k, she’s 21 and has a 2 year old daughter. k, about a year ago she got hooked up with this guy. in the past, before she met him, he had a meth problem, but he supposedly got clean. well, last christmas i noticed some odd behavior coming from both of them, especially my daughter. i confronted her… well, it hit the fan! i called the cops on the bf, he went to jail. she hated me after that. she left with my grand baby to texas with my ex husband’s family. they drink and smoke pot. they always have, so she joined in with them. well, when the boyfriend got out of jail, he called my daughter, 5 months later she and my grand baby are back with me. well, this afternoon she finally comes home with the bf. she stumbles through the door, squinting her eyes and she kept twisting her mouth a certain way, slurring her speech then she passed out and went to sleep. i tried getting her up, but she wouldn’t. she just screamed at me and went back to sleep. i don’t think meth has a sleeping effect, but i don’t know. my first question is- what could she be on? and the second is- what do i do? if i push too hard she’ll take the baby and God only knows what that baby has had to endure. at least with them here, i know my grand baby is safe, but at the same time, i have an 11 year old son and a 15 year old and i don’t want my daughter to influence them. i’ve thought about calling the child protective services, but in my state the kids have to be near dead before they’ll remove them. what should i do about this? thanks so much!
Some Post-Pregnancy Questions…Please Help?
I thought I’d write all my concerns in one question, saves the points! Please answer as many as you can. I’m seeing the health visitor on monday but until then it would be nice to have some answers from the people who have been there, done that and know best :) . I’ve got a 3 week old daughter and these are my questions…
Concerning my newborn…
Why is she not drinking out of her bottles properley the last few days? She wiggles her head everywhere & spits the milk out but when I go to pull the teet out she sucks it back in really hard as if she wants it but then begins to look distressed again. She hasn’t got thrush and I’m now using medium flow teets as the health visitor advised me over the phone to try but no such luck.
Concerning me….
When is it OK to have sex again? How long would it take for my second degree tear to heal? I had a uterus infection after having my newborn which I was given anti-biotics for, I finished them last week but I’m now getting a very foul smelling discharge and period like blood, I couldn’t possibly have a infection again could I?
And finally..when is it OK to wash with soap again down in that area after a second degree tear? Its been 3weeks now and I washed with soap for the first time the other day, since then the area has been dry and itchy and over-all sore.
Thanks for your help, will really put my mind at rest until I see the health visitor :) .
How do you get domestic assault charges dropped?
My boyfriend and I were out the other night, drinking, and we got into an argument because I didn’t want to leave and he did. He brought me outside and I started to yell at him and take off and he grabbed me and when I ripped away his arm caught my throat. I overreacted, started to scream and two guys saw it and called the cops. The cops came, I didn’t make a statement, but the two guys did saying they witnessed him choking me. Which he didn’t, I was just very intoxicated and overreacted, my boyfriend has never hit me, and will never hit me. They have a no contact order, which I am trying to drop because we have a 2 year old daughter together. Is there any way to get everything dropped and not on his record when it was them who charged him, not me?
My daughters dad drinks and drives with her in the car?
We have been divorced for over 4 years, and we agreed to week to week shared parenting because we live in the same town and at the time, it seemed like the best option for our daughter. My daughter is 9 and tells me that she is worried because her dad drinks and drives with her in the car. I also believe he is back to doing drugs. We share the same babysitter and she is suspicious also. I have spoken to the local police who say that unless I get a lawyer (which I can not afford right now), my only hope is that he will get caught some day. He already has DUI’s and has been to jail for those (before we were married), but he is the type that won’t stop until they hurt someone and I don’t want it to be my daughter.
So, is it wrong to ask the babysitter to call the police the next time he picks up my daughter from there and reeks of alcohol? He will also be bringing her to cheer practice on Monday and last time he reeked of alcohol. Should I call and have them waiting for him to leave….
I do not want him to know that I had a hand in this, but I need to have a way to get full custody of her. I know I’ll still need a lawyer, but at least I’ll have a more cut and dry case. Any thoughts on this situation???
do you like the Plot of this novel i’m writing and what more could i add to it ?
Fr.Johnathan Poe, leaves the priesthood after helping his daughter abby recover from a heroin addiction. John Ventures to Miami Florida & brings with him abby his daughter and his niece/step daughter Alex, who was put in his care after her mother died of cancer. Alex also, happens to be abby’s best friend! Hear in Florida, he buys a house and opens a book store fulfilling abby’s sobriety dream. Along the way he Meets Jessica his new love interest.
Jessica However Is Engaged To Mitch Sabourne, an entrepreneur/lawyer.
John’s old mentor Fr. Don West who has retired to Florida drops in and informs him he is dying of cancer and tells john that he thinks jessica would be a perfect mother for his children & that he should fight for her. The Girls begin to investigate this mysterious women while abby turns up nothing and draws close to jessica. alex, keeps digging and finds out that jessica’s fiance is her actual biological father who left before she was born and reappeared only once after her mother died to sign away custody to john by way of proxy. Alex, keeps this a secret from abby.
when Mitch Finds Out John Is Fighting for jessica, he decides to fight back he finds a loop hole in the property deed to john’s store abby’s sobriety dream and holds it hostage. along the way he also finds out alex is his daughter and trys to reform his relationship with her and tells john it’s in his best interest to back away because he has the power to over turn the courts decision regarding alex.
alex must now choose between her uncle/step father’s happiness or her biological father’s dream of marrying jessica.
Do i have to let my daughter go to family events where my fiance’s ex will be attending and she does drugs?
My fiancee and his ex have an 11 year old daughter together. After they had her, his ex’s mom and his uncle got married.(kinda wierd i know). the daughter lives with the ex and the uncle and ex’s mom.well my fiancee and I have a 6 month old daughter together and plan to get married next year. i don’t want my daughter going to the ex’s house because they all do drugs in the house and during family events.(the ex smokes crack and is an alcoholic). although i want my daughter to be involved with her sister, i don’t nor do i want my daughter going to my fiance’s ex’s house.is this wrong of me and is it wrong of me to keep my daughter away from family events?. My fiance’s ex also flirts with him still and is disrespectful to me. I dont do drugs and neither does my fiance and i fully welcome the 11 year old into my home and think she could come to our house to visit with my daughter…
How to be attracted to my daughter’s father again (adults only, please)?
We have known each other for coming up on 4 years and in that time have been through many tough times. He defeated a 10 year drug addiction, he lost his grandmother, I lost my Dad to suicide and then both my Grandparents passed, we had a child together…we have stuck by each other though so much. We have been apart for 8 months, but separated for longer (he was living in the spare room after we broke up). I have dated a few men since him, the last one was some of the most incredible sex of my life but I decided to break it off because I realize what a great man my daughter’s father is. He loves me so much and would do anything in the world for me and our daughter. I truly love him with all my heart and see what an incredible man he is. He is like my best friend. We have decided…well, me actually….he never wanted to leave…but anyway we want to be together and be a family. The only problem is I have lost my physical attraction to him. I think everything I have been through put an enormous strain on our relationship. Mainly my Dad’s suicide. I realize I do need to speak with a professional to cope, it happened two years ago and I have never really taken the steps to grieve. But through all of my anger and confusion and lashing out, he has stuck by my side. We have never really given up on each other. I started to, but have remained close and realize more than ever how much I want to share my life with him. He is an absolutely gorgeous man, nothing has changed about him physically….I believe it is my mental state that has changed things. I just don’t understand how I was so attracted to this last guy who didn’t offer enough emotional support…mainly physical…when my daughter’s father has been there through thick and thin. How do I get my attraction back for him? I love him and really want this to work, but I had pushed him away physically for so long, it seems a bit awkward for me to be intimate with him again. I want to be with him, and maybe even have another child with him one day. I know he still wants me and I know he will always be faithful no matter what. What do I do?
He DOES make me happy though. I’m not settling, I believe I am doing the right thing by trying us again. I searched other questions and it is perfectly normal to lose attraction, but most other askers’ significant others had a change in appearance (weight gain, etc). As I said, lifes adversities had taken my mind off my loving relationship and had me so stressed, I didn’t think about sex, in turn, making me lose attraction. I am not settling at all, I love him and I want this to work. I wouldn’t settle for a blase` relationship. I want this to work because of our love for each other and the fact that I know we can be happy for the next 50 years.
To first answerer: Ask God? Don’t ask a bunch of strangers? Maybe you shouldn’t be giving advice. Let me ask God why my Dad took his life. Oops…no answer.
Bluewolfski: thank you so much for your answer. It was heartfelt, genuine and mature. I have been through a lot, but each experience…good and bad, makes me the person I am today. I am stronger for myself and my daughter and I hope for the man I fell in love with pretty much at first sight. I knew I was supposed to be with him, and four years later, through all this, I really believe he is the one I could spend the rest of my days with and I know he feels the same. I would say I wish I hadn’t lost a year with him, but I believe it has made us even stronger. I know we can make this work!
Step-Father in Jail for Indecent Liberties with a minor?
Here’s the story. My mother remarried when I was two. My step dad and I never got along. Since I’m grown, and married, we get along better. And he wasn’t always a bad dad, I have some good memories. In fact, I was a daddies girl when I was small. However, he’s a heavy drinker, and treats my mom poorly. There have been incidents of physical abuse towards her and us kids. He bordered on verbally sadistic when he was drunk, calling us every name in the book.But I never thought he would do anything like this. I have 5 brothers, all grown. And 3 sisters, two who are married with children. The youngest daughter is still at home. This summer, she stayed with me and my husband. One day, she told me her dad had got drunk and made her take off her shirt in front of him. She is 14. I was shocked and disgusted. I confided in my sisters, and one confessed that he did the same to her when she was 15. We talked to my mother, who moved her and my sister out of the house. Our step father confessed that the incident did happen. I helped her find a place, and for two weeks, everything was fine. Then, one of my sisters called to tell me our step dad was now living at Mom’s apartment, and staying with our sister while our mom was at work. My two sisters called DSS. Police arrested him for indecent liberties. Then things got strange. I read the report against him. The DA is saying he actually raped my sister. Not only that, that he forcibly raped my older sisters for 2 years. My older sisters were shocked. They NEVER said he raped them . We asked the younger sister if he ever actually touched her. She said no, and had told the DA the same thing. As far as we can tell, the DA has 4 pages of statements that were never made. Two weeks ago, a friend of our family told me something disturbing. He told me our little sister had told him point blank that a STRANGER had raped her the month prior. We went to mother, who confronted my younger sister. My sister tried to say she never said that, that she meant it happened to a friend. This friend has no reason to lie, and swears she told him different. I’m afraid now that she’s made up stories for attention. My step dad is looking at 5 years in prison. If he did anything, he deserves prison time, but I’m not so sure anymore. I know this story is nuts. everything we’ve done was out of concern for our younger sister, who now appears to be lying. is there any way I can find out the truth short of lie detector testing everyone in this situation. Did I make the wrong decision? I’m stuck in between my mother, who is still defending her husband and my sisters who want to see him helped for what he admitted to doing, not the crimes he seems to be being unjustly accused of. We wanted him to get help for his alcoholism, and his abusive behavior. Anybody with legal and practical advice would appreciated.
When Jeb Bush’s daughter was in rehab?
Did her uncle or her grandpa smuggle her cocaine to her?
How does he stop using Meth?
Here’s the story… My husband of 1 1/2 years now, has been an addict to meth since age 16 and now is 28. He’s had a real bad childhood with abusive parents and has also been in and out of rehabs. His runs would typically run for about 2-3 months. non-stop user!
We met nearly 2 yrs ago and he said I gave him a reason to wanna quit! 6 months ago we had a beautiful daughter! Somthing he has dreamed about for many years! He loves his job, family and home! Since we have been together he has used 4 different times! Witch his family says they have never seen. We attend church and stay away from negative influences! But the way he describes it is, something in his mind just clicks and he feels like it is a battle of God and the devil fighting for him! He wants to stop be doesn’t know what to do. Any idea’s?
He doesn’t wanna be that person he was at 16…