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I’m 29 with 2 kids in an emotionally abusive marriage but my husband is loyal to me. I dont know what to do.?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 4:17 pm

I’ll be 30 at the end of this year and have two kids with my husband of almost 9 years. He is emotionally abusive. He wakes up YELLING. He nitpicks our 6 year old daughter and hovers over her every move. He does the same to me. Criticizes her for fidgeting- gets in her face yelling. Criticizes me for pacing while I talk on the phone or for wiping the corners of my mouth. He says our daughter has an eating disorder and it seems she may as well as a more recent sleep disorder but he doesnt see how his behavior may be related to this. I struggled with anorexia and bulimia as a kid and recently have began binge eating out of stress. I also have a hard time sleeping now. Because the only time home is peaceful is when he is either gone or asleep.

To his credit he has NEVER strayed on me. Having grown up with a very abusive step dad that ALWAYS ceated on my mom and made a fool of her- this means a lot to me. I am afraid that most other men will cheat on me and/or worse. So what’s the pont in leaving him when at least he’s one oft he rare few that doesnt cheat.

At the same time I hate his behavior and the effects on our daughter and myself. I am soo stressed out. I can’tt alk to him- he overtalks me or ignores me or explodes.

He is also really careless. Today he slammed my head into the wall and my side of my face against the hard bottom of the couch. My side of my head is really swollen now and I have a headache. He didnt mean to do either and he was just “playing” but he always rough houses and ends up hurting me and I am just so frustrated!!!

I am going to be 30 at the end of this year and I have two kids and I admit I may be weak for this but I dont want to be alone raising two kids. I feel like no one will want me. And I know that’s not what life is about but it is how I feel. I am just so sad. I feel like I am failing as a mother because I am not strong enough to leave and I feel I am failing as a mother if I am not committed enough to stay and give my kids an intact family.

I dont believe stepparent love their kids really. My stepdad was so abusive. I feel like I have a chance for my kids to have their real dad and I dont want to take that from them but hes just as bad as my stepdad was except he doesnt cheat on me and he doesnt molest our daughter. I feel a stepdad would do those things. I dont know I am so frustrated. I am an intelligent and strong woman but in this area I feel like a loser no matter what. I am soooo lost right now!
I dont want to be a bad mom. At the same time I dont want to raise fatherless children like I was and I dont want a piecemeal family. And I dont want to live out the rest of my life never enjoying a Valentines day or anniversary. I guess you’e all right though. hes an awful dad. I just have to resolve to having a romance free, lonely existence. It really sucks. I had so many other options before him. I chose him

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How to get my 4 year old to stay dry though the night.?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 1:24 am

My 4 year 3 month old daughter still wets her pull up though the night. I’ve tried limiting her drinks after dinner, getting her to pee 3 times in the last hour before bedtime and that doesn’t help. Waking her at 11 is a disaster, she’s a very deep sleeper and it’s traumatic for me to wake her up, she can’t figure out what’s going on and it scares her. I think it’s because she is such a sound sleeper that she’s wetting her pull up before she wakes up fully, but she’s beginning to really feel ashamed of this and my heart is breaking for her. I don’t mind the peeing, I’m ready to wait for it to end on it’s own, but she’s so bothered by it I feel like I need to do something.

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help????????

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 1:23 am

a mother wants her daughter to participate in a program nd gives permission for her to b transportd to the place and said that she waives any claim against the program, the supervisors and the drivers who wil b transportin her daugter from may 1-may 9
on may 2 her daughter waz in a car wit one of the supervisors from the program nd that supervisor wuz intoxicated. he crashed the car and the daughter wuz seriously injured. can the mother bring a claim against the program??

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Kennedy has malignant brain tumor do you care?Mary Jo were your daughter?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 1:23 am

Who cares? I sure as heck wont extend well wishes to a killer!
July 18, 1969 a drunk Ted Kennedy would drive off a bridge and leave a young girl (Mary Jo Kopechne) to die in the back seat of his car. He did not report the accident for 9 hours. Kennedy was guilty of manslaughter as anyone would be if they killed a passenger while driving drunk. Yet never went to jail. Hell, there was never a trial. What the hell, make him a senator. He is a RICH, WHITE LIBERAL and a KENNEDY. What if Mary Jo were your daughter?

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my spouse is an alcoholic ,whoms abusive we have a 5 year old daughter what should i do?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 12:18 am
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Just before calling an attorney regarding abusive neighbor.?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 9:22 pm

I’m in a rental condo going on my 5th year. Close to work, shopping etc. Have contacted out of state owner of condo downstairs regarding his tenant who plays loud sub woofer asked him to have the guy stop. Tenant does not stop, now find out tenant was involved in a dwi, hit and run damage to property, no operators license. The tenant/squatter is there by default. The tenant was living there with his girlfriend until she died in May. The owner her dad has allowed this guy to stay there because he said “guy was so good to my daughter”.
Thing is tenant is destroying the place, and the car involved in the hit and run is the dad’s. The condo association has sent the dad a letter, but still the owner has no intention of kicking the guy out. I don’t want to go to the outrageous expense to move. Not even sure if an attorney can help me probably not.
My lease entitles me to quiet enjoyment of the premises, but that I can use to break the lease which puts me in the move position. Any Ideas??

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what are my rights!!!please help!!!!?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 8:17 pm

okay, i am living with my ex-husband, i put a stop on child support because we are trying to work our problems out, i have since moved back in with him, (a little history) i had an apartment, had a good job,in another city. i moved back in with him moved to another city,quit my job gave up my apartment, he has an alcohol problem(hence the divorce) we were divorced 2 yrs. he went through a halfway house, went to aa, while in the halfway house he did great, he has been out for about a year, in the meantime we have purchased and remodeled this house, got his business back on track, its been a bumpy road, well now the problem is i divorced him because of his drinking it was not the kind of environment i wanted to raise our daughter, but now the drinking is worse, our daughter is older and now understands whats going on, he disappears for like weeks at a time. he is on drugs now, the problem is worse. to help with everything i sold the car i had, i have since been driving a company car, i took all my 401 k and tied up in this house. its in his name only,1st mistake! now i want to get my daughter out of this situation, i have asked that he buy me a car, and give some of my money back, he tells me there is no money!! i can get the records of the checks i wrote to the company to show what i invested, i have the copies of the paperwork when i sold my car through his carlot, he wants or expects me to move with nothing he just threatened that the some of the checks i have wrote paying the bills and mortgage with his ck account that i signed he was going after me for signing his name, reporting the company car stolen, and he wont pay anymore bills on the house, now a couple weeks ago, i caught him in a motel with another woman, while he was on his binge. i have tried talking like adults to him, i dont want to live like this, this is not a good situation for our daughter,she saw also, he is blaming me!!! now i have never done drugs, and dont have an alcohol problem, i want out of this mess, is there anything legally i can do? since i moved i have been helping him with his carlot and taking care of our child. i feel like im going crazy when he left over a week ago he didnt leave us any money, i called him and asked for some he told me to go to hell, but yesterday called and said he was buying a whole new wardrobe, but there is no money, he says he doesnt have any!!! by law can he report this vehicle stolen? i have been driving this car for about 2 weeks, i change car frequently(hence carlot), can i get in trouble if i pawn anything in the house?(hence money) my family is out of state, i have nobody here to help me, he has his family here and they are siding with him, i expect that, but what are my rights!!! is there any thing or any suggestions on what to do? i will be going to reopen the child support, its been 3yrs since i closed it, i dont know what to do its like because he is so screwed up its all my fault, i feel like if he doesn’t want to be here and doesn’t want us here do the right thing!! am i being unreasonable? as wanting money and a decent car to be able to leave! i know its not my fault because he is a screw up and has a drinking and drug problem, more than i can deal with my daughter is scared of him, thank god he hasnt been home. what can i do to help protect us, i cant change the locks, it takes money, help!!!!

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i’m a young mother getting stressed out from other family members’ issues?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 12:17 pm

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

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There is blood in my daughter’s nose!?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 3:26 am

My 4 year old has a cold, her nose has been running, her eyes have been watering. Yesterday she fell asleep around 2:00 and rested the whole day.

Between resting she ate oatmeal and drank juice.

I used a vaporizer and vicks rub to treat her.

This morning when she woke up there was a little blood in her nose, this has never happened. The blood is gone, it was only a little bit.

What should I do? I looked nose bleeds up and it says it can be caused by colds and dryness. She has a cold and it is super dry and hot in the house.

Any suggestions?

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Mothers and drinking alcohol while child is in your care??Read Info……?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 3:26 am

I have two daughters a 2 1/2 yr old and a 10 month old. I babysit my niece who is also 2 1/2 yrs old. The problem is that my sister in law was drinking heavily last weekend when a family member brought my niece back to her after a birthday party, she also had 3 other males in the home with her drinking. My sister in laws father went to the home and tried to get my niece out of there and she refused to give her up so he called the police and they came and said yes she was intoxicated but she was in her own home so they could do nothing about it, she was the ONLY parent there!! She is playing it off like she is allowed to have a few drinks while she is taking care of her daughter, I think it is irresponsible and completely wrong, but I would like to know your guys feedback on this?? I am to the point that I don’t even want to watch my niece because that forces me to see my sister in law to whom I want nothing to do with at this point. I would never drink with my children in my care!!
She is a single parent 23 yrs old, that father is in the picture he keeps her mon. tues. and weds.10am to 9 pm. I keep her thurs. fridays and every other saturday. The father claims that he is trying for custody but has done nothing to get that going. This is not the first time she had done something like this, but it is the first time that everyone in the family knows about it and fears for my nieces well-being. I want to protect her so much I just dont know how to get through to my sister in law.
My niece does have a good father but for some reason seems nervous to pursue any custody, they have been separated for about 3 months. One thing that does scare me is that she has had to take her to the hospital quite a few time in the middle of the night, just two weeks ago she had to call 911 because my niece stopped breathing she a an allergic reaction. But I know of at least once she had been drinking and still had to take her to the hospital.

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