There have been several stories about this recently, see the link below for examples:
http://www.sltrib.com/news/ci_10011361
Excerpt from the article:
“Kairi Shepherd got caught forging checks to pay for her meth habit. Erlene Shepherd’s quirky record-keeping went on trial. And as a result, her daughter has been snared in the morass of sometimes conflicting American immigration laws – legally adopted, a permanent resident, but still facing deportation to a country she never knew.”
My daughter (18 yrs) and her boyfriend (22 yrs) went to a party two weeks ago. He was drunk and driving, and killed my daughter in the wreck. He has had 3 major wrecks due to alcohol…two of which involved my daughter, and he has walked with no punishment all three times. Now, we are waiting for blood test to come back to determine if this is a manslaughter case. I don’t understand why he is still walking around able to flee at any time. Now I found out that he is drinking and going to party’s again and already sleeping with another girl. I feel as if I am gonna lose my mind if something is not done soon. I want Justice to be served. What can I do to put him behind bars….he is going to do it again to someone else.
Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?
My husband has been an alcoholic since I married him in 2001. We had a long distance relationship and then got married without ever really spending quality time together. I had no idea he was an alcoholic. He is a good man but so consumed by the need to get drunk every night that I find myself completely miserable. We now have 2 beautiful daughters and I am scared to death. My 7 year old has to go to counseling this week because her behavior is out of control. She is exhibiting classic characteristics of “children of alcoholics.” I have been avoiding this and trying not to notice for years now. I have begged and pleaded with him. I have told him the things that he has said and did (never violent) while he was drunk. He ignores us, disappears into the garage all weekend and passes out on the couch by 7:30 pm on the couch during the week. I am left to pick up the pieces and take care of everything anyway regarding the kids. I cannot go out with my friends because I cannot trust him with the girls – I am worried he will pass out and leave them without supervision (this happened in the past). But if I leave then he will get visitation and I will worry about what will happen on those nights when they are with him and he is the only adult there to watch them. I worry about the finacial aspect. We live on 2 incomes. But I worry that if I stay then the girls will have to live this life because I didn’t have the nerve to leave and that kills me.
Here is the thing. I am so worried about what everybody else is going to say or how they will treat me. Most people just love him and have no idea. The girls love him and don’t really get it. They are too young to understand that his drinking is affecting the family unit. They see me upset but I don’t think they know why. My husband is currently deployed to Iraq which makes me look so bad. I am a military spouse and I hate hearing stories of wives or husbands upsetting or leaving their spouses during deployments. It tears my heart out to think about it.
I find myself wanting to make him happy. Not wanting to hurt his feelings or make his life harder. How sick is that? I know he loves me and the girls. He is a good man, a hard worker, and a good provider. But the one thing we need – his attention, his presence – is what we are missing everyday. He refuses to get help and thinks that he can stop on his own. He does stop for about 2 weeks at a time and then it strats right back up.
Does anybody have any ideas or feedback? It just feels so wrong to start this process and do this to him while he is deployed. If I wait until he gets back, when is the right time to do it then? Is there ever a “right” time?
My children come first. The realization this past week that my daughter needs counseling has sent me into overdrive. I am so angry and I feel so guilty for allowing this to happen to her. She has a hard time making friends, she gets angry very easily, she is taking things from other children then pretending to find them and give them back, she is lying a lot and defiant to me. She does not trust that people will follow through with promises because so many have been broken. I know I am doing what I need to do to take care of her. But what do I do to take care of all of us?
Can I get him to leave the house? We own our house but have a sizable mortgage. Since I am the one thinking of leaving is it my responsibility to leave the home and find somewhere else for the girls and I to live?
He will not be open to discussing this. He will be absolutely devastated and heartbroken. I am beyond that. My heart was ripped out a long time ago. I am empty of emotion, I have no energy anymore. I actually look forward to going to work just to escape everyday.
Any input would be greatly appreciated.
One day, in line at the company cafeteria, Joe says to Mike, “My elbow hurts like crazy. I guess I better see a doctor.”
“Listen, you don’t have to spend that kind of money,” Mike replies. “There’s a diagnostic computer down at Wal-Mart. Just give it a urine sample and the computer will tell you what’s wrong and what to do about it. It takes ten seconds and costs ten dollars… a lot cheaper than a doctor.”
So Joe puts a urine sample in a small jar and takes it to Wal-Mart. He deposits ten dollars, and the computer lights up and asks for the urine sample. He pours the sample into the slot and waits.
Ten seconds later, the computer ejects a printout:
1. You have tennis elbow.
2. Soak your arm in warm water and avoid heavy activity.
3. It will improve in two weeks.
Thank you for shopping at Wal-Mart.”
That evening while thinking how amazing this new technology was, Joe began wondering if the computer could be fooled. He mixed some tap water, a stool sample from his dog, urine samples from his wife and daughter, and a sperm sample for good measure.
Joe hurried back to Wal-Mart, eager to check the results.He deposited ten dollars, poured in his concoction and awaited the results.
The computer then prints the following:
1. Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. (Aisle 9)
2. Your dog has ringworm. Bathe him with anti-fungal shampoo. (Aisle 7)
3. Your daughter has a cocaine habit. Get her into rehab.
4. Your wife is pregnant, Twins. They aren’t yours. Get a lawyer.
5. If you don’t stop playing with yourself, your elbow will never get better.
Thank you for shopping at Wal-Mart.
I love clothes shopping for my daughter. She is 9 months old, and every time I go to the mall I have to buy her a new outfit or shoes or hair bow or something. I try to get things on sale or clearance as often as possible, so I don’t spend a fortune. Do you moms have this addiction? Does it go away when you have more kids?
LOL my excuse is “I’ll have more kids soon… hopefully at least one will be a girl, so she’ll wear this clothes, so I’m basically shopping for two!”
My boyfriend for the last 2 years went to jail the other day for meth. Well it was for not seeing his pot for a Heroin Charge. He has been addicted to Heroin for 3 years. In and out for treatment I would say like 5 times and this is only his 2nd time in jail. He is looking at 80 days to 8 months.I Am Now Pregnant with his kid he has one son who is 3 his ex died in a car crash so now we are both careing for him and I’m not sure what to tell our 3year old. he is very close to him and wondering where he is. What should I tell Him???
he asks for his DAD everyday tho he’s like mommy when is daddy coming home also i am going for custidy of his son because i dont think its right for him growing up around his father his father is setting a way bad example for him!!!
iv been with him since his ex died ( my bfs son) and hes been doing drugs since he hasnt changed he leaves his son with people i dont even know that he meets at work (other girls) i dont like that at all he doesnt even spend enough time with his son he’s always out partying or doing drugs
my ex and I are in the course of a custody battle for our 6 year old daughter…he res the facts. her mom got me on default back in 07 when i was fresh out of the army because they served me crazy papers wanting spousal support and me to pay for her lawyer…even though we were only married for 11 months. I said I wouldn’t sign it and she said give her a week or two and she’d have thw lawyer draw up a new set of papers. Well the lawyer kept stalling me then filed me default. Her mom now has 100% on paper custody both legal and pyshical. until dec of 08 her mom and her lived in AZ, but have moved back here to CA. We now split her schedule and since Dec I have actually had her more than 50%. Her mother however has not reported this to dept of child support and so I am payinng $1200 a month child support as well as having her more than half time. When they moved back my mother let her stay with her rent free as I live with my GF now. In the last month my ex has moved in with a hells angel, and taken my daughter to several hells angel functions and now my daughter thinks hells angels are cool. Last night her mother wanted to see her I said ok, but that she had trouble sleeping the night before and i wanted her to goto bed early. her normal bed time is apporx 830 because she is epilleptic and needs more sleep than most. Her mom did not show up till 815 then used her paper power to keep my daughter out till 940 and bought her ice cream and other sugary deserts. when she returned with our daughter the truck reaked of marijuana and my daughter was in a tired mess as soon as she left, crying for 45 minutes mad at everything until finally falling asleep. On another occasion my gf was watching my daughter as an army ranger buddy i have was in town and i went to have a beer and talk about his recent deployment. My ex was at the bar made a sexual pass at me and when i shot her down flipped out and drove to my house we followed her there where she demanded our daughter that moment. As she was drunk I would not let her take the child at 1 am in the morning. We have mediation on the 24 of Aug. should I wait till then to brinng it up? should i call cps? is that a major bad idea with her hells angels bf? is there nothing I can do? I am not afraid to fight for my daughter no matter who her mother is with but sometimes straight up the middle isnt the best approach. Please help. Her mother lives over 100 mile away now and soon school will start and if i dont have this handled my daughter will go live with her and i will only be able to be with her every other weekend. I cant afford legal council. a couple of other incidents; her mother missed her neurology appoinment even after i reminded her the day before. it takes 1 month to get an appointment and was an emergency situation . on one occasion the child had 3 seizures and was taken to er. The doctor siad she would be ok but needed minimal mental stimulation. we all left the hospital at about 715 pm, and i let my ex take our daughter because thats what our daughter wanted( girls love their moms) under the understanding that they would drive back to my mothers house and put the child to bed….instead my ex went to my mothers packed a bag and drove 100 miles on a two lane rode against oncoming traffic in the dark to go see her bf, where my daughter was forced to sleep on an air matress on the ground in the same room as a 7 month old.My daughter had 7 more seizures that night and her mother never even let me know.
i have a attorney i can speak with but I cant afford to hire him on for defense…I know that its hard to get custody but my fear is I call cps and the take the kid but dont give her to me because Im not a custody parent to start with.
ok so both have answered the same….i thought i was clear but i guess not…I cant afford a lawyer…I am an out of wrok electrician waiting for the union, my unempoyment right now is 1200 a month my child support is 1200…I cant afford a lawyer……I know I should get a lawyer Im asking for an anwser beyond that….should i call cps?
the background of me, i used to party a lot, drink a lot and have really bad anger issues. when i was younger i didnt care what i did or ask myself if my actions matter. saying this does not alleviate the fact that these problems still dont haunt me. I am doing better i only drink casually in moderation, i will be going to anger management, and going to AA meetings which are not court ordered. Now since my g/f and i have become more serious and we are expecting my past does not leave me. its always brought up and now she is going to leave me. because of my past 2 years ago. i am not the same person as i once was, and i am making a lot of effort to get myself straighten out. i have never hit her or done hard drugs like heroin, crack, smack, cocaine, pills, or even weed. after the news of my daughter coming to this world i am someone different, so what can i do to show her i am a different man even though i have a bad record. i dont want to lose my rights as a father or leave my family. i was mother raised and i know the importance of having a father figure. you can ask me for more details if you need and i will be truthful and honest. thank you in advanced.
I am 21 years old, my bad habits: drinking with no control, helping my friends everytime they ask me, and she left me because she heard from multiple people that i was cheating on her about 2 years ago. i fully accept every reaction to my actions and take the fault. but since i have no credibility hear say is the truth. i also was unable to keep a job consist and be reliable. i am a bad person i am not a saint. and i feel that this is the foundation that i built for myself. but i dont think i bad people dont deserve a chance. but thats probably cause i am the bad person. now i have a good job, consistent, and i will put myself on child support. i want to be involved with this kid so bad, and she said that i will not be allowed in the delivery room. i have no animosity towards her or her family because they do not like me for my past as well. i just want to be happy with my family. i know i am young but i’ve been drinking hard liquor and beer unfortunately since i was 14.
thank you everyone for your great advice. i am happy knowing now that all that matters is me being a man and being there for my daughter. :) this is a blessing for me and i dont have time to feel sorry for myself. even if you think your advice is minuscule dont because it put me in a happy state of mind knowing i’m not alone and i view you all as great friends. thank you :)!!
It seems as if Bush’s supporters always say we are BLAMING him, when we are simply stating facts. Why is cigarettes that Obama admitted to smoking worse than the cocaince that Bush and his daughters were caught with? Why is Obama’s birth certificate requested more than Bush’s military record and/or DUI tickets? Should I go on?
Hey, someone tap Matt and pull his face away from the plate. I said Bush snorted cocaine, not crack and everyone knows it, its just not been much of a concern to anyone, but Obama’s nicotine habits do for some reason…