she will not take her meds i have to give them to her. she had a bad episode a week ago . of course she is of age. so we can’t forse her to get help. what do i do?
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Older parent……He don’t want my child?
I am a older parent. I had my daughter really late in life. My other children are grown and gone. One has two girls. My daughter is two. Her dad hid a crack addiction. I knew nothing about that drug. So I left when she was a baby. My other children’s dad just passed away. I started dating the man of my dreams. The problem is he is 8yrs older than I . He will retire in a few years. He told me this morning he does not want a young child in his life. That he is at the age he can do what he wants and he was looking for a woman to do things with him. But he did fall for me. He has he wants to give it time and see if he can adjust to having a small child around. But he also says he doubts it. So I eneded it with him. Now he is mad and saying I am a jerk for doing that. That he still would like to see me and we can remain friends. Friend sis not what I guess I want. I don’t blame him for how he feels. But it hurts alot. But I do have my daughter to raise. She is my life right now. But I do wish I can find someone to share my life with. Do I still see him and just be friends. Or let him go on and find a woman he can have fun with. I am 47 he 55.
Can the father of my 6mo daughter win full custody if he has proof I drove DUI with my baby in the car?
All throughout my pregnancy my ex-fiance was abusive towards me and he also smoked crack on a weekly to daily basis and he had no job except for cash jobs here and there. I was afraid to notify authorities of the drug use and the physical abuse situation at the time because I didn’t want to send him to jail when I was pregnant because I was scared of being a single mom. I did not use drugs at all while I was pregnant, and I had a full time job and went to school part time while he did not work and would smoke crack. I have documentation that the police were called to a domestic situation (he was violently beating me) when I was 3 months pregnant, but at the time I did not press charges because I was scared of being a single mom, so the report is limited and does not include the extent of my injuries (I suffered a concussion and I can still feel the spot on my head where he bashed it into the floor a year later). I was very hard on him verbally because of his drug addiction and as a result he began cheating on me while I was 8 months pregnant. I did not know this at the time and all that I knew was that he was not coming home and I was 8 months pregnant and I needed him to be there. One night when he had called me and told me he was not coming home for the night I told him that I was taking a sleeping pill because I couldn’t handle the stress he was putting me through, and then I was going to bed. He then called the cops to my house that night and the cops told me they had to take me for a psychiatric evaluation because he had told them I was suicidal. I voluntarily went for the evaluation and after talking with a therapist they could very easily see that I was fine and they sent me home within a few hours. I am certain he has obtained the police report for that night and will use this against me in court to say that I have mental problems. A few weeks later we broke up and he went to live with the girl he was seeing, who lived down the street. This was obviously very upsetting to me as by this point I was 9 months pregnant. It is a well documented fact that stressors like this during a pregnancy is a very strong indicator of risk for postpartum depression, so I began seeing a therapist right away to work through my feelings about the situation. I also began reaching out to my friends and I have always kept a journal to gather my thoughts and I relied on these resources to get through the difficult time. I was told that I could take anti-depressant pills however I declined the pills as I also chose to breast feed, and I felt that I am mentally strong enough to tackle my emotions on my own. When I gave birth to our daughter he made the entire time increasingly stressful and only visited the hospital a total of three hours, and refused to help pick out a name for our child. He also brought police to my house the day I brought my daughter home from the hospital, asking the police to escort him while he got his belongings from the house. When I told the police I had just brought my newborn daughter home that day and that it was not a good time, they agreed to postpone the escort for a couple days. He also was violent with me showing up at my house a week later to retrieve additional items and this resulted in an order of protection that was active for 2 months until I had it removed to enable him the ability to see his daughter. Although it was stressful for me to see him and this affected my milk supply, I was also frustrated that he was not making any efforts to see his daughter and so this was a double edged sword that stressed me out both ways. I thought that by lifting the order of protection he would not have an excuse any more to not see his daughter. I was wrong and he refused to see her. I stopped seeing the therapist due to a lack of time when I returned to school part time and work full time because I was confident keeping busy would help me to heal and that I was able to handle the situation on my own with the support of my family, friends, and my own intelligence. But unfortunately one night, when my daughter was 3 months old I was drinking after my daughter had gone to bed and I made a very bad decision. I wanted so badly to tell him what an awful piece of shit he was that I put my daughter in the car and drove a quarter mile down the street to his new house to confront him. This was a bad decision and he called the police and the police report will show that they gave me a breathalyzer and I registered just under the legal limit for a DUI. The police did not arrest me and they simply sent me back home, but I am sure he has obtained a copy of the police report and he has now filed paperwork to sue me for full custody of my daughter. I do not normally drink and that was a single night of error and I give my daughter everything I have. She loves going to daycare and I visit her on my lunch break every day and I have a good job and my family and friends help me out with her a lot so that I have a bala
I have a balanced life of work, family, and me time. I do not want or need him in my life, and although I think that at some point he should be a part in her life, I dont think that now is that time because she is just six months old. He has never changed her diaper, he fights not to pay child support and i am afraid he is still violent in his new relationship. He says he doesn’t smoke crack anymore but I do not believe him. I am convinced that he has done everything he can to manipulate me into looking like the bad guy when he was the one who couldn’t get his act straight for so long! I wish I would have called the cops on him while he was smoking crack in my house or beating me so I would have the kind of proof he has on me that makes me look bad. I know in my heart he is the real bad guy, but i know the courts will only look at proof, not what I know in my heart. My question is, will they take my baby away from me because of his evidence?
I suspect that my daughter is using drugs. Can anyone help me id the type by signs?
My daughter headed off to college last year but when she came back, she had started drinking and smoking. In the past 7 weeks since school has been out, she moved in with her aunt, skipped out on her without paying her bills and leaving all of her stuff there. She since went back, ripped off her aunt’s stereo and dvd collection. Her appearance has changed to where her face is really bloated and reddish albeit her weight has decreased somewhat. Her attitude went from being friendly and social to being very anti social and dark. She is all about the concept of “doom” now and has a myspace page where she proclaims it. Any suggestions on how I can help her or if it sounds like she is on drugs? On a side note, I live 1500 miles away from her. Thanks.
Grandparents,would you bring your infant grandchildren home to raise if you were in your fifties?
Due to my daughter’s drug addiction to crack cocaine, I was already raising 3 of her children, one barely a year old, when she had a set of twins. The state became involved due to the babies being born positive to drugs. After seeing the sweet tiny little beings in their incumbator, so tiny barely alive and helpless abandonded by their mother my heart almost broke and I had to bring them home when they gained weight and was well enough to leave the hospital. This year i will be 62, and the children are thriving,happy and have caught up and even surpassed their peers in regular kindergarten. I was really afraid I was too old to adopt and raise my babies, but I am glad I did now. My family thought I was nuts, but I have discovered there are lots of grandparents and even great grandparents raising small children now, but my question is in
case anyone is thinking about this, would you do it?
My babies had many obstacles to over come, even operations,but I worked as a pediatric nurse for over 9 years and knew what type of therapy they required,
but sometimes I wonder what I would have done if I did not have this type of background, and what a grandparent without it would do, besides that I have a great faith in God, or we would not have come so far.
Thank everyone for their kind answers,and I still worry that although my daughter will reach 43 this year, she is still able to become pregnant and still doing drugs. She is now also mentally impaired,perhaps has been for some time. so now I have a new question what can be done about that?
My 16 yo daughter use drugs and doesn’t go to school at all.She admits that she has a problem and tries to
stop,but everytime she looses control and starts again.She’s very bright,nice girl who unfortunately can’t control her habbit.I decided to send her to a special camp for kids like her and then to boarding school.The thing is it’s very expensive, and there are so many camps and schools to choose from.Did somebody
have the same problem?Is there scholarships for this kind of programms? I’m a single mom struggling to make ends meet. Any advises?
No shows, please..I would never do that. My daughter’s friend with the same problemms was sent to wilderness camp and then to boarding school with special education for struggling teens.She’s doing really great now- complitely new person. Only the thing is her parents got money, and I’m not.
My 16 yo daughter use drugs and doesn’t go to school at all.She admits that she has a problem and tries to
stop,but everytime she looses control and starts again.She’s very bright,nice girl who unfortunately can’t control her habbit.I decided to send her to a special camp for kids like her and then to boarding school.The thing is it’s very expensive, and there are so many camps and schools to choose from.Did somebody
have the same problem?Is there scholarships for this kind of programms? I’m a single mom struggling to make ends meet. Any advises?
No shows, please..I would never do that. My daughter’s friend with the same problemms was sent to wilderness camp and then to boarding school with special education for struggling teens.She’s doing really great now- complitely new person. Only the thing is her parents got money, and I’m not.
Is Cannabis(marijuana) as bad as drugs like cocaine, crack, crystal meth, or heroin?
I have a friend that is an olllld timer and all these new drugs that are out now days (cocaine, crystal, crack, heroin etc.) he thinks are as bad for you as marijuana, which was the worst drug available when he was born, 1945. I know the BIG differences, but he won’t take my word for it so I decided to see what all you have to say.
Is cannabis anywhere close to being as bad as any of the drugs that I mentioned above??
I gave him an example of how big of a difference there was between cannabis and those other drugs. My example was that the difference between cannabis and those other drugs were like the differences between being a little league baseball player and being a major league baseball player!! If you can come up with a better example feel free to share.
The reason this whole debate started was because he accused his daughter of using crystal meth, which I saw absolutely no evidence of her doing so. I work at a rehab clinic where I work with rehabilitating meth addicts so I have a good clue of what to look for. I have been around her for a long time and the only thing that I know she does for a fact is marijuana, even though her father somehow doesn’t know. Every time I talk to her I get a whiff of the distinct smell of cannabis, you have to be one dumb individual to confuse it with crystal!!
Well that’s basically it! Hope to hear what you guys have to say. Comparisons would be awesome. So would Signs to look for from somebody using anything besides cannabis! Best answer gets the points
One tiny millimeter ahead you say??? I have not once in my entire life heard of anyone, yes not even one person that over dosed on marijuana… I agree that yes, it does not let your body run it’s natural course, but I strongly disagree that drugs are all the same. My best friend’s mom passed away of a crystal meth overdose I highly doubt that she would have had the same outcome if she had been smoking cannabis….
I’d really rather hear from people that have dealt with these things in the past. Not just opinions.. Ex addicts would be awesome.