we have full custody of both kids a 8yo son and a 12yo daughter.there dad went and filed papers to get custody of my stepdaughter she wants to go.but he is a drunk and has had a dwi and been in rehab three times but still drinks.he plead guilty to walking naked n public he has more money to fight with.is there any chance of us winning?oh and he DOES NOT want custody of my stepson.the reason she wants to go is because he buys her what she wants and stuff thank yall
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i’m a young mother getting stressed out from other family members’ issues?
My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?
I am having EXTREME difficulty with my 76 year old father who also has rectal cancer. We are drifting apart.!
My 76 yr. old dadhas rectal cancer,diagnosed Aug/2006. Trouble is that we have been super close ever since I can remember, and I always considered him to be my true soul mate. I also have a 46 yr. old brother who is a recovering alcoholic. My father sends about $300/month down to my niece who lives in Uruguay; my bro has been unable to work for quite some time due to his depresssion and alcoholism. My father met my brother’s daughter just 1 yr. ago at 16.. She saw only the VERY BEST SIDEof my dad, SOON dad sent regular support for her education. My dad is TOTALLY ESTRANGED from my brother cuz of MANY YEARS AGO. My dad now refuses to have. anything to do w/ brother, but pays for his daughter to visit us in US.
The other night my dad got extremely angry with me in a public place when subject of my bro he brought up.Now he is saying horrible stuff to my son, saying that just cuz I let bro visit @ xmas, his support for his daughter may stop, etc, and I don’t even feel I can talk
I want to find a low-cost addiction treatment center in Grand Forks, North Dakota. Help?
We’re really low on cash at the moment, and I want to get my daughter treated for her alcohol addiction. I know this costs much, so does anybody know of an addiction treatment center that does not charge high rates? Any other suggestions would be highly appreciated.
Can you help me with my daughter?
My daughter is 20 years old and is pregnant and homeless. She refuses to get help from a professional and is abusing crack/cocaine. Can I please get somebody to help me with my daughter?
My daughters father threatened to seek joint custody…a year with me and a year with him. HELP!?
My daughter is almost 5. We were never married. He left the home to work in another state when she was 3 months old. The first year he saw her approx. 7 or 8 times, and has seen her about once a year since then. She doesn’t know him at all. We live in SC and he resides in PA. Also, he has a history of drug abuse (Marijuana, Cocaine, and Ecstasy) as well as alcohol. Please give advice. I am a single mother who just bought a home (I’m 26) I’m working and going to school. My daughter is my world.
I am not keeping her from him. He lives in Pennsylvania. He doesn’t keep a working phone number, but when he does come down…maybe once a year, I ALWAYS let him see her. He has not given me any money at all towards her in 3 years since she was about 1 year and 10 months. Obviously, I was unaware of his drug use. This is one of the reasons we parted ways. His name IS on the birth certificate.
Can a guy be addicted to having sex with a virgin?
My daughter ‘s ex-boyfriend has a reputation for de-flowering girls. He is 20 years old and was my daughters first as well as several other girls. From what I heard he seems to be getting younger girls. Sounds sick to me. I think it started out to be a competition back when he was in high school that him and his buddies kept a score card. Well my daughter became victim of his sick game. I didn’t learn about his reputation until recently.
My 4 year old Daughter is driving me crazy!?
I am at my wits end! I have 3 children 2 years, 4 years and 6 years. My two boys are 2 and 6 and im not saying they are perfect, but they are much better than my 4 year old daughter. I fight with her ALL day.. To clean her room, take a nap, just about anything I ask her to do I have to fight with her over! She destroys everything in my house, I’ve tried letting her lay in my bed for a nap, thinking that would encourage her to be a big girl, she destroyed everything in my jewlery box. and threw powder all over my room. I’ve tried laying her down in her own room and she destroys that as well, not just the normal usual toys every where. She broke the bookshelf headboard of her bed into pieces, managed to get ahold of food coloring and make circles of red blue and yellow all over her floor and walls. She gets up at night and gets into the kitchen and eats and drinks anything thats there, ie coffee creamer, cookies, juice.. anything thats in there. Just this morning I was getting my 6 year old dressed for school and she was in the Kitchen putting a combination of butter, salt and peper all over my floors. When I yell at her, she tells me I dont love her. And im starting to think that she thinks that, becasue of all the distructivness I am always yelling at her. But every single day its something else. When her father is here she is not like that. Her dad is in the Army, He is deployed right now for the third time. I know some of you will say this is her way of lashing out cause she misses her father, which your probably right, but HOW DO I MAKE IT STOP?! She gets plenty of outside time. At 1 we walk to the park till 3 then go up to the school and pick up her brother, its usually outside in the back yard until dinner, then baths, prayers and bed.. Please help!!
I do set aside for mommy and daughter time. She is a middle child, but also the only girl, so she gets “girl” attention above the boys. I’ve tried taking her toys, time out, corner, just about everything
I dont make her nap all the time, if she has quiet time that is fine by me. I’ve locked the fridge and cupboards.. she figures those out 10 seconds after they are done. Doing nothing about her destroying things.. and just throwing it away suggests she will never recieve anything again .. how do i pull that off..
Can someone please recommend a good substance abuse treatment?
My teenage daughter has gotten herself hooked on heroin. I just really want her to go back to the way she once was, when she was still not addicted to that drug. I have been trying to persuade and convince her to undergo drug treatment, and I think she’s now ready. What should I do?
Hubby may be out of work but expects me to stay home and do all for his children..is this fair? Help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.
They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.
Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.
I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.
Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!