help her heal quickly.  I also put her on the Greens Diet to accelerate healing and to elevate, and, maintain her mood.
   
Conclusion:

 My patients are intelligent people who think out of the box as they pursue living well, and staying healthy.  They are in tune with their bodies.  They believe the Greens Diet works.  It gives them the energy to be on the ball with their busy schedules, as they continue to excel in their lives.  Less costly and always safe to use, I recommend The Greens Diet also because I am a Doctor of Chinese medicine with knowledge of traditional and natural remedies immediately recognizing its value (or value of its ingredients). As listed in my success stories above, I have used it to help my patient’s battle diseases or it’s aftermath and emotional problems since 2001. I can proudly say that I do use the Greens Diet to fix whatever ails me or if I need to be on a manageable diet.

In the 5 element theory of Chinese Medicine, colors can help one remember internal organs that we nourish with food. Green (wood) is the liver, generating Red (fire) the heart, generating Yellow (earth), the pancreas,  which now generates White (metal),  the lungs, which in turn generates Black or Blue for (water), the kidneys.  One element generates the next.  I always remember to say that instead of meats which are acidic, try fish or seaweed from the ocean to nourish kidneys.  That fountain of Life is the kidney organ. When we breathe in, it’s our lower back that moves~ where the kidneys are; a breath out is the lungs.  In Chinese medicine, the liver is the General.  The liver holds blood in the body before that the heart circulates.  It assists the pancreas in digesting food.  It also creates energy directing the Lungs in its breathing function.   A breath out is from the lungs.  A breath taken in is when the body pulls up from the lower back, the area of the kidneys.  Whether currently being treated for cancer and most especially when recovering from cancer, we need to eat our greens and if possible organic green so that it is free of cancer-causing pesticides.  Food is medicine. We are what we eat.  Eat fresh, and eat organic.

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How to Increase Female Libido – Herbs are More Powerful Than Most People Imagine

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 4:08 pm

Hormonal changes in the body seem to be one of the greatest threats against libido for woman. The most important thing to keep in mind when trying to increase female libido is that the woman’s lack of sex drive is rarely personal. When a woman loses her sex drive, the love of her man is the best bet to make her feel confident about herself and her sexuality. Today, many men understand that increasing the female libido revolves greatly around trying to meet both the woman’s physical and emotional needs, as well as enticing her in a sexual way. In most cases, the woman wishes to increase her sex drive as well, and will be delighted with you taking the steps to help get her engine purring again.

Every woman deserves a satisfying and rewarding sex life. A woman has a lot of erogenous zones. But if you think about it a bit more, you’ld realize that SCENT does influence how a woman reacts to you. One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath and this is a great opportunity to give her a sexual massage. Female libido enhancement can add significant changes to a womans sexual life, and her level of intimacy with her partner can be greatly enhanced.

Whether the woman has given up on the whole sexual process or she just needs to spice things up, natural alternatives like Provestra and Vigorelle will turn the key and open the door to sexual fulfillment and satisfaction. Developed by a world-renowned physician, the cream’s sexual effects are subtle and natural feeling, yet it profoundly increases a woman’s sensitivity and improves the frequency and intensity of orgasms. The main active ingredient is L-Arginine, an amino acid proven to stimulate blood flow to the female genital area and increase a woman’s sexual stimulation.

Herbal supplementation has been the key ingredient in these remedies since the dawn of realization that a libido could be altered. In many ancient and even modern cultures, the discrepancy between the male and female libido is so recognized that mothers hand down “secret” herbal formulas with instructions to their daughters on their wedding night. Herbal female sex pills are a good way to increase the libido levels, as they are natural with no side effects. Modern herbal combinations like those found in products like Provestra and Vigorelle use this ancient wisdom to create modern natural alternatives to pharmaceuticals or other ‘harder’ therapies. Many women have resolved libido issues using products like Provestra, a compound of herbal compounds with centuries of use in native cultures.

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Why are people freaking out about Palin’s teen daughter being pregnant?

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 4:08 pm

How many teenagers do you know that listen to their parents?
Her daughter made the choice to have sex.

I bet your family is perfect. No cousin that took drugs or aunt who had a baby too soon. I bet no one has ever divorced in your family or drank a beer. You guys sit down every night for a candle light bible reading before going off to bed. Long dresses and long hair. You are all SO perfect you get to cast that first stone at her daughter don’t you? (sarcasm intended)

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My Life Story… in a Nut Shell

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 4:08 pm

My life story… in a nut shell
Prior to my birth:
My mom jumped a 2-story building to kill herself while pregnant of me, she did not succeed.

My mother’s murder:
I was not quite 3 years old yet when my mother’s life was taken. I remember thinking my mother died in a car accident because my step grandmother would tell me that what happened to her was an accident. I asked many times about how my mother died and I never got lots of information about it as a child. I later on was very scared to learn how to drive and I’m guessing that might be due to the old belief that my mom died in a car accident. I got my drivers’ liscence at 27.

3 sisters are separated:
Sometime after mom’s death, us 3 girls were separated between the 2 sets of grand parents. I was raised with my father’s parents who consisted of his dad, mother in law and half brother Pasca. My real father’s mom died in his teenage years, she was a Concert Pianist.
My other 2 (older) sisters were taken by my mom’s parents whom the mother was an alcoholic and I later on learned that her real father had died and had been an artist who would hit my mother with empty beer bottles as a child. Again, those are bits and pieces of stories from different parts of my family members at different times of my life.

Grade 1 success:
My grand mother helped me a lot at succeeding in my homeworks and I became head of the class which at the end of the grade got me an invitation to attend a music primary school named :Ecole Le Plateau.
By that young age I was also a talented drawer, I would excell in school drawings.
Somewhere around that age I met my dad. I don’t remember much except that I sat on his lap and he was very intimidating looking with his dark hair, eyes and beard. But he was friendly and he wanted a kiss good bye and my shyness took over and I ran away and hid in the house. From that day I was always very shy with my dad, would never hug him or let myself be hugged or kissed by him and I would never say I love you.
Later on I learned from him that his parents wanted to keep me and asked him to go along with the story that he was my uncle…I don’t remember any of that.

Grade 2 new school:
New environment and new kids were very difficult on me. My grades went lower right away and I got picked for being so skinny.

Grade 4 I chose piano:
For grade 4 I had to choose what instrument I wanted to learn, and I knew I was meant to be a pianist like my real Grand-mother : Gemma Carreri. The 2 grade prior to grade 4 was manditory violin and recorder flute. I quit the violin as I got blisters on my fingers but I kept up the recorder flute.

Auditioning for high school:
Grade 6 was over, and I really wanted to continue my piano so I worked hard to get into this Royal conservatory high school and was ecstatic when I got accepted after auditioning.
How I get the years jumbled when it comes to my neighbor Franco whom my grand-mother thought highly of. He was a few years older and real big compared to skinny me and started touching me sexually on occasions. I was an extremely shy and withdrawn person and I didn’t push him away. I don’t know what I was thinking, maybe I liked the attention.

Left to live with my dad:
Grade 8 or 9, my moods were a mess, I didn’t get along with my grand mother who would call me names like hammerhead, pighead…but in french or course.
My father lived a couple of streets to my house and I would lie to my grand mother saying I was going to the park and was actually visiting my hippy Kung Fu teaching dad with a bag of stolen foods, soap and other mecessities from home.
I ended up moving with him and we packed up our little belongings and went for a long trip to visit my sister Linda who was living in Kelowna, B.C.

Met Don Thomson:
In Kelowna, my dad became friends with my sister’s ex, who was the age of our dad.
We moved into his little rented home and he had a quiet friend living there too who was an old vietnam vet. The following month my dad, I and Don the vietnam vet moved into a small house in an orchard.
Despite my poor English, Don and I became good friends going for walks and looking at wild plants. I was 14 years old.
Sometimes Don would drive me to school and once he gave me a note which I didn’t quite understand because of the language. My father read it and panicked. It was a love letter to me. Quickly plans changed, Dad and I were headed back to Quebec.

Back in Quebec:
We lived in the country and I had to attend yet another high school.
In that school I was teased for my Italian last name: Nardelli which in french is very close to Marde au lit (shit in bed).
My entire stay with my dad only lasted half a year. I couldn’t stand his cooking, smoking, pot-smoking, poor living and having to practice Kung Fu each day.
After heated arguments with him, I finally returned to my grand parents and my old music school, where I was also bullied for my unfashionable clothings.

Kelowna was calling me back:
My sister LInda came to visit us in Montreal. I was always closer to her than my eldest sister Patricia who would tell me nasty stories of our mother and how mean she was.
Patricia had it difficult and looked after her 2 younger sisters when we were all together. She’s 8 years older than me and she used to change my diapers.
Somehow I managed to convince Linda that I was ready to leave home, and my grand parents gave me away gladly as I was a roller coaster of changing moods at home.
I moved to Kelowna and lived with Linda and her new boyfriend.Although it wasn’t my plan, I started thinking about Don and missed him dearly. I managed to find him and soon I was sneaking out of the house to meet with him.
Don and I had a plan to pass the states line, we took the greyhound bus to Osoyoos and then walked a long ways. Of course the police caught us across the border. He was let go and as I was a monor I was sent to a jail to wait for my sister to pick me up (2-3 hours)
By that time, Don had convinced me that my Catholic belief was just that….a belief and he taught me about Indian ways, crystals, and new age stuff.

Sex:
I turned 16 and my sister and her boyfriend couldn’t lock me up in my room anymore, I had the right to choose where I wanted to be, and I chose Don.
We lived in a one bedroom basement suite and he started pressuring me for sex. I let him try many times and would end up in a screaming fit, he would be gentle and patient but by christmas he started getting more anxious. So I promessed him that I’d do it for the new year. I finally bared it, it was over, I was no longer a virgin.
But another problem arose, I didn’t bleed after sex and he was convinced I hadn’t been a virgin after all! I started remebering bits and pieces:
Franco got on top of me, I was pinned down and so scared I couldn’t scream. His sister Anna walked in and interrupted what was going on, I ran out and to this day I don’t know how far that sex attempt had gone.

My dog killed:
Don and I had pets from time to time, one in particular was very dear to me: Chinook.
She was a half wolf and half german sheperd dog. Don was very strict in disciplinning her and would often resort to physical violence. Chinook would eventually act as if nipping back without touching skin. Don told me the dog was dangerous and would soon bite me. He took his 22 rifle and shot her, he missed and she screamed in pain. He shot her again and I ran out crying. I found her laying in her pool of blood and hugged her. Later Don put her in a garbage bag and burried her at the farm. Whenever we came close to the burial spot I would cry and that would make Don angry.

I thought I was next:
Other smaller pets were killed for stupid reasons: peeing in the home, puking worms…. and Don seemed stranger and stranger.
I was working picking strawberries and came up with enough money for a bus ticket to my sister’s in Kelowna. I left him without notice, without confrontation with 2 boxes of belongings packed, starting life all over again.

Moving around:
I moved about every 1/2 year, renting this or that, being subsidized by welfare, trying counselling (free stuff), working here and then there.
I eventually moved with some grown men and fell in love with friendly roommate Rick.
Nothing ever came out of this, not even a kiss, but I felt he was keeping me hanging on a string by sometimes seeming so interested in me and then backing away back and forth.
I got heartbroken over this platonic relationship and got thinner and sadder.

Learned about depression:
Early 20′s now, had a smart girlfriend who told me about depression as an illness. I went to see her doctor and he sent me to a specialist who was gonna put me on Lithium. I told a few friends and only heard bad things about that drug. I ended up being prescribed Prozac and it did help.

David Hewitt:
I was working in a cafe, I met this fun loving biker guy. He was an recovering alcoholic attending NA and AA meetings. We lasted 5 months.
He was a sweet heart, but he liked sex too much and I didn’t. We ended up moving to a cabin on a hobby farm where I was stranded and lonely. I was unmedicated then.
I got myself depressed being alone, crying and screaming in pillows.
I ended up contacting a church pastor begging for help to get me moved back to Kelowna where I stayed in a woman’s shelter.

Vlastimil Piroh:
I moved eventually into a nice side suite by the beach still in Kelowna. It was beautiful there.
I started dating my neighbour who was czechoslovakian. We argued a lot quite quickly in the relationship and we soon broke up…. that’s when I met Steven Rhodes.
He hung out at my place, we were chatting on the bed, nothing sexual yet.
Vlastimil peeked in the window and flipped. He tried to hit me with a bottle of pickles.
We patched things up and had a 1 year total relationship. He’s the one that taught me ballroom and 2 step dancing at bars and I love it. He was demanding thou, I had to be a perfect housewife, never denying him….So the arguments were endless.
He was going to bring me to Czech Republic to meet his family, I was even learning his language. He decided he was ashamed of me because I wasn’t dressed perfectly, I slammed kitchen doors,…stupid little things. He went to Europe without me.
He came back a month later and proposed to me with a beautiful ring, I agreed.
Within the next month he slapped my face twice, I ran away from that relationship too!

Steven Rhodes:
I met back with Steven and jumped yet in another relationship. He did a B&E and went to jail. I agreed to house arrest at my basement suite which lasted only a couple of months (still moving every 1/2 year or so!).
I finished hair dressing school, getting myself more in debt.
Once I broke up with Steven, I packed my stuff and got shipped by plane to my other sister’s (Patricia) in Montreal.
I lasted a week and found my way back to my home in Kelowna by forging checks a friend had given me so I’d have enough money to get back to Steven and live ($800.00 from 2 $100 checks!)
Steven and I decided to start computer school together. Not quite half way through, we used his student loan to come to calgary, where there’s work. He never lasted long at any job, a wimp, a drunk, and I was nagging him to look some more..
I found a minimum wage job right away but we still couldn’t pay the bills. I decided to swallow my shyness and pride and got into exotic dancing. (which was my longest lasting career! 5 years).
I got pregnant, couldn’t danced after 3 months so the bar placed me in the VLT room, money was tight again.

I had Emma on my 25th birthday, C-section, she was an 8 pound baby!
We were living in a dumpy half basement suite in Calgary, I returned to dancing after Emma was 2 months old.
Steven and I had a rocky relationship, I couldn’t handle his alcoholism and I’d slap him, or kick him away…. I was becoming violent!
I broke up with him many times but always took him back. I saved for a SUV that he wanted, I didn’t have my driver’s liscence yet….. too scared of traffic.
We decided to move back to the Okanagan (Vernon) and his mom set up an apartment for us: We just had to find work to pay the bills. I did find a part time job right away but Steven would take the SUV and go to Kelowna to meet friends, to drink, to smoke pot, to be gone all night long.
My sister Linda came to my rescue again with a new boyfriend again. She helped me pack up my stuff and my daughter and we were headed to Vancouver where she had now been living for a few years.
On the way to Vancouver, her driving of course, we got into an accident and totalled the vehicle.
Everyone was ok, we found our way to Vancouver with her boyfriend. Linda was getting controlling when I was talking about finding a dancing job. That’s all I knew that paid well enough to look after me and my daughter.
Within a week I ran away with my baby back to Calgary where I stayed with a stripped friend and got back to my old job private dancing.
I received 8 grand for my totalled truck and I assumed the mortgage of a little house in Castleridge (Calgary). It was my home! Yeah!
Couple of months later I took Steven back in again plus his new loser friend Kevin.
Work was stressful because I had a bully co worker and I started getting revengeful by stealing makeup and stuff.

I broke up with steven again… and again, finding different boyfriends each time… and getting back with steven when things didn’t turn out.
At that point I met a guy in Ft McMurry named Ian Young. I was messing with my depression pills, taking less… taking more.., but never being a big drinker, never touching illegal drugs.
Ian saw the hurt in me, he was sweet, he said he’d take care of me. But he had business to do in that town and I worked in different towns each week driving in a beat up car to strip in this bar one week and then another next week all over Alberta and Northern B.C.
We had a phone relationship for a month when I couldn’t reach him anymore and found out he was killed in a car accident!
Even if I didn’t know Ian very well, that death devastated me, and I returned to the familiar: Steven.

Jon Neil:
Money was going missing, bills were late, I needed more money.
I found a roommate from the customers at the bar I worked at full time again private dancing: Jon Neil.
We became friends, he helped me see that my relationship with Steven had to end.
He helped me in the process, it was chaotic like many other times where the cops were involved. But I finally succeeded!
Jon, Emma and I were living in my house, and it probably took me about a month of flirting with Jon and getting drunk while being on anti depressants, to jump into another relationship.
Here’s how I did it:
Jon bought me a bottle of wine, I got drunk ( no wine glass needed, just chugging from the bottle!) and I finally said:
I’m tired, I’m going to bed….are you coming?
Jon was a nice guy from the start, he was respectul of women, kind, courteous… but I was still in love with the father of my beautiful blonde daughter. I struggled with this for a long time….years. I had wanted to marry Steven but that was not a wise choice.
I decided to propose to Jon instead (who was much more stable with a job and wasn’t abusing substances)
We had only been dating a couple of months when I proposed to Jon on the phone (chicken!)
I did love Jon very much but was also scared that my love for Steven would overcome it because I was determined to not go back to him. So I was in a hurry to get married, to tie myself down… Jon didn’t let me!
He made me wait a year before the actual marriage.
I made it! But the week of our wedding was an emotional wreck on my part! Poor Jon.

Quit dancing:
the dancing environment and cattiness was destroying me more and more. I was thieving more and feeling little remorse for it.
I decided to quit it all and got back into hairdressing which Jon was very glad about.
I got pregnant and I’m an even more unstable person when pregnant!
I started making enemies at work, stealing, …being mouthy…. and finally I quit.

Chandler Neil:
Had a son naturally, was so happy about that victory. 2 months passed by and post partum depression was setting in. I was getting angry easily and did my first half ass suicide attempt by taking tylenols and such. Was brought to the hospital in Calgary, was then released shortly after.
Have been prescribed serzone, paxil, forget what else, finally prozac again seemed to work the best. Other drugs made me too groggy and slow. Prozac helped me get up and get things done.

Drunken affair:
We are now living in Strathmore, am a stay at home mom trying to make part time money from teaching piano and internet businesses. We’ve been married 5 years now, together a total of 6 1/2 years. Got drunk one evening and decided to act on a crush of a local stud.. The carpet cleaner! I don’t know why I attempted again and again to contact that neighbour ( in vain). I don’t believe I’m unhappy in my marriage, my marriage with Jon has been the most level relationship in my life!
Maybe I’m craving chaos again!? maybe the same guy for so long is tiring! (longest relationship), maybe I’m just mentally ill!

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A Curious Mother’s Day Story

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 4:08 pm

SALOME and HERODIAS,


A CURIOUS MOTHER’S DAY STORY©


Reprinted with permission from The Perspicacious Woman OnLine©

April, 2003 issue, Volume 3:Number 2

Publisher, The Daisy Shop, women’s couture resale

http://www.daisyshop.com

Barbara Nell


First, a disclaimer:


This article requires information about John the Baptist, whose life and works and words are holy, divinely inspired, to Christians. The sources I’ve accessed are religious, historical, literary, exegetic, and anecdotal. In order to avoid disrespect for the sacredness of the words and concepts with which Christians hold The Gospels and with which Jews hold The Torah, I’ve renamed both ‘translated redactions.’ I also use the euphemism, monotheistic god, to avoid any disrespect to any deity and religion. This is an essay designed to entertain and inform you, Dear Reader, not to cause any religious discussion or foment.


Second, a thank you:


To friend Pam and friend Vanessa, both of whom got my research juices going on Salome, whom, I believed, was trivial, too trivial even for our newsletter. It boiled down to “Who did she do the belly dance for?” I hadn’t a clue, because I didn’t think she was real. They both assured me she was a real person. I checked it out. Yup, she was real and…


…she may have danced or may not have danced. But, if she did dance, it wasn’t a belly dance that she did, nor was it a tap, the tango, or the quick step. The belly dance aspect was imagined in the late 19th century by some artistic guy, and we’ll get there, later, when it’s timely. She did perform, that much is true, and she performed for the host, her stepfather, at the instigation of the hostess, her mother, and their banquet guests.


It was an entertainment interlude, and it occurred about the 1st century AD in a castle located in area called The Galilee. She may have performed in a play about some Greek mythological character or she may have been the one non-Bedouin ( a guest) in a troop of Bedouin entertainers who did folk dances that non-Bedouins enjoyed seeing. If it was the former, the structure of the play was rigid: it was a pantomime, with stringed instrumentals to keep the story line going, mime actors of both genders, all adults, and young children acrobatics of both genders. Everyone was masked. This was a troop of professional entertainers on the payroll of biggies, not a traveling group (a type not yet invented). They were probably on the payroll of her stepfather and she had time to practice with them before the banquet.


If it was the latter, it was a dance, one with a lot of whirling and head tossing, by females in heavy blue robes with cowls, and there was a flute accompaniment. The company did not live in The Galilee, but were nomads from the desert between The Galilee and Arabia, who had come by request of the biggie. It is unlikely that Bedouin dancers were involved in this banquet, for they had to walk a fine line in their desert migrations, land that abutted both The Galilee and Arabia at that time There was bad blood between Aretas IV King of Arabia and Antipas, stepfather of Salome, Tetrarch of The Galilee, the place where the banquet and the entertainment took place and the place where Salome lived. And, Salome would not have had time to practice the whirling and head tossing before the banquet.


So, it was a Roman style play about Greek mythology that was probably performed as the intermediate event between courses or the closing event of a posh banquet. The host, her stepfather, was a Herod we’ll call Antipas, (not as high as a King) and the hostess, her mother, was named Herodias (a former Queen, divorced from her 1st husband, Phillip, a King, and now married to a mere Tetrarch, making her a Tetrarchess, I guess). These were minor players in the times’ political stage and the definition of ‘posh’ was relative to their stature…minor. The guest list contained: nobles visiting from Rome, Roman nobles stationed in The Galilee by Rome, aristocrats from The Galilee and maybe Judea, and Antipas’ Steward, Chuza. Some sources say the banquet was thrown by Herodias because it was Antipas’ birthday, an unnecessary embellishment, to my way of thinking. Most sources are silent about the reason for the banquet, so I tend to go with most when it’s a fact such as this kind.


Any banquet takes preparation, whether you’re a Queen, a Tetrarchess, or merely the wife of a mope. So, along with the timing, guest list, menu, food preparation, and seating plan, Herodias prepared for the entertainment. She had to decide that Salome’s participation in the entertainment would be the thing to do long before the banquet took place. Herodias is described as a savvy kind of gal by the benign tellers of the tale (she’s vilified by most) and Salome was her only child (by Phillip), so she probably made time to watch Salome rehearse. A lot was riding on Salome being real real good. Nothing anywhere says whether Salome wanted to be a part of the entertainment or was unwilling to be a part of the entertainment.


Herodias planned a staid, Roman affair. It could not have been a bacchanal type banquet (similar to the present Wild On’s on E!), as some sources suggest. There were stringent Roman rules about highborn women and what they can attend and do in while in attendance. Herodias was high born and from Judea. (Antipas, her second husband, was not as high born, coming from an Idumean father and possibly a Samarian mother.)


Salome was just a kid at the time of the banquet. Some sources say she was a teenager, but they have to in order for other parts of the legend to fit. (We’ll get to the other parts later.) I doubt if she was a nubile teenager. She was royalty, a Princess, in fact, with very good blood on her mother’s side, Maccabean blood, which was respected even by Rome, who, by the way, had conquered Judea (and The Galilee) long before this time and made this area a part of their Empire. Modesty and chastity were required for this type female from a Roman standpoint and a Maccabean standpoint (her bloodline was matriarchal). She had to be dutiful, respectful, and learn at her mother’s knee, an important custom amongst the Maccabean women. She was a good kid. So, she couldn’t have been a teenager and allowed to perform. It would diminish her future value in the marriage market, Roman or otherwise, and it would have been a sin. I would opine she had to be less than Nadia Comaneci’s age when she blew away the Olympic judges in 1976, but she was probably just as agile.


It’s probable that Herodias recognized her daughter’s agility long before the banquet, for kids have a tendency to display what they’re good at long before there’s a use for the tendency. It could have been a genetic throwback to the time before the Maccabees were promoted to highborn, the time when the men were just about the best guerilla fighters in Judea and found the mountainous regions around Judea excellent terrain to entice their foes into combat. She was probably proud of this tendency and tedious of this tendency (“Watch me, Momma,” once too often can be tedious.) and savvy enough to see a utilization for her own good. This also pre-supposes that Herodias might have had more contact in Salome’s upbringing than Roman highborn mothers, for Maccabean women were responsible for (both gender) children to ‘learn at their knee’ a minimum of 613 rules the monotheistic god required of adherents, or that there was a lot of contact between highborn mothers and their daughters at that time. In either case, Herodias planned the banquet and the entertainment and included her agile daughter in the entertainment, making sure Salome rehearsed and would do a good job in the acrobatic kid part of the troop…a multi-tasking woman for sure.


Protocol at posh and formal banquets where Roman mucky mucks were invited was stringent. This would have been very important to Antipas, also. He had been raised in Rome (maybe even a hostage child) and the land he administered at the time of the banquet had been bequeathed to him by Rome. Augustus (of the Cleopatra story) had handled the apportioning of Antipas’ father’s enormous estate when he, known as Herod the Great, died. Antipas was not happy with the way Poppa’s estate was apportioned, felt he had gotten the short stick amongst his four brothers. (He had.) He would have been very, very Roman at this Roman banquet in order to make nice and have this get back to Rome.


The men would have reclined on the equivalent of 1st century Barco-Loungers and ate lovely things and drank lovely wine moderately, while trading amusing stories and quips and bantering amongst each other. I’m not sure just what bantering is, but I am sure they bantered. They would have been arranged in a horseshoe U pattern. The women guests and their hostess would have sat on chairs and I couldn’t figure out where the chairs were placed, within the horseshoe in a line or outside the horseshoe in a line. But in any case, they would have sat on fancy, but hard backed, chairs in a line and would not have eaten or drunken wine, but I suggest they may have bantered. Their job was to just sit, all gussied up and smellin’ good. (They would eat and drink, later, when they got home or when the guests left, depending on your perspective.)


Salome could not have been invited. If she had been invited, she would have left her fancy, hard-backed chair vacant in order to get into costume and perform. Antipas would have noticed the empty chair and have asked someone, “Where did the kid go?” And, someone would have said, “She’s going to perform.” That would have taken the drama out of this next part of the story. Let’s agree; she was not invited to the banquet.


At the proper time, the play was performed, and the audience clapped after it was over. Antipas complimented the performers, then singled one out. Because it was Salome that was singled out, I believe she was one of the masked acrobats. It only makes sense. Antipas apparently didn’t recognize the stepdaughter he had raised since infancy as the excellent acrobat in the play. Rather, he thought her one of the professionals, for if he had recognized her, he wouldn’t have offered the gift
eward. He just would have said, “Good job, sweetie. Go get washed. You’ll catch cold.” Therefore, because he didn’t recognize her, he made a magnanimous gesture (It’s not unlikely that he was showing off for the guests, for Antipas was a doodle-head, didn’t think things through. We’ll get to that, later.), and he offered the acrobat-Salome anything she desired as a gift from him for her fine performance. This is exactly what Herodias had planned to happen. She knew her guy pretty well and she knew her little girl real well. The benign tellers were right: she was a savvy gal.


Since all sources attribute what comes next as engendered by Herodias, the acrobat-Salome had to have asked him to wait a minute and had to have gone to the chair line, where her mother and the other women were sitting, otherwise Herodias would not have been associated with what comes next. (It would have been only Salome who would have been associated with what comes next.). So, the mother and daughter had to have conferred quietly, while Antipas (and the guests) watched. Perhaps, Salome said, “Euwww,” as kids do when they hear something revolting; or perhaps, not. She was a 1st century kid and they may have been different from 21st century kids. I think not. Kids are kids. She said “Euwww.” Dutifully, she listened closely to what her mother told her and she probably repeated it back to Herodias, so that she got it right and straight. Then, she, the acrobat-Salome, came back to Antipas with the gift idea: the head of the long time prisoner John (who later became John the Baptist, but who was merely the prisoner John at this time) on a platter (which was probably not a platter, but a charger).


It’s possible that he recognized Salome at this point. It doesn’t really matter. I do know he knew he had been set up by his wife, Herodias, via this acrobat-Salome, when he heard the performance reward. And he was startled and embarrassed and in a public quandary. It’s possible he questioned the acrobat-Salome with an ‘are you kidding? kind of question, while looking in Herodias’ direction, who either shrugged her shoulders or nodded ‘yes.’ From a legal standpoint, he did not have to honor this acrobat-Salome’s request, for it wasn’t hers. It was Herodias.’ It is possible that Chuza, his Steward, jumped in at this point, for he had been financing John’s nascent ministry through his wife, Elizabeth, but it’s just as possible, he did not, for that’s not how it went down.


Everyone at the banquet knew there had been a big mad between Herodias and Antipas regarding John for a long, long time. She had wanted him killed outright for talking often and badly about her and her marriage to Antipas to everyone and anyone who would listen to him. John had labeled it incestuous and it was, kind of, but by only a technicality, the small print in a big, long contract. Herodias’ first husband, the Herod we’re calling Phillip, was Antipas’ half brother. They shared the same father, Herod The Great, but had different mothers. Phillip was still living in Judea where he was King (Rome gave him a large portion of his father’s estate, larger than Antipas..) and as long as Phillip lived, Herodias and Antipas had an incestuous marriage. As soon as he died, it would be an okay marriage. But, he hadn’t died, yet.


Although it was the gossip that bothered Herodias (A good spin doctor would have helped, but they were 2000 years down the road in development.), it was the religious twist John put on the technical incest that bothered Antipas. John attributed all the stuff that had gone wrong in The Galilee since they married (and stuff had gone wrong, for Antipas was a doodle-head) to the marriage. And, John said that the monotheistic god was angry with her, more than Antipas, because of her good Maccabean blood (a mix of Idumean and Samarian blood results in a person that the monotheistic god doesn’t expect much from), and would stay angry with her and get more so, so the anger would spill over to the whole of The Galilee, until she and Antipas split (or, I guess, until Phillip died, a factor that was out of her hands).


People listened to that kind of stuff at that time and in that place and they got real scared. A monotheistic god’s anger was a terrible thing. Famine, drought, disease, pestilence, flood, invasion, even eclipse – anything could happen when a monotheistic god was angry. While there hadn’t been famine, drought, disease, pestilence, flood, invasion, or even an eclipse in The Galilee, Antipas had lost a war, his first, with Nabatea, their neighbor in Arabia.


Herodias could have been a vulnerable position should important people have listened to John’s predictions. Luckily for her, the important people had other things on their mind. Antipas said ‘no’ to killing John and ‘yes’ to imprisoning him, believing that would shut John up. Some sources said Antipas had a feeling that John’s predictions were true; others said he had a feel for the monotheistic deity. Still others say he was merely acting like a political animal, notably, a fox. At any rate, John was not killed, but imprisoned, and he had been languishing in the prison for many years at the time of the banquet.


Now, killing a local prisoner was no big deal anywhere in the 1st century world of the Roman Empire and having a prisoner killed to reward an agile acrobat was stretching the reward idea, but… it could work. The thing is that the head on a plattercharger was the note that made it a bigger deal. This touch was a gruesome, certainly barbaric, dramatic thing and would cause a scandal and gossip all over Judea and in Rome, what Antipas did not need if he were to ever get any more land from his dead father’s estate from Rome. (And it did, for Flavius Josephus in his book, “Antiquities,” writing to and for Rome about 100 years after the event ,included the event for it was still so juicy. This, by the way, is how we know about some parts of it.) (An important question occurs to me and that is this: How and where did Herodias get this notion? Two ideas come to mind: (1) the Greek myth of Perseus and Medusa and their fight to death: Perseus won. He decapitated Medusa and waved her head around and took it a bunch of places as a talisman. It must have been awful after a time. Maybe that’s where she got it, for she was well educated. (2) A similar event took place in Rome 50 years earlier: Pemejus, a political competitor to Julius, lost his political battle, and his foes brought Julius, the winning Caesar, his head. She might have heard this gossip. Perhaps, she then pragmatically adapted decapitation to the situation at hand. Beheading was a popular type of death and an honorable type of execution for criminals and warriors amongst the Romans and the Maccabees and the Arabians. This, I discovered, from plunking around on the Internet to some very weird websites. I don’t recommend you check this out for yourself. Truthfully, I cannot imagine where she got this embellishment. One of these weird websites calls her talented.)


The doodle-head complied.


A messenger was sent to the fortress named Macharerus (now called Mukawir) in an area called The Perea (now part of Amman, Jordan) where John was imprisoned. A nameless guard cut off his head, and got a messenger to convey it to the castle somewhere in The Galilee, where the banquet guests were waiting, the males still bantering with one another, I guess, to pass the time; the females still sitting quietly on their hard chairs, smellin’ good. The acrobat-Salome probably went off somewhere to bathe and change clothes, then returned to the banquet room to stand next to her (talented) Momma or stand with the performers. The guards put the headless body somewhere, waited for further orders.


I couldn’t find out how far away the area The Parea was from The Galilee, for I couldn’t pin down exactly what city the castle was located in the area known as The Galilee, then, the area where the banquet occurred. Let’s believe it wasn’t terribly far, so the messenger conveying the head could get from there to there quick. He arrived and a kitchen servant brought a plattercharger (No one knows if it was a platter made out of silver, gold, porcelain, or stoneware. In fact, no one cared. Furthermore, it may not have been a platter, but a charger, which is larger than a plate and smaller than a platter and rested under a plate at a table service and was often of precious metal. Since it’s a Roman banquet, people took morsels of this and that from servant-held chargers, didn’t have a table service at all. They were reclining.) Another servant, a serving type, brought the head to the banquet hall and stood in front of Antipas. It’s possible he directed the servant to acrobat-Salome, who took the plattercharger and gave it to her Mother. One redactor source makes Herodias even more gruesome stating: she got a sword and stabbed the tongue. This is an embellishment that even Flavius Josephus didn’t believe, so he doesn’t mention it. What she really did with it, I don’t know. (People who thought John had a direct line to the monotheistic god requested his body and his head from Antipas, who released both parts to them. They took it to an area called Samaria, which was close to The Perea, and buried it.)


What happened after this part of the banquet took place, I don’t know. I imagine some guy yawned and said, “It’s been quite an evening. I think it’s time to get going.” And the guests all went to their lodgings. It’s probable that Antipas and Herodias had a long conversation, after the guests left. When they were alone in their private rooms, he probably opened the conversation with: “We never talk anymore, Herodias. Tell me what’s going on with you.” Salome, who had been up long past her normal bedtime, was probably overtired and went to sleep or was put to sleep immediately.


And there you have it. Salome didn’t dance, didn’t wear veils, and had a strong bond with her Mother.


To discover how the belly dance became associated with Salome, we have to veer away from her. It’s Herodias and John who carry the story line forward.


At the time of the banquet, Herodias was the 2nd wife of Antipas, and they had been married for about 10 years. (Antipas was the only father Salome had known.) Salome’s biological father was Phillip, who was King of Judea, a large land mass, much larger than the area called The Galilee, and he and Herodias were divorced when Salome was about 1 year old. Herodias had been an important wife when Phillip was first made King by Rome because of her Maccabean blood. The Maccabees had been rulers of Judea long before Phillip came on board, but through a lot of circumstances, Judea was ruled by the Herod bunch and had accepted Rome’s yoke by that time. The Maccabees were prolific (as was Herod The Great), and there was a large pool of eligible Maccabean women for rulers to marry. It was a stable region in Rome’s empire. In any event, the divorce was with Rome’s permission. Phillip was allowed to marry some one else with Rome’s permission, and I didn’t check out whom. He never asked for visitation rights.


Some sources say Antipas first met Herodias when Herodias was on a trip to Rome with Phillip petitioning Rome for something or another at the same time that Antipas was in Rome (alone) petitioning Rome, yet again, for the title of King and more land from his father’s estate, neither of which Rome never granted him in his lifetime. I don’t think it matters how they met. They met, they talked, a deal was struck.


I don’t know why Herodias left Queenship of Judea to become a Tetrarch’s wife. There are always sources that attribute lust to this sort of situation, and these sources do arise in this story, some attributing lust to Herodias, others attributing lust to Antipas. Personally, I find lust a poor reason. A Queen, one of royal blood, just doesn’t think lust. She thinks power and lineage. A tetrarch, although not as powerful as a King, doesn’t have to go far from his little castle, even as far as Judea, to satisfy a lustful thought. An unhappy Tetrarch thinks power and lineage, too. Maybe it was her Maccabean blood and her Maccabean ties that Antipas thought would help him become a King of a landmass that included Judea, which her ancestors ruled before Rome put the Herods there. Maybe she thought The Galilee plus Judea is bigger than just Judea. Maybe she thought that The Galilee plus Arabia, which abutted The Galilee, is bigger than Judea should Antipas go to war for the Arabian territory. In any event, she left Phillip before the divorce (which came through quickly) and went to Antipas’ puny area, The Galilee.


She also jumped the gun. Antipas was not yet rid of his first wife, Phasaelis, when Herodias and the baby arrived. And, he hadn’t petitioned Rome to get rid of Phasaelis and marry Herodias. Although Phasaelis was a Princess by blood and the daughter of a powerful neighbor and King, Aretas IV of Nabatea (Arabia), Antipas decided to circumvent Rome by merely ‘putting her aside,’ an ignominy. This was not nice. Phasaelis went home to Poppa (and took the kids, if there were any with her and Antipas) who bided his time a bit, then attacked The Galilee, because of the dishonor.


Troops from all of Herod the Great’s sons (half-brothers to a man) jumped in to help The Galilean troops, even Phillip (inherited family land was a big thing; a former wife was nothing) and Roman legions jumped in to help, too. But land was lost and that, by definition, means The Galileans lost the war. He never did divorce Phasaelis and she never returned to him.


Herodias stayed put and she and Antipas married (with Rome’s permission, whose attitude toward provinces was very pragmatic: the war is over; they lost; let ‘em marry; who gives a damn) and lived in a castle somewhere in The Galilee with the baby.


Antipas’ reputation went from an annoying pest to miserable in Rome’s eyes because of this double screw up (stupidly and unnecessarily dishonoring a neighbor’s daughter thereby incurring an unnecessary troop expense on Rome’s tab and loosing land to a King who was not conquered by Rome). He decided to Make It Better. Tiberius was now the Caesar and Antipas decided to build a city to honor him. He commandeered land in The Galilee and his construction people began building a city. But, Antipas and his building contractors either didn’t do their homework, or if they did, they didn’t think it through. The land upon which the city was being built was a cemetery, sacred ground to every person in the world then as well as today. There was an uprising amongst the folk that local troops could not quell. Again, Rome had to help Antipas out, for Judea wouldn’t, since they sided with the people, not Antipas. The people were quelled and the city was built. It remained uninhabited. No one would go there to live no matter how sweet the pot Antipas created (free homes, free land, tax abatement). Rome had to send troops to forcibly move families to Tiberius and to guard them so they wouldn’t move out in the dark of the night. Flavius Josephus liked this morsel a lot when he heard of it. He checked around and then comments that riff-raff were recruited to populate the city. He observes that even the riff-raff were afraid of the monotheistic god, so local holy people made a rule: the new settlers would only be defiled for 7 days, then everything would be okay.


And life went on in The Galilee.


John, during some of this, had been going about his business in The Galilee. One particular thing he did caught on amongst the folk. No one knew what to call it, so it had two different names: sprinkling and lave-ing, both of which were already accepted cleansing rites in most, if not all, religions before that time and during that time in that area and most of the known world. Water was always the cleansing agent and John

used the nearby Jordan River as the sprinkling and lave-ing site. What John did was total body immersion, a new twist, one the people liked a lot, for it made sense to them and made them feel good and purified from sins committed previously. This total body immersion always occurred after John would talk about sinning and give definitions. He would call for penitents, people who wanted to cleanse themselves. They would step forward and get in a line, so he could do them one-by-one. He had set himself up as a person who knew what the monotheistic deity expected of good folk (mostly it was to stop acting like Romans and revert to the Galilean ways, the ones prevalent before Rome took over the area). While he was in prison and after his death, other people did the immersion for him. What he had said before he was imprisoned was credible to the folk.


But then, John was imprisoned and killed years after he was imprisoned.


Very soon a very lot of other things happened in The Galilee. These events were written down and pondered and interpreted by brilliant, eloquent, and sincere men, three of whom decided that John and what he said and his immersion twist was a ceremony that would be important to incorporate as a ritual for their testimonials. They were the redactors whose words have been translated and pondered for centuries. Their decision caused his death to be discussed (and his childhood, parents, vocation, inspiration, relationships, etc. to be determined) and this is how Herodias’ name was never forgotten.


The earliest redactor, a stickler for details, had a problem with her daughter’s name, when he read Flavius Josephus, who says ‘a damsel, the daughter of Herodias, brought the head…’ in his book to Rome. This was not good enough for him. He did some easy homework, for Herodias’ royal lineage was known and available. He determined that Herodias’ daughter was named Salome. This was not good homework. Herodias was Maccabean. No Maccabee, male or female, would ever name a child for a still living person, let alone the actual name of a relative, this case, a blood aunt, who was living at the time of her daughter’s birth. But, it’s all we have, so she must remain misnamed Salome (which means ‘peace,’ a nice touch, don’t you think?) when John’s beheading is talked about and when Herodias’ progeny is included.


And this is how Salome and Herodias and John were tied together forever more. Many centuries have to pass by before the triangle comes into focus again. We have to wait for society to go from antiquity all the way to modern…at least 1,970 years or so. More specifically, we have to wait for a religion to formalize; we have to wait until John’s contributions become important and incorporated; we have to wait for churches to be invented; we have to wait for representational art to be used for something other than decorative purposes; we have to allow for the Bubonic Plague interlude when absolutely nothing happened except the death of millions; we have to wait for literacy to occur; we have to wait for Gutenberg and his printing press; we have to wait for portraiture to be invented.


Once churches were invented, representational art was applied as a method to tell the stories to the illiterate devout people. The triangle story was not as popular as other stories, so it was represented only some times. The scene chosen was most always was when the plattercharger is proffered takes place. No one character of the triangle is more important that the other. It’s the story behind the scene that’s important, and that is John’s death (but not as a martyr, I don’t think, but I may be wrong). Typical friezes and frescos from churches in the early 14th show the scene with figures that are medieval in demeanor and costume. That’s what the medieval people needed; that’s what they got. Their eyes could roam the church for something to center on, if their attention drifted from the devotions at hand.


Everything gets pretty quiet everywhere, beginning 1330, when the first Bubonic Plague episode begins and we have to wait a long time, about 150 years, for normalcy to occur.


In 1485, the beheading surfaces. Portraiture had been invented by then, and art has gone into homes of wealthy people, who ask artists to do pictures for them, often of them and their family members. One type of portraiture allowed the viewer to be a voyeur, to glimpse an intimate scene, a freeze frame, if you will, from a larger story, if the artist was good. Religious art was a popular theme. The artist selected the motif and there was a lot of symbolism to get the whole story line into the canvas. It’s Salome and the plattercharger that’s chosen, when this subject is chosen at all, and truth be told, it’s lousy, static portraiture. She’s not portrayed as a child, but she’s not portrayed as a woman, either. “Damsel,” was apparently interpreted as that twilight zone a female has between childhood and woman. I don’t know why the subject matter was chosen by the patron or the artist, who apparently just couldn’t get into ‘it.’ I guess my opinion was shared by the patrons from 500+ years back, for this theme dies out.


John and his sainthood, not his death or Herodias or Salome, become the theme of most art, and we have to wait until 1630 to find the others of the triangle depicted again.


In 1630, a blockbuster piece of art is produced (my opinion) that asks you to consider Herodias, not John. It’s my absolute favorite, by a guy named Francesco del Cairo, “Herodias with Head of John the Baptist.” It is so different from all others than came before (and after). Is she exhausted, meditative, musing, or in a trance? A closer look might surprise you. Could she possibly be holding his tongue while on the verge of stroking his hair? I believe she is. What could del Cairo have been thinking? What is he asking us to believe about Herodias? Frankly, I don’t wanna go there. No one else did either, for depictions of Herodias (and Salome) simply stop until the 1800′s and John in his sainthood continue…with one exception.


Because of a single painting of Herodias by Paul Delaroche in 1843, it’s the literary arts, the poets and authors and playwrights, who pick up the story and fiction supercedes reality. Herodias, first, and Salome, next, sans John, are the motifs for the first time. They move from real people to fictional characters.


Delaroche shows Herodias as exotic (read, non-European) (The euphemism used for most any type non-European at that time was Occidental.), regal (He did his homework.), authentically dressed (more good homework), and very, very lovely. The look on her face is open to interpretation. Has the grotesque event occurred or not yet? Is she serene or is she challenging us to question her? I don’t know who is represented in the background, for it certainly cannot be Salome. Herodias is a person in her own right. I would like to tie Delaroche’s interpretation to having viewed del Cairo (although I don’t know if this occurred, not having the resources to track the provenance of the del Cairo picture to align its location with Delaroche’s life).


Apparently Heinrich Heine, a German poet of some renown, was enchanted by the picture. He wrote a poem in 1843, “Atta Troll,” which sources say is a mock epic about Herodias. I was unable to find an English translation, so I have to accept what sources say as true. What I do know is that an epic is a very long and twisted story (the Iliad and the Odyssey are epics) about fanciful adventures of a protagonist (usually heroic) in pursuit of good end. How Heine got enough ideas about Herodias, who was minor in the first place and arcane by this time, to go on and on about her pursuit of an end, good or not good, I don’t know. I guess that’s called talent. In any event, he catapults Herodias (and the triangle) back into the minds of artistic people and they make her (and the triangle) interesting enough for public contemplation.


This mock epic and Delaroche’s painting next enchanted Stephane Mallarme, another poet of some renown, a Frenchman. He got his juices flowing and wrote a poem in 1869, “Herodiade,” whose English translation I was unable to find. I have absolutely no idea what his poem says. Critics say she described sultry (for the first time). I have to believe that Mallarme associated Occidental with sultry, not an uncommon association amongst fanciful European guys. Herodias is changing to heroic (maybe if Heine’s epic shows her to be this), Occidental, and sultry (read sexy).


All this got a French artist (of some renown) all excited. Gustave Moreau pondered the triangle and centered on Salome, instead of Herodias. He figured if Herodias was sultry, then Salome was more sultry. I don’t know why, but that’s what he did. He worked and worked this theme and ended up with a bunch of pictures with her as the (undressed) focal point, a first in Salome’s depictions, and threw in John’s head to make it all understandable. They were finished in 1876. All are amazing. The very last time Salome was the chosen subject matter was in 16th century (bad) portraiture. She’s always holding the plattercharger and has a boring look on her face and is all dressed up in 16th century costume. What the hell did Heine’s mock epic and Mallarme’s poem allude to with regard to Salome? I don’t know.


Anyway, Gustave Flaubert, a French writer of some renown, apparently read Heine and Mallarme and saw the picture interpretations of Delaroche and Moreau. All inspired him to write a short story in 1877 about Herodias, which indicates excellent homework, by the way. This, I read, and in this short story, she is called a Jezebel, albeit an aging one, for the first time. Her daughter is described as resembling her mother in her youth. You can read it, too. Go to http://www.classicbookshelf.com/library/gustave_flaubert/herodias/0/. It’s now fictional open season on Herodias and by association, her daughter, Salome.


Then came Joris-Karl Huysman, who liked what Heine, Mallarme, and Flaubert wrote and liked Delaroche’s and Moreau’s pictures. He went with Salome, not Herodias, in 1884, for his essay, “Against the Grain.” The essay is really prose poetry in the style of “The Song of Solomon,” real, real sexy. The essay was labeled decadent after it was published. You can read it, too, if and when you get in the mood for 19th century decadence. Go to http://www.imagi-nation.com/moonstruck/salome1.html.


In the 19th century, certain people loved decadent stuff, especially the artistic types who felt stultified with conservative stuff and who felt they had to push the envelope of public taste. This decadent Salome idea percolated for ten years in Oscar Wilde’s mind before his play, “Salome,” was performed in 1893. An interesting touch was his collaboration with Aubrey Beardsley to do playbill artwork. Wilde was jailed it was so damn decadent.


Within a year after Wilde’s play, Beardsley came out with a folio of images of Salome. It’s racy for the bare breasts and belly button, but it’s also a curiously clunky, non-sexy posing of Salome. Why is her midriff covered? Why is she wearing high heeled shoes with bows at the ankle? What the hell is going on here? Mere titillation, nothing more. Shame on you, Beardsley.


Everything rested until 1905, when Richard Strauss, a German of music renown, chose Salome as his opera subject. His librettist, Hugo von Hofmannsthal, an Austrian poet of some renown, put words to the decadent musical motifs. A costume designer, whose name I could not find, turned her eastern Byzantine and gave her a harem twist and a costume of 7 veils. A choreographer had her shimmy (belly dance). In the first performance of “Salome,’ Marie Wittich, described as an ample soprano Salome, refused to do the dance or wear the costume. A nameless ballerina accommodated the scene and this became a tradition each time the opera was performed. One critic, a word wizard, called Strauss the apostle of decadence. This made the people want to see it for themselves. Strauss’ “Salome” was performed 50 times in the first two years after it was written in opera houses all over the world.


This chronicle has ended.


PS. A beheaded John, not yet a saint, is so very popular that I had to find a depiction of John with his head on. Caravaggio was quite taken with him and did a lot of versions of John with his head on.


PS. One female artist, Fra Lippinni, an Italian woman, did work on the triangle. I am disappointed with Fra. Although she chose Salome to be focal, she dressed her modestly in Medieval costume, twirling her skirts. It’s a pretty nothing picture that says more about Lippinni and her lack of inspiration and imagination (She is technically apt, I think.) than the subject matter. I think she should have tried harder to ‘get into it.’ She was a daughter once and may have been the mother of a daughter at the time the picture was painted.

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my daughter is 15 months and got a hold of my hairspray bottle, its liquid she drank some, i heard her choking, i came to her and took it away, im not sure how muchs she drank. but she’s acting fine right now. should i do anything?

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