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Have you ever lost a child?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 10:23 pm

This past March I lost my beautiful 34 yr. old son to an accidental drug and alcohol over dose. I am left so empty inside. Some days I am fine, JUST fine. I have a 28 yr. old daughter and 2 beautiful grand daughters whom I babysit for regularly. This does keep me busy, and hopefully my sadness is hidden from them most the time, I am one of those grandma’s who will go out of her way to make sure my grand daughter’s are well taken care of and that they laugh often. My oldest grand daughter, she’s 11, tells her friends that I’m hilarious. That is what I want them to think, even though deep inside I am crying. My son had drug and alcohol problems since he was in his early teens and we’ve watched him struggle with this demon for most his life. He was a fighter and when he was sober would sponsor other addicts and we have recently heard of all the love and devotion he poured out towards those who needed help. He had moved about 3 hours from us when he entered a rehab. facility about a year ago and was doing fantastic,. In Feb. his girlfriend was found dead from an overdose and it devastated him! He called countless times asking us to come and help him, he had already started using again, and we didn’t go to him. I, on my own, had no way to get to him, and we really thought, like times in the past, that he’d go back into treatment, but that never happened. On March 17th he died in his sleep. It was ruled an accidental overdose, but since we’ve found out that he was at a strangers house and someone there fed him a prescription drug while he was extremely intoxicated, to get him to “pass out” so this person could run off with the girl they thought my son was with. It is under investigation now, but I am sickened that not only someone took it upon themselves to feed my son drugs, but that my son found it necessary to reach out to a stranger for help and I didn’t go to him. I am drowning in guilt and pain. Will this ever get better, does anyone know?

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is the carnival cruise ecstasy a good one?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 10:23 pm

im taking my daughter on a carnival cruise and i was thinking about going on it so is ir a good one?

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When Grandma dies, she wants to leave everything to her drug-addicted daughter?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 10:23 pm

This is my husband’s mother and grandmother we’re talking about. The mother has been addicted to crack for 20+ years. Seriously. She has stolen from her family (including Grandma), lied, prostituted, been in and out of jail, etc.
Grandma is in denial about her daughter’s recovery and always believes she’s doing “better.”
This has nothing to do with my husband wanting a “piece of the pie” when Grandma dies. He just doesn’t want to see his grandma’s house and all her belongings sold for crack – which his mother WILL do.
Is there anything he can do? Or does he have any say in this business?

Thanks.
His mother is 1200 miles away and Grandma lives here by us.
At this point, there is nothing that can be done about his mother – atleast not by him. She’s a grown woman – almost 50! She’s has had many opportunities to straighten her life out. She’s even been through an expensive rehab treatment. She’s been in jail…
Honestly, if his mother was sober, he would have no problem with it. He just hates the thought of all Grandma’s treasures being sold for crack and smoked up.

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Diet pills during pregnancy?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 10:21 pm

My mother in law is 72 years old now, but 54 years ago she was a newly wed starting a family. Her first child was a big baby. When she became pregnant with her second child, she begged her doctor to help her have a smaller baby. Her OB/GYN prescribed diet pills and she took those little pills during her entire pregnancy. Her baby girl was huge in spite of those diet pills.

After my sister in law was born, my mother in law said the baby cried constantly. Once they got home from the hospital, my mother law says that my sister in law slept all the time. From birth until age 12, my sister law’s favorite place was her bed. She slept constantly. Even now, at age 51, her favorite pass time is sleeping.

During adolescence and young adult hood, my sister in law became addicted to methamphetamine. She said taking the drug made her feel normal. She is now a recovering drug addict and alcoholic, but she still misses the drugs. Her daughter, my niece, is also a methamphetamine addict. My niece spent two years in prison for criminal activity associated with drug abuse. The cycle continues.

Is there anyway possible the diet pills my mother in law took during her pregnancy 52 years ago could have caused my sister in law’s drug addiction and subsequently my niece’s drug addiction?

I can’t help but wonder. Although I have suggested this possibility to my mother in law, she thinks it is far fetched. She also doesn’t think taking those diet pills while pregnant was wrong — she has justified it as being prescribed by her doctor and she was just following his instruction.

Could there be a connection?

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I helped my fiancee recover from alcoholism and he got a new girlfriend HELP NOW?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I am at my witts end. I helped my fiancee of 5 years recover from drugs and alcohol. We have a beautiful daughter.

I spent my whole entire pregnancy watching him come in at 6-7AM, watching him pee in the corner of our bedroom because he didn’t know where he was. Id hide his keys Id call his boss I tried it all he fought me he won. I cleaned up his puke, I put him in rehab and paid outta pocket.

I had enuff and left him. He just got a new girlfriend. He is actually seriously now clean and sober. And its because of my 2 years of paying bills of his rehab. Now I am heartbroken. I am happy for him but I paid about 2 thousand for his rehab. He has met someone there,

Now I am just a loser who paid his bills. I have full custody of our daughter he sees her sometimes and says that the “new mom nicole” is so nice and pretty. I wasted all my life on making him happy with another woman right?

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How come this is happening to my daughter?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 4:17 pm

My daughter is 20 years old. In December shes was 5’7 weighing 104-106 pounds. She would eat around 1,200 calories give or take a day. Then in January she got into the habit of eating mostly sweets and junk like cookies, donuts, brownies, candy… She started to want bigger portions and was never satisified with food and started to not enjoy healthy options she used to. She started to binge eat also. She would eat 3,000-5,000 calories in a day. She would always eat quickly. She told me she felt out of control and wanted to stop, but as months went by she gained weight and still has yet to change. She has went days eating normal and even days of not eating or eating barely anything. She really wants to be her old self and fit in her old clothes. What should i do to help her stop binging so she can fit into her clothes again and be happy? Each day i find her crying about it. She looks different than she was before. Not fat just fuller. She hates it. All the fat went to her butt, hips, waist, and thighs….not much on her arms. Her breasts never gain. I wish i could make her happy. I don’t know what to do. I buy her healthy food also. She tells me these thoughts about food make her give in and eat. Its all she thinks about. She dont want to leave the house much, but does because she dont like being house riden. She feels terrible trying on clothes or when she sees a girl who looks like she did before she started binging. No model agency will hire her because they don’t like her fuller figure. In order for the agency to take her (its her dream and i support her) she needs to lose 27 pounds in 27 weeks in time for the show. How can she do this the healthy way? She is now 124 lbs.

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Bidens daughter caught on camera using cocaine?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 1:21 pm

The press has been for the most part quiet.
If it was Palins daughter, how would the press behave?

http://thescotsman.scotsman.com/world/US-vicepresident39s-daughter-39filmed-snorting.5120041.jp

Head M&M, the question was how would the press behave if it was Palins daughter. Would they be checking the facts? Just like they checked the facts when they claimed Sarah was not Trigs mother?
Jerome, just google it yourself.

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Teens and Drugs?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 12:21 pm

I have a 15 year old daughter (will be 16 in June). I am her adoptive father. We have known for the past year that she has been dabbling in pot, and we have punished her each time (groundings, extra yardword, etc.). However, last week we received a phone call from school, and were told that she was uncontrollable and slerring speach. She had smoked pot on the way to her bus stop, and then when she got to school, her friend gave her an Oxycotin. We picked her up and took her to the hospital, and then entered her into a behavioral center after discovering that she has been using harder drugs for the past year. We met with the psych on Saturday, who said she is depressed and has anxiety and has been using drugs to mask it. He put her on Zoloft. Has anyone else out there had to deal with something similar? And has the correct medication and counseling put your teen on the right path?
Melissa, my wife is her natural mother, so yes, I know of her natural father’s drug problems and current issues. he calls her cell phone and dumps his problems on her, which is not helping out. I have changed her cell number. We are also pulling her out of her current school, and putting her in another. Counseling will continue, in fact, in will probably be court mandated as she will be on probation.
I totally understand the peer pressures of being a teen. Hell, I am only 30 years old, so it wasn’t too long ago for me. thank you all for your words – as a wise man once said, “this too shall pass.”
Thanks Amanda. And yes, I did it all too. however, I was not a depressive personality. Pot is the least of anyone’s worries. hell, I did my time with some coke, meth, acid. But, I pulled my head out of my ass.

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my daughter is addicted to watching sex?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 11:20 am

help she is only 12!

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How to help my daughter’s 16 yr old boyfriend. His mother ran out on him.?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 11:19 am

My daughter is 15 and her boyfriend is 16. He is polite and respectful to us, “yes, ma’am–yes, sir..” The only problem is the family he comes from. It has nothing to with money, as we have no money either. The family is dysfunctional. His mother left on a drug binge and hasn’t been home for a month. Now the 16 yr old is struggling with his older brother wondering how long they can stay in their home and keep the electric on since there is no income between the two. My daughter only gets to visit with him at our home, under our supervision and I am sure there in NO sexual relationship, as she is always supervised. He has been in foster care before, and it was horrible. He won’t go back. The last thing I want is for a good kid to become depressed and bitter. I am afraid he may be left asking, “Since being kind and respectful got me nothing, why continue to be good?” I want him to know that he deserves better and the only thing I can think to do is to open my home to him in the event that he gets evicted. But I am not thrilled about the idea of my daughter having a live in boyfriend. That will change the dynamic of a carefree, teenage relationship. And I am afraid that they would be tempted to try something sneaky. So, I risk altering my daughter’s future to save this boy in the present. What to do?

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