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Night time potty training?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 5:24 pm

My daughter is 2 1/2. She’s been potty trained since 24 months, but she still wears a pull up at night. She’s usually wet in the mornings, sometimes dry, and sometimes wakes up to pee.

Occasionally she’ll spend the night with my sister. She wears a pull up then too, but always wakes up dry.

I don’t give her anything to drink before bed. Do y’all think she somehow subconsciously knows she can pee in her pull up at night? I’ve been thinking of putting her to bed with panties on, but I really don’t wanna clean up a wet bed. What do y’all think?

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2 cliches”falling for my best friend”&”i`m the other woman” unbiased advice please?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 5:23 pm

(this is probably gonna be long..im aplogizing and warning you beforehand…so please dont complain..)
and also…i know i deserve all of this heartache im sure..i cant blame anyone but myself, but i wouldnt take any of it back…i couldnt
but i am lost now for advice,
im biased in regards to his emotions anymore ,regardless of how long ive known him or close weve been,

“justin” has been in my life since i was 4..he was 5 years older than me and was friends with my sister..weve kept in contact over the years but nothing more than a ‘howve you been, hows your mom?’
within the past few years thats changed though,
hes somehow become my best friend, one of the few people who really gets me and i just actually enjoy being around..
hes not afraid to get competetive with me, he treats me the way i want to be, like a little sister almost,
justins been married for a few years now, and when i say that…dont think its what it sounds like…its an entirely sanctimonious union..
they break up constantly, because she never really liked the idea of being with ‘just him’ in the physical department.
i dont understand him at all why he stays, shes a horrible mother, and a more than lousy wife, let alone girlfriend..
(and no this isnt just me..this comes from alot of others, i just cant help believe it now, credible sources, such as his family members, our closest friends, his best friend even)

she doesnt treat him the way he deserves, and this life hes living is eating away at his heart,
i made the mistake,
i couldnt help it, but we became intimate..
this went on, off and on for about a year, hed always end up back with her
it didnt fully bother me, i was kind of at the same point of lack-of-emotion towards intimacy, and thought it was cool that ‘hey, my really good buddy and i have an extra way of bonding now..and were cool about it’
we had a complete and honest communication about it all…if i wanted to start dating someone, id tell him..wed take a break on that side of ‘us’
things seemed to be working out with them 2? wed take a break
hed talk to me about her..and i was the only one supportive of her..i even yelled at him a few times for seeing me when he was heartbroken over her
‘i`m only human’ hed reply.

well…enough people have me convinced that shes horrible for him…im convinced myself…because it only took a month or 2 of him talking about her, for me to yell at him.
just stop..shes never gonna change justin, and thats all i can say cuz you probably think im biased.

3 weeks ago, the ring was at home, a smile was on his face, and he kissed me in front of all of our friends at our weekly card game.
all he could say was how good it felt to be free to finally do what hes wanted to do..
we went home, and it was like magic,,,he wasnt my buddy anymore
and i realized i was falling for him…the way he kissed me, it was different..and i thought he was for me too..
the things he said, the way he acted,
he even said that he wanted to see what kind of a mother i was…he knew i dont bring men around my child unless im serious about dating them and having them stick around..
he knows all this, and asks me to bring my daughter to the park the next day with his..

that playdate never came…the week after that…i was livid after a few hours into cards..he was nonchalant, as if nothing had happened…just ‘my buddy’
he realized something was wrong, and he knew it was him, so we left early and we went back to my house.

he claimed he didnt remember it!
we had shared 1 pitcher of beer between the 2 of us, theres no way he was that intoxicated..
he apologized for it, and for hurting me..but then he started saying the same things!(obviously he did remember) only with more reluctancy..he proposed another playdate for our daughters (which im realizing now probably isnt a good idea until he and i get past this)

the problem is…she only wants him back, to stick around as a husband, and not just as a babysitter,when she realizes she might lose him…
ive dealt with this so many times before..
when she catches wind from our friends that he and i are hanging out
she goes in a fit, makes it so hes not allowed to go -anywhere- with -any- of his friends, and is up his ass,
once shes satisfied that hes not gonna ever leave her ‘alone’ with the kids, she goes right back to her ways, making out with random guys at the bar,(shes even come on to me!!!) living the life of a young college co-ed while her amazing husband is at home taking care of the children.

i know what hes doing right now, hes falling for it again, she caught wind of what happened the other night, him kissing me..
and she couldnt let it happen..
she apologized to him and begged him to take her back

they were almost completely finished!
justin was at his final wits end and seemed so accomplished,
he seemed so ready and final…he wasnt gonna put up with her crap anymore..he was going to better himself.they had been d

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How to change a Bad Dad?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 5:23 pm

my boyfriend thinks its okay to drive around drunk
with his 3yr old daughter(not my kid) in the car.
he also smokes weed with his 13 yr old brother.
how can i convince him to stop doing this before our babies are born. He tells me he is in full control when he drives drunk but last month he hit three mailboxes and a cat with his daughter in the back seat.
what should i do?
shes not my daughter and her mom is a herion addict so.

im pregant with twins and i think im going to leave him so dont worry.

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would you force (court order ) your child under 21 with a heroin/crack problem into rehab ?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 5:23 pm

First off i know you cant make a person want to quit or get help .But there has to be a limit to where as a parent we wanna prevent our children from hitting that rock bottom .i seen a man on a show today say he wont have his 19 year old crackheroinn addicted daughter committedd because it would hurt him and sh would be mad at him. Screw that for me not EVERYONE if the child is that you legal age or not im gonna let them hate me and do what has to be done.what would you do ? Not saying one way is wrong verses another way .
Just a side note a person over 18 can legally placed in rehab by a parent spouse or family member if the person is declared incompatent or a harm to them selves or others or if in the majority of cases there is an underling of self medicating for something like a Dual diagnosis occurs when someone has both a mental disorder and an alcohol or drug problem.
SK its easier to get drugs in prison than on the streets its more profitable..

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How to tell him to choose Me & baby over Drugs?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 5:20 pm

I need to talk to my BF who doesnt like to “talk about things” about his use of percocet. Im worried for the relationship because about 2-3 weeks ago I REALIZED he was using this percocet for his “pains” it started with tooth aches, now its body pains…

I feel like sometimes when i look at him theres nothing there. Then other times hes cuddling my daughter with all this love and affection, then at night hes Moody with me and irritable.

I cant help but blame the drugs because I just recently seen him taking them. (maybe 2 a day? if im wrong i dont know)

but he has become this “it is what it is ” and I dont care attitude with me. Really nice to my daughter but distant from me.
I dont know if hes addicted but we both work 5am-4pm
by the time were home, (hes a carpenter) (Im a receptionist) hes exhausted and apparent in pain . Hasnt seen a dr, buys them off the street, someone he “knows”.

I hear horros stories about this drug and Im really nervous how to confront him about this. Lately hes been blowing off anything I say that has emotion in it, he even the other day said “i had it with your drama ridden puertorican shit” .. because he wanted a BJ and I didnt want to because I wanted to make love instead.. so he said well i dont want to do that and you dont want to do this for me, so shut the hell up. and when i tried to talk about it , talk it over, he told me to either go in another room or leave him alone. I NEVER saw him like that.

Im worried hes choosing to feel this euphoric feeling over dealing with reality, and I need advice, your experiences or what. Im scared to tell him its US or the drugs bc I feel hell deny that what I “feel” is accurate. Since he thinks Im drama ridden… also I havent told him mom yes. were 23 and 24. all the men in his fam are carpenters so his mom knows theyre all in pain, when i told her hes in alot of pain lately i didnt mention the type of painkiller hes taking but she sympathised with him when i said pain meds… i donno what to do.
My love for him is slipping away because i feel like hes not loving him self or respecting him self and I dont know how to handle this?

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How is the first “chapter” of my story?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 4:32 pm

How is the first “chapter” of my story?
Suggestions, tips, and ideas please! ☺
The story is about Katelyn and Kyle love from the moment they meet to their death, and in the prologue it says that their daughter is the one telling the story. They will have alot of problems throughout their life such as they have to elope because parents dont approve of his race, alcoholism, miscarriages, little money, etc.

February 5th, 2008 – Milton, Ontario

“Steve!” Katelyn called as she ran in a hurry towards her best friend. He was walking with a boy that Katelyn had never seen before. He was fairly short, with pitch black hair and tan skin.
“So are you going to introduce me or what?” Katelyn said with a bright grin on her face, lightly punching Steve’s arm.
“This is Kyle Reed, a friend from my old school, he’s visiting for the holidays” Steve said, stuttering his words as usual. Kyle stared at Katelyn, amazed by her exotic beauty. Pale skin, dark long hair, and big green eyes gave her the look that Kyle had never seen in a girl before. She was different, she was beautiful. Kyle gave her a quick smile, and turned around to continue his conversation with Steve. Katelyn was disappointed by his ignorance and immediately did not like him.
Feeling left out, Katelyn packed a huge ball of snow in her soft mittens and threw it as hard as she could at Steve to get his attention.
“Ow! What the hell?” yelled an unfamiliar voice. Katelyn accidentally hit Kyle right in the face. Steve stood laughing at Katelyn’s horrible aim, while Kyle held a brand new perfectly-round snowball in his hand, ready for revenge. He threw the snowball in a perfect toss. It glided through the air, but Katelyn was too quick for it. She smoothly dodged it, and hid behind Steve.
“Hey! Haven’t you been taught that you’re not supposed to hurt girls?” Katelyn yelled, with a smile on her face.
“I’ve never been taught to not hurt pretty girls” Kyle said smiling back at her.
Katelyn blushed from his compliment, and hid even further behind Steve.
“What are you two doing hanging out with this kid?” sounded a voice from behind. It was Jesse. He didn’t like Katelyn because he thought of women, especially younger women, to be the slaves of men.
“Who did you just call a kid? Screw off Jesse, why don’t you go join some gay club or something” Katelyn said jokingly. She could see rage in Jesse’s eyes from the diss that he had just received. As he walked by them, he purposely pushed Katelyn in to the snow.
“Katelyn! Are you okay?” asked Kyle and Steve simultaneously.
“I’m fine!” Katelyn said annoyed. Kyle gave her his hand, and helped her back up. He was astonished at how soft and fragile her small hand was.
“Umm, thanks…” Katelyn said blushing from the feeling of Kyle’s hand over hers. He gave her a smile, and Steve laughed at the sudden spark between the two.
“I have to go home now; it’s getting kind of late. How much longer will you be in town for?” Katelyn asked Kyle with curiosity in her eyes.
“6 more days, I only came for a week” he sadly answered. Katelyn nodded with a smile of compassion.
“Well, I’ll see you later then! Have fun you two, don’t get in to too much trouble” Katelyn exclaimed laughing as she waved to Steve and her new friend.

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My daughter is 26, should I help or is it time to let go?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 4:23 pm

My daughter was in the Army, in Kuwait. When she returned home she was addicted to prescription pain killers and alcahol. I have tried to help, to no avail. I don’t know what to do any more. Any suggestions?

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Help me please, crying, cant do this, how do i get him to not see his daughter?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 4:17 pm

im 34 weeks pregnant and just had a bad breakup with the baby’s father. I just got off the phone with him, and he says he hopes that we die, and he hates us. Then texts me saying no matter what he still gets rights with his daughter. Hes an alcoholic, said he doesnt have feelings for noone, my whole pregnancy he just picked his friends over us, and hes 19 and immature. I dont want my daughter knowing someone like that. I cant have him in her life, not after he said all this stuff about us, how shes a mistake, EVERYTHING.

Please someone help.

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Am I wrong for detaching from my daughter?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 1:22 pm

My daughter is 45 years old and divorcing a man addicted to crack cocaine. They have two very small children from this marriage. The father of the children is in no recovery program what so ever and my daughter has begun to send these two little girls, ages five and two over to stay with this man on weekends while she persues a relationship with a new man that she has met over the internet. OK, the other two chilren she has are 16 and 19. The 19 year old has moved in with me (the grandmother) and refuses to go back home with this new “boyfriend” coming over, and seeing her mother play kissey face with him at her home. Mind you, my daughter, nor her boyfriend are divorced yet. I told my daughter the error of her wrongs. The baby girls are in danger as far as I am concerned the two older ones have lost respect for their mother. So my daughter tells me that I am not treating her fairly by not carrying on a relationship with her. I have detached. Right or wrong in your opinion? Thanks

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Okay Im back, asking you to be my jury! Custody issue here?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 8:23 am

Well i was a real good momma , I thought. My children were 18 months and 3 years old when my ex surprised me and servd me with a petition for custody. I had left him, took the kids and moved in with grandma.The ex and I were both using drugs, he drank everyday-I was more of a weekend drinker, we both on ocassion used cocaine after a night drinking-Me one line, him a lot. After I was served with papers I appeared in court a few days later. He demanded I be tested for drugs-A shock to me, cuz I figure we both are gonna lose the kids. HE WAS CLEAN, I was dirty-SHOCK!! He knew it was coming, I didn’t. I immediatly called and got help for my problems. Now, almost two years later, I am remarried to a wonderful man whom has a daughter, does not drink or use, he has supported me 100% in my recovery, I attend AA, sponsor a woman myself,have beeen through drug out patient rehab for 2 months last year. over 150 hours of counseling and I am happy, clean and sober, with 10 drug test (hair, and urine) to prove it.
In the beginning the oppsing lawyer demanded that I give up custody of the girls to get help for 90 days. 90 days came and went one and a half years ago. We went back to court and they all laughed and said “that wasn’t written in the record”. Bad attorney I had.. I used to get the girls everyother weekend. They were always sick as dogs, bleeding diaper rashes,ear infections e.t.c I always took them to the doctor and helped them, because he would not. Then they accused me of having Munchausen syndrome by proxy! Then they insisted on Supervised visits only. Then they put me on supervised after having a P.I follow me last year and he lied in his testimony about seeing me take the kids to see my father whom had an injunction on him not to see the girls because they dug up an old charge that was public lewdness from 1986! They won-supervised visits only for me. I pay $200.00 a week to see my girls for 4 hours. This actually turned out to not be so bad, because the supervisor documents all the abuse the girls are claiming, the jealous new 15 year younger girlfriends negative comments about me, e.t.c Now comes trial in a few months, I have opted for a jury of my peers. His side of the story- A bad mom who was on drugs and her family has a history of drug abuse (yep, family of origin issue here). Me- A mom who has proof I paid all the bills, he never worked, has no tax returns, sold dope (will have witnesses), used drugs, had DWI, jailed 7 times in the past 7 years for tickets, has been through no recovery, drinks like a fish daily and in the car with kids (they tell on him) ,non payment of his support for his son, warrants for bad checks e.t.c. I also despite my smoking weed a couple times a week, took my children to the library, parks,had great b-day parties, was very involved in every aspect of their life. Now of course I can do even better with NO addictions. Let me know what yall think my chances are of regaining custody. I hear the longer the kids are there, the harder it will be to get them back with me. They cry when they leave me, they beg to come and live with me, this is all documented. But the law in my state clearly states-There must be a substantial or material change to warrant the removal from him of custody-I think it’s there do you?
thanks,
sad lost mommy without my babies

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