My ex-boyfriend and I have a 3 year old daughter in common.
He has a history of alcoholism, marijuana use, verbal and physical abuse – towards me only – not her.
He also has a criminal record from some small infractions, I believe.
He is also dealing with some form of mental illness.
I was told that I will most definitely get custody of her, but I am still living in fear that I won’t.
My ex is very vindictive and devious and will try anything to get her from me.
Does anyone know looking at his “issues” of anything that would make the courts take her from me and let him have custody?
The baby is not his. A little background. He has supervised visits due to his alcoholism and abuse/neglect issues he had with our girls when they were in his care. I offer to supervise his visits, as well as his mom or sisters, but my youngest hates hanging out with his new g/f and her son when they are with her dad. The g/f works at walmart and anytime alice sees her there she is very happy and even seeks her out. The g/f hates me, for whatever reason and the atmosphere is tense to say the least when we are all together. Which is probably why alice dislikes it so much.
I don;t want to subject my child to spending time with people she doesn;t want to. When her dad is on his own and comes to visit or when we go to his place to visit and he is alone my daughter is fine and very happy to see her dad, as long as i am there with her. How can I make him understand that his visitation is for him alone, when i am the one supervising.
he has a list of expectations he needs to complete before he can get unsupervised time with his girls, after almost a year and a half he has yet to complete anything on it, and just recently has started calling more often. it used to be once or twice a month for a few minutes.
the g/f does dislike me, but I am very respectful to her when I am in a situation that involves both of us, for the sake of my kids, and because I feel nothing really but pity for her. She tends to ignore or make snide comments to me in front of my children, which I find unacceptable.
My 76 yr. old dadhas rectal cancer,diagnosed Aug/2006. Trouble is that we have been super close ever since I can remember, and I always considered him to be my true soul mate. I also have a 46 yr. old brother who is a recovering alcoholic. My father sends about $300/month down to my niece who lives in Uruguay; my bro has been unable to work for quite some time due to his depresssion and alcoholism. My father met my brother’s daughter just 1 yr. ago at 16.. She saw only the VERY BEST SIDEof my dad, SOON dad sent regular support for her education. My dad is TOTALLY ESTRANGED from my brother cuz of MANY YEARS AGO. My dad now refuses to have. anything to do w/ brother, but pays for his daughter to visit us in US.
The other night my dad got extremely angry with me in a public place when subject of my bro he brought up.Now he is saying horrible stuff to my son, saying that just cuz I let bro visit @ xmas, his support for his daughter may stop, etc, and I don’t even feel I can talk
Ok so, me and my ex dated for 3 years. He wasnt homeless at the time, but ill get into that later. im gonna say this flat out, he was an asshole to me. He stole my credit cards, and used them..he used my car without permission usually when i was sleeping, wrecked three of them as well. He cheated on me and was physically and verbally and mentally abusive. i provided him with a roof for alomst 2 years, food and supported his alcoholism, and i took care of his daughter for 3 years as well. I am only 21 and he is 29…we met when i was 18…this is actually quite a long story with alot of details. so ill make it short… He was living with a girlfriend for about 6 months.She kicked him out, so he moved back into his parents house. He was supposed to go to court for a felony warrent that he has, but he didnt go so his parents kicked him out, so he went to a friends house and then HE kicked him out as well. We talked on and off while he was at the last friends house, but he recently got a hold of me on facebook (he was at the library) and told me he was homeless and that he was sleeping under a bridge. Why the hell do i feel so guilty? I cant take him in…i know i cant, and i wont, i just feel so damn guilty, or am i a heartless bitch for not giving him a temporary roof over his head and helping him out? i was crying all day because the thought of him sleeping under a bridge makes me sad, even though he was such an ass to me. His status on facebook was “i wanted someone to talk to but all i heard was silence” That hit me really hard, im crying now as we speak, i dont know what to do. I know he was a f****** ass to me and everyone else, but i need something to make the guilty sad feeling go away, i need some advice. i sent him a long msg on facebook explaining why i couldnt take him in, i told the police i didnt know where he was,(theyre looking for him) and if they catch him over my house, thats big trouble for me, i told him in the facebook email that he needs to turn himself in, then hell have food and a roof over his head…i dont know what to do… :(
Ok so, me and my ex dated for 3 years. He wasnt homeless at the time, but ill get into that later. im gonna say this flat out, he was an asshole to me. He stole my credit cards, and used them..he used my car without permission usually when i was sleeping, wrecked three of them as well. He cheated on me and was physically and verbally and mentally abusive. i provided him with a roof for alomst 2 years, food and supported his alcoholism, and i took care of his daughter for 3 years as well. I am only 21 and he is 29…we met when i was 18…this is actually quite a long story with alot of details. so ill make it short… He was living with a girlfriend for about 6 months.She kicked him out, so he moved back into his parents house. He was supposed to go to court for a felony warrent that he has, but he didnt go so his parents kicked him out, so he went to a friends house and then HE kicked him out as well. We talked on and off while he was at the last friends house, but he recently got a hold of me on facebook (he was at the library) and told me he was homeless and that he was sleeping under a bridge. Why the hell do i feel so guilty? I cant take him in…i know i cant, and i wont, i just feel so damn guilty, or am i a heartless bitch for not giving him a temporary roof over his head and helping him out? i was crying all day because the thought of him sleeping under a bridge makes me sad, even though he was such an ass to me. His status on facebook was “i wanted someone to talk to but all i heard was silence” That hit me really hard, im crying now as we speak, i dont know what to do. I know he was a f****** ass to me and everyone else, but i need something to make the guilty sad feeling go away, i need some advice. i sent him a long msg on facebook explaining why i couldnt take him in, i told the police i didnt know where he was,(theyre looking for him) and if they catch him over my house, thats big trouble for me, i told him in the facebook email that he needs to turn himself in, then hell have food and a roof over his head…i dont know what to do… :(
we broke up over a year ago after a 9 year abusive relationship inc alcoholism we had two children together my daughter is 4 my son 8 . He spends loads of money onmy son every week nothing on my daughter my son gets everything he wants whenever and my ex is constantly in his ear about how im the bad person and you dont have to see your mum .
we did have half each custody of my son but it was only done through mediation and this is the 6th time he has denied me my son .My daughter resides with me most of the time and he only has her 3 days per fortnight . im now going to court to win full custody of my daughter as his influence is not good on her and i also want morew custody of my son what are my chances .( he is not physically abusive but very mentally manipulating and controlling he has a male shovinist attitude towards women and therefore i dont want him to be like this to my daughter my son is so manipulated by him that i dont know whats best but i think taking him away from him completely may not be the right answers )
does any one have any idea what will happen in court ????
My step daughters dad was released from jail about six months ago following a 3 year sentence for violation of probation and felony refusal (he was acquited of his eigth DUI since he wasn’t caught in the act. He completed a 28 day program for alcoholism and my wife and I can’t prove that he is drinking again or driving illegally (he has been caught driving drunk with her before). He bought a truck and had it put in his new girlfriends name who he moved in with after just four days of knowing each other. His girlfriend can’t be said to be a bad person since our feelings about her are not to be proven. His GF use to be one of my wifes friends and in fact was with my wife when she met my step daughters dad. She is also 18 years older than my step daughters dad. My wife and I feel that this relationship is unhealthy for my stepdaugter to be around because of the age difference and the fact that my step daughter knows the GF as my wifes friend. My step daughters dad is court ordered to pay child support but hasn’t paid for 4 months and he doesn’t have steady income. My wife and i googled the dads name and we found that he had been released from jail pending charges no more than two months ago. My wife confirmed what we had found by calling the county jail. My wife talked to him recetly and he mentioned that he had been talking with an attorney and that when he had the money he would be taking us to court for custody whether it be physical or legal i don’t know.
My wife and i have good steady jobs and i have known my step daughter for five years (since she was 3). I know the difference between legal and physical custody and am less worried about him being granted physical custody. We don’t want my step daughter to be emotionally damaged by being involved with a relationship that we see as unhealthy and don’t want her hurt if he were to choose to drive drunk with her again.
What are the chances of the father being granted custody/visitation?Please help us settle our nerves!!!!
I am living in our home, with a stay away order against my husband (who is an alcoholic and can become very irrational) He is extremely angry that I am living in the house and that he can not go on the property. we had previously agreed that I would buy him out of his share of the house, but now it seems that he wants the house. I have been waiting for a pre trial setting date since december 2006. We have shared custody of our children(which he bullied me into, and I deeply regret) He is living with his parents who have disowned me as their daughter in law of 20 years. They are all in denial of his alcoholism. I have been living in finiancial limbo for 18 months now, and would like to atleast have some stability financially.
I am living in our home, with a stay away order against my husband (who is an alcoholic and can become very irrational) He is extremely angry that I am living in the house and that he can not go on the property. we had previously agreed that I would buy him out of his share of the house, but now it seems that he wants the house. I have been waiting for a pre trial setting date since december 2006. We have shared custody of our children(which he bullied me into, and I deeply regret) He is living with his parents who have disowned me as their daughter in law of 20 years. They are all in denial of his alcoholism. I have been living in finiancial limbo for 18 months now, and would like to atleast have some stability financially.
My husband & I recently separated & he wants to take our 5 mo. old daughter from me. My trip to alcoholism in 2005 w/the separation from my ex & 8 year marriage. I went through treatment in 2006 & had been sober since until my relapse Feb. 8, 2008 of this year. I self-admitted myself to a treatment program & am attending AA & doing the steps unlike before. I’m very proactive in my recovery & I can say more so now than before. It took me a long time to realize this is a disease I will have 2 deal w/the rest of my life & I know I can’t do it alone. My husband is emotionally abusive & w/ a lil help from postpartum depression I slipped back. Only for a short while but he is trying to say now that I’m a bad(unfit) mother & he should have primary custody of our daughter. He hardly had anything 2 do w/her until I left & still has not taken her to 1 doctors appt. We rescheduled her shots to I could take her on my weekend. He only lets me see her 2 days each week. Any suggestions?
