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Management Has its Own Pain: Take Care of Your Back

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 11:24 pm

When you traded your hammer and heavy equipment for a clip board and PDA, I bet you thought those days of sore backs and strained muscles were over. Come to find out that stress and using your muscles to fight gravity can be pretty hard on your body too.

9 out of 10 adults will experience back pain at some point in their lives, and 5 out of 10 working adults have back pain EVERY year .
The American Academy of Family Physicians
Retrieved March 12, 2007

Whether you are a construction manager, project manager or design engineer, the fact is that leading a less active life than you once did, can create real problems for you and your back, in particular. Your back works a lot like a cantilever bridge, where your spine is the truss and your muscles and tendons are the suspension spans holding things in place. When you sit or stand for long periods, your muscles and tendons are forced to hold your head, neck, arms and shoulders in place far longer than they should. Your “spans” get overworked, tired and weak. And they become susceptible or injury.

That’s not the worst of it, though. Within your body, there is something called  “Fascia” – a protective sheath that covers ever cell of your body, every muscle, every tendon, etc. As you age and suffer injuries on the job, the fascia tightens around the injury areas. That’s why you sometimes feel knots or tenderness from an injury you suffered five years ago. And if you don’t do something to stretch and loosen the fascia, that tender spot continues to tighten up and the fascia (along with muscles and tendons) gets overstretched in some areas and shortens in others.

You may begin to hunch over, you may only be able to turn you head 45 degrees (90+ is what the average healthy person can turn) and you may feel general tightness and tenderness in your back and neck. Not too bad you may be thinking. But if you compound that with your age (over 30??) and the stress of managing a large job and crew, you may see your back go out at just the wrong time – like the week construction is supposed to be completed. Or the day your son or daughter graduates.

How to Stop the Worst from Happening

If much of the above sounds all too familiar, the first thing you need to do is to get your back healthy. The second thing you need to do is to incorporate regular exercise and stretching into your daily routine.

Step 1: Visit my office or that of any SI practitioner. The first that we will do is to discuss how you spend your day – standing, sitting, dealing with stress-inducing issues, etc. Then I will design a structural therapy and bodywork schedule for you that will relieve the immediate pain and tenderness in your back, neck, head, etc. Then by means of a multi-session program, I will soften and strengthen the fascia, muscles and tendons in you back. When you have completed your program, you will feel a range of motion and strength you’d forgotten you had. And you will be ready for

Step 2: Exercise, stretching and strength training.

“Diagnosis and Management of Acute Low Back Pain”; American Academy of Family Physicians. Retrieved March 12, 2007. http://www.aafp.org/afp/20000315/1779.html

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Family Medical Leave Act: What Every Business Needs To Know

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 11:21 pm

What is the Family Medical Leave Act and why is it important?

The Family Medical Leave Act, also known as FMLA is a law enacted in1993 which states that qualified employees have the right to access an unpaid leave for a total of up to 12 weeks during any 12-month period, and in some circumstances, up to 26 weeks; (see “Recent Changes to the Family Medical Leave Act”).  Certain employers are required to grant their employees access to unpaid leave due to the following reasons:

* Caring for a child after Birth

* The adoption of a child or becoming a Foster parent

* The care of spouse, son, daughter, or parent with a serious health condition

* An employee experiencing a serious health condition which affects his or her ability to do perform their job responsibilities

* Care for family members in the military

During the leave period, employers must hold the employee’s job for them without any changes to the workers salary, work hours, or benefits.

Recent Changes to the Family Medical Leave Act

As of January, 2009, the Act permits a spouse, daughter, son, or next of kin to take up to 26 weeks of leave to care for a family member in the Armed Forces, Reserves or National Guard, who is going through medical treatment, therapy, or healing, or who is in an outpatient status or is otherwise on a temporary disability retired list due to a serious injury or sickness.

Eligible employees are entitled to a combined total of up to 26 weeks of all types of FMLA leave during the single 12-month period.

What Types of Businesses are Required to Grant Family Medical Leave?

Any business with 50 or more employees who work within a 75 mile radius of the business must allow their employees access to family medical leave if the worker meets the eligibility requirements.

Which Employees Are Eligible?

To be eligible for FMLA benefits according to the Department of Labor, an employee must:

* Work for a covered employer

* Have worked for the employer for a total of 12 months; and have worked at least 1,250 hours over the previous 12 months

* Work at a location in the United States or in any territory or possession of the United States where at least 50 employees are employed by the employer within 75 miles.

Are There Circumstances Where I Can Deny Family Medical Leave To My Employees?

If you operate a business with 50 or more employees and the employee meets the eligibility requirements, you cannot deny the leave.

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Synthroid FAQ

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 11:20 pm

“Two 0.05mg synthroid tab twice day by day until adjectives 30 are taken.”How tons days will this medication concluding?
I believe that 30 tablets taken four times on a daily basis amounts to seven and one-half days of medication, unless you refill it. 30 divided by 4 = 7.5. That’s not too bad; would be worse if you had to take antibiotics two times…

A cross-question just about synthroid, and losing substance… please give a hand?
Hi! Well, I was born without a thyroid (nothin there just a bit of tissue) and own been taking synthroid my whole life. I am now 21 and enjoy always been slim but it is very hard for me to lose solidity if i gain any. Latley I have been gaining SO much…

After getting my thyriod removed i’ve be on synthroid,i’ve gain some immensity, what can i give somebody a lift to loose it?
– More exercise and less calories. When taking synthetic Thyroxin you should avoid most herbal diet products as they can interfere with the absorbtion of your medicine. Check with your doctor.

Does exercising back somebody next to a low thyroid, so they don’t hold to pocket synthroid?
Exercise is good for everyone. Living without Synthroid is similar to a diabetic living without insulin. Unless God does a miracle on you. God bless. Maybe He will. yoga, mediation and breathing exercises help a lot there are lots of remedies in homeopathy…

Does it embezzle longer for Synthroid to work vs. Levothroid?
I was on Levothroid and lost 5lbs in one week & had the majority of my thyroid symptoms disappear, however I had an allergic aversion to it and had to be switched to Synthroid. I am not noticing any difference at ALL on the synthroid. I’m taking 50mg of Synthroid and this was the same…

Does it hurt you to bring green tea tablets surrounded by you are on thyroid medication similar to synthroid?
Does green Tea tablets hurt you in anyway? I am also a diabetic. – Try taking Hoodia which is found in most pharmacies.I am hypothyroid and have been taking Hoodia very soon for 3 months and have lost 22 lbs worked really well…

Does soy milk interfere beside synthroid?
No. See “Soyfoods and the Thyroid” in the following link: http://www.soymilkquick.com/thyroiddisea?? Source(s): http://www.soymilkquick.com/thyroiddisea??

Does synthroid assistance immensity lessening?
I dropped a few pounds when I went on it but it didn’t cause a significant weight loss. It did however, make me quality better and have more energy to work out if I wanted to. (I didn’t want to! lol ) No it doesn’t. Source(s): MD

Does synthroid mess up your depo shot usefulness?
– One is for thryoid deficiency treatment; and, although, hormonal in mechanism, depo provera acts on the reproductive system…not the lymphatic system. There are requirements that pharmacists provide detailed information more or less drug interactions. Ask your druggist that fills your synthroid prescription if there is any known or possible negative effects specified and…

Does synthroid mess up your depo shot usefulness?
take synthroid in the AM before you eat and other check back with your doctor to determine if you are at the correct levels or need an adjustment. Since the belief of synthroid is to restore and regulate your thyroid then I don’t see that it could be an issue. Always be safe consult a…

Does synthroid serve weightiness exhaustion?
I have hypothyroidism. does the medication synthroid help in weight tightening – Yes it will help only if you gained the weight due to your thyroid problem…synthroid is not a diet pill..consent to me tell you everything I know…I know a bunch about this one!!! I am 38 yrs old, and was diagnosed near…

Does taking levoxothyroxine or synthroid effect pregnancy examination results?
– that’s an interesting question… i hope not. i’m on levothyroxine and i took 5 tests and all were positive but haven’t be to the doctors yet… however, i have all the signs. no period, huge boobs/sore boobs, food cravings + aversions and adjectives day sickness… i don’t think it can really unless it…

Last week my doctors assistant call and said she be going to call for within a prescription for synthroid 112mcg?
for me to take because my thyroglobulin was high at 42. she said the doctor was increasing my dose. i told her i be a new patient and had never even taken it so how can they be increasing it? (she seemed confused and she…

Must one loaf an hour after taking synthroid to hold other prescription meds and/or excederin?
– No, you’re likely to be fine taking them all together unless they require you to take them with food. It’s even OK to put away before an hour has elapsed – the makers of Synthroid recommend waiting 30 to 60 minutes before drinking a meal. …

My daughter take synthroid for hypothyroidism and have become drastically electric and hyper. Is this conventional?
I was shock once after I had been on Synthroid for years that my newer doctor said my Thyroid was not deceased. I was stunned! I found out that stress can kill a thyroid for only the time the person is stressed. So it may be she is…

My tsh is 4.19 and i weigh 225 lbs my dr requirements to start me on synthroid 25mcg. i hear taking it will construct my?
tsh normalize but i wont lose weight. could i have lapband surgery to lose weight? – I take 75 mcg. of Synthroid & enjoy not lost any weight except by watching what I eat & my portions.

Possible side effect of synthroid?
I just started taking synthroid a few days ago because I had my thyroid removed. Since yesterday, I’ve noticed a painful pea sized lump contained by my right underarm. Is this a side effect of the medication or could it be something else? – It is highly unlikely to be caused by Synthroid. The side effects…

Synthroid and blood experiment request for information?
I take 50 mcg. of synthroid in the morning. Tomorrow morning I am scheduled to have a TSH and T4 assessment. Should I take the synthroid or will it give a false reading in the blood work? Thank you. – unless you desperately need the synthroid, dont clutch it. if you do take it…

Synthroid effects on sex hormones?
I was talking to a girl and she said she is on synthroid. She said that if she stopped taking it for a couple days and had sex, she couldn’t get pregnant. I be wanting to know if that was true? She said when she stops taking it for a couple days, it messes with her sex…

Synthroid made symptoms worse?
has anyone out there with hypothyroidism who is taking synthroid felt worse after starting the meds? how long did it transport before you felt better? – It took me about two to three months to adjust to the medications. But after again. I was on the COMPLETE flip side of the coin. I was hyperthyroid and had a rapid…

Synthroid medication?
my doctor recently put me on synthroid medication,and he also think im ore diabetic so in a month ill be on metphormine, im 21 can neone speak about me how the synthroid will affect me ? I started taking Synthroid about a year ago, and I never noticed any difference than before I started it. No side effects at all. …

Too lofty of a dosage of synthroid?
my mom has been going to a doctor for about a year now and take synthroid she has gone for tests and everytime i mention is she on the right dosage the doctor says its fine however i went on the weekend to same clinic and the weekend doctor mentioned to me that her thyroid be too high…

Too much synthroid one time?
I am 8 months preg. and take 200mcg of synthroid every morning. It has been gradually increased through out my pregnancy according to my blood level. I’ve been on synthroid over 15 years. (this is the highest dosage I have ever been on). Anyway, this morning I woke up ot out of bed, and afterwards later couldnt remember if I…

What dosage of synthroid is one on when ones thyroid finally dies?
– 300mg Source(s): This website: http://www.rxlist.com/synthroid-drug.htm and myself. notquite there yet but I’m on 88. I think it would differ from person to personage. Are you talking about someone with a normal functioning thyroid going on Synthroid, or a hypo entity going on Synthroid? I don’t think there…

What dosage of synthroid is standard for a TSH lab result of 24.86?
(range .34-5.60) – Everyone is different. The standard dosage is the one that gets your T3 and T4 levels back to normal. It will pilfer trial and error to find. Get blood tests at least every 6 weeks until you have found your optimal dose, and you are stable on…

What happen if I stop taking synthroid if I’m not supposed to?
i was bleddin for 2 months nd my doctor gave me rigevidon to use for sumtin not stated, so i stopped usin it after sum tym.so do u think i made a great mistake there synthroid keep your hormone levels normal. you,ll probably get very tired, and nor accomplish much.

What happen when you pocket too much synthroid, the thiroid medication?
I have been perscribed to pill a day, let’s just utter i’ve had 30 in an hour . What should I expect? – okay well first your body will get really hot and sweaty. i would expect your heart rate to turn way up (pounding heart) you also would feel…

What is the best method to stockpile synthroid? (or levothyroxine or any given thyroid replacement?)?
Will it go bad after a certain amount of time? Are there ways to store it so that it would retain it’s potency longer? thankfulness! – Keep it at room temperature, tightly capped and away from moisture and light. All medications own an expiration date after…

What will develop if I don’t help yourself to my synthroid?
I have Graves’ Disease and I don’t have a thyroid anymore. They nuked it all, so now I’m taking 125 mg of synthroid to replace it. (I’m 18). I’ve be taking these pills every day since I was 13. My doctor said that if I go for 6 months without it I might…

Whats better levothyroxin or synthroid surrounded by your belief?
I only used synthroid for a month because my doctor put me on levothyroxin. I lost 10 pounds on the synthroind and none on the other one and i am really tired on levothyroxin. Did something like that happen to you? and yes tomorrow im going for a check up and im changing put a…

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The Universal Cycles of Change: 
patterns in Nature Translated to Human Behavior

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 11:07 pm

We can learn so much about ourselves from observing the lives of cells, the growth of trees, the waves in the ocean, along with other universal and biological patterns of growth and self creation. Nature is our greatest teacher. Since humans are a part of nature and our universe is 15 billion years old, it seems obvious that there must be some kind of connection between the patterns that exist outside of ourselves and the unconscious patterns that reside within us.

For the last 16 years I have been observing nature and studying the laws of our universe with the same question in mind. “How is our inner reality directly related to our outer reality, and how do the two affect one another?” This has led me on a long journey that has included studying cybernetics, the sciences of complexity, autopoiesis, chaos theory, morphogenetic fields, quantum mechanics and string theory; coupled with NLP and many other psychological and spiritual models. Through this ongoing research and many long–winded discussions with my husband, Tim Hallbom—we’ve developed a model to help you consciously create what you want in life called the universal cycles of change.

The universal cycles of change are an ongoing process that’s been happening in our universe for about 15 billion years, so it is a really old model. We have observed seven universal cycles of change that occur in all living systems such as plants, trees, stars, cells, and animals. You can also see these same cycles occurring in most nonliving systems such as cars, houses, computers, and the economy.

The universal cycles of change can also be found within all aspects of human life and behavior. They happen in marriages, in business, with health, with families, with various states of mind and so on. We go through these cycles every day and every year of our life. Being aware of these cycles can help us to consciously create the kinds of life experiences that we want, and to bring forth the reality of our choice. The people who do well in life are naturally attuned to these cycles of change.

Here is a brief description of the seven universal cycles of change that have been identified (A more detailed description of these cycles is provided later in the article):

 Creation–This cycle is about new beginnings. All systems must have a starting point of some kind.

Growth–when a living system begins to grow and develop, it becomes “self organizing.”

Complexity to Maturity–As a system begins to take shape and form through continued growth, it becomes more complex to the point where it reaches what we call a “steady state. “A system operates at its best when it is in a steady state.

Turbulence–When the system becomes too complex in its growth, problems begin to develop and turbulence sets in. Turbulence is considered feedback from the environment that the system’s complex state can no longer be supported. Something has to shift for it to go to the next level of creation and growth. If this shift does not occur, then chaos will set in.

Chaos–This is when the system begins to fall apart because it has become too complex, and chaos sets it. The system can no longer hold it all together.

Droppings Off–Once chaos has set in, there must be some kind of a letting go or dropping off to bring the system back into balance.

Meditation and Dormancy– This is the final cycle in which the ystem regains its balance, which will allow it to recycle back up into…

Creation. The system now has less mass, yet more energy because it contains all the learnings from the previous cycles.Everything in our universe evolves and grows, and has been doing so for billions of years. Part of this natural evolutionary process includes going through different states of change. Let’s take a tree for example, since its the easiest metaphor I’ve found to describe the universal cycles of change.

The first cycle that a tree goes through is that of creation, which happens when a seed gets planted. Then the tree grows—given that it has been provided with enough water and sunshine to grow. Over time the tree reaches a steady state of maturity in which all of its leaves have blossomed with complete beauty. Then the autumn season sets in; the leaves begin to change color. They turn brown and drop off to the ground. After this happens, the tree stands in dormancy without any leaves. But then spring comes around, the tree sprouts new leaves and the whole process of creation happens again.

Because all living systems get too complex in their growth and development, they must have some kind of a dropping off to regain their balance. Trees do this all the time with their leaves. We can learn a lot by modelling trees. Have you ever been walking by a tree and its leaves are falling off. And all of a sudden you hear the tree crying out, “Pleeeease, don’t let my leaves fall off!” This never happens. The tree has mastered the art of dropping off and recycling back up to creation. Snakes are the same way when they shed their skin. I have never know of a snake to resist the process. Even most computers have trash bins to drop off the excess information that can slow down their hard drive, which thus allows for the computer to operate more quickly and creatively.

Interestingly, there is only one living system that does not allow itself to naturally go through this 15 billion year old process of change. This same system allows itself to stay stuck in turbulence and chaos for extended periods of time. This same system often resists dropping off what needs to be dropped off. Can you guess which system it is?

Human beings of course.

People represent the only living systems that will allow themselves to stay stuck in turbulence and chaos. They are the only living systems that will not drop off whatever needs to be dropped off in their life. We see this resistance happening a lot in relationships, career, and health.

For example, my husband, Tim, and I were teaching a class in Australia last year, when a man in the group shared an amazing realization that he had about the universal cycles of change and how they related to him. This man had a teenage daughter who he had been unable to communicate with for several years. After learning about the universal cycles of change, he raised his hand and said,

“I finally understand why I have been having so many problems with my 17 year old daughter. In my mind I still think of her as a little child. I am now realizing that I need to ‘drop off’ my perception of her as a child and start treating her like a young adult. It makes complete sense to me why there has been so much turbulence and chaos in our relationship over the last couple of years.”

Another woman who attended our training in London, England, told me of an amazing experience that she had with her children and the universal cycles of change model. “Kris, I just have to tell you about the funniest thing that happened to me last night. After I learned the universal cycles of change model, I made the decision that I needed to ‘drop off’ the co–dependent relationship that I have with my five adult children.” she said with excitement.

“Even though my children are grown up, they are all so needy. I felt like my life was all about them and there was no room for me. On my drive home last night, I set the intent to release the co–dependence that has been keeping me enmeshed with my children for so many years. After I got home, all ‘chaos’ broke loose. One by one, each child phoned me with some major crisis. One of my children’s car broke down, the other had just broken up with a boyfriend, another was having a bad day, and so on. The phone just kept ringing off the hook with their problems. I told each child one by one that they were responsible for themselves from now on and that they will need to solve their own problems,” she said. At this point in the story, she was glowing as she continued to say, “I just wanted to tell you that today is the beginning of the rest of my life. I am no longer co–dependent with my children and I can have my life back! I am going to go back to school and I am also going to start painting again, and doing the kinds of things that make me happy. I am going to start living my life for me now, instead of for everyone else.”

So often people are afraid to make changes, because they are worried about throwing their lives into turbulence and chaos. In the case of the English woman, she was worried that her grown children would feel resentment towards her if she was not always fully present for them. Instead of being present for her children, she ended up resenting them because she wasn’t getting to live the life she wanted. Once she released her children from the co–dependent bonds of enmeshment, she was able to evolve into a new way of interacting with her children. And in doing so, she found that she could be more present for her children because she felt more spiritually fulfilled in her life.

As mentioned earlier, the universal cycles of change influence all the areas of our lives. The primary life areas that they effect are:

* Romance and Love 

* Career

* Health
* Family
* Money Matters
* Friends
* Spirituality
* Your Present State of Mind

When you assess each area of your life, which universal cycle of change are you experiencing in that context? If any of your areas are in turbulence or chaos, you may want to ask yourself,

“What are some things that I need to drop off so that I can bring my life back into balance?”

It doesn’t always have to be a dramatic dropping off. You can drop off something as simple as reading the morning newspaper or drinking diet coke every day. Some other examples of things that may need to be dropped off are: behaviors, beliefs, attitudes, ways of thinking, perceptions, habits, jobs, and relationships. Other specific examples might include: smoking, drinking too much alcohol, weight, television, coffee, unclear boundaries, frenetic busyness, old relationships that need to be updated, a troublesome employee, a toxic friendship, clutter, disorganization, grudges, anger, jealousy, unnecessary debt and unfinished business with people.

 

Here is a more detailed description of the universal cycles of change to help you identify which cycle you might be in:

Creation—This cycle is about new beginnings. Everything has a starting point, and typically that point begins with an idea, an action, or a blueprint. Some examples of this include starting a business, having a baby, investing in your first stock or fund, creating an idea for a book or a painting, building your first house, getting married, buying a new car, planting the seeds for a vegetable garden, or the Big Bang (the beginning of our universe as we know it).

Growth—When a system begins to grow and develop, it also becomes “self organizing.” What this means is that the initial creation begins to take shape or form. New patterns of behavior start to develop, and the system self–organizes itself around the original creation. For example, a new business develops a wonderful marketing plan, the tock that you’ve invested in begins to rise in price, the small tree that you’ve planted shows signs of growth, you install fancy hubcaps and new seat covers in your car, or your child speaks its first words and takes her first steps.

Complexity to Maturity—As a system begins to take shape and form through continued growth, it becomes more complex to the point where it reaches a “steady state.” A system operates at its best when it is in a steady state. Some examples of a steady state are when things are going exceptionally well in your job, when an athlete enters into the zone, when the tree that you have planted is sprouting beautiful green leaves, when your marriage is going incredibly well, the car that you bought is running great, the stock that you have invested in has made a big jump in the right direction, or when you’re feeling good about yourself and everything in your life.

Turbulence–Feedback—When the system becomes too complex in its growth and development, problems begin to develop and turbulence sets is. Turbulence is considered feedback from the environment that the system’s complex state can no longer be supported—and that something has to be reorganized, changed, or dropped off. For example, you may have hired someone to work for you and that person isn’t working out, you may start noticing some serious communication problems in your marriage that are effecting your individual health and well–being, the leaves on the tree that you planted begin to change color, you may have invested in a stock and it begins to drop, you develop a minor physical symptom that is distracting, you notice signs of depression or dissatisfaction in your life, or your car starts making funny little sounds.

Chaos—This is when the system completely falls apart and chaos sets in. For example, the leaves on the tree turn brown and shrivel up, the troublesome employee acts out to the point where the overall welfare of the business is threatened, the stock that you bought takes a huge drop, your marriage is completely falling apart, you get seriously ill, or the funny sound that your car was making turns into a loud choking sound and grey–blue smoke starts blowing out the tail pipe.

Droppings Off and Reorganization—Sometimes life becomes so complex that chaos sets in and you have to drop off something to help the system regain its overall balance. For example, when the snake sheds its skin or the leaves drop off the tree—these are considered to be droppings off. Even having to replace a part on your car is a form of dropping off or a form of reorganization. In order to move forward through a difficult life challenge you often need to let go of a limiting belief, a dysfunctional relationship, change a behavior, or reorganize how you view the world; thus making the space in your life to create something wonderfully new. All life forms in this universe such as trees, snakes, and even stars allow for this natural dropping off cycle to occur; as well as nonliving forms such as computers with animated trash bins. The purpose of the trash bin is to get rid of extra information on the hard drive because it takes up too much space. Human beings are the only ones that resist these natural cycles of change.

Meditation and Dormancy—The way a system regains its balance is to drop something off. Then it can rejuvenate itself during the dormancy phase, thus allowing itself to recycle back up to a new evolutionary level of creation. Just as the tree stands without leaves in the brisk cold winter, we sometimes need to go into a place of meditation and inner silence. It might be uncomfortable for a while, but it can be very healing to quiet one’s mind or to lay low for a while. Before you can move forward, you need to give yourself plenty of being time to renew and rejuvenate. Once you’ve done this, you can become creative again. You will have dropped off what was holding you back. Yet you’ll still have all the knowledge and wisdom that was gained from the whole experience. This sets the tone for a whole new cycle of creativity and growth.

My husband, Tim, and I have found that it is useful for people to look at the different areas of their life, and to identify where they are in the universal cycles of change. For example, there was a woman attending a WealthyMind™ seminar in Dallas, Texas last November, who took herself through the universal cycles of change model. In doing so, she discovered that there were three primary areas in her life that were in total chaos. These areas included her job, her marriage, and her health. She had been very unhappy in her marriage for over five years and tried everything possible to make it work. She and her husband hadn’t slept in the same bedroom for over three years. She had also become extremely unhappy with her job, and was 40 pounds overweight. She decided that she needed to drop off her marriage, her job, and the extra 40 pounds of weight that she was carrying.

This same woman reappeared four months later at our WealthyMindTM Program in Omaha, Nebraska. She had lost 32 pounds and looked fantastic. I asked her how her life was going. She said that she had asked her husband for a divorce and was in the middle of transitioning out of her old job and starting a new business. She had also dropped off some of her limiting beliefs around money, which had given her the courage to start a new business. She admitted that all of these changes had created some chaos in her life, yet she was happier than she had ever been and was looking forward to her new adventure.

We certainly don’t recommend dropping off a relationship or a job. This is a last resort. We always encourage our students and clients to start off by trying to drop an attitude, a perception, or any behaviors and beliefs that are related to their overall disharmony. If dropping those things off doesn’t work, then perhaps they will need to drop off the relationship or job. Especially if it is highly dysfunctional, toxic, or abusive. Fortunately, we have NLP as a resource to help people transition through these universal cycles of change.

In the case of the man who was having problems with his teenage daughter, it’s not like he could just “drop off” the relationship with his child. His only option was to reorganize who he was within the context of the relationship. As soon as he stopped treating her like a little girl, and started treating her like an adult, their relationship got better. The magic in what he did with his daughter can be found within the structure of his internal experience. He had an internal representation of her being a little girl. When he shifted that representation to her being an adult, then she started acting like an adult. By doing this, he was able to create an entirely new experience with his daughter.

What happened with the man and his daughter leads me back to the original question that I posed earlier in this article. “How is our inner reality directly related to our outer reality, and how do the two affect one another?”

Our outer reality is a reflection of our inner reality. What nature can do for us—is to serve as a perfect model for creating the life we want, as well as evolving to higher levels of personal and spiritual fulfillment. The answers to creating what we want in life can be found by becoming aware of the universal cycles of change and applying them to all the various life areas. There is no reason why we can’t harness the same kind of creative potential that exists within the seed of a plant or a star in our galaxy.

Barbara Walters was interviewing multi–billionaire Bill Gates, and asked him, “Now that you’re the richest man in the world and you can have anything you desire, what more could you possibly want?” Gates replied, “To never stop changing. Whatever I do today, will be considered history tomorrow. I have to make sure that I never stop creating, and that I am always changing.”

Suggested Reading:

 

A Brief History of Everything by Ken Wilber

Complexity by M.Mitchell Waldrop

The Web of Life by Fritjof Capra
The Tree of Knowledge by Humberto Maturana and Francisco Varela
Chaos: Making A New Science by James Gleick
Steps to an Ecology of Mind by Gregory Bateson
Psycho–Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
Beliefs: Pathways to Health and Well-Being by Robert Dilts, Tim Hallbom, and Suzi Smith

 

© 2003 by Kris Hallbom

 

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Intensity of Grief is Based on the Relationship

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 11:07 pm

DEALING WITH DEATH:

RELATIONSHIPS DETERMINE GRIEF

 

It is a very different experience to lose a spouse, husband, wife or partner who you love and are living with than to lose a spouse if you are estranged, separated or the relationship is full of problems

It is different to lose a child, son or daughter who is at home and for whom you are responsible to teach and raise as opposed to a child who is grown up and has been living on his or her own for several years. While you will always be a parent to your child no matter what age. Your responsibility for that child changes when he/she leaves home to make a life on their own and the nature of the relationship changes.

Life and loss go hand in hand. We all have many losses in our lives. Grieving is the common thread. Bereavement is the process of healing emotions after the death or separation from someone you love. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Feelings of loss are very personal and unique. You are the only one who knows what is important to you. People commonly associate certain losses with strong feelings of grief.

The relationship is one factor in determining the intensity of the grief. When your mother, father, sister, brother, wife, husband, son, daughter or friend dies the relationship you had with her/him will determine the strength and duration on your grief.
 
The death of someone you are living with is much more traumatic and the grieving process is prolonged as the habits of being in the same space must be broken and adjusted to. Little things like where your loved one sat at the kitchen or dining room table, what side of the bed she slept on, preparing his favorite foods, shoes left out or put away.

 Then there are the personal possessions issues to be deal with like clothes, nick-knacks, books, jewelry, maybe vehicles and furniture. Final bills need to be paid, notification of distant friends, magazine subscriptions are more reminders of your loss.

If your son or daughter dies you have the toys, clothes, bedroom and friends to cope with.

Special days like birthdays, anniversary, Christmas and other holidays are especially difficult the first year after the death. Most people dread the approaching holiday but are grateful after they pass. After the day is over you will feel relief that you got through it. You may reminisce and remember past celebrations making your pain worse. The next year will be easier and in time new memories will replace the old painful ones.

The first year will be a time of emotional turmoil and change. Your feeling will be so close to the surface that you may be surprised to find yourself crying at the drop of a pin or the sound of a familiar voice, mistaken for your loved one’s voice.

On the other hand you may grieve very little or not at all for a relationship that is distant, casual or had less emotional connection to you. An aunt, uncle, grandparent’s death may affect you very little.

I was 13 when both of my grandmothers died. I was closer to my maternal grandmother and went to her funeral. I was deeply touched and sad by losing her. My father’s mother on-the-other-hand and lived in another state and I had little contact with her in my young life. I didn’t go to her funeral and her death barely touched me emotionally.

Relationships within a family are impacted when a member dies. If a son or daughter dies the parents are devastated and often so emotionally drained in dealing with their personal grief that they don’t have the foresight or energy to deal with the grief of other family members.

Men and women tend to grieve differently. Women are more apt to express their feelings overtly by crying, and talking about the death and their feelings. Men tend to internalize their feelings and use escape tactics to bury or hide their feelings, alcohol and sports are havens for hiding.

Siblings of a child who had died are left out and their feelings of grief are overlooked even ignored. It may take a sensitive relative, friend, neighbor or teacher to realize that they are in emotional pain too and need to have their grief recognized.

The situation is similar when a parent dies. For at least the first year the surviving spouse will be in a state of acute grief and may not have enough emotional reserves to cope with the grief of her children. Outside assistance with the children is necessary to allow their emotional needs to be met and facilitate healing.

I recommend support groups for parents and children to work on grief issues after losing a sibling, parent or other caregiver. This is a place where professionals can give guidance and support to a grieving child or spouse. Sharing in a group the special circumstances of your loss is therapeutic and healing. There are several very good supports around. Look for one in your community. If you can’t find one start one.

 

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If an adult gives alcohol to minors and drinks with them what are the legal ramifications?

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My friend just found out her 16 yearold daughter has been drinking since the age of 12 because when ever she spent the night at her best friend’s house her friends mom would buy them both alcohol. This stopped about a year ago when my friends daughter and the other daughter stopped being friends, but my friend and I still think she should have some consequences for giving such yound children alcohol, what can we do?

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Why are people being critical of Sarah Palin for her daughter getting pregnant?

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You can lead a horse to water but you cannot force them to drink. Doesn’t this ring true here? You can teach her all about abstinence and contraceptives but, you cannot force her to practice either true or false?

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HINDUISM

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 10:07 pm

SOME AMAZING/INTERESTING EXTRACTS FROM A FEW POPULAR WORKS IN SANSKRIT

D.RAMESH

1.I have tried to cull out some information, which many may not know, that are really amazing, on various aspects of life. I have tried to do this from the shrutis and smritis.

The original mantras and shlokas and their interpretations have been reproduced from the originals. In some places  I have given my own interpretations. If this is not acceptable to scholars, I would humbly offer my apologies to them while submitting to them simultaneously one word about our shrutis and smritis:our traditions allow an amazing liberty to interpret the texts as the reader sees fit.

2.Before I write anything further, I would like to say one word. I am not a scholar of Sanskrit. I have not had the privilege to study it as a subject, deeply. As my fortune would have it, coincidentally, about 18 years ago, I got the opportunity to serve in the Vivekananda Yoga Research Foundation, near Jigani. While there, I had the unique opportunity of listening to the lectures by extraordinary people, greatly learned, greatly experienced. Hearing these wonderful discourses I was deeply affected and  somehow got pushed to studying Sanskrit texts at least in their English and Kannada versions. At this time, most fortunately for me, Shri Phanirajji and his wife Dr.Ramaa were giving discourses in their house, which was also not far from mine. Their discourses on the various Upanishads, Bhagadvad- Gita, works of Shankara and others were given daily. I have never heard such wonderful and interesting discourses anywhere else. They were incomparably lucid, particularly because Phanirajji is an exceptionally patient man who would  not object to a student stopping him in the middle to ask for clarifications. He would never admonish them or ask them to seek the clarifications at the end of the talk. He would clarify the doubt then and there till the seeker was satisfied. And all this he did with his wonderfully  smiling face. He would then resume his discourses from exactly the spot where he had been stopped.  Dr.Ramaa would also give similar talks.

3. These talks changed our outlook on life completely. We happily realized, but unhappily a little late in life, the oceans of  deep knowledge waiting to be enjoyed. I can never ever express adequately my gratitude to these Gurus for what they have done to me and my wife. (At about this time, my wife was stricken with a terrible nervous disease which made her bed ridden for almost 18 months. This situation forced us to stop the great experience of listening to the discourses).

4. Fortunately for us, my wife, my children and I have the hobby (the only hobby) of reading: fiction, autobiographies, science, and all other forms of literature. This included some books on Vedanta and similar lore. Thus, mostly from the discourses of the learned, a little from self study, however inadequate, I came across some passages which were sometimes surprising, others amazing and yet others giving very appropriate guidance for living .This I thought was an unusual privilege given to me and I was eager to share with others who may be interested, some of these great passages. At the same time, I had the greater ambition, if you will, of the possibility of at least a few of the readers getting inspired into trying to change some of the most cruel and despicable practices existing in our society.

5. The slokas selected in this write-up and the situations are deliberately done randomly, so that at least something could be presented on as many topics and subjects as possible. Because of this, there may be no direct connection at all from one item to the next and it may take a few moments for the mind to adjust to the new topic!   It is my stupid anxiety and enthusiasm to refer to one or the other topic so that readers who are not familiar with the subject could get some information. I crave pardon from the readers for this imposition.

6. After this introduction but before I proceed further, I must mention another point. Our society has been cleft apart by considerations of caste, sub-castes. This has resulted in great harm. But one thing must be clearly  understood: the concept of ‘varna’ which appears in our smritis has absolutely nothing at all to do with the today’s concept of castes, upper and lower. We can pause to examine as to why this must have begun and the reason for the present mess. In the Bhagavadgita (Jnanayoga, chapter 4, sloka 13),  Krishna says:

Chaaturvarnyam mayaa srishtam      gunakarmavibhagaasha

Tasyakartaarapimam vidya kartaaramavyayam//

What he is saying here is not applicable merely to the people of India but to the whole mankind. It applies to every individual in the society. Every individual in the society possesses his own special guna (tamas, rajas, sattva) and special aptitude towards work. Two children even born in the same womb have totally different personalities in them. Then in the society in its entirety, how many and how wide must be the differences!

7.Even in the western countries, there was the system of ‘Freemasons’. This exists even now. There was no way a person could move from one profession to another. Thus we have a Smith, a Barber, Goldsmith, Miller, Baker and so on. These were the castes there. Even after the industrial revolution, it continued for a couple of centuries. But in our society, in the early period,

Janmataa jaayae shoodraha

Karmataa jaayaae dwijaha

was accepted. (At the time of birth, everyone is a sudra, only after his real nature and aptitude to work did he become a Brahmin, a kshatriya, a vaishya etc).

8.The Gita says (18-42):

Shamo damastapah shoucham kshaantiraarjavamevacha

Jnaanamvijnaanamaastikyambrahmakarma

svabhaavajam

Serenity, self-restraint, austerity, purity, forgiveness, uprightness, also knowledge, wisdom and faith are characteristic of brahmana born of his nature. Thus, it did not matter in which family one was

born, one could move from one varna to another, purely on the basis of one’s own natural gunas and aptitudes.

9.There is a beautiful example in the scriptures for this. (There seems to be some difference of opinion among scholars on the dating of this incident. Some scholars put it at the time of Vasishtha-Janaka while others place it at the time of Shri Shankaracharya. However, from the available evidence, this would indeed seem to belong to the earlier period). Jabala was a beautiful sudra woman who seems to have had relationship with several men. From this, she begot a son called Jaabaali. He was a brilliant child with a razor sharp mind. He was anxious to study the Vedas. Jabala tried her best to persuade him against it, knowing her own circumstances and origin. Finally she gives in and he approaches the great sage Vasishtha. The sage asks him as to what gotra he belonged. To this, Jaabaali replies that he does not know his gotra, that his mother had relationship with many men and that he was born out of wedlock. Vasishtha is extremely pleased with the answer and remarks: ’Despite the bitterness of it, truth has been spoken by you and therefore you are a real Brahmin. Come, I will take you as my pupil!’. He teaches Jaabaali all he scriptures  and he develops into a great scholar.

10. In this way, movement between the varnas depended on the gunas of the individual and his own special aptitudes. Now, however, the son of a vokkaliga is a vokkaliga, the son of a bania is a bania, the son of a barber will belong only to that caste, etc. This has resulted in great disquiet in the society. Thus, whenever the word brahmana is used in the shrutis and smritis, it refers not to a caste but to a person who is clean physically and in the mind, serene, austere, endowed with knowledge and wisdom etc. With this background, our past President Abdul Kalam is a Brahmin, Deve Gowda is a kshatriya, Vijay Mallya a vaishya and so on. (Valmiki rishi was a hunter, Vishwamitra a kshatriya and some other rishis were born out of pots or from fish!). There was no fixed connection between birth and varna. Thus the word brahmana occurring in our shrutis and smritis must be viewed in the background described above and not as someone born to the caste.

11. The interpretations on and the original mantras/slokas quoted are as given in the original. In some places, I have attempted to give my own interpretation. If some scholars find this unacceptable, permit me to say a word even while tendering to them my apologies: to give one’s own interpretation on the scriptures is a freedom given to all in our culture, at all times. Such freedom does not perhaps exist elsewhere is indeed a matter of great pride for us. It is because of this freedom that vedantins, saankhya, chaaruvaakas, atheists, dwaitis, adwaitis, vishishtadwaitis and so many, many other schools of thought arose and flourished. I am therefore sure that even if a scholar does not agree with the views of a none-too-bright person like me, he would never question my right to say it.

13.The Hindu society and the widows

13.1Till very recently one of the most degrading aspects of our society was the attitude towards widows. These were most cruel and inhuman. Admittedly, there have been great changes for the better. But for thousands of years, in the South, East, West and North of India, in how many ways did our society oppress the widows: they were tied down by the concepts of madi/mailige (not easily translatable to English but roughly, special types of ‘clean’ and ‘unclean’). Till recently their heads would be shaved, they were made to wear only red or white saris, not allowed to wear anything stitched, allowed to eat only one meal a day, made to attend to all the household work, take care of the new- borns and their mothers while they themselves may never even have had sex before having become widows! Their lives were worse than those of slaves. In Brahmin families, I have myself seen that till at least the 60’s and 70’s of the twentieth century, how cruelly such  practices were enforced. If someone saw a widow on the road, it was considered a very bad omen and she would be cursed!

13.2 In Benares and Brindavan, have the widows of Bengal and other states not been living a dog’s life ? When Mira Nair wanted to make a movie on this, she was chased out. That this practice exists even in Rajasthan and Punjab was something I learned recently to my great surprise. This then is the situation in our society as it exists/existed. To justify such actions, perpetrators condoned, and are condoning, the practices by saying ‘this is what our dharma says’.

13.3 But readers will be amazed to discover the reality: a woman is sitting by the side of the dead body of her departed husband and is weeping. What do out shrutis say on this?

In the Rig Veda Samhita, 10th Mandala, 18th Sutra, 8th mantra addresses the woman saying-

Urdeeshva naaryabhi jeevalokam

Gataasu metamupa sesha ehi/

Hastagraabhasya didhighostavedam

Patyurjanitva mabhisambaghoothaha//

Hey, woman, why are you weeping sitting by the side of a corpse? Get up, go and find a good husband, get married and live happily~

13.4 What amazing words! Is it that our forefathers deliberately suppressed this mantra to perpetuate their suppression of woman? When the woman had been given such amazing freedom, thousands of years ago, by our scriptures, why was it kept hidden? As for me I did not even know till recently (I am 75 now!) that such a mantra even existed. This one mantra is so full of social significance that I feel that whatever else I have read in such great deal, is all worthless. This one mantra could have torn asunder the cruel practices against the widows thousands of years ago!

13.5 Permit me to digress for just a bit and then proceed.

The shlokas which appear in the shrutis are called ‘mantras’. That on which we contemplate or repeat leads to our being protected are the mantras (tra-protect, man-contemplate, remember).

13.6 Read on. Some years ago  there was a Hindi movie song which you may remember:’bhaabhi thera devar deevaanaa..’. (For South Indians, the way the brother in law plays with his elder brother’s wife sometimes seems rather embarrassing). As though the background for this, addressing a woman who seems very happy and sporting, the Rigveda (mandala 10, sutra 40, mantra 2) says:

Kuhasva doshaa kuhavastorashvinaa

Suhaabhi pitvam karataha kuhoshatuhu/

Kovaa shayatraa vidhavena hetaram

Maryam na yethaa krunute sathasthane//

Having married her brother in law (devara), she is eagerly awaiting his return home!

13.7 Now listen to what Maharshi Manu has to say about the freedom of woman and the rights of widows:

Devaraadhvaa sapindaadvaa striyaa samyagnayuktaa/

Prajessithaadhi gantavyaa santaanasya parikshaye//

A woman who is issue-less and has become aware that she cannot bear children (from the man she is with), she can take the permission of her husband or the elders and then proceed to have children from the elder brother of her husband or a relative of her choice.

13.8 This indicates that there indeed was widow remarriage, that she could marry her own brother in law. (It would appear that such marriages do occur in Punjab, Haryana, Uttarakhand etc. even now).   A statement in the shrutis is not to be disputed. Why then has that statement not appeared anywhere else? Is this another example of the later domination over women?

13.9 In the Skandapurana, there is a dialogue between Shri Krishna and Yudhishthira which describes the ‘phalashruti’ (fruits of a particular puja) of the ‘varasiddhivinayaka kalpokta’ story (sloka 34), there is a passage: ‘vidhava poojayitvaa vai vaidhavyam naapnuyaat kvachit’. (In fact, this passage is recited by all of us who perform the Ganesh Chaturthi festival at home). This passage means that if a widow performs this worship, she will not become a widow again. This could mean the present birth or the coming births. But that the Skandapurana also talks about widow remarriage is clear from this.

13.10 Again,

Vidhavaayaam niyuktastu ghrutaakto vaagyato nishi/

Ekamutpaadayetthattram n dviteeyam kathanchana//

With widows or when  someone’s wife is unable to bear children from her husband, the (other chosen)person who has intercourse with that woman, must smear his whole body with ghee, have the intercourse only in the night and beget only one son; never a second one.

13.11 It is clear from the above that a widow also, if she desired to have an issue, could have it and also choose the man to have it with.

14.Freedom of Women

14.1 From the issues discussed above, it is obvious that the women had a great deal of freedom. Now let us examine two slokas (which are very popular and oft quoted);

yatra naaryastu poojyante ramante tatra devataaha/

yatraitaastu na poojyante sarvaastatra phalaakriyaaha//

Where the woman is worshipped (respected), the gods too rejoice there. Where there is no respect for the woman, all the good deeds done there are wasted because the gods are not happy.

14.2  Baalai piturvashe tishteth panigraahya youvvane/

Putraanaam bhartari priye na stree bhajet stree                           swantrataama

The woman should be protected by the father in her childhood, by the husband in her youth, the son to protect her after the death of her husband and never should she be left unprotected. (There is a version where the verse ends with

nastree swatantram arhasi’).

14.3 Some have interpreted this sloka to mean that women do not deserve any freedom. But, considering the place which Manu has given to women, the meaning should rightly be that a woman should never be left unprotected.

14.4 The above statements of Manu have been reproduced from the book “Manusmriti saara” by Shri NK Naraimha Murthy. My grateful obeisances to him.

15. Social graces

15.1 The ‘Hindu’ race, believing  in the sanaatana dharma, has wittingly or unwittingly changed its social attitudes according to the requirements of time, but without letting go of the traditional values of ‘dharma’. Social values such as meat eating, freedom for women, inheritance of property, administration etc, have undergone changes either suddenly or over time. In the long chain of such changes, the Hindu  Code Law enacted in the decade of the 1950’s is a strong link. The gram panchayats now working at the village level, the majority of women therein generally, the proposal to give women a representation of  33% in legislatures etc are recent developments. Such revolutionary changes in the basic tenets of a religion have perhaps not happened in any other religion. Although , thanks to the courage of Martin Luther, Christianity divided into the Catholics and the Protestants, no striking social changes have been visible. As far as Islam is concerned, only recently have some intellectuals begun striving for equality for women etc. But a majority of the followers of Islam  seem to insist that the literal meaning of not one word of the Holy Quran, revealed about a thousand years ago, be changed in any way. But like in all religions, changes have to come one day or another. That is the human spirit.

16. Meat Eating

16.1 From the rites described in the Vedas, it would appear that animal sacrifice was in vogue. Even risihis were meat eaters. According to McDowell, Indra is the most senior deity in the  Rigveda and then, even higher than the position of Rudra is that of Soma. Somarasa (wine or beer) was almost universally consumed. Some have opined that the Vedas were written under the influence of Somarasa!

16.2 As is well known, Shri Rama goes to the forest to honour the word of his father. The group had to cross the river Ganges. They received the help of Guha in this. It was then that Sita worships Bhagirathi (Ganges) and seeks boons such as that Rama must return safely to Ayodhya to assume the throne etc. She vows that if all this is granted, she would gift a hundred thousand cows, distribute clothes and arrange a great and sumptuous feast besides offering a thousand pots of liquor to the Ganges as also undertakes to do a big animal sacrifice.(Ramayana, Ayodhyakanda, Sarga 52, Slokas 82-89):

Suraaghata sahasrena mamsabhootaudadena cha/

Yakshai tvaam prayataadevi pureem punarupaagataa//

16.3 What needs to be noted here that  Rama was a kshatriya and  is not forbidden from consuming meat.

16.4 How tall was Shri Ramachandra? For those who lived in the Kritayuga, there was no hunger, thirst, tiredness, diseases or old age. In the Tretayuga, though to a lesser extent, dharma, dedication and health etc were of a high order and people were built tall and large. In this backdrop, has Valmiki, while describing Shri Rama, mentioned his height?  See this situation: Sita has been abducted. While searching for her, Rama and Lakshmana reach Kishkinda. Then the friendship with Sugriva and Hanuman, the killing of Vali. As soon as the rainy season ended, the army of vanaras was divided into groups and sent separately in the four directions. Hanuman goes to the south and, with his yogic powers, jumps the ocean to reach Lanka. He searches for Sita everywhere and finally finds her in the Ashokavana. (From here, in the Sundarakanda of Ramayana, sarga 35, shloka 6 to 20, Hanuman describes all the body parts of Shri Rama. While interpreting this, the scholars have pointed out that it is not the intention of Valmiki to mean that Hanuman had seen all the body parts of Shri Rama but that whatever is described as an ideal body in the Samudrika Shastra is present in Shri Rama). In Sloka 19, while interpreting the latter part of the sloka :

Chatushkashchaturlekhashshkushchatuhtamah

scholars have interpreted to say that Shri Rama had a height of four kishkus (that is, 96 inches or 8 feet). If he was 8 feet tall and taking into consideration that Shri Rama would place his bow on the ground before shooting an arrow, his bow must have been at least 10 feet tall! (Incidentally, in Kannada, the word ’aajaanubaahu’ is generally used to mean a tall person with broad shoulders. But the meaning is really the person who has arms long enough for his hands to reach his knees. Like the gorillas!) ( I have sometimes received nice scolding for interpreting the word ‘aajaanubaahu’, occurring in the Ramaashtottara , as indicating the evolution of man and that Shri Rama was in the stage of gorillas!) My dearest lord Rama must have only laughed at my words and certainly not got angry with me.

16.5 I have already mentioned that Shri Rama is my ‘ishtadevata’. To describe how huge he was, a shloka from the Ramayana has been quoted. When he was so large, it stands to reason that Lakshmana and Sita must have also been accordingly physically endowed. If so, what was the quantity of the food they were consuming?

16.6 Situation: Shri Rama, Sita and Lakshmana have departed from Ayodhya and, accompanied by Sumanta (-with the help of Guha-) have crossed he Ganges. With great difficulty, Shri Rama persuades Sumanta to return to Ayodhya. It was now evening and they had to think about the food for the night. After all being Kshatriyas, the brothers go hunting and what do they bring? Valmiki says (Ayodhyakanda, sarga 52, shloka 102):

Tau tatva hatvaa chaturo mahamrigaan/

Varaahamarushyam prashatam maharurum/

Aadhaaya medhyam tvaritam bubhukshitau/

Vaasaaya kale yuyuturvaspatim//

“They felt that needed food. Then Rama and Lakshmana hunted one boar and one each of the  three types of deer namely rishya, trushata and mahaaruru. After consuming the cleaned meat of these four animals, they took shelter under a tree for the night’.

Four animals for the three stomachs! Our dear cousin Usha Rao often remarks ‘adenu hotteno, kannambadi katteno? (is it a stomach or the kannambadi dam?). But one must remember that every dimension in the Ramayana is larger than life. This is just an example of how small we are in Kaliyuga.

16.7 Later, Bharata comes to Chitrakoot in search of Rama, Sita  and Lakshmana. Lakshmana, who observes from the top of a tree the huge army coming towards them, gets into a rage. At the same time, Rama, sitting on the flat ground beneath, has placed meat in front of Sita and persuading her:’ Dear, this is well cooked (eat it)”. (Ramayana, Ayodhyakanda, sarga 96, shloka 2):

Idam medhyamadamsvaadunishtaptamidamanninaa/

Kevamaaste sadharmaatmaa seetyaasaha Raghavaha//

16.8 The huge numbers of followers of Shri Rama do not look down on him for his meat eating. Instead, they worship him for his magnificent and incomparable virtues. While it is evident that meat eating was prevalent, over a period of time, societal attitudes changed and social pressures perhaps forced change in food habits. In fact in several sections of society, ‘maasha’ (black gram) vadas are offered in the Shraadha ceremonies in place of ‘mamsa’ (meat). What is to be noted here is the important aspect of the multifaceted aspects of life among the Hindus  and the acceptance thereof by society. There was almost never any forcing on what one should or should not do: you must only eat this, never that; my own God is the real God, worshipping Him must be only in this way etc. That is how we have what has become a cliché: ’unity in diversity’.

17. What is ‘saashtaanga namaskara’?

17.1 Pranipaata is the prostration before the elders or the guru. When we were young, we were trying to locate the eight parts of the body which make up the ‘saashtaanga’ in the prostration. Perhaps others too must have pondered similarly. But ‘saashtaanga’ is:

Do bhaagyam padbhyamcha jaanubhyaam urasaa shirasaa drushaa/

Manasaa vachasaa chaiva pranamoshtaagnaeeritaha//

17.2 The hands, feet, knees, chest, head, sight, mind and words – these are the eight parts. That is, while paying respects, it is not merely the bodily gesture but one should do it with the mind and words.

17.3 This passage is presented, in the Sanskrit-English Dictionary (p 67) of Shri Vaman Shivrama Apte:

Jaanubhyaam cha tathaa padbhyam panibhyaamurasaathiyaa/

Shirasaa vachasas drishtachaa pranaamoshtaangi eeritaha//

GUESTS

18. An ‘atithi’ is a guest who has come unexpectedly,without an appointment. Some scholars define such a person as one who stays for only one night and leaves. How does one behave with an atithi? This is explained in more than one text. The general substance is this (Mahabharata, sabhaparva, Shounaka rishi is being assured by Dharmaraya): when an atithi arrives, the head of the family should exhibit a friendly and happy countenance. Secondly, his words should be polite. Then, with genuine feelings of affection, he should seat the atithi in a suitable seat and offer water or some cool drink. He must please the guest with the items which the guest likes. For the tired ones, he must offer a comfortable bed, for those who are tired by standing, offer a seat, water for the thirsty, food for those who are hungry – the householder must offer all this. Finally, when the guest is leaving, the host must accompany him for some distance at least. In some places, it is mentioned that the host must walk with the guest till the ‘bahirvaatika’ or the outer gate (Mahabharata, sabhaparva). The Taittreya Upanishad rules that ‘na annampratyaachksheeta’ (food cannot be refused) and ‘na kanchana vasatau pratyaachaksheeta’ (irrespective of who it is for, shelter should never be refused). These are defined as ‘vratas’, meaning that they have to be followed.

19. Why do we need others at all?

19.1 There was a very great rishi Yaagnavalka. He appears both in the shrutis and smritis. His wife was Katyayini. Another woman, Maitreyi, wishes to become a pupil of the rishi. He does not agree. Maitreyi persuades Katyayini and marries Yagnavalka. But theirs is a platonic relationship. Maitreyi is able to gain

deep knowledge about Brahman etc. Her capacity to learn endears her to Yagnavalka.

19.2 Yagnavalka decides to leave for paarivraajaka that is take sanyasa.He leaves all his property to Maitreyi. She asks him why he wants to take sanyasa.He explains that Brahman only is truth,that all the wealth and belongings here are non-permanent and such other things. If that be so, says Maitreyi , why would she be needing all that. She would accompany him to the forest, she says. Their discussion goes on like that when suddenly, Yagnavalka makes a stunning statement.

19.3 Maitreyi asks if she can attain immortality by having a very wealthy existence. He  replies that there is no hope of immortality with wealth. She repeats that she does not want something which does not lead her to immortality and pleads him to teach her his knowledge about this.

19.4 Agreeing to do so, he gives an interpretation of immortality. There are several commentaries on his reply. Readers may give their own interpretation. Yagnavalka says(Shukla yajurveda, shatapata brahmana, brihadaaranyhaka upanishat,munikaanda,5th brahmana,6th mantra):

Narvaare sarvasya kaamaaya sarvam priyambhavati/

Aatmanastu kaamaaya sarvam priyambhavati// etc

“The wife is not dear to the husband for the sake of the wife. The wife is dear because of her use to the husband. The husband becomes dear to the wife because he is of  use to her. It is not for the sake of the  children they  are dear to the parents but because the children are of use to the parents. Money is not dear for the reason that money is useful but because it is useful to man that money is sought. Similarly,animals,Brahmins,kshatriyas,the various worlds, the gods,the Vedas etc. Not all are dear because they are useful to all but only because they are useful to a particular person”.

19.5 This may read like a over simplified interpretation. But this too is one interpretation. And, by our own experiences and on some honest reflection, what a fantastic truth! Do you not feel the goose pimples? My appeal to the Jnaanis is: pardon me if I am wrong. But you know better than me the system in our sanaatana dharma. Anyone if free to interpret any work in any manner one deems right. Pardon me for at least this reason.

20.1  In the four paths of yoga viz., raja, jnaana, karma and bhakti, many (including sages like Narada) feel that bhaktiyoga is the best path. And in the bhaktiyoga,the easiest path is ‘naamajapa’, that is the repetition of the name of the lord. This name could be one prescribed specially by a guru or one selected by oneself.And this japa is the simplest and easiest method of achieving the realisation of God.

20.2 In fact, this action of japa is prevalent in all religions in one or the other form. Jews, Christians, muslims, Sikhs and all others practice this. After the bhakti movement covered India (Tulsidas, Surdas,Meera,Guru Nanak, Chaitanya , the alwars(vaishnavite) and nayanmars (shaivite) of  Tamil Nadu, the Dasas of Karnataka, etc) the stress on japa was universal:  sumiranakarale mere mana, naamajapana kyu chodadiya mai, ramanaamava nudi nudi, harismarane mado nirantara,etcetc.

21. Methods of Japa

21.1 ‘japa’ means constant repetition of a short mantra (whether selected by oneself or taught by a teacher). This is also considered as a yagna that is,a sacrificial ceremony and is named japayagna. 21.2 These are of three types:

pronouncing the words clearly and loudly, which can be heard by others also, is vaachaka japayajna; if others can see the lips moving and hear the person repeating some name but softly, it is called upaamshujapayajna; repeating the mantra mentally without anyone else being able to hear it is maanasajapayajna. (This is explained in the shantiparva of Mahabharata -194,10).

21.3 Manusmriti (2-85) says that japayajna is ten times superior to vidhiyajna, a hundred times superior to vaachaka japayajna,and maanasajapayajna is a thousand times superior to the upaamshujapayajna. Most of us have heard one or the other of our neighbours reciting  mantras very loudly. The above is a message to such neigbours.

22. Methods of Debate

22.1 We have seen/heard in the Parliament and in he State Assemblies the members not debating issues but fighting, shouting and otherwise behaving in a way that we do not know who is saying what. In this situation, what do our scriptures say about debating?

22.2 According to the scriptures, there are three ways of debate: jalpa, vitanda and vaada. Jalpa is the debate with the sole purpose of defeating the  opponent. (The examples which occur to me are our Deve Gowda and the poor spokesman of the Congress party, Dr.Abhishek Sanghvi. Whenever and wherever Deve Gowda speaks, has anyone heard him speak of the nation’s development and prosperity? He is always criticizing either the BJP or pouring venom on Mr Kheni of NICE. Apart from these two subjects, has he spoken on any other subject, or, done anything for the country? Then, the poor Dr.Sanghvi:he has to somehow prove that whatever his party has done is the right thing, whether it is really the right thing or not.)

22.3 Without bothering to give arguments on behalf of his beliefs, one can keep criticizing the opponent’s, for the sake of opposing. This is vitandaa vaada. There are followers of some philosophical belief who, instead of pointing the greatness and truth of the teachings of their own guru, simply indulge in criticizing the guru of another philosophy. Thus, there is a group which keeps criticizing Shri Shankacharya and his teachings instead of bringing any greatness in the teachings of their own guru.

22.4 After properly listening and understanding the opponent’s point of view and then placing his own arguments cogently so that the two sides understand the stand points of the each other, is vaada. Normally, this is followed by researchers, scientists. It is not that they do not fight! But intellectually honest people who seek truth, they follow the path of vaada. In our Parliament examples of such people are Chidambaram, Advani, Jaswant Singh and Vajpayeeji.

23. TV DINNERS

23.1 Generally in the lower and middle class families the dinner time  coincides with the prime time on the TV channels i.e., the channels compete for viewership by offering their best programmes.

23.2 Also, in the present time, more and more families have both the husband and wife working to augment the income. Coming home tired and then cooking some dinner, they hold their plates in their hands, sit in front of the TV and eat from the plate held on their knees! Perhaps this is the only relaxation for them. This is called the TV Dinner in America.

23.4 But Manusmruti (4-19) says:

Nakurveeta vraacheshtaam navaaryamjanaapribet/

Notrange prakshipedagnau chapaadautrataapayor//

“Do not shake your hands and legs unnecessarily; do not drink water from your  cupped hands; never hold food on your thighs (legs) and eat; do not show interest in things that do not concern you.”

23.5 A sage like Manu would not make these admonitions without some logical grounds for making them. These are not explained in he sloka itself but scholars must, I am sure, be able to explain why Manu has said what he has. While all the admonitions are applicable to our daily life, what is relevant to us is the one about not eating off  a plate held on one’s thighs. Those who want to ignore this may do so. But when sitting for the night dinner, the parents and children are all together and eating their food and that is the time when they can exchange ideas on what happened that day or what needs to be done in a given situation. The children could ask and obtain from the parents clarifications on points that are exercising their minds. Otherwise, when can the family members –elders and he young -do that? Also, if they ignore Manu’s injunctions and continue to eat their meal off their thighs, they would also be, in a way, breaking the injunction in the Taittreya Upanishad: ’annam no nindyaat’. Further,since he mind is on the TV and not on the food, the metabolic activities leading to the digestion and absorption of the food would be  affected.

23.6 My adopted mother, that goddess, the late Smt. Indiramma, used to say again and again: ’a family must have eat at least one meal a day all sitting together. This ensures the security in the family.’ And this wonderful lady showed this act and its result in her own not-small family.

24. PROTOCOL IN SERVING MEALS

24.1 Normally, in our marriages, the persons from the boy’s side get the priority to eat in the first serving. The girl’s side is fed later. But let us see what our smrutis have to say on this aspect.

24.2 In Manusmriti,  Manu (Chapter III, slokas 38-43), lays down a specific protocol. After offering oblations to the gods, offerings in all the four directions outside one’s house, India(East), Yama (South), Varuna (West), Soma(North) must be made (of rice and water, flowers, incense).

24.3 Next, dogs, outcastes, those eat the flesh of dogs, persons suffering from leprosy and other diseases, beggars, crows, insects –for these, food must be carefully on the ground so that the food does does not get spoiled. After this, before the householder has his food, he must feed the guests and give alms to the Brahmins who have come for it.

24.5 Here the word atithi needs to be explained again. Tithi means a specific date ad time. But without any of these and without prior notice, those who come to your house are atithis. Another explanation, given earlier also, is that the person who stays over for only one night. ‘Abhyagata’ is the one who has accepted an invitation and come. You must receive guest arriving in your house with a smile, seat him in a suitable place and arrange for his food as per your status. If your classmate and such others come to your house, they must be received with respect and the host and hostess must sit with such guests for the meal.

24.6 Those girls who are newly married, the daughters-in-law of the house, girls, unmarried girls, persons who are not well, pregnant women-for all these, without any hesitation- feed them even before the guests are fed.

25. TECHNICAL PROWESS IN THE VERY ANCIENT DAYS

25.1 HELICOPTERS!

25.2 To witness the grandeur of the Rajasooya yaaga of Dharmaraya at Indraprastha, he assorted gods like Indra and others had arrived there. When they arrived, they parked their respective airplanes on top of the buildings allotted for their stay, walked down to the yaaga hall to view it! Does it now remind us of he present day top brass alighting on their offices from their helicopters? (sabhaparva, end of 35th chapter).

26. CANNONS IN THE TIME OF MAHABHARATA/

26.1 When Yudhishthira asks Bhishma as to what are the duties of the king, the latter answers in great detail. (Mahabharaata, shantiparva-which is the longest parva in the whole of the epic-)In he shantiparva , in the 69th chapter, the 45th sloka reads:

Dwareshu cha gurooneva yastrani sthaapayetsadaa/

Aaropyechvataghneescha svaadheenaani cha kaarayate//

26.2 The great scholars of the ‘shrimanmahabharata’ by the Bharatadarshana Prakashana have commented on he above sloka as follows:

Large machines must be set up in those entrances. Cannons must be mounted on those machines. The king must have complete control these equipments.

27. SCIENCE AND HIDDEN MEANINGS IN THE TEXTS OF THE OLD SCRIPTURES

27.1 It is said that every mantra/sloka has a hidden meaning. When an elder had told me so when I was young, I had insulted him in rather harsh words. I was, after all, a great student of science! But to know about the hidden meanings, the knowledge of only Sanskrit is not enough. One must also know mathematics, astronomy, algebra, geometry, physics, chemistry etc. It would seem that people who are thus equipped are able to access the hidden meanings.

27.2 In the University of Maryland, USA, Dr.Satish Kak is the Professor and Head of Computer Science  Department .He has interpreted the ancient texts (example:the use of mathematics in the construction of the ‘yagnakundas’) etc. He has written a great deal on similar ancient texts. In fact, he visits the Indian Institute of Science every year to deliver lectures.

27.3 I had occasion to correspond wih him. One fascinating thing I remember is this: most of us know the lines of ‘Purushasukta”. The first lines are:sahasra sheershaa purushaha sahasraaksha sahasrapath sabhoomim vishvato vritvaa attyattishtha dashaangulam……”. When Prof.Kak processed these few words by cryptographic analysis on the computer, he obtained the distances of the sun from the moon, the moon from the earth and of the earth from the sun. He says that theses estimates are 99.9 % accurate to the present day estimates based on the most sophisticated equipments and methods. Of course, I am not able to understand how but I am deeply impressed that one line of an ancient prayer should yield such astounding results.

27.4 When I was trying to explain this work of Dr.Kak to my grandson Naren, that unusually bright boy brought to my notice one fascinating book which he had read. That was the ‘Introduction to Vedic Mathematics’ by Shri S.Keshavamurthy, 2000. As an example of secret writing, Shri Keshavamurthy has reproduced the following sloka:

GOPIBHAGYA MADHUVRATA SHRINGEE SHODHAADHI SANDHIGAHA

KHALAJEEVITAKHADHABA GAHALAARA SANDHARAHA

27.5 Shri Keshavamurthy says that there three meanings to this sloka:

1.Fistly, this sloka is in praise of Lord Krishna

2. Secondly, it is in praise of Lord Shankara.

3.Thirdly (this is very valuable in a Mathematical sense)-it gives one tenth the value of ‘pi’ to 32 decimal places! (‘pi’ is the resultant of dividing the circumference of ANY circle by its diameter).  The answer is, always, 22/7. The value which the above sloka gives is:

0.31415926535897932384626433832792 !

Do you see the magnificence of this? Those who do not care at all for the Vedas and vedangas would perhaps be awakened to the possibilities by these examples. I am greatly indebted to Shri Keshavamurthy for this sloka.

28. RAJADHARMA (RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE GOVERNMENT)

28.1 FARMERS

28.2 In the sabhaaparva of Mahabharata, Narada questions Dharmaraya as follows:” I hope you are not allowing agriculture to be dependent purely on the rains but that you are building large ponds and lakes? And then seeds for the sowing are kept carefully, as also food grains protected from being destroyed by pests? Are you advancing loans for the development of farmers at the interest rate of one percent per annum?” Notice that Narada has covered irrigation, seeds for the next season, food grains, pesticides and loans to the farmers at nominal interest rates! We now have great and very, very, rich leaders claiming to be sons of poor farmers doing nothing at all for the farmers but a lot for their own sons and daughters in law!

29. HANDICAPPED

(We are supposed to use the phrase ‘physically challenged’ and not say ‘handicapped’. As long as our heart goes out to them and we do our best to help them, what is the point in quarreling over a name. In Kannada, we can say ‘a person who cares for the sheep’ but we cannot say ‘shepherd(kuruba)’! Rishi Shounaka advises Dharmaraya: “Your another very important duty is to take care of the blind, dumb, the limbless, the physically handicapped, the orphans and he sanyaasis just as a father takes of his children”. Is this not a wonderful way of taking care of one’s citizens irrespective of who they are and how they are?

30. ABOUT REPUBLICS

30.1 In the shantiparva of Mahabharata (Chapter 107) Dharmaraya asks many questions of the great Bhishma. Bhishma answers all of the queries with patience, love and  in detail. Dharmaraya asks an interesting question:” How do the people in  the republics obtain prosperity and progress? The root cause of the destruction of the republics is lack of unity. In the counsels of the republic where there are a large of number of people, it is difficult to keep secrets. Please enlighten me on how the republics should behave so that they do not break up”. (sloka 7,8). (This question seems to be about the coalition governments which we see at present!)

30.2 Bhishma answers: The tools with which the fire of hatred is fuelled in the groups is greed and lack of tolerance (‘aamarsha’).  One tries to grab the money of the other. On seeing this greedy person, another’s mind becomes intolerant. Influenced by greed and intolerance, groups of persons (like the present day smaller parties) fight each other, resulting in the loss their membership and finances. They get destroyed thus. (slikas 10,11). How fascinatingly true to what is happening today!

30.3 The king (read Chief Minister) and other groups try to break the opposition by sending their own agents. They conspire to destroy each other. They use the traditional saama, daana, bheda and danda methods. They try to destroy the other groups by doing all they can to reduce the numbers of the opposition (aayaaraam, gayaaraam) and through making the opposition lose their resourses. Present instances: persons, who like bees hop from flower to flower without any remorse: Bangarappa, Siddaramaiah, Shibu Soren and many other innumerable senior and junior politicians.

30.4 The respectable persons in the Republic would unhesitatingly punish their own sons and brothers if they are breaking the law, without any fear or favour. (The former Prime Minister of Britain, Margaret Thatcher’s son was involved in some corruption charge in a third Country. He was punished according to law. Similarly, the son of Prime Minister Tony Blair was found driving drunk. He was unceremoniously taken to the police station, duly charged and punished). In our own country how many of our ‘leaders’ run over people with their BMW’s. For decades, they are not punished. Have we ever heard of any such person bring punished? (Our ex Prime Minister Deve Gowda’s grandson and his friends drove in his BMW to a hotel and beat up the workers there. Did they get punished? Another interesting point: how did the grandson of  ‘the son of a poor farmer’ get to have a BMW?

30.5 The leaders of the various groups must secretly meet and discuss ways of building up the Republic. Otherwise, if the groups are separate and having a lot of difference of opinion, works for the public welfare will not get done at all. Besides several other types of problems get created. (sloka 26).

30.6 As we are seeing leaders who have left a party after some quarrel or other, join another party and after some time, come back to the same earlier party. This is a national shame. Of course, the politicians are shameless, anyway. Bangarappa, Siddaramaiah, Deve Gowda, Mahima Patil, Shibu Soren – the list is endless.

30.7 If I keep on writing like this, it can never end. Irrespective of the subject: humour, societal behaviour, mathematics, astronomy, drama, music, dance, devotion, god, Brahman, universal consciousness, food, cooking ,etc. etc. –whatever the subject, remarkable extracts of which we can feel proud, are available from really innumerable texts. The only limitation is the capacity of my own mind and brain.

31. Like a bee jumping from flower to flower, I have hopped from one subject to another wholly unconnected subject. This may have even irritated some readers. My desire was to cover as many subjects as possible. As already submitted by me, my effort is like a person collecting a mug of water from the ocean and saying that he has collected the water of the ocean.

32. I have a desire to write a couple of more articles after this. I will be able to do it if there is the blessing of my Guru. However if this article has tickled your curiosity even a little, I feel blessed.

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Msra Infection & Cdiff Super-bug – Hospitals to be Renamed “slaughterhouse”

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 8:27 pm

We are all aware that the world is going potty in a mad sort of way, but when people start to follow suit then it becomes a worrying time for us all and especially more so for those if admission to hospital is imminent. People trained to heal are abusing their position (not all) by ignoring situations where compassion should be a number 1 priority. Is our hospitals curing or killing patients. Over the years the ailing has put their trust in hospital procedures, only to have them now question, is today’s welfare care worthy of our trust. Hospitals are under strict debate as to being a place that poses more threats to ones health than that of the plague, HIV and other killer diseases.

It was the harrowing story about Margaret Hudson, of Jarrow that had me throw light on this problem. Hospital officials are investigating after a nurse banned a daughter from her dying mother’s bedside. Margaret Hudson was ordered home while her 107-year-old mother called out her name at South Tyneside District Hospital. She was informed relatives could only stay during visiting hours. The ageing 75-year-old daughter was denied holding her mothers hand and to comfort her. She returned later with only minutes to go before her mother passed away. The hospital has apologised. It is too late for sorry. Did the nurse in question not have a mother? Fair enough should the presence of the daughter have interfered with medical practice taking place, then understandable, but this was not the case .

Miss Hudson said: “Mam was suffering and calling out my name so I asked could I be at her side, but was rudely told ‘no’. This was evidently a time for compassion Hudson said that she offered to pay for a private room but the cold hearted nurse turned her back and said ‘we don’t have one’, and sent her packing. We have all been taught to respect people who save lives but when they prevent those living to say goodbye to their loved ones, is an inhumane act where respect is gone. May this nurse hold her head in shame for a long time?
“I’ve been caring for mam every day for the past 25 years and when she needed me most I was not there.” said Hudson. Her mother was admitted to hospital after suffering a stomach upset and slept through the first night after her daughter was sent home. However, her condition deteriorated and doctors called her daughter, who returned at the official visiting time in the afternoon. A spokesman for South Tyneside Hospital said the matter is under investigation. He said: “On balance, we feel that on this sad occasion our staff was not as obliging as they might have been and, in retrospect, the lady should have been allowed to stay.

Are hospitals taking lives instead of saving them? Risk factors for hospital-acquired (HA) MRSA include:

MRSA remains a major concern in hospitals, it was reported in 2007 that 1.2 million hospital patients are infected with MRSA each year in America alone, these figures are quite scary and the number for those colonized is estimated at 423,000. MRSA is far more widespread in old people’s care homes than in hospitals. Carriers of the disease have can spread germs, even if they’re not sick themselves. The aged and ailing are more susceptible.

Patients on dialysis, or catheterized, or have feeding tubes are at higher risk. MRSA stands for Methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus an infection caused by Staphylococcus aureus bacteria (staph.) Many years ago, staph emerged in hospitals which were opposed to the broad-spectrum antibiotics normally used to treat it. It is an infection of seriousness, so serious it can kill. It was one of the first germs to outsmart all but the most influential drugs.

Regular place of habitat for Staph bacteria to settle are normally on the skin or in the nasal region. If a patient has staph in the nose or on the skin and shows no sign of sickness, are usually “colonized.” Staph bacteria are generally harmless like most other body bacteria’s, however if permitted to enter the body through an open cut, it can cause minor skin issues.

Symptoms of the Staph infection are easily recognized as little red bumps similar to acne pimples, boils or spider bites. Rapidly they can turn into painful abscesses that will need surgical draining. In some cases the bacteria may stay curbed to the skin, if the bacteria tunnels into the body, it poses threat – causing infections in bones, joints, bloodstream, the heart valves and lungs. Of course if body organs that keep us alive are infected then this is when the infection can turn killer.

Clostridium difficile

Healthcare associated infections have increased. One of the most prevalent and potentially dangerous is caused by the bacterium Clostridium difficile, known as C. diff or C. difficile. There is no evading this type bacteria, it is everywhere i.e. the air we breathe – the water we drink. It is harmless unless it develops in great masses in the intestinal tract of people taking antibiotics or other antimicrobial drugs. C. difficile symptoms range from diarrhea to life-threatening inflammations of the colon. Cdiff isn’t directed to hospitals altogether. It’s a growing health concern regardless.

Clostridium difficile (C. difficile) is a spore shaping bacterium present as one of the ‘normal’ bacteria in the gut of up to 3 per cent of healthy grown ups. Patients treated with broad spectrum antibiotics are at greatest risk of C. difficile. As like MRSA the risks increase if elderly or have a weak immune system. The number of death certificates in England and Wales mentioning Clostridium difficile (C. difficile) infection increased each year from 1999 to 2006. In 2006 there were a staggering 6,480 death certificates which mentioned C. difficile, a 72 per cent increase from 2005. Among death certificates with a mention of C. difficile, the percentage for which it was the underlying cause of death was similar (around 55 per cent) in each year.

This concern needs to remedied fast. Calling for “strict” hygiene standards in our hospitals is not enough; it has to be a “stricter” calling.

 

 


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In the Quran: Who did Allah inherit His Dominion from?

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 7:07 pm

The Sons of the Lord God in Bible versus Quran (2)

This is the second article of the series:” The Sons of the Lord God in Bible versus Quran”.

The Bible says that the Lord God, the Almighty Creator, has SONS who were married the daughters of men.  When the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bare children to them, the same became mighty men which were of old, men of renown.

The Quran says that Allah, the Almighty Creator, has neither a son nor a partner.  Allah is the Self-Sufficient, the eternally Besought of all; the One Who is always sought at times of need.

 

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The Sons of the Lord God in the Bible (2)

The Bible says that the Sons of the Lord God, the Almighty Creator, were married the daughters of men.  When the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bare children to them, the same became mighty men which were of old, men of renown.

But the Bible does not tell the names of the sons of the Lord God,

The Bible also does not give the physical attributes of the sons of the Lord God. In addition, the Bible does not tell what the number of the sons of the Lord God was and how many they were?

In short, the Bible does not let us know who, how, when, where, how many etc. in respect to the sons of the Lord God.

On the other hand, the Bible gives some informative details about the sons of the kings of Israel, for example, but does not give any details about the Sons of the Lord God, the Almighty Creator, who are of course very much more important than the sons of the kings of Judah . 

On the other hand, the Quran makes it very clear and says that Allah, the Almighty Creator, has neither a son nor a partner.

 

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Genesis 6:4

 

New International Version

4 The Nephilim were on the earth in those days—and also afterward—when the sons of God went to the daughters of men and had children by them. They were the heroes of old, men of renown.

 

New American Standard Bible

4The Nephilim were on the earth in those days, and also afterward, when the sons of God came in to the daughters of men, and they bore children to them. Those were the mighty men who were of old, men of renown.

 

English Standard Version

4The Nephilim (Or giants) were on the earth in those days, and also afterward, when the sons of God came in to the daughters of man and they bore children to them. These were the mighty men who were of old, the men of renown.

 

King James Version

4There were giants in the earth in those days; and also after that, when the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bare children to them, the same became mighty men which were of old, men of renown.

 

Young’s Literal Translation

4The fallen ones were in the earth in those days, and even afterwards when sons of God come in unto daughters of men, and they have borne to them — they [are] the heroes, who, from of old, [are] the men of name.

 

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The Sons of the Lord God in the Quran (2)

 

The Quran firmly forbids saying that Allah has a son.

It is not befitting for the Majesty of Allah to take to Himself a son.

In Islam, this point is very important faith wise.

In a very simple word, Allah, the Almighty Creator, has neither a son nor a partner. 

Again, it is unforgivable sin to say or to believe that The One Almighty Creator who is Allah or God or the Lord or Jehovah or whatever you name Him has a son or sons.

 

A group of the disbelievers and the idolaters’ people of Mecca went to the Prophet Muhammad, and said to him:

Describe to us your Lord,

What is the lineage of your Lord?

what is He made of?

And to which species does He belong?

Is He made of gold, copper or silver?

Does He eat and drink?

Who did He inherit this world from?

And to whom will He bequeath it?’

 

and so Allah, exalted is He, revealed this Surah (Chapter 112) to describe His attributes and traits, saying:

Say (O Muhammad): He is Allah, the One!

He has no son or partner.

Allah is the Self-Sufficient, the eternally Besought of all; the One Who is always sought at times of need,

He begets not, nor is he begotten, for anyone who is begotten will certainly die and whoever dies will be inherited. Allah does not die nor is He inherited.

And there is none comparable unto Him.

He does not have anyone who resembles Him or is like Him

Naught is as His likeness

 

From the Islamic point of view, the conclusion of this essential topic that may establish or destroy the faith is that:

Any one who believe that the Almighty Creator has a son or sons; he messes his faith up and is considered as a disbeliever and in the afterlife he will end up as an eternal inhabitant of the hell.

Any one who believe that the Creator has neither a son nor a partner; he has a good faith and is considered as a believer and in the afterlife he will end up as an eternal inhabitant of the paradise. 

 

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The meanings of Surah (Chapter) 112 of the Noble Quran:

 

Say: He is Allah, the one; He is the Master whose glory is at its peak and for Whom all created beings are in need;

It is also said that means: He Who does not eat or drink;

It is also said that this means: He Who does not have an interior;

It is also said that this means: He is the Everlasting; He is the Sufficient;

It is also said that this means: He who does not have an entrance or exit.

He begets not, nor is he begotten

He neither begot, for no likeness of Him can exist, nor was begotten, since createdness is precluded in His case.

He did not inherit and will not be inherited;

And it is also said this means: He does not have a son who will inherit His dominion and He was not begotten, which means that He did not inherit His dominion.

Nor is there anyone equal to Him’, neither match nor comparison

there is none comparable unto Him

He does not have an opposite, peer, or equal nor anyone who may resemble or begin to resemble Him;

and it is also said this means: He does not have any co-equal who would compete with Him about dominion and sovereignty’.

 

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Surah (Chapter) 112 of the Noble Quran:

 

Verse 112:1

QARIB: say: ‘he is Allah, the one,

SHAKIR: say: he, Allah, is one

PICKTHAL: say: he is Allah, the one!

YUSUFALI: say: he is Allah, the one and only;

 

Verse 112:2

QARIB: the called upon.

SHAKIR: Allah is he on whom all depend

PICKTHAL: Allah, the eternally besought of all!

YUSUFALI: Allah, the eternal, absolute;

 

Verse 112:3

QARIB: who has not given birth, and has not been born,

SHAKIR: he begets not, nor is he begotten

PICKTHAL: he begetteth not nor was begotten.

YUSUFALI: he begetteth not, nor is he begotten;

 

Verse 112:4

QARIB: and there is none equal to him. ‘

SHAKIR: and none is like him

PICKTHAL: and there is none comparable unto him.

YUSUFALI: and there is none like unto him.

 

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Back to my question to the smart and interested reader:

Is the Quran quoted from the Bible?

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