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Is it okay to feed my 4 month old daughter fresh fruit in a net binky?

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 10:24 pm

She really enjoyed peaches and french vanilla whip cream.
Strawberrys and banana..
grapes and crushed apples.

but a couple ppl said “oooh. thats not good for her.” but they are…..

she did puke alittle last night a few hours after. but she did eat alot of it.

it was just soooo cute. she was heavenly. i have never seen such sheer ecstasy on her cute little face as her sucking on a squishy net filled with peaches and cream.. and i wanted to try different combinations.

is it ok for her tho. i just want to check.

ya know.

is there a certain age that she should start on fresh foods.
she is strictly breast milk.
my fiance has nice tits. so i make her breast feed.
on that. what age should she stop. I say 1 year. i might be willing to comprimise to 9 months.. MAYBE> but at what age is “normal to stop breast feeding?

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my daughter lisa simpson is addicted to beer what should i do!!!!!!?

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 8:19 pm

i can’t let marge know

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How can I help a sibling in an abusive situation?

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 8:18 pm

Please bare with me, it’s complicated….My financially depleted 55 year old sister needs help and won’t see it. She lives 4 hours away (one way) from me and the rest of her family so it isn’t like I can see her daily, though I speak to her daily on the phone. She has limited physical mobility due to an auto injury to her leg and a chronic illness. She walks unsteadily on a cane and many days cannot even get out of bed. Her doctor has her on some very strong pain medications long term. While I don’t doubt that she needs them for her pain, I do worry that it is easier to just take the meds than to try and become more mobile and work through the pain to keep what mobility she has. However, that’s not the most pressing issue.
The real issue is the physical, verbal and emotional abuse that she suffers at the hands of her 33 year old homeless daughter who has moved back in with her. My sister is married and her husband lives with them. But when the abuse (and verbal stuff as well) starts, he is usually powerless over my niece. My niece is very strong physically and very quick tempered. My brother in law has scars from past altercations with her and is reluctant to get in between the flying fists. Compounding this issue is my niece’s alcoholic binges and drug use. More times than I can count she has stolen my sister’s pain meds for her own use. Mostly Lorcets and the like.
Now for the 4th time in a span of 6 months, my niece has viciously physically attacked my sister in a fit of anger. The last 2 times she has beaten her to the point of unconsciousness. Every time it has been after a drinking binge (and some form of drug use). No one can stop her once my niece starts and no one wants to call the police because they know they’ll get evicted.
Each and every time the day after, my niece denies it happened the way that my sister says it happened and that my sister caused her injuries to her own self, even though witnesses to the events say otherwise. When my nephew had the actual nerve to tell his sister that she was guilty of her brutality, she intimidated him to the point that he left his mother’s house and has cut off all communication with her or my niece out of what I suspect is fear.
I have begged my sister to make my niece leave and seek help, but there is always an excuse why she can’t. I have begged my sister to come stay with me, but she won’t leave because she fears what would happen if she leaves her home. Her husband is pretty much no help in this and has his own drinking issues.
Now for the kicker in all this, my niece who has 2 small children ages 5 & 6 who live with their dad after she abandoned them as infants to live the party life. He has full custodial rights but allows her to get them on the weekends. He believes that the children need their mother in their lives. But from my perspective, they are in grave danger of having their mother turn that uncontrolled rage on them. As it is now when they are there at my sister’s home, my sister has taken the physical abuse, but they (according to my sister) have only gotten the verbal abuse.
If my niece is even there and not leaving them with my sister while she is out “partying”, her way of parenting is to stick them in front of a TV the entire time, throw some fast food at them and put them to bed as soon as she possibly can force them down. The entire time she is either on the phone, on the computer or both, drinking alcoholic beverages and smoking in their presence, until the point of being passed out in the floor. My sister isn’t much better since all I ever hear her do is shout at them and threaten to “whip their butts”. It is all appalling!
My niece has recently gotten a job after being without one for almost 2 years. While my sister says she is doing well, I have my doubts. The first time a random drug test comes up, she’ll be out. Every time my sister tells her to leave, she manipulates her into feeling sorry for her “plight” and threatens that my sister will never see her grandkids again. This is one of the main reasons my sister won’t make her leave. She knows that if she kicks her out, then she will lose complete access to the children and lose any hope of ever getting custody of them again. She won’t go for treatment, or counseling, nor does my sister have any funds to pay for it or any way to force it. Nor will my sister seek any real professional counseling on how to deal with this.
I have advised my sister that she must think about what is in the best interest of herself and the children and that being in that situation is not what is best. I have considered calling the kids father myself to warn about what is going on, but I am not sure he’d be receptive of my input. I have reason to believe that my niece has made sure that I am painted as a liar and bad person just so he wouldn’t believe anything I’d have to say. Plus I fear that my crazy niece would be and do vindictive things to my sister for confiding in me, and to me or mi

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Alcohol Abuse Child care Issue?

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 4:33 pm

Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

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What year did Coca Cola stop using cocaine in the recipe?

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 1:22 pm

My daughter’s teacher told the class that she was allergic to cocaine and lettuce, and the REASON she knew about the cocaine was because Coke used in their recipe until it was determined to be dangerous. By my guesstimate, Coke hasn’t put cocaine in the mix since the 30′s maybe. Help me call out this lying b it ch!
I couldn’t agree more that it’s inappropriate for a teacher to mention, even to a 7th grade science class. All the more reason I wish to discredit her ridiculous lie.

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Does anyone have good ideas on how to retain funds for legal fees with poor credit? Not asking much, just $2K

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 11:22 am

I was charged with DWI last week on my family vacation, and will need representation to try and mitigate my punishment. The legal fees and fines that I am facing, total $1500-$2000. I am already on an extremely tight budget and have challenged credit, but need decent representation, so that I can keep limited driving capabilities to take my daughter to school in the morning, and drive to and from work. I am far too embarrassed to ask for help from my extended family, because this is a problem that I created for myself and my wife, and I refuse to make my issue their burden. Does anyone have a good idea on how to obtain funds for legal fees for those who are having trouble financing it? If anyone has any experiences with this, or ideas, please let me know. Thanks!

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Anyone have advice on how to minimize my ex getting visitation rights with my daughter? He’s addicted to meth

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 11:22 am

He just got out of rehab and he’s trying to persue court ordered visitation. He has one heck of a shady divorce/family law lawyer pushing him to do it, even though he keeps repeatedly saying he is still struggling and is thinking about going back into rehab. I really don’t have money for a lawyer and need ideas about what to ask for in mediation since the ball _IS_ in my court.

Just so you know, if he were still here in state I wouldn’t have such a problem with him coming to see her and things of that nature, but he is on the east coast, and I live in the midwest. I seriously have issues with him taking her so far away!! Any ideas, anyone out there who’s been through a similar situation??

BTW, my ex is pretty impressionable as far as what I say to him buy his lawyer always seems to smooth him over. If he takes me to mediation I really want to make it hard for him.

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desperately seeking answers to my medical mystery?

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 7:24 am

I have been sick since jan 29th. I have doctors baffled so far. even though they are still searching for answers to why I was so sick and still having complication. On jan 29th I became ill. I was on my menstrual cycle. bleeding extremely bad (going through a pad every twenty mins.) i bad cycles for the last year. this was the worse. I stopped bleeding and within the hour felt tingly all over my body. like something flowing through my body. I went in to a tremor. my body started shaking as if i was cold and pretty badly i was shaking uncontrollably. I also began to get very nausea and throwing up. now before this. I was being to have numbness around my lips and getting really light headed. I also borrowed my brothers Sugar testing strips and tested my Sugar. sometimes when i felt lighted headed and numb like i ready to pass out i would test my Sugar. it would be high for me at 134 and drop to 94 when i felt better. I begin to think i was allergic to something i was eating. until the night of jan 29th. when i had the tremor i went to the ER. they didn’t do anything for my heavy periods because i had just stopped bleeding. they told me i had a bug. this went on for two weeks. i kept going back to the ER. because I started feeling like death. They kept telling me it was a prob. a viral infection. or a cold. I was giving fluids for dehydration and medication of what i don’t remember to calm my nerves for the tremors. I was throwing up all day. not able to drink or eat anything. i seriously lost 30 pounds in the month of feb. I was going to the ER so much in the first part of Feb. that I had a CT scan on my head.. because i was having trouble talking. i was being to get confused. I was turned away from one hospital.because i was in the hospital so much. I had extremely sever stomach pain. I was flushed. crying from the pain. Having tremors almost everyday sometimes twice a day. I was throwing up all day . the color was green a few times. then yellow. and sometimes clear. My bowels also began to get white. half white and half brown at one point. Like mucus or something.. I began to get so sick my kids began to stay with family. I have had my pancreas, gallbladder, liver, uterus, bladder(was treated for IC), lungs, bowels(done by a GI doctor twice) all checked. I have been put on depo for my cycles. and so far no doctor has been able to find out why i was so sick.
My daughter began to have the same problem.. pain in the stomach. and nausea as well as white spots in her stool fortunately she never was as bad as me. Unfortunately she is still having slight stomach pain and white in her stool.
here is what we have suspected. our apartment which could have had mold. had a mouse infestation we would kill eight to ten a night. find droppings on the window sill, the dry wall was being sucked up to the heater because there was no metel going up to the heater from the cool air intake. we had ants really bad. and the laundry room would flood. so we moved out and a week after the tremors i had stopped. i only had two the first week i moved out.

we have changed our diet. we no longer eat fast food. and eat fresh fruits and veggies all day. we began to cook our dinner and don’t by ready made stuff. or eat processed stuff. including hot dogs, pizza bites.

I have been to the obgyn, GI, family doctor, and they all say there is something more to it then what they have found.

my son began to get stop eating before we moved out as well

i have called the health department on the apartment. it is a brick apartment. the foundation is pulling away from the building. and the carpets were never cleaned when we moved in.. shag carpet. we are sure its been there awhile.. Also the Water tasted really funny. and me and my daughter drink a lot of water.

I also have a fish tank that has some little tiny parasites in it. but the kids don’t touch that

my worse fear is did i get an std and somehow my daughter picked it up.

i have stopped taking any medications as well as my daughter stopped her adderall.

the only things they found wrong were my platelets were low. i am anemic, and on iron for that now, my blood was 11.

I have had an upper GI done. 2 lower GI. the first
one i was a little swollen. and needed to be knocked out completely cause it hurt to much.
I have had CT done on my head and my uterus. as well as an xray on my stomach. i had a bowel specimen takin. took medication for parasites. they said i was negative for parasites. In total i lost 40 pounds. I have had two shots incase it was a std. i think clymidia and gonarea. I am totally lost and the doctors keep testing me for more.

i have actually had my first few good days this week. but i would sleep in bed most the day. can anyone help me?????? please only honest real answers. thanks if you need anymore info please ask.. i am waiting for the health department to go over and check the apartment out.

I was only hospi
the aneima might have had something to do with it . but i doubt it since. i wasn’t on iron pills till about 2 weeks ago. the tremors stopped the first week after moving out. I had two in the begining of the week. there was pesicides in the house. and i am allergic to mice/rats. but i didn’t itch. and it don’t explain my daughter getting sick too. i don’t think it was the fish tank. because i have put it back up about a month ago and there are still parisites in it. but i am not sick. neither is my daughter
i also was treated for worms in the middle of the illness. they give one pill that treats a wide variety of parisite. also my stool sample came back no parisites. fugus now there is something i haven’t checked.

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Lol. Are you this type of parent??

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 7:23 am

Today, a friend of mine told me about something that happened to her once.

Her mother bought her several large bottles of alcohol, and allowed her to drink it.

She not only allowed her daughter to become intoxicated under her supervision, she encouraged it, egging her on.

Then, when my friend was good and drunk, her mother took pictures of her throwing up.

We laughed about this, but I can’t help but wonder..

WHAT KIND OF PARENT DOES THAT!??

Lol.
Yeah. Don’t get me wrong; I’m a fan of drinking–but still, allowing your KID, 14 years old, to get drunk, and then taking PICTURES? That’s effed up.

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If you found out your son or daughter was doing?

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 7:23 am

If your teenage son or daughter was doing any of the following, Which would you find LEAST BOTHERSOME

a) doing drugs/alcohol/drinking and driving
b) having multiple sex partners or homosexual
c) doing badly in school

why?

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