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Can I get full custody?

  • Posted on May 14, 2011 at 9:24 pm

So here’s the situation: My ex and I have no formal custody agreement for our daughter. He blackmailed me into paying MY OWN child support into the system by saying he’d file for 50/50 custody just to get out of it. I have her the vast majority of the time…he’ll take her overnight or for a few hours a couple times a month but that’s it; he never even calls to see how she is (she’s almost 9 months now). He hasn’t even ever gotten her diapers!

He still lives at home with his mother at 24. I know that while my daughter has been in his care he has knowingly driven with her in an improperly installed carseat, left her unattended on his bed after crawling age so that she fell off, and smokes marijuana while she is in his care.

Most of the time he bails on “his” nights to have her (we had agreed he gets her monday/tues nights but he never takes her…makes up all kinds of excuses) and then I’ll find out later either from him or someone else that he went out partying that night…he’s admittedly an alcoholic, as well…though he doesn’t drink when she is in his care and doesn’t drive drunk with her in the vehicle (at least that I’m aware of)…but he DOES drink and drive on a regular basis.

The other night he bailed on keeping our daughter but his mother offered to watch her until he got off of work at midnight (last minute one night job kind of thing). Well I went to pick my daughter up the next morning and found out that he went out partying again because his mom was there to watch our baby. He and his buddies were so drunk that they taped themselves with his cell phone urinating off of an overpass at oncoming traffic as well as “tbagging and mushroom stamping” each other…and THAT was done with my daughter in the house! He brought his drunk/high friends back to the same house as our daughter.

I feel that his behavior is immature, inappropriate and dangerous to our daughter and I want full custody of her. I would like him to still be able to have supervised visitation with her…at least until he completed some parenting classes/substance abuse program. His mother KNOWS of his behavior and lets him do it…and sides with him over the child support issue and always says I should “give him 50/50 custody on paper to force him to grow up” so she isn’t much help on the issue…but even SHE tells him that our daughter deserves better.

Since there has been no improvement in his behavior and he’s doing drugs, could I win full custody of our daughter if I filed?

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Should I feel guilty about wanting nothing to do with my birth mother?

  • Posted on May 14, 2011 at 9:21 pm

Who decided to be a heroin addict instead of being a mother. She gave me to a family member at birth. Came around every now and then as I was growing up. Never gave me a birthday party, we never decorated a christmas tree together, came to about 2 school functions and these two did not include high school graduation.

She is now old, sick and drug free and now wants to act like I’m her daughter and wants to see my kids, who know her and do love her, but I don’t. A relative called to tell me she is in the hospital and they want me to call. I’m thinking of just letting the kids call.

Does this seem evil to you all?
My life wasn’t terrible. Fortunately I was raised by a very loving elderly couple; who loved me unconditionally and raised me with good values. I know my “mama” who raised me; is so disappointed that I’m being mean to her. It’s just that I hate being fake.
She’s been clean since I was about 20, I’ll be 40 this year. She was ordered to go to rehab or prison all those years ago and has been drugfree ever since. I say good for her; but no deal with the fake mother-daughter bit.

My husband says I will have no piece until I forgive her.
She’s been clean since I was about 20, I’ll be 40 this year. She was ordered to go to rehab or prison all those years ago and has been drugfree ever since. I say good for her; but no deal with the fake mother-daughter bit.

My husband says I will have no piece until I forgive her.

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My step daughter has raked up old problems?

  • Posted on May 14, 2011 at 8:17 pm

….when I thought everything was OK. My step daughter is now 25 and I have lived with her father since she was 12. Her mother was an alcoholic and prescription drug addict and lived 300 miles away – no contact. When I and my 2 boys moved in everything was fine – she had a brother of 13 as well – so there were 4 kids. Then the weird stuff started to happen. I caught her pretending to cry in front of a mirror. She was always saying that my boys who were then 6 and 4, were trying to watch her when she got undressed. Loads of my stuff – jewellry (heirlooms), money from my family when they visited went missing and her brother got the blame. Cut a long story short – we thought she was jealous of me with her father and we tried to address it. She confided in a teacher who was also a friend of ours and between them my partner was ‘forced’ to let her foster my step daughter. A year went by and I approached her to make amends and to start being a family.
Her mother whom she had no contact with committed suicide. My partner and I were the first to be told by the police and we went and told s/daughter and brother personally and saw them through an emotional time. Next, her dad got nasty txts off her and a nasty letter bringing up the past but getting it ever so wrong. What does he do – confront her – ignore it – if he agrees with her then what? Why do you think she is doing this when we have been there for her through loads of probs over the last 8 years (when she left home). How can this be resolved?

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how do i change my visitation, custody. i want joint custody, one month in summer, 1 week for x-mas, claim txs

  • Posted on May 14, 2011 at 7:20 pm

i am a az. resident who has daughter in cali. never got mediator during custody fight. mom accused of drugs and theft. dishonorable discharge from military for meth. she won’t let visit but 4 days out of year. claims never denied visits but never get to see daughter when i ask at x-mas time. mother got limited visitaition at moms house. i got honorable discharge, work at a.z. dept. of corrections. any help from cali dads would help

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Bill’s elbow?

  • Posted on May 14, 2011 at 1:21 pm

One day Bill complained to his friend, “My elbow really hurts, I guess I should see a doctor.”

His friend offered, “Don’t do that. There’s a computer at the drug store that can diagnose anything quicker an cheaper than a doctor. Simply put in a sample of your urine and the computer will diagnose your problem and tell you what you can do about it. It only costs $10.”

Bill figured he had nothing to lose, so he filled a jar with a urine sample and went to the drug store. Finding the computer, he poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer started making some noise and various lights started flashing. After a brief pause out popped a small slip of paper on which was printed: You have tennis elbow. Soak your arm in warm water. Avoid heavy lifting. It will be better in two weeks.

Late that evening while thinking how amazing this new technology was and how it would change medical science forever, he began to wonder if this machine could be fooled. He decided to give it a try. He mixed together some tap water, a stool sample from his dog and urine samples from his wife and daughter. To top it off, he masturbated into the concoction.

He went back to the drug store, located the machine, poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer again made the usual noise and printed out the following message:

Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. Your dog has worms. Get him vitamins. Your daughter is using cocaine. Put her in a rehabilitation clinic. Your wife is pregnant with twin girls. They aren’t yours. Get a lawyer. And if you don’t stop jerking off, your tennis elbow will never get better.

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Did Tom Cruise Make mother’s that suffered from PPd upset?

  • Posted on May 14, 2011 at 1:22 am

When Tom Cruise made the announcement about Brooke Shields.Saying”HOLLYWOOD – Tom Cruise has criticized Hollywood pal Brooke Shields’ “misguided” use of the
anti-depressant Paxil, while declaring the actress’ career as over.

In an interview with Billy Bush on the TV show Access Hollywood, to be

screened on May 26, Cruise speaks of his disappointment to learn

Shields used Paxil to fight post-natal depression following the birth of her

daughter Rowan.

Shields is currently weaning herself off her medication so she and husband

Chris Henchy can have another child.

Cruise, who claims to have helped people fight drug addictions through his

controversial Scientology religion, says the Suddenly Susan actress should have

used vitamins to help her feelings of despair.

Cruise says, “Here is a woman, and I care about Brooke Shields because I

think she is an incredibly talented woman. You look at, where has her career

gone?”

Despite the Minority Report actor’s declaration her career is over, Shields

is currently receiving rave reviews playing murderess Roxie Hart in the London

theatre production of Chicago.

Cruise maintains, “These drugs are dangerous. I have actually helped people

come off.

“When you talk about postpartum, you can take people today, women, and what

you do is you use vitamins. There is a hormonal thing that is going on,

scientifically, you can prove that. But when you talk about emotional, chemical

imbalances in people, there is no science behind that.

“You can use vitamins to help a woman through those things.”

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in regards to the last question I asked?

  • Posted on May 13, 2011 at 11:20 pm

First of all thankyou to those who answered my Question respectfully. People can judge me for simply asking a question!!!!!!! i have feelings too!! I have always felt it was wrong to watch porn just like someone can continue to do heroin although they don’t want to anymore and they know it is only hurting them!!! just because I used to do it and I don’t anymore and now I am hurt my husband still does it does not make me a hypocryt!!! Just because I disagree with something does not mean I am judging that person!!! I know that only God can Judge, and yes God did change my heart and no I do not watch porn anymore because I know( and always have known) that most women in the porn indistry have been emotionally and physically and sexually abused,on drugs raped, and deep deep in there hearts they go home and wonder if that is all they are worth and If you have children like I do you would understand that I would not want that to be my daughter!!! would you????

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Like father like daughter??

  • Posted on May 13, 2011 at 10:17 pm

I’m 13, in 8th grade. Okay, so I was at a party last night and I wasn’t wasted, but I was tipsy. I was dancing with this guy and this jealous girl came up to me and saw me holding a drink and said “Like father like daughter.” I got sooo offended though I tried to shake it off. My dad got in some crazy stuff in Dartmouth. Where I live it’s pretty infamous. My dad only drinks at things like corporate events and fancy dinners, and I’m nothing close to an alcoholic, I only drink at parties.

Can alcoholic-ness (or whatever) be genetic in any way? Or can alcohol abuse patterns exist in families?
Oh, and my mother or daddy don’t know I’m out at these parties, or drinking. They can’t even talking to each other.
And I can stop drinking when I want, and I never drink alone. Like if my dad is out, I don’t go rummaging through his liquor cabinet. I associate that with kids that have hit rock bottom. I only do it at parties, and have a maximum of the drinks, even if I want more. I’m still a really smart girl.
When I was 12 and drank, it was after I learned my close friend committed suicide. I went to a party and got so wasted I puked. I’ve never drank that much since.

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After the father of my child and I split up I slept with his cousin, now we are talking again,should I tell hi

  • Posted on May 13, 2011 at 8:20 pm

He and I were together for 3 yrs. he was addicted to meth and abusive, I had our daughter and decided to leave him, his cousin always liked me and I kinda liked him, So we had a one nightstand, that was 5mos. ago. Now my ex and I are talking about getting back together, Should I tell him?Or keep it a secret and have a chat with his cousin and tell him to keep it secret too?I really need help!I can’t sleep at night.My heart is saying be honest, and my mind is sayin if I love him just let go and let God, and hope for the best,Help Please!

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Have you seen this joke? Walmart has everything?

  • Posted on May 13, 2011 at 1:22 pm

One day, in line at the company cafeteria, Joe says to Mike behind him,

‘My elbow hurts like hell. I guess I’d better see a doctor.’

‘Listen, you don’t have to spend that kind of money,’ Mike replies.
‘There’s a diagnostic computer down at Wal-Mart. Just give it a urine
sample and the computer will tell you what’s wrong and what to do
about it.

It takes ten seconds and costs ten dollars . . A lot cheaper than a doctor.’
So, Joe deposits a urine sample in a small jar and takes it to Wal-Mart.

He deposits ten dollars and the computer lights up and asks for the urine
sample. He pours the sample into the slot and waits.

Ten seconds later, the computer ejects a printout:

‘You have tennis elbow. Soak your arm in warm water and avoid heavy
activity. It will improve in two weeks. Thank you for shopping @
Wal-Mart.’

That evening, while thinking how amazing this new technology was, Joe
began wondering if the computer could be fooled.

He mixed some tap water, a stool sample from his dog, urine samples from
his wife and daughter, and a sperm sample for good measure.

Joe hurries back to Wal-Mart, eager to check the results. He deposits
ten dollars, pours in his concoction, and awaits the results.

The computer prints the following:

1. Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. (Aisle 9)
2. Your dog has ringworm. Bathe him with anti-fungal shampoo. (Aisle 7)
3. Your daughter has a cocaine habit. Get her into rehab.
4. Your wife is pregnant. Twins. They aren’t yours. Get a lawyer.
5. If you don’t stop playing with yourself, your elbow will never get better!

Thank you for shopping @ Wal-Mart.

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