How Do I Get My Daughter Off Drugs » QUESTIONS ABOUT ALCOHOLISM

If you think abstinence “doesn’t work?

admin — Sat, 08 Jan 2011 02:32:38 +0000

what would you recommend about
a)overeating? Many obese people tell us that “diet and exercise just doesn’t work for me.”
b)alcoholism? “C’mon…you know those A.A. meetings don’t do any good!”
c)drug addiction? “I’m hooked, I just can’t help myself.”
And there are dozens more…

Abstinence works for those who put their minds to it, who want it to work…of course, if we tell our kids that “denying your sexuality is unhealthy” and “you should experiment with sex before you get married”…well OF COURSE abstinece is not going to work for them.
Why do we let our public school system set our kids up for failure?
Is it that we actually WANT our daughters to be promiscuous, or our sons to become “hit and run” artists?

PARENTS, what the hell are you thinking?????

I, for one, am tired of paying for other people’s “indiscretions”. The idea of using public money to fund abortions is just sickening.
You want your kid to play, YOU be the one to pay.
*sigh*…When did I ever say teach the little darlings abstinence only?
And when did I say it was the school’s job to teach morality?

And WHEN did I say that Christians would willingly pay for abortions, fevvinsakes??

DAMMIT, can’t you people READ?????

I do not want my girlfriend of two years to get deported or a felony charge?

admin — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 02:32:39 +0000

My girlfriend has been on the waiting list for residential treatment for 7 months, her alcoholism is so bad that she becomes very aggressive, not the typical traditional mexican lady that she is when sober, I have been punched, slapped, then of late she pulled a knife on me and threat to stab me if I do not buy her a six pack of Beer, the neighbors called the police for which she was arrested, charged with attempt to use a dangerous weapon. I know she needs this treatment and want the root problem dealt with, addiction is nasty hurts families and friends. she has for wonderful daughters waiting for her mother to get well. (state has custody now) She is #1 on that treatment list now maybe 8 days. My question is should get out or try to work for her and get her in to treatment.

how do I tell my family I’m bisexual when they have confronted me and I denied it?

admin — Wed, 05 Jan 2011 02:32:30 +0000

When I was still struggling with what I was, my mother confronted me and demanded if I was bisexual, and that if I was it was against God, and a sin. I turned red, felt panic and said “No, I’m not!” which I was in no position to say. And my mom said “good…” an ex of mine outed me to her out of revenge for dumping them, and “fear for my soul”.
I want to come out, but I’m worried that my denial before will effect their belief in me now. Also my mother is very gody, and homophobic. She likes to say how children shouldn’t be exposed to homosexuality, and grounds her children for saying the word “gay” she likes to compare homosexuality to alcoholism. My dad, he liked to say how people are gay because of malformed brains, and he believes gay people have an agenda, and he cried when one of his friends daughters came out.
Part of me wonders if they already know, another is bothered by my lie. And another wonders if I should ever tell them. If they kick me out, I do have places to go, although my life will be a little harder. I just wanted someone else’s thoughts on the issue.

how do I tell my family I’m bisexual when they have confronted me and I denied it?

admin — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 02:32:29 +0000

how do I tell my family I’m bisexual when they have confronted me and I denied it?

admin — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 02:32:36 +0000

Whould real friends encourage your sober husband to use drugs?

admin — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 02:32:32 +0000

My husband has been sober for several months, until he hung out with his “friends.” The main “friend” was celebrating his birthday…had HIS wife ask me if I was going to LET my husband hang out with the guys…and not to worry she assured me that they were his friends and wouldnt pressure him…. Well, it wasnt up to me wether of not my husband went…which he did. We talked about the drug and alchol use that would be going on prior to his leaving. He assured me he would be fine…etc…

Well, needless to say, he came home drunk and high. He broke the verbal contract. We have been going to marriage counseling due to his alcoholism and drug use…Marriage counsling seemed to work, as I know my husband didnt want me to leave and take our 2 young daughters with me. So, I dont know what to do now. I have a feeling this will continue to happen every so often…no matter marriage counseling or not. Should I leave him? He had been sober for 2 months…and is more spiritual…

but, I think that he secretely hopes to once again be a user of drugs in the future…and that this soberness is only soposed to last a while..until me his wife “gives in” and enables it too. B/c in the past I too drank but am NOT an alcoholic, and did smoke the weed…it was the way I could relate to him without being mad at him, or a way to hang out. But, I am past that. I am no longer a user, and am no longer going to dumb myself down to those levels!

What do you think about this doll?

admin — Sat, 01 Jan 2011 02:32:35 +0000

There’s a doll manufactured in Spain called Bebe Gloton (gluttonous baby) that’s a breastfeeding doll. It comes with a bra-like halter top for the girl to wear that has flowers where her nipples are. The baby sucks at (on? the article was unclear) the “nipples” and then cries to be burped. After reading an article about it, I googled it and found more articles. There are opinions both for and against it. At first, I was against it, then for it, then against it again, haha. I am a supporter of breastfeeding (and have breastfed both my kids ’til a year and plan to do so with all my babies), but something about this doll doesn’t seem appropriate. Reading articles against it, people were quoted as saying, “What’s next? Dolls with alcohol addiction or erectile dysfunction?”, based on the fact that breastfeeding is an adult thing, just like alcoholism and ED. But then I thought, those are bad things and breastfeeding is not. A supporter of the doll also pointed out that many children in families that breastfeed pretend to breastfeed their dolls on their own, anyway and that baby dolls that come with a bottle show only the “artificial” way to feed a baby. Some opponents argued that a breastfeeding doll promotes motherhood in a playful light and may lead to teen pregnancy, but then the other side came back with the fact that all baby dolls do that, by letting girls play by changing diapers, pushing strollers, etc. But what finally led me back to being against the doll was thinking that if some company came out with a toy “pillow” that girls strapped to their tummies pretending to be pregnant, I wouldn’t allow my kids to have that, either, even though pregnancy is a wonderful thing and in no way bad. HOWEVER (haha, this is getting long-winded….sorry!) I would have no objections to my daughters pretending to breastfeed a doll they already have, or even putting a couch pillow under their shirts. I guess I just don’t want some company telling my child how to play. Thoughts?

Is he crazy? or is it alcohol? or is he a sex addict?

admin — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 02:32:30 +0000

Been off and on with this guy for three years and its been a rollercoaster. I know I’ve added my own baggage into the situation but I don’t know if i really am losing my mind and I’ve been blaming myself for the demise of our relationship. He drinks heavily when I see him. I asked about his alcoholism but he denies it. He persued me in the beginning with full force but broke up with me after 3 months, so for the last 2 years, i’ve been trying to make something work between us because i feel like i did something wrong. But sometimes, he seems so detached or distracted. He has a lousy relationship with his daughters. He blames his ex’s for cheating and taking money from him. Sometimes I think he looks so far gone or something… i don’t even know anymore! and lately i’ve been realizing i’ve been foolish to want to try and have a relationship with someone like him. last week i found out he’s been having sex with several hookers. He pays them 200-400 bucks per hour. He even took one hooker to tahoe for the weekend. He’s never done that for me. I felt so hurt! I remember asking him a long time ago that i would move on if he would tell me he’s been having sex with other people. he denied it. I asked him again last week, i pretended i didn’t know about the hookers. he told me that i should move on for my own benefit but he denied sleeping with prostitutes. And he looked at me as if he was so disgusted by me. he’s thirteen years older than me, and i thought he had my best interest at heart, but how could he do that? he’s also into bdsm. i know i have issues why i’ve stayed with him. but i cant stop thinking that it was my fault, that if i’ve been more understanding, less clingy, or something it wouldnt have happened. then part of me also wants to save him when i’m still in school.
if it wasnt my fault thing turned out like this then i want to know if he have some personality disorder or something. i just want to know that there’s nothing i can do to change him or save him. i really don’t know anymore.

My wife is an alcoholic, liar and totally irresponsible?

admin — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 02:33:04 +0000

I am not totally unfamiliar with Alcoholism, but I am finding it difficult to understand why my wife would refuse to get help, refuse to live up to basic commitments such as providing for her two daughters (from a prior marriage) and refuse to stop telling me lies while all the time knowing that she is destroying our marriage. I have gone from having a deep love for her to not feeling much at all. In fact, every instinct I have is telling me to run away from this insanity, but what little love is left and her two daughters whom I love just as if they were my own is telling me to stick it out. BTW…her two daughters live with her ex. I guess my question is…how much madness must I go through before cutting my losses and running. I can provide more details if needed.

Do you think that George Walker Bush cares about his twin daughters?

admin — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 02:32:48 +0000

Does George Walker Bush care enough about his twin daughters, Jenna and Barbara to get them into rehab. for their alcoholism and drug problems?