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Lessons You Learn When Your Child Is In An Accident

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 10:08 pm

I watched as my three year old grandson was wheeled out of the emergency room fastened tightly to a gurney with a huge head brace encircling his tiny head. I arrived on the scene just in time to tell him that I loved him as men with medical equipment ushered him out to an awaiting helicopter. He was being flown to a larger hospital where a specialist for his kind of head injury was waiting to perform an operation on his brain to save his life. Both of his parents had tears streaming down their faces as they helplessly watched their beloved child being flown away.


It was just a typical trip to the grocery store with his mom and 2 year old sister. Except this time instead of walking beside mom in an orderly fashion he thought he would help himself to a few choices of his own. Mom quickly took control and Chad was lifted into the back of the grocery cart and told to sit down. Chad became defiant and in a split second he perched himself on the edge of the basket only to lose his footing and fall backwards onto the cement floor below.


Anyone who has ever been a parent has had to deal with childhood accidents of all kinds. Broken bones, lacerations and of course the occasional bug bite that causes an allergic reaction once again forcing you to rush to the emergency room. It’s just part of life, but how we react to the accidents illustrates to everyone whether we learned from the incident and changed our approach on how to protect them in the future!


This is the formula that every good parent must come to understand in order to once again walk into their child’s future without fear! The key to activating the knowledge that teaches every parent how to protect their child from an accident.


Parenthood is one of the most difficult jobs that two people will ever undertake. As a parent you must learn how to love beyond your ability to understand why, discipline in ways that take consistency, imagination and fortitude and protect your precious child from all of the horrors of life. This process alone can make any parent question their ability to stand up to the challenge of a child who knows how to take everything you think you know and make you feel like you know nothing at all!


This is the genius of the Almighty God on how he uses a small child to teach parents Spiritual wisdom. Knowledge that can’t be anticipated unless you have the responsibility of raising a child. A wisdom that produces insight in the hearts of those who cling to God in order to teach their children how to live the right kind of life. Most of all a God that demands you depend on Him in order for you to have success in your family.


Isaiah 41: 10, “Do not be afraid -I am with you! I am your God-let nothing terrify you! I will make you strong and help you; I will protect you and save you.”


This is what it takes to be the kind of parent that survives raising a child. This is what it takes to face a world that is filled with twists and turns that can drive any sane person fearing their ability to survive till the next problem. This is the reason as a parent you need God as a supernatural fighting force for your family. You must read your Bible so you know how to react to problems. You must pray about everything! And you must raise your children with Christian knowledge and loving discipline. Most of all you must understand that there will be times that you will fail!


In order to teach your children you must listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit and do whatever the Spirit tells you to do. God equips us with the knowledge we need so we will never give up on our children. He gives us the ability to handle whatever problem Satan throws.


We live in a teaching world. A world surrounded by an unseen spiritual world of good and bad forces. A world of spirits that enter the minds of men and influence them on their quest to find the answers to what is good and what is bad.


Satan the demon of all evil will use rebellious behavior from a child to make a parent fill totally incapable of doing a good job. He will work in the minds of moms and dads making them get angry and discipline in the wrong way. He will destroy a marriage by having a child play one parent’s emotions against the others.


In order to protect our children we must understand who we are fighting against. Satan is the god of this world and his goal is to destroy families and make parents and children play the blame game when a child is in an accident. He wants to make us see our children as opponents and to hate them when something bad happens to them. The devils goal is to separate us from God by having us blame Him when we face something hard.


When Satan takes away the saving power of Jesus Christ then he has defeated families and rendered them helpless to do his will. He loves chaos and turbulence. He lives to replace love with hate. He does everything possible by influencing the hearts of men to give into their desire to roll up in a ball and become depressed and hate their families for causing the problem in the first place.


As parents we must understand the great game of life and our real opponent; Satan. God answers prayers when we give our problems to Him. But on the other hand everything that happens to us is a test. A test that teaches us endurance. A test that makes us better parents.


I Corinthians 10: 13, “Every test that you have experienced is the kind that normally comes to people. But God keeps his promise, and he will not allow you to be tested beyond your power to remain firm; at the time you are put to the test, he will give you the strength to endure it, and so provide you with a way out.”


Parenting is the hardest job but it is also the same kind of role that God plays in each of our lives. God takes the bad things that happen to us in life and teaches us a multitude of different things. Like how to keep our cool when we face a difficult accident. How to stop blaming our mates. How to love unconditionally when a child is rebellious. How to pray in an emergency! He teaches us who our real friends are! Is your friends going to stand by you or are they going to blame you for the accident. Which of your family members you can count on, etc.


We live in a world where we must go through things in order to learn. But with God we can overcome all the things that happen to us. There may be a moment of sorrow, but in time Jesus changes it to a story of celebration of how you survived a horrible accident with victory.


Satan wants to isolate us from God and destroy the peace of a family. God on the other hand takes the accident and shows us how to defend ourselves against it happening in the future. God reacts in love and gives insight and knowledge to parents that are reaching out to Him for comfort and help. He tells us to pray the Lord’s prayer and to pray for protection from Satan!


Just one week before Chad’s head trauma his two year old sister rolled out of bed and broke her collar bone in two places. My son and his wife were panicked over their children’s accidents. They did everything possible to correct both problems by putting guard rails on their beds to having another person present when shopping. Nevertheless they still had to go through the pain of feeling helpless to their children’s suffering, but they learned valuable lessons on how to protect their children in the future.


Both children and parents survived their accidents for God answered all of our prayers because we ran to Him in our time of need. I was very proud on how our entire family rallied to their support. Each of us learned many valuable lessons, my other son and his wife put guard rails up on their young daughter’s bed. And all of my adult children, learned the danger of shopping carts and standing children, even if it’s just for a few seconds so they can see the toys on the higher shelves.


My daughter-in-law loves her children very much but unfortunately she learned other lessons from her children’s unexpected accidents. She had been running a day care for the past three years and after the accident many of the parents took their children even though no child had ever been harmed in her care. This is the reason why every person needs to understand Satan’s role in the game of life. We will at times fail according to the world, but when we put our trust in God, He will never abandon us and judge us like the world. He is our help and shield against Satan, who is the real enemy of children.

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If You Love Lebanese Food

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 10:07 pm

Watch out for the invasion of the Lebanese food. Rich pastries, milk cakes, ground mutton in rice with lots of tomatoes, and tabbouleh are among the local favorites of the locals in the US, miles away from the Lebanese soil. The health conscious troop to restaurants with these specialties and the number of satisfied patrons are increasing.

Spaghetti Aside, There’s Hot Stuff Cooking

In a Lebanese restaurant, discover people milling for vegetarian specials. For meat lovers, there’s the mutton and beef served up in style and with the tastiest of flavors. There’s fish cooked in a special way. You’ll want more of the same in your next stop. For those with a sweet tooth, there are pastries stuffed with walnuts and almonds that will delight even the most persnickety of old maids.

What is a Lebanese specialty? Every meal is a balanced one. Expect fresh vegetables, stews, and salads. Ask for the Mezze or Maza. You’ll have a king’s meal of appetizers, cheeses, olives, and pita bread. By itself, this concoction is already a splendid one, especially when downed with a bottle of Muskar White.

Aside from the fusion of various spices that produce the distinctive and delightful dishes, the cook is a friendly fellow who does not run out of stories to tell while he shows off rows of bottled pickles, olives, nuts, grain, herbs and spices, and piquant cheeses made from goats milk. The cuisine does not focus on sauces, but on herbs and spices. That makes their food different from a host of other cusines.

There is a colorful array of fresh vegetables – zucchini, cabbage, artichokes, potatoes, carrots, and much more. Everything in the kitchen is used up from the mutton and beef bones. These are boiled for soup stock; excess meat is ground and even the surplus bread is toasted and recreated to reappear in an exciting new dish. Nothing is wasted in the Lebanese kitchen.

Biblical Food and Wine

Lebanese heritage can be traced back to biblical times, and even farther back. The bible mentions of bread and wine celebrated by the Jews in a foreign land – that was and is Lebanon. And for centuries, their culinary expertise was famous throughout the Mediterranean.

The wines of Lebanon are produced by vast fields of different grape varieties to produce different wines. The fame of the wines was even used to honor a person “his fame shall be like the wine of Lebanon.” (Hosea 14:8).

It is not surprising that the Lebanese are famed for their warm hospitality. Go to a Lebanese restaurant and you will savor the warmth and good cheer. The cook will go out to greet you (that’s why you’ll love him) and perhaps you’ll be offered glass of wine and some tidbits on the house.

Get News and Good Food

If you are a Lebanese in foreign soil, you will not want for the latest news from Lebanon. Some restaurants offer the latest newspaper from which you can keep abreast of the goings on back home.

You can chat up the tavern owner and his sons and daughters and feel like you have never left your homeland. The hospitality extends to all people who drop in any of the quaint restaurants proudly offering the best there is in Lebanese cuisine. With such great food, you will really adore the cook.

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Is it right that we keep our daughter away from a alcoholic grandparent?

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 10:06 pm

My Mother In Law is an alcoholic. Retired, and sits around in her big ol’ house and drinks Crown all day… Yet expects us to allow her to baby-sit our daughter, and is offended when I tell her she can’t see her because of her drinking.
She has been to rehab twice & the family has been to AA meetings with her.

Our feelings have gone from compassionate and patient to aggravation and intolerant.

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She has been a drunk for years!!! Not cause we are not letting her see the baby. What an idiot!

Thanks for all of your thoughts… I already knew the answer, I just wanted
some out side info.

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Everything You Want to Know About Asking for Help but Were Afraid to Ask

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 6:24 pm

What do these women have in common?

A young mother overwhelmed with caring for both a newborn and a two year old

A college student who realizes she is not as passionate about her major as she thought

A manager who feels she is not connecting with those who report to her

A daughter trying to help her aging parents who live in another state

A new widow whose husband handled the finances in the family

As you may have guessed, they all could use some kind of assistance. Yet, how many of these women will ask for it? Help can come in many forms. The young mom could ask a friend to watch the kids for a few hours so that she could take a nap. The college student could seek the advice of a favorite professor. The manager could ask a colleague that she respects, to be her mentor. The daughter could attend a local family-caregiver support group for ideas on how to care for her parents’ needs at a distance. The newly widowed woman could ask a trusted friend to advise her on the basics of family finance and act as a sounding board for any decisions that need to be made.

Why is it so hard to ask for what we need? I have learned over the years that there are times when even the most capable among us must ask for help. At times when I needed help but didn’t ask, I wondered whether it was because I’m a woman, a first-born, or just didn’t want to impose that I found it extremely difficult to turn to others for even the simplest of aid. When I examined my reluctance to request help from others, such as my friends and relatives, I came up with some heartfelt but often ridiculous reasons:

• I didn’t want to appear weak, disorganized, or incapable.
• Everyone has his or her own challenges and is too busy to deal with mine.
• Asking for help would make me feel dependent.
• I didn’t want to be a bother.
• It would be easier just to do things myself.

What about you? Do you find it easy or hard to turn to people who care about you and ask for their assistance when you need it? Asking for help is a skill. Many of us don’t possess it. For most of us it is one we could improve upon. It would make our life so much better if we didn’t hesitate to ask for help when we needed it.

Recently when a friend and I were talking about people’s reluctance to ask for help, it occurred to me that we are actually doing those who care about us a favor by coming to them for assistance. You give a gift when you ask for help. The people you ask feel important, useful, and, in many cases, honored that you approached them.

Think about the last time someone asked you for help. Did you find yourself making a judgment about him or her? Probably not. Didn’t your mind start clicking to what you could do? If you couldn’t help, you may have even felt guilty that you didn’t do your part to help your friend. How many times, when you discovered that a family member had a hardship or challenge, have you said, “Why didn’t you ask for my help?”

There may be some things that you would rather pay a stranger to do than ask friends to do. Nevertheless many other favors will give meaning to the words family and friend. The next time you are feeling overwhelmed, need advice, or a shoulder to lean on, rather than hesitate, push yourself to ask for what you need. You will not only be helping yourself but also giving the person you asked a chance to feel better too!

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Your claim has been denied!

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 6:21 pm

Are you making mortgage insurance payments? When I heard about the TV segment of CBC Marketplace called “In Denial,” I could not believe that the Canadian regulatory bodies (that supposedly protect consumers) could allow this to happen. Is this really happening?

When I met with Chris Nelmes of Nelmes Financial Planning and Insurance Services, I asked just that. “I have always heard stories about the trouble with mortgage insurance” was his response.  It’s not all mortgage insurance though, “The problem is insuring your mortgage through the lender.”  The web page for CBC Marketplace’s investigation, “In Denial,” lists the key differences between post-claim and private insurance. Most lenders only offer post-claim insurance. Post-claim underwriting means that you answer the insurer’s medical questions when you apply and the insurer only checks your answers and medical history if you make an insurance claim. It’s only at the time of the claim that the insurer determines whether you are eligible for the insurance protection. With private insurance, the insurer qualifies you initially and you know you are protected before you start making your monthly insurance payments. When Chris first heard of these stories from his peers, “they often seemed like scare tactics and hard to believe,” he said. And now, “After being in the business for a while I have seen the damage this type of insurance can do and why it is important to ensure the right steps have been taken before it is too late.”

Chris had some personal experience to share related to his own client base. “My first introduction to a mortgage insurance claim wasn’t that bad,” he explained. “The spouse passes away and after fighting with the insurance company for six months the insurance company paid out.” You mean that you have to fight for your payout? I was about to ask, but Chris was already onto his next experience.

“The next time it wasn’t so simple.  A single mother had a home with disability insurance on the mortgage.  She got cancer, missed work, needed treatment which led to a stroke, a car accident, and a few other injuries.” Surely she would be protected by her insurance. Not so! Chris continued: “The mortgage insurance company merely gave this client back the disability premiums she had purchased, and the client was forced to sell her home.” So what happened? “She did fight the cancer, with no assets left and a tiny rental to raise her daughter.” Can you believe that this could be happening today in Canada? Where is the outcry?

Chris’ experiences are in line with the “In Denial” report. But it doesn’t always have to work out this way. Chris continued, “The most recent client story was a client who went to a private insurance company and got a life insurance policy to cover the mortgage.  This client was later diagnosed with cancer and given six months to live.  Five years later he is still fighting, and every year his policy allows him to take $100,000 advance on the death benefit.  This has allowed him to travel, enabled his spouse to take time off work to spend with him, and even provided the funds to make the mortgage payment.” Now that’s real protection.

Chris further explained that “the difference between the first two stories and the third is simply that the third was done through a private insurance company, not through the lender; and it was underwritten at the time of application, not at the time of the claim.”  He confirmed that in the US, “some states have banned underwriting at the time of the claim, but in Canada it is still common when tied to a debt.”  Chris noted that “not all companies do this, not all products are the same.”  The important question to ask when choosing insurance is, after you’ve started making monthly insurance payments, are your policy payouts guaranteed if you run into health problems? Making premium payments does not mean that your protection is guaranteed.

I remember being asked to sign-up for mortgage insurance when we were signing our mortgage documents. It just seemed like a convenient ands easy choice to take their insurance since we were already there signing papers anyway. Yet Chris states that the seemingly convenient option is not the best. “I often see private insurance chosen because often it costs less,” says Chris, “and it is free of the debt and gives you more control.”  He stated “in the third example, if the insurance was tied to the home, it is likely they would have had to sell the home, forfeiting the coverage when it would be needed most.” Most people need protection beyond just the mortgage payments in order to keep their home if disaster strikes.

Chris’ stories and CBC’s report do not merely show what might happen to just one in 10 million people. Many people are affected; they just may not know it yet. Chris summarizes, “When I first started with insurance, I always heard these stories but thought they would never affect me.  The three stories I’ve shared all happened to people I know and see on a regular basis.  I also hear these stories from other professionals and I watched CBC’s investigation highlighting other Canadians who have fallen victim to post-claim underwriting as well.  Knowledge in action is power. Be proactive and make sure the insurance you depend on will pay out and protect you.”

Chris can be contacted through Nelmes Financial Planning and Insurance Services, 604-637-7422. Email: chris at nelmes.ca.

This is one more example of the importance of doing your research in the area of insurance, investments and real estate. Do you have important information to share? Why not submit your article, or blog about it at http://www.openhousenow.ca.

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Make the best of your milestone birthdays

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 6:06 pm

Tips on how to organize funny parties for each of your milestone birthdays :

1st Birthday is an event that we will hear our relatives talking about …or not, depending on how funny it was. As a parent, turn the 1st birthday of your child into a nice memory. Create nice invitations and send them to your guests in advance, have colorful decorations, lots of balloons, all the characters dear to any child there, on the plates, napkins, walls, have 1st birthday dangles, give favors to your guests and small toys to their children.

15th Birthday is the moment for your daughter’s Mis Quince party. Make sure you have there all the items you need to turn it into an unforgettable event for her: Mis Quince plates, beverages, cups, tablecover, candles.

Sweet Sixteen Anniversary is supposed to be, as its name shows, sweet and…pink. You can stick candies to the invitations to the party, to make it sweeter, have a pajamas party and then have a lot of shooting stars as decorations, make the celebrated girl wear a flashing birthday sash or a princess crown.

21st anniversary is a big day in teenagers’ life because it is like a password allowing them to cross some borders: they can start driving their car, play casino games, drink alcohol in public places. Why not make a theme out of this? For your adult child from now on, throw out a Casino party or a Nascar one. Organize a wine tasting with glasses having written “Finally 21st”.

30th birthday is even better than your 21st one. Then you were just young, now you are young and wiser. Enjoy it to the fullest. Dance all night, have your friends wear party hats and glasses. Organize a treasure hunt including 30 clues. These clues could refer to events of your life that your friends are aware of and can decode.

40th birthday is truly a milestone celebration because many have the tendency of feeling old and complaining about it. If you care enough for your friend who is turning 40, organize a little surprise for him, by turning his party into a funeral one. Put on black plates and napkins, and even bring in some Halloween party items. Ask the guests to come dressed in black and express their regrets. Hopefully, he will realize how far he is from calling himself old. And it will be something that will certainly make him laugh…a lot.

50th birthday should give us all a sense of fulfillment. After all, it’s half of a century. Remember all the good times you had so far with a photo centerpiece displaying pictures of wonderful events in your life.

60th Birthday is not a time to feel sad. You can be nostalgic, on the condition that you have fun at the same time. Organize a retro party, maybe a rock ’n’ roll party if you like this type of music. Send Rock ’n’ roll invitations, decorate the walls with rock’ n’ roll scene setters, get Elvis wigs for your guests and rock the dance floor.

75th birthday is also called the silver celebration. So use this color as a theme for your party. Use silver balloons to decorate the room, silver stars, silver plates.

80th birthday is a true reason for celebration. 80 is not old, is gold. Use gold as your theme party. Buy the celebrated person a King or Queen golden crown. Track old friends and bring them in for this special event.

There is no other day more special within the whole year than your birthday. No matter the age, birthday is about fun, love, and good memories.

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Bega schoolgirl murders

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 5:07 pm

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Location of Bega, New South Wales (red).
The Bega schoolgirl murders refers to the abduction, rape and murder of New South Wales schoolgirls, 14-year-old Lauren Margaret Barry and 16-year-old Nichole Emma Collins of Bega, New South Wales on 6 October 1997.
The girls were abducted by Leslie Camilleri and Lindsay Beckett, both from the town of Yass on the outskirts of Canberra, ACT. The men subjected the girls to repeated rapes and sexual assaults on five or more separate occasions, while driving them to remote locations throughout rural New South Wales and Victoria. Over a twelve-hour period the girls had been driven several hundred kilometres from Bega, New South Wales, to Fiddler’s Green Creek in Victoria, where they were stabbed to death by Beckett under the order of Camilleri.
The girls were reported missing on the day of their disappearance, and a massive manhunt consisting of family, friends, police and members of the Bega community combed the area but failed to locate any sign of the missing girls. Police investigations lasting several weeks eventually led to Camilleri and Beckett, career criminals with over 200 criminal convictions between them. Camilleri, who claimed he was innocent of any crime and insisted Beckett acted alone, was facing existing charges relating to other sexual assaults against minors at the time of the schoolgirl murders..

Perpetrators
Leslie Camilleri
Leslie Alfred Camilleri
Born
31 May 1969 (1969-05-31) (age39)Liverpool, New South Wales
Conviction(s)
Theft, Murder x 2
Penalty
Life imprisonment
Leslie Alfred Camilleri (born 31 May 1969) was born to a family of six children in Liverpool, New South Wales. He did not meet his natural father until he was 13 years of age. A psychiatric report prepared in 1993 spoke of Camilleri’s deprived childhood, and “a pattern of theft and vandalism which have been his reaction to social ostracism, leading to frustration, which because of poor impulse control has ended in explosive outbursts of destructive behaviour.”
Camilleri was considered “uncontrollable” as a child, and spent a large part of his childhood in juvenile detention. He escaped the institution and between the ages of 10 to 12 lived on the streets of King’s Cross in Sydney as a street kid. He was eventually taken before the Children’s Court by police and ordered to return to the institution where he remained until he was 15.
Four days prior to the abduction of a girl, Rosamari Gandarias, in Canberra and three weeks prior to the schoolgirl murders, Camilleri appeared in the District Court of New South Wales on trial for charges relating to sexual offences against his defacto’s daughter. After two days the trial was aborted and Camilleri was released from custody on bail. Camilleri had 146 prior convictions for offences such as dishonesty, theft and wilful damage. At the time of the murders Camilleri lived in Yass, New South Wales. He had known Beckett for a period of two to three years and would often associate with him to steal cars.
Lindsay Beckett
Lindsay Hoani Beckett
File:Http://www.mako.org.au/images/beckett2.jpg
Born
27 March 1974 (1974-03-27) (age34)Opotiki, New Zealand
Conviction(s)
Murder x 2
Penalty
Life imprisonmentNon-parole period of 35 years
Lindsay Hoani Beckett (born 27 March 1974) was born in New Zealand and lived in the town of Opotiki before coming to Australia. At the time of the murders Beckett lived in Yass and had come to associate with Camilleri, four years his senior, in criminal pursuits. It would be Beckett who would eventually break and confess to police about the schoolgirl murders, and leading them to the bodies of the victims.
It was claimed Camilleri exerted a strong influence over Beckett. In sentencing Beckett to life imprisonment, Justice Vincent described Beckett as having “quite a low IQ” and as someone “who had fallen under the influence of an older individual of much stronger personality”. Beckett was 24 at the time of the murders. He will be 59 when eligible for parole.
Events
Abduction of Barry and Collins
On 3 October 1997, a camp site was set up by the father of Nichole Collins at White Rock, near Bega, for his teenage daughter to invite friends over for the coming Labour Day long weekend. The camp site was located three kilometres from the Collins’ home. The girls…(and so on) To get More information , you can visit some products about , . The Ly-819 Navy Chair products should be show more here! 

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Daughters boyfriend killed her by driving drunk!?

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 4:33 pm

It has almost been a yr since my daughter was killed. Her and her boyfriend were at a party drinking. They had gotten in an arguement and decided to leave. My daughters girlfriend was there and was telling my daughter to ride with her because her boyfriend was too drunk. He grabbed her arm and told her to come on, pulling her at the same time. My daughter had asked her friend to follow them to the end of the road at least, because she was scared. Well when they got into the truck, my daughter immediatly got on the passenger side because she was mad at him. When he took off, he took off in a rage peeling out . Her friend guessed they were going about 65 mph on this road that soon would turn into a gravel road. Her friend was right behind them, but was somewhat blinded by the dust when they got onto the gravel road. All of a sudden, there was debris all over the road, and head lights were in the ditch. That was it..it was all over for my girl. Her life ended there. They were both ejected from the single cab new chevrolet truck. My daughter was not only ejected from the truck, but the truck landed on her as it was flipping, crushing her skull, not to mention other details I will leave out. This guy is still running around scott free with only a monthly court date that continues to get reset monthly. His attorney has stated that he is willing to do 2 yrs in prison or probation. He is pretty much able to decide his own punishment. In addition to all of this, he is trying to place the blame on my daughter and is saying that she grabbed the wheel and made him wreck. The DA is saying that if we don’t accept a plea, that we are taking a chance of him getting off on NOT GUILTY! What is wrong with this picture? Is bringing in the media a good idea? This judge is much too easy on this type of crime, but the other judge is very hard. Why did I have to get the easy judge and is there anything else that can be done? We asked to get our own attorney, but we can only get our own attorney to assist us in making sure that the DA is in fact doing there job. Once again, we are dealing with a judge that let him off on a $1,000 bond. He spent only 5 days in jail, and because the DPS and DA did not have there paper work together, the judge let him off. His words were, that, “I walked out of there with a crisp $100 bill”. Does anyone have any advice or any experience with this type of thing? I need help, and justice!
He is 23 yrs old. He had a girl wrapped up in his arms the week after we buried her and was highly intoxicated. All of his friends totally support him drinking and partying with them, as though my daughter meant nothing to them. He was apologetic at first, but at the same time, he continued to drink and date other girls. He was with my daughter for over a year. They moved into her new apt together 2 wks before the wreck. In my opinion, he not only showed no remorse, but showed such disrespect to my daughter, me, her family, and her friends. Good boyfriends don’t kill their girlfriends, no matter how young or old..they should protect their girls. Yes, thr are bad things that happen to good people, but where is the justice for someone that has had not only a wreck that took my sweet girl, but had 2 other wrecks that totaled his vehicle both of those times as well. One of those wrecks, I had to take her to er for head injuries. The other wreck, he was ejected and lucky to be alive.

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Wedding Toast

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 4:08 pm

 

If there is one thing that newlyweds should take into great significance, it is the wedding toast. The more popular amongst your guests would have to deliver a few messages addressed to the wedding couple but the most common are these three: the father of the bride, the best man, and the bridegroom. For the people who would prepare for a toast, they surely would have to see this as a memorable event. This could not be so much fun though especially if you are not used to speaking in front of big crowds and the task can be a lot stressful since you will surely be remembered for whatever it is that you would have to say.

So how can one come up with an impressive wedding toast? Let us start off with the father of the bride. It usually should start with welcoming the guests present in the occasion. It is followed then with a thank you message for celebrating your daughter’s special day. Share some special trivial information about your daughter and then top it off with words you would like to tell your son-in-law and a great toast for the newlyweds.

Now, for the bridegroom. This normally starts off with a long list of thank you’s to the following important people. The first is for the bride’s father for the wedding toast made. He should take the time to thank the family for being accepted, for the cooperation they have imparted with regards to preparing the celebration, for their daughter, and for the entire guests who has taken the time to come. The wife should be thanked for of course and for making you her choice of the person that she would want to spend the rest of her life with. The bridesmaids and the rest of the entourage should be thanked for too as well as the organizers. The groom may share a few bits of trivia and story too on how they have met and fallen in love with each other.

The best man’s wedding toast should include the recalling of how the couple first met; a thank you note to the groom, and a special toast for the parents of the newlyweds. Anecdotes should be shared to everybody as a recall of how good he has been friends with the groom.

Overall, to deliver a memorable toast, you must first organize your thoughts and write them down in paper. This could be a great tool to guide you through your stage fright and would serve as your comfort zone. There’s no harm in practicing so give yourself enough time to rehearse. Don’t be drunk when the time comes that you will finally speak. Stay sincere and make sure that your words are all coming from the heart. Prevent yourself from telling topics that might be embarrassing which means you must leave behind your naughty college adventures and just keep your anecdotes plainly funny and smart. And above all, relax. Don’t ruin your speech by letting your nervousness and stress get in the way.

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Family Business Wins Government Battles Twice: A Family Victory in Sicily

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 4:07 pm

Imagine a villa set high on the hillside in Taormina, Italy on the east coast of Sicily. It’s been your family’s home and hotel property for generations, a villa with gardens full of hibiscus, roses and lemon trees, with magnificent 180 degree views of the Mediterranean and snow capped Mount Etna.


What would you do when the government took your home and business away from you not once…but twice?


This is the story of how through fierce determination the Schuler family won two battles against governments who confiscated their property in Taormina, Italy.


While on an Italian cooking and volcano walking tour with Mama Margaret in Sicily recently, we stayed at lovely, pink Hotel Villa Schuler in Taormina and were awestruck by the colour and beauty surrounding us.


The present hotel owner and manager, Gerhard Schuler is a quieter man, but when I said to him, “This property looks like a historic building beautifully renovated. What’s the story behind it?” his face lit up. “I’ll give you our book.”


I read “The One Hundred Year Story Of Villa Schuler” and the hotel took on a whole new character and depth.


In 1886 Eugen Schuler left Germany for warmer Sicily for health reasons. In a few years he was running a successful jewelry and antiques store, was happily married to a German woman, Anna and had a son.


They bought a small villa in Taormina on the present Villa Schuler property. In 1905 suddenly Eugen died at 39. What was a widow with a 12 year old son to do? She had a good business head and turned their home into a B & B.


Taormina was becoming famous among artists and intellectuals in Germany and northern Europe, looking to enjoy warm winters in Sicily for weeks or months. Soon they were staying at Villa Schuler.


Beautiful Taormina became a mecca for the rich and famous like Johannes Brahms, Oscar Wilde, D.H. Lawrence, British kings, Greta Garbo, Christian Dior.


Anna had just got her business running well when World War I broke out. The Italian government confiscated property belonging to enemy Germans, like Villa Schuler. Anna and her 22 year old son, Eugen fled to Germany where they spent the war.


After the war, Eugen took his wife, Thea and mother to Taormina. Villa Schuler was up for sale at an auction.


However the local Italian bidders got together and decided to withdraw their offers so the Schulers were the only bidder and could buy their property back. The Schulers had a good reputation and good friends in Taormina!


Soon Villa Schuler was doing brisk business again. In the 1920′s Eugen’s wife and one of his two children died, leaving him and his mother running Villa Schuler where loyal guests stayed for months.


In 1926 Eugen’s wife, Thea and their daughter died, leaving one son, Heintz and Eugen to run Villa Schuler.


World War II broke out and the now larger villa was expropriated again. The Nazis arrived in Sicily, occupied Taormina and turned Villa Schuler into a liason centre for the German army.


When the Germans left Taormina in 1943, following the Allies’ liberation of Sicily, the British army occupied the villa. The Schulers fled to Bolzano in northern Italy.


The British turned the villa into a rest home for soldiers. They bricked in all the balconies so drunken soldiers wouldn’t fall off them. Because it was a German house, before they left, they ripped out all the plumbing and wiring and smashed many rooms.


After the war, the Italian government owned the ruined property and housed bombed out and homeless civilians in the empty rooms. They raised chickens and rabbits in the gardens.


Eugen brought his mother and son, Heintz back to Taormina and got a job managing a large hotel in a nearby town. He was 61 and didn’t want to give up his parents’ home or make a new life.


His luck came back in 1953. He convinced the Italian government to give him back the family home in ruins, this time for free.


His mother had died, so he went back to his broken down house with his son and daughter-in-law, who were not interested in running a hotel and moved away. Restoring the building was too big a project for him. He spent a sad year all alone making little progress.

His luck was about to change again.


Meanwhile in Germany, a young nurse, Marta had got stressed out during the war and was in a sanitarium with persistent stomach ulcers. A doctor told her to change her life and got her a job as a private nurse to a lady in Taormina. Through her, this intrepid nurse met Eugen, 31 years older. They married in 1954.


With some local workers, they restored the desolate house bit by bit. In the first five years, there were no electrical appliances. They opened the hotel anyway.


After all their guests had gone through in the war, they didn’t mind staying in such a magnificent location in basic rooms with “hot and cold running water”.


Word spread and the tourists came back to Villa Schuler, some of them children of guests in the 1920s. How to promote the hotel now that the days of long stays were gone? Eugen got German consulates and embassies around the world to recommend the hotel to diplomats, judges, politicians and actresses.


Eugen and Marta had two sons, Gerhard and Claudio. Marta ran the hotel with four staff. In such a family run place, they made friends with their guests and often celebrated their birthdays and anniversaries at the villa.


By the 1960s their business was booming and they added a third floor to the villa to make 27 rooms.


The 1970′s saw the start of mass tourism in Italy and international guests arrived. Marta ran Villa Schuler as Eugen took a less active role in the business to pursue his passion, Mount Etna.


Like his father, Eugen accompanied scientists up to the volcano rim. He became an acknowledged expert at the Volcanological Research Institute in Catania, the capital of his province. He died happy in Taormina at age 82.


Eugen and Marta’s son Gerhard, now manages Hotel Villa Schuler.


The Villa Schuler story inspired me in many ways. Over generations the Schuler family persevered through a series of hardships to keep and operate what was important in their hearts.


They maintained vast social networks of people they treated well and worked together to build the lifestyle and business they love to this day.

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