We were at a family wedding and my 20 year old daughter and all the young cousins were drinking and having lots of fun….We were all staying at a hotel…so no one was driving. After we got back to the hotel and the parents went to sleep…about 3 housrs after the wedding ended.., my daughter decides to hang out with some of the other 20 – 24 year olds that were at the wedding and smoke pot. After a few hits, my daughter starts to feel really bad. She knocked on my hotel door and said she really felt like she was dying and she wanted to go to the hospital.. She looked terrible…she was gray and shaking. The hospital was 8 minutes away…We started to drive her and on the way she started vomiting severely….non-stop for about ffive minutes, so we then called the ambulance who came and transported her to the hospital. When we got to the hospital her heart rate was over 140….the er doctor said that the pot was either laced with something or that she was severely allergic to the pot. My “little angle” insisted that this was her first time trying it…(not real sure if I believe it).. Anyway, my question is waht to do now? I am grateful that she came to me for help, but also real upset that it happened in the first place…….She goes to community college and lives at home and I do not know if there should be consequences for her trying the pot…..Please let me know your opinions… Thanks
my 2 yr old and custody and a drug addict father..help me?
i have a great two yr old named cadence leigh. her father has always had a struggle with drugs off and on throughout the yrs but when he and i were together i assumed he had the urges under control. we stayed together for 3 yrs and he just walked out 1 day when our daughter was 3 months old. he has lived in 2 apts since then and now he lives in a drug community. the apartments are trashed and theres partying all of the time. he has no custody rights, due to a magistrate and a judge ordering that he needed to get his life in order and by no means he have any rights or visitation. he hasnt paid child support since july. it is hard because she asks for him all of the time and for the past 2 months i have taken her to his apt and stayed with her and him and watched him snort pills up his nose with our daughter in the livingroom. i know it is wrong to even take her there, but it pulls at my heart to watch her cry and to ask for her father. he is so good with her when they are together and they have always had the strongest of bonds and he turns it all around on me until i get to the point and give in. i love him so much and want him to get help and i love our child so much that i just feel like keeping her from him will damage her in the long run. it isnt just pills now, its heroin, drinking, coke and basically all he can get his hands on. i buy dinner and put groceries in the house when i go there and last weekend i met his roomate and he is 65 yrs old and drinks a lot of beer. i dont know what to do…can someone please help
i typoed when i typed she was 3 months old when he left, she was actually 8 months. and yes i have tried to get his family involved for an intervention but they either ignore the issue or dont believe me. the hate me ne how
2 children dysfunctional alcoholic family patterns …..?
My wife has an older sister.the sister is 40,runs with Lesbians and had only one boyfriend in hgh school,so any of her “significant others” are not really stable or considered a threat.
Their Father consumes a 6 pack a day on average.The entire family attacks and man that the youngest daughter is with,I assume that the man such as myself becomes thrown into the “Middle Child Sydrome” in the psychlogical dealings with their family unit.
My wife ad I are now seperated with a 16 month old Son.She and my Son are living with her parents.Will my Son be thrown into the “Middle Child Sydrome ” in this family unit now?Or are their known studies on the classic alcoholic dysfunctional family on how grandchildren are intigrated into such a family unit?
I have a 4 year old grandchild, Zoe’, that I KNOW is being abused. What can I do? Can I get custody? PLEASE
I love my son Jeff, more than life. 4 yrs ago he had a baby with a girl that ran off to New York to be a Stripper when Zoe’ was a few months old. Immediately, this 18-yr-old girl came out of nowhere. She and her mother are full blown narcassists. They have treated Zoe’, me and Jeff HORRIBLE. Recently, birthmom comes back, demands DNA test and of course Jeff is not Zoe’s biological father. Jeff’s dad is a well known child molester. Jeff and Natalie had a baby, didn’t want to be bothered with Zoe’ so she was sent to the pedaphile. Zoe’ stayed with her other grandmother, Carol. Carol’s 16 yr-old daughter on probabtion for meth, has been waking Zoe’ up in the night making Zoe’ suck her nipples and God only knows what else. This child is in severe trouble. Her mother Jessica has mentioned that her new husband wants to adopt Zoe’. This guy is bad news, I just know it. Zoe’ needs to be completely taken away from ALL of those people, including my beloved son. Please someone…help
Now heres your joke of the day!!?
One day Bill complained to his friend, “My elbow really hurts, I guess I should see a doctor.”
His friend offered, “Don’t do that. There’s a computer at the drug store that can diagnose anything quicker an cheaper than a doctor. Simply put in a sample of your urine and the computer will diagnose your problem and tell you what you can do about it. It only costs $10.”
Bill figured he had nothing to lose, so he filled a jar with a urine sample and went to the drug store. Finding the computer, he poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer started making some noise and various lights started flashing. After a brief pause out popped a small slip of paper on which was printed: You have tennis elbow. Soak your arm in warm water. Avoid heavy lifting. It will be better in two weeks.
Late that evening while thinking how amazing this new technology was and how it would change medical science forever, he began to wonder if this machine could be fooled. He decided to give it a try. He mixed together some tap water, a stool sample from his dog and urine samples from his wife and daughter. To top it off, he masturbated into the concoction.
He went back to the drug store, located the machine, poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer again made the usual noise and printed out the following message:
Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. Your dog has worms. Get him vitamins. Your daughter is using cocaine. Put her in a rehabilitation clinic. Your wife is pregnant with twin girls. They aren’t yours. Get a lawyer. And if you don’t stop jerking off, your tennis elbow will never get better.
lmao…..
Question about Ambien and Addiction?
My grandmother is taking the sleeping aide called Ambien. She believes she is addicted. However she cannot sleep without it because of the death of her daughter. Now my question is do you think that there is a problem with an addiction that does not hurt anyone. Do you think that she should get off of it or do you think she should stay on it. She goes to sleep at 5:00 A.M. and wakes up at 8:00 A.M. without it.
dead beat mom wants custody, hasn’t seen four year old daughter in two years?
My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time and my wife had been out drinking. This was the case when she lived farther away too. Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter. Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible, I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again, She stopped calling after a few days. Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday. When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny. My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy) and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her. We have met with our lawyers and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of actually winning full custody or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.
Do probation officers usually test for EVERY drug?
My husband is on probation for meth (clean for 4 years now)..he thinks testing for pot is too expensive and that they won’t test for it because he hasn’t ever been in trouble with it. Also, he thinks if he does have a dirty test, that they will overlook it because he has a full time job, is taking care of me and our son (and soon to be daughter next week), and hasn’t been in any trouble with the law for 4 years. What do you think? This is in California by the way……….please answer if you know what is up with how testing/probation goes on and such……. thanks.
REMEMBER, IT IS PROBATION, NOT PAROLE.
Do you like this joke?
One day Bill complained to his friend, “My elbow really hurts, I guess I should see a doctor.”
His friend offered, “Don’t do that. There’s a computer at the drug store that can diagnose anything quicker an cheaper than a doctor. Simply put in a sample of your urine and the computer will diagnose your problem and tell you what you can do about it. It only costs $10.”
Bill figured he had nothing to lose, so he filled a jar with a urine sample and went to the drug store. Finding the computer, he poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer started making some noise and various lights started flashing. After a brief pause out popped a small slip of paper on which was printed: You have tennis elbow. Soak your arm in warm water. Avoid heavy lifting. It will be better in two weeks.
Late that evening while thinking how amazing this new technology was and how it would change medical science forever, he began to wonder if this machine could be fooled. He decided to give it a try. He mixed together some tap water, a stool sample from his dog and urine samples from his wife and daughter. To top it off, he masturbated into the concoction.
He went back to the drug store, located the machine, poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer again made the usual noise and printed out the following message:
Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. Your dog has worms. Get him vitamins. Your daughter is using cocaine. Put her in a rehabilitation clinic. Your wife is pregnant with twin girls. They aren’t yours. Get a lawyer. And if you don’t stop jerking off, your tennis elbow will never get better.
How to overcome a pathological liar that is violent and devious?
I have a daughter who is a pathological liar, violent, manipulative and destructive. I have not seen nor spoken to her in eight years. She had violently beaten and verbally abused my granddaughter for three years after I moved out of living with them in 1998. I suspected, but had no proof, until Mid 2001, when I first hand saw it happen in her home while I was visiting. I told her I would go to the police if I found out she did it again. She ordered me out of her home and stop communication.
1998 she had gone to court and was awarded a Restraining Order against me on her allegations that I wanted to kidnap my granddaughter and take her to Mexico, where she came up with Mexico, I don’t know. I had just lived 7 years with my granddaughter and my daughter and had driven my granddaughter to and from school for over two years as my daughter did not drive. My daughter finally went to Driving School and got her drivers license, she would not allow me or anyone else to try and teach her to drive.
Finally, my granddaughter made a break literally in her pajamas two weeks before her 18th birthday. I contacted my granddaugher throught a mutual friend and she came to see me. I told her she could stay with me. I was unprepared to handle a relationship with a troubled teen and I feel I handled it poorly. My granddaughter left LA and went to GA. She experimented with drugs and alchol. Worked but did not manage her affairs well. I sent her an airplane ticket back to LA and allowed her to spent 9 months with me. She half hearted made tries at work and I supported her the 9 months. She got drunk one night and smashed her hand through a french door and cut her hand badly, she ran off in the neighborhood with her hand bleeding. I noticed when my granddaughter has too much alcohol she ends up wounding herself.
My granddaughter did not call or see her mother the whole 9 months. She and I had a disagreement and I told her she could live with her mother or father if she didn’t like living with me. Bad choice of dialogue on my part.
She went to see her mother, then after two weeks came back and became very depressed. We had another arguement, I called the police (another stupid move on my part) I simplely did not know what to do. She went back over to her mothers, my daughter. And the next day my daughter came over about 8pm and tried to run me down with her automobile three times.
I didn’t have a cellphone with me and I tried to get a neighbor in order to call the police, but couln’t find anyone.
My daughter drove off, finally, I got into my car parked around the corner from my apt, and went to call the police.
To my suprise, my daughter was parked across the street from my driveway, talking to the police.
I told the officers she tried to run me over with her car. They said they were transporting a felon and couldn’t do anything, for me to call later.
No arrest was made.
I filed for a restraining order, and when I got to court, the acting judge a commisisioner said he would hear both requests for a Restraining Order. My daughter had filed a contesting Restraining Order a month after my request.
The proceeding were very bias against me the plaintiff. A plaintiff pleading is always heard first, but the commissioner violated protocal and heard the defendents pleading first. He refused two letters I submitted from witnesses and refused my exhibits. He accepted letters that were unnotarized and the exhibits from the defendent. One of the defendents letters was written November 2001 by a trainee at Cedars-Sinia Hospital regarding me, I had not requested this letter, did not know it existed, he had given it to my daughter (a violation of patient privacy rights) and she usded it in court.
I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.
The commissioner gave the defendent, my daughter, the Restraining Order against me. All I could think was “why not come over anytime and run me down with your car”.
I have one month to file an appeal and complaint against the commissioner.