I’ve been married for two years. I got married bc I decided I needed to be the best father I can be for my daughter who is now 3. My wife was hanging out with another man at work and the gym about a year ago and wanted to leave me. I said OK bye and she came back and begged me to stay and I gave in. She said they never kissed or had relations. She then set out on a mission to get pregnant again and we had another child who is 2 months now. I am very unhappy in my home but my children are very important to me, the reason I married is bc we broke up before and I couldn’t see my children bc she told the court i was a heroin addict, a totally false accusation and called the cops and said i beat her. I don’t know what to do bc I love my children and i feel like as long as i’m here i protect them from her and her families craziness, but i also would like to have a life i enjoy. any advice would be helpful.
Anyone raising your husbands child from a one-night-stand?
My husband & I have custody of his child that resulted from an on-night-stand that happened just before we met. We didn’t know about her until about a year ago. I know she needs me (her biomom is a meth-head) and I will take care of her. The problem is, I’m having problems with treating her totally different than my daughter. My husband tries to understand but ultimately thinks it’s not fair. My take on this is…I don’t mind to take care of her but I’m going to make 100% sure my daughter does not suffer because of it in any way.
P.S. We also have my step-son every other weekend, holidays & summer. He’s awesome and we couldn’t have a better relationship.
My daughter is 12, Step-son is 11, new step-daughter is 10.
Looking for comments/advise. Thanks
Is there anything I can do to help make this easier?
I adopted our youngest when she was four months old after her biological parents gave her up for adoption. She is now 14. Both parents had severe addictions to crystal meth, and realized that so long as they were addicts, they could not take care of their daughter.
We opted for an open adoption, and Ashley’s mother was very active with her. They seemed to have a very good relationship and was welcome in our home anytime. She and my daughter had a great relationship, and while she feels like part of our family she loved being around her bio.
She never did kick her habit, but she NEVER visited Ashley whilst high or withdrawing and for that I commend her. They had a very healthy bio/adoptee relationship despite everything. She tried multiple times to quit, but she eventually died a couple of months ago after her heart gave out. Of course our daughter was completely shattered after losing her.
Her father was a different story. She’s met him all of six times since she was born, and every time we’ve met up with him to visit he was tweaking out of his mind, and kept calling her by the name of one of his other children. She usually leaves the visit in tears and very confused. He has had very little to do with our daughter, and she has typically wound up calling him for visits out of a great need to reconnect with him. He has never shown initiative and it hurts her a lot. She eventually gave up, and stopped contact.
But ever since her mother died a couple of months ago, her father has been showing up at her school, calling her cell phone and showing up at the house without calling. She is horribly torn, she feels betrayed by her father and (quite understandably) scared by his bizarre behavior. But at the same time, she feels like she may lose out on a chance to reconnect with him and have a relationship with him.
I cannot make this decision for her, it’s not my place to do. But it is my place to protect her, and this man doesn’t seem safe to me. He is still constantly coming around while high. Not to mention seeing his past behavior i’m inclined to think he cannot change. I don’t want to see my daughter hurt, physically or emotionally. But I don’t want to deny her the chance at a relationship with her father after she just lost her mother. She seems distraught every time he comes around and she comes to me for advice on how to handle the situation, and i’m afraid I cannot give her any answers.
Does anyone know how to handle this?
Who lost all respect for Jamie Fox?
Jamie Foxx had some not-so-nice words for Miley Cyrus during his weekend Sirius radio show “The Foxxhole,” judging by a audio posted on YouTube and heard below.
During a discussion criticizing Miley, 16, for being upset at not getting to meet Radiohead backstage at the Grammys, Foxx, 41, told her to get a gum transplant and to “make a sex tape and grow up… Get like Britney Spears and do some heroin… get some crack in your pipe… Catch chlamydia on a bicycle seat.”
Someone else is heard calling her a “white bitch.”
Foxx has a teenage daughter.
A forty-one year old man taunting a child. Wow. I am speechless.
Well I am 19 so I am not exactly a Hannah Montana fan. But what he said was beyond messed up. I am guessing he’ll get away with this since of society’s double standards(i.e. Imus)
how do I know if im really crazy?
(real life) first hubby almost killed our daughter she was taken by state I was eighteen I turned him in. I was was taken from my mother at age of eleven she is a paraniod scitsophrinic but I still maintain contact with her.second hubby (is) a bi transvestite who desires the same (but hes not gay)but i did have to wonderful twin daughters by him . third hubby I think is meth addict . do I have the right to be depressed for a while or what? Oh ya and third hubby found him wearing polish to whats up?
im sick of being told im crazy because I dont trust and analize everything now days this stuff does not do a body good
my twins are 23 now and they are great young women
Bill’s elbow?
One day Bill complained to his friend, “My elbow really hurts, I guess I should see a doctor.”
His friend offered, “Don’t do that. There’s a computer at the drug store that can diagnose anything quicker an cheaper than a doctor. Simply put in a sample of your urine and the computer will diagnose your problem and tell you what you can do about it. It only costs $10.”
Bill figured he had nothing to lose, so he filled a jar with a urine sample and went to the drug store. Finding the computer, he poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer started making some noise and various lights started flashing. After a brief pause out popped a small slip of paper on which was printed: You have tennis elbow. Soak your arm in warm water. Avoid heavy lifting. It will be better in two weeks.
Late that evening while thinking how amazing this new technology was and how it would change medical science forever, he began to wonder if this machine could be fooled. He decided to give it a try. He mixed together some tap water, a stool sample from his dog and urine samples from his wife and daughter. To top it off, he masturbated into the concoction.
He went back to the drug store, located the machine, poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer again made the usual noise and printed out the following message:
Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. Your dog has worms. Get him vitamins. Your daughter is using cocaine. Put her in a rehabilitation clinic. Your wife is pregnant with twin girls. They aren’t yours. Get a lawyer. And if you don’t stop jerking off, your tennis elbow will never get better.
I’m afraid my ex-husband’s new wife might be abusing our 2 year old, what should I do?
My ex and I seperated early last year. When we were going to try to work things out, I found out he was seeing a known enemy of mine, so I went ahead with the divorce. They’re married now, she has 3 kids from a previous marriage and now they have another on the way. First off, her children are savages. The two boys and girl, lack discipline and attention. They obviously spend no time teaching them anything and more time putting them in front of TVs so they can smoke their marijuana. (They’ve recently spent their welfare money on medical marijuana cards) So other than the fact that my daughter comes home (from every other weekend at Daddy’s) with sugar addictions and cranky whining (I guess this is how her children get THEIR way instead of using words) she’s starting to act straight traumatized. Her father has recently started attending school so apparently my daughter is spending God knows how much time with this barbaric woman and her disorderly kids. Today, my boyfriend tells me, as he and our daughter arrive home, that she raced out the door in tears. It took me about an hour to calm her down and when i asked her father about it, he promptly responded 45 minutes later (after I confronted his wife) with “She’s fine, you’re ridiculous.” So in conclusion, I know I can’t gain full custody for ill-parenting and nutrition, but what CAN I do?
Should I feel guilty about wanting nothing to do with my birth mother?
Who decided to be a heroin addict instead of being a mother. She gave me to a family member at birth. Came around every now and then as I was growing up. Never gave me a birthday party, we never decorated a christmas tree together, came to about 2 school functions and these two did not include high school graduation.
She is now old, sick and drug free and now wants to act like I’m her daughter and wants to see my kids, who know her and do love her, but I don’t. A relative called to tell me she is in the hospital and they want me to call. I’m thinking of just letting the kids call.
Does this seem evil to you all?
My life wasn’t terrible. Fortunately I was raised by a very loving elderly couple; who loved me unconditionally and raised me with good values. I know my “mama” who raised me; is so disappointed that I’m being mean to her. It’s just that I hate being fake.
She’s been clean since I was about 20, I’ll be 40 this year. She was ordered to go to rehab or prison all those years ago and has been drugfree ever since. I say good for her; but no deal with the fake mother-daughter bit.
My husband says I will have no piece until I forgive her.
She’s been clean since I was about 20, I’ll be 40 this year. She was ordered to go to rehab or prison all those years ago and has been drugfree ever since. I say good for her; but no deal with the fake mother-daughter bit.
My husband says I will have no piece until I forgive her.
how do i change my visitation, custody. i want joint custody, one month in summer, 1 week for x-mas, claim txs
i am a az. resident who has daughter in cali. never got mediator during custody fight. mom accused of drugs and theft. dishonorable discharge from military for meth. she won’t let visit but 4 days out of year. claims never denied visits but never get to see daughter when i ask at x-mas time. mother got limited visitaition at moms house. i got honorable discharge, work at a.z. dept. of corrections. any help from cali dads would help
Bill’s elbow?
One day Bill complained to his friend, “My elbow really hurts, I guess I should see a doctor.”
His friend offered, “Don’t do that. There’s a computer at the drug store that can diagnose anything quicker an cheaper than a doctor. Simply put in a sample of your urine and the computer will diagnose your problem and tell you what you can do about it. It only costs $10.”
Bill figured he had nothing to lose, so he filled a jar with a urine sample and went to the drug store. Finding the computer, he poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer started making some noise and various lights started flashing. After a brief pause out popped a small slip of paper on which was printed: You have tennis elbow. Soak your arm in warm water. Avoid heavy lifting. It will be better in two weeks.
Late that evening while thinking how amazing this new technology was and how it would change medical science forever, he began to wonder if this machine could be fooled. He decided to give it a try. He mixed together some tap water, a stool sample from his dog and urine samples from his wife and daughter. To top it off, he masturbated into the concoction.
He went back to the drug store, located the machine, poured in the sample and deposited the $10. The computer again made the usual noise and printed out the following message:
Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. Your dog has worms. Get him vitamins. Your daughter is using cocaine. Put her in a rehabilitation clinic. Your wife is pregnant with twin girls. They aren’t yours. Get a lawyer. And if you don’t stop jerking off, your tennis elbow will never get better.