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I have a sister who is in AA and she is 18 years “sober” on December 26th. Would you?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 5:24 pm

She is a dry drunk. She is manipulative, verbally abusive and just plain unpleasant. I am six years sober and my life is really based on truth, kindness and honesty.

Would you, in my shoes, allow her near your child at all if she continues to preach falsely from the 12 step programs, continues to judge everyone who is not in a 12 step program, verbally abuse, manipulate and lie? I, quite frankly, do not want her near my child. My sister physically, verbally and emotionally abused me my entire life. I had told her to keep away from me a while ago, but in the spirit of Christmas, engaged in dialogue with her. Big mistake.

Just yesterday, she e-mailed me that the only reason she spoke to me was so that she could have a relationship with my daughter and my husband. (She’s gay, she’s NOT after my husband, folks.) It seems that she just needs to covet other people’s lives in order to feel like she has one of her own. She actually had a picture of my cat in her home. Weird.
Okay, so I am sober, physically and emotionally. I know that I have a duty to myself and my family. Do I have any obligation to this person who happens be my sister? What so scary about her is that she moved back east to be close to her neices and nephews, but Im pretty sure that she isn’t allowed to see any of them.
More scary? She is a college professor. She actually is teaching your children!!
I mean thath I would like to be certain that if my daughter is visiting my parents, that she is not in town and sneaks in a visit. That’s how much damage I think she is capable of.

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My brother-in-law got my 12-year-old daughter drunk?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 5:23 pm

So my wife’s brother lives about two blocks away from my family. We’ve always gotten along well and he’s always seemed like a stand-up guy and a great father. Anyway, last night my daughter went over to his house to play with her cousin who is about the same age as her.

It got late and my wife went over to his house to pick our daughter up, only to discover both girls surrounded by beer and liquor bottles and obviously intoxicated. My wife eventually found her brother passed out drunk in the backyard.

Anyway, she totally freaked out and brought both girls back to our house. When pressed, his daughter admitted that he not only supplies her with alcohol, but often forces her to drink to unconsciousness. What kind of monster would do this? I want to contact the authorities but my wife is holding me back.

What’s the proper course of action in these circumstances?

Thanks and God bless.
His wife died six months ago due to complications from diabetes.

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If someone killed your child because they were driving drunk, would you ever forgive them?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 5:23 pm

A few weeks ago in my hometown, a 19 and 16 year old were killed by a drunk driver. I just read today that the mother of the 16 year old girl has forgiven the man who killed her daughter and said that we should choose love and redemption over hostility. But I just don’t see how I could ever forgive someone who killed my child because of their selfish and irresponsible actions. I mean, if the person was sober while driving and it was really just an accident, I could probably forgive them, but if that person made the decision to drink and drive and put other people’s lives at risk, I don’t see how I could forgive them. Drunk drivers make me so ANGRY! I just can’t imagine if my child or any other family member were killed by one.
I agree though, she is a very strong person. I can’t imagine losing someone like that. I feel so bad for the parents of both of the teens who were killed.

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Addiction?…….Please help.,?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 5:23 pm

Sorry if this is kind of long, but I need someone to help a family member of mine. She is 37 years old and has been addicted to speed (amphetamines) for 10 years. She was abused by a past boyfriend who got her into it and left town and left her daughters and all her family here.

She’s my aunt, and she hasn’t seen or talked to any of my family, including her daughters in like 3 years.
My grandma recently spoke to her and she almost died a few weeks ago due to kidney failure from all the drugs.
I am so scared, I know that none of you can really help me, but I just need some advice, I do not want my aunt to die I don’t know what I would do. She probably has HIV or Hepatitis of some sort. She was talking to my grandma about a rehab center a few hours away and my grandma offered to help her get there.

She simply replied, No…it’s okay.. I’m almost dead anyway. Please she’s going to be a grandmother as my cousin is expecting and I really want her to be there for the birth of her grandchild. I don’t know what to do, does anybody have any advice to help me get through to her or how to help me get through this tough time?

Thanks :(

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My friend’s 14 yrs. old daughter has to go to court for possession of heroin.?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 5:21 pm

What is the typical penalty for this charge on a juvenile? She lives in Massachusetts and it’s her first offense.

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Should Sarah Palin spend more time at home since the National Enquirer has reported 15-year-old daughter ?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 5:20 pm

Willow is a boozy wild child?

They also reported that Track, meanwhile, has had drug problems in the past, and was addicted to the painkiller OxyContin.

National Enquirer also reported older sister Bristol was a dope-smoking underage drinker and party girl who At 17, she announced she was pregnant.

Since the National Enquirer is being touted as credible all a sudden by many on the right I’m just saying.
They think it is credible. Not me.

http://www.nationalenquirer.com/sarah_palin_boozy_daughter_willow_wild_parties_levi_bristol/celebrity/67975

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Any good pain relief out there for severe endometriosis?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 5:20 pm

My 28 year old daughter has endometriosis. When she does have a period, (she’s on the pill that’s supposed to stop your periods altogether.)she is doubled over in pain, and can barely function. The only thing her Dr. will give her is Motrin 800mg. The only thing that works is a narcotic pain killer like Lortab, or Percocet, which of course they won’t give her, because Dr.s have been scared by the government in to not prescribing narcotic pain relief even for severe pain, which is utterly rediculous, because not eveybody becomes an addict. (another subject altogether) She is also exibiting signs of fibromyalgia, which I also have, and I end up giving her my pain meds, which I don’t get many of, so she can function.

Help me please….

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Unhealthy mother/daughter relationship…I am sad….?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 4:33 pm

My mother lives in Pittsburgh, PA and I live in Tennessee.. I moved from PA. to enter rehab in Florida for alcoholism 10 yrs. ago. In these 10 years my mother has not once invited me home for a holiday or visit whatsoever. When I left rehab I had nowhere to go and asked her if I could stay with her for awhile so that I would not be homeless and she responded.” that’s not my responsibility”. I ended up in a halfway house where I was sober for about 6 months. I was raped shortly thereafter. I do continue to drink occasionally, but nothing like I used to. I was really bad there for awhile. About 6 weeks ago, my fiance’ and I had a big arguement and he locked me out of the house. I stared walking and finally found a friend who let me stay at their house overnight. I ended up getting preey messed up and made the mistake of calling my mother while drinking and I guess I “laid it all out on the table” about our failing relationship and I have not heard from her since the beginning of July. She would normally call me about every 2 weeks but not anymore. It seems to me that her love is very CONDITIONAL….I do have some issues but rather than support me and try to be loving, my mother simply alienates herself. I am an only child, and this hurts me very much that my own mother doesn’t make any effort to see me and now doesn’t even call. She and my stepfather are very wealthy and she has stated that their estate will be donated to charity as opposed to leaving me anything. What do you think? This haunts me daily and it’s time I get some answers as to why my mother is the way she is. And am I justified in feeling hurt because of this? Thanks. If you have anymore questions, feel free to email me, I need a friend on this.

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Child Support: My daughter’s father is an alcoholic and drug user could he be allowed to take her?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 4:17 pm

I’m going through with child support with my daughter’s father. He’s not in our lives right now because he’s an alcoholic and drug user. He doesn’t have a job and he doesn’t have a steady place to live. He calls me but it’s cuz he wants to hang out and he wants to see her. But he does it the day of and I’m always really busy with a little one. I’m not trying to keep him from her but I also don’t want a bad influence around my daughter. I’m trying to get sole custody of my daughter and was wondering if there’s any way he could have be able to take her anywhere with him?? I dont’ know how this works so any help would be great.

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What can I do about my daughter’s drunk husband?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 4:17 pm

My 24 year old daughter is married to a 34 year old drunk. Everyone tried to warn her but she believed she could “fix” him and couldn’t be dissuaded.
Now his binges are increasing and he’s starting to call in sick to work with hangover.
He also poured transmission fluid into the radiator and has damaged the family car.
I’m aware of many things…that its her load to bear, that I can’t do anything about this.
I’m just grasping for some concept that I can share with her that will “turn on a lightbulb” in her head to proceed on taking some affirmative steps to eliminate this utter chaos in her life.
If there isn’t, there isn’t.
I just wish there was.

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