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I was sitting with my father today, holding his hand. You see he is in his final days of cancer. I do hope none of you experience this with your family member. Its hard to see the man who raised you, protected and loved you, in pain and leaving you in such a bad way. I only live two blocks from my parents, but only see them about once every two weeks. Still, we are very close. Needless to say, there has been a lot of family visiting from out of town. (I like to call them the wolves; you know, the ones who only come around every few years when they need something). Anyway, today was no different. My eldest brother, 49 years old, has been in town for two days. First of all, I keep my distance from this brother, as he has robbed my home on several occassions. He is a known alcoholic and drug addict. Now, here is where my delema begins. My father, who is obviously on all kinds of pain killers including oxycotin, morephine, xanax..etc..(the list goes on to about $6,000 bucks worth a month), keeps his pain pills hidden, as to keep the thieves out of them.

I was sitting holding my father’s hand, talking of Christmas trees and rubbing his tummy, when I noticed my brother being quiet in the kitchen. I leaned forward a bit and spied him opening the medicine cabinet and pulling out vials of pills, then quietly, and very stealthily, he set them back, he shut the cabinet taking nothing. I sighed and was glad he made a good decision. Then boom…he did it again. Still he took nothing, he only checked out the lables. But, as always, the third time is the charm… he slowly pulled the bottle (hiding the noise) out of the cabinet, opened the lid, closed the lid, put it back gently on the shelf where it was found, then gently closed the cabinet door, and I watched as he SLIPPED the pills in his shirt pocket.

Well, my dying father was looking to see what had my attention so long. and HE SAW IT TOO!…He said to me, “He’s taking my pain pills, what will I do without them? Do something!” So, I did. I confronted him. My 129lbs to his 276lbs. I heard God say, BE BOLD, I GOT YOUR BACK, and at once, I told him that I had seen his thievery. His response sounded like a demon; he said he hated me and the whole family hated me as well. My father began to cry, and hardly able to breathe, he said that it was not true and for him to leave his house at once. Seeing my father was upset and needed peace, I comforted my father at once, and pulled my brother to another room where I confronted my brother in private. He said that my mother gave them to him…lol..yeah right, I thought….but, when i asked mom, her eyes got wide. Then she lied to me, to keep the police at bay and to protect him, that was when my mother, covering for him, said she gave him permission to take the pills. I KNOW THAT IS NOT TRUE by the way he went about stealing them. Opening the cabinet three times, sneaking one bottle out at a time. But, my mother wanted me to “not start trouble” and get my dad upset. Here’s the clencher. I was filming my father telling everyone Merry Christmas and had the camera on when this happened…talking about the right timing for once…anyway, its on film!! My mom is a great mother, she is affraid of my brothers, and has always made me feel bad for trying to do the right thing, in order to keep the peace. I’ve not told anyone I have the film. I’ve not told anyone of his stealing of the pills. But, I somehow, feel I’m doing myself and my father a disservice not at least telling someone, who can help me prevent this from happening again. Stealing painkillers from a cancer patient especially your father, just feels SO wrong to me!
Be honest. What would you do? Who would you tell, if anybody?

From a loving daughter…