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I know life’s too short to fall out, but what do you think of this?

  • Posted on December 27, 2010 at 4:32 pm

My brother has been an a55hole all his life.
He attempted suicide aged 13 for attention (I was 12).
Our parents divorced mainly because of it, and because of my Dad’s drinking and affairs.
We moved over 200 miles away in UK and I only got to see my Dad twice a year. (I tried and tried to keep my parents together, but to no avail.
When my brother turned 16 he went back to live with Dad. Our Mum didn’t seem to mind.
He returned to our new home when he was 17, disappointed at Dad’s behaviour.
He met a girl and they married when he was 24. Had a girl and a boy. We did everything aunts and uncles do for their nieces and nephews.
I married my first ever love the following year, aged 24. Had a boy and a girl. My brother did nothing for our children.
We really involved my Dad in his grandchildrens’ lives, but his alcoholism got in the way.
My brother had an affair.
Our mother got married to her long term boyfriend in April 2004.
My brother fell out with his our new step father. My mother turned a blind eye to this.
Our real father became ill, got sclerosis of the liver Christmas 2004 and died March 2005.
My brother didn’t let me scatter Dad’s ashes, but selfishly did that by himself. My brother fell out with me for no reason, like he falls out with everyone. I tried and pleaded with him to make it up with me, especially as we were emigrating and our mother would be in the middle of a stupid rift.
My husband and children and I emigrated to Canada in June 2005.
My mother comes over regularly and we have a good relationship and are wanting to sponsor her out here soon.
My brother has just e-mailed me out of the blue – after not speaking to me for over 4 yrs and wants us to be on speaking terms as it’s his daughter’s 21st and our Mum’s 70th in autumn.
I have been ignored on several occasions by him when I have broached the subject before we emigrated, but now that he wants to reconcile, he thinks I should jump to his command.
I am a big softy, and have only ever wanted there to never be a family rift. As I said earlier, I wanted my parents to stay together.
My brother has been melodramatic all his life and done several soul destroying things.
Now, he wants us all to re-unite but won’t apologize for all his mistakes.
My husband and I and our children were actually going to visit the UK this autumn to see my Mum, without my brother’s interference.

What do you think I should do?
I really need outsiders’ opinions to look at this sorry mess objectionally.
Thank you so much for your time, I am sorry it’s so long.
Yours emotionally,
I always wanted no family rift, but he wouldn’t listen all those years ago and now I feel that I shouldn’t just jump when he wants me to.

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I know life’s too short to fall out, but what do you think of this?

  • Posted on December 25, 2010 at 4:32 pm

My brother has been an a55hole all his life.
He attempted suicide aged 13 for attention (I was 12).
Our parents divorced mainly because of it, and because of my Dad’s drinking and affairs.
We moved over 200 miles away in UK and I only got to see my Dad twice a year. (I tried and tried to keep my parents together, but to no avail.
When my brother turned 16 he went back to live with Dad. Our Mum didn’t seem to mind.
He returned to our new home when he was 17, disappointed at Dad’s behaviour.
He met a girl and they married when he was 24. Had a girl and a boy. We did everything aunts and uncles do for their nieces and nephews.
I married my first ever love the following year, aged 24. Had a boy and a girl. My brother did nothing for our children.
We really involved my Dad in his grandchildrens’ lives, but his alcoholism got in the way.
My brother had an affair.
Our mother got married to her long term boyfriend in April 2004.
My brother fell out with his our new step father. My mother turned a blind eye to this.
Our real father became ill, got sclerosis of the liver Christmas 2004 and died March 2005.
My brother didn’t let me scatter Dad’s ashes, but selfishly did that by himself. My brother fell out with me for no reason, like he falls out with everyone. I tried and pleaded with him to make it up with me, especially as we were emigrating and our mother would be in the middle of a stupid rift.
My husband and children and I emigrated to Canada in June 2005.
My mother comes over regularly and we have a good relationship and are wanting to sponsor her out here soon.
My brother has just e-mailed me out of the blue – after not speaking to me for over 4 yrs and wants us to be on speaking terms as it’s his daughter’s 21st and our Mum’s 70th in autumn.
I have been ignored on several occasions by him when I have broached the subject before we emigrated, but now that he wants to reconcile, he thinks I should jump to his command.
I am a big softy, and have only ever wanted there to never be a family rift. As I said earlier, I wanted my parents to stay together.
My brother has been melodramatic all his life and done several soul destroying things.
Now, he wants us all to re-unite but won’t apologize for all his mistakes.
My husband and I and our children were actually going to visit the UK this autumn to see my Mum, without my brother’s interference.

What do you think I should do?
I really need outsiders’ opinions to look at this sorry mess objectionally.
Thank you so much for your time, I am sorry it’s so long.
Yours emotionally,
I always wanted no family rift, but he wouldn’t listen all those years ago and now I feel that I shouldn’t just jump when he wants me to.

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Please help-Multiple Sclerosis risk?

  • Posted on December 24, 2010 at 4:33 pm

I am a (apparently) healthy 28 year old female. I never really knew my father’s family very well but learned today for the first time that my father’s sister has MS, and so did my grandmother (father’s mother). To create a stranger twist, my first cousin (aunt’s only daughter) has Lupus, as well as some other auto-immune diseases. This has all scared me, as you can understand, and I have been online tonight trying to do some research on whether I need to be afraid for my future or not. My father did not have MS but then again I know it is not as common in men. I wonder if I should be as concerned about a parents’sibling having the disease as much as I would be concerned if my own parent did??
I would love ANY opinions out there from anyone that has experience with this, but particularly from any MD’s or experts of any sort that may see this.
Also, I might add that, although this may be trivial, both my aunt and her mother were at one point very heavy drinkers and were treated for alcoholism. Any connection?? My father’s family in general has always abused themselves and been very unhealthy.
I appreciate any answers.

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What risk do I have of getting MS?

  • Posted on December 23, 2010 at 4:33 pm

I am a (apparently) healthy 28 year old female. I never really knew my father’s family very well but learned today for the first time that my father’s sister has MS, and so did my grandmother (father’s mother). To create a stranger twist, my first cousin (aunt’s only daughter) has Lupus, as well as some other auto-immune diseases. This has all scared me, as you can understand, and I have been online tonight trying to do some research on whether I need to be afraid for my future or not. My father did not have MS but then again I know it is not as common in men. I wonder if I should be as concerned about a parents’sibling having the disease as much as I would be concerned if my own parent did??
I would love ANY opinions out there from anyone that has experience with this, but particularly from any MD’s or experts of any sort that may see this.
Also, I might add that, although this may be trivial, both my aunt and her mother were at one point very heavy drinkers and were treated for alcoholism. Any connection?? My father’s family in general has always abused themselves and been very unhealthy.
I appreciate any answers.

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I need advice. I am a 31 year old with BiPolar, Depression and Generalized Anxiety with panic attacks. I’m?

  • Posted on December 22, 2010 at 4:33 pm

having a hard time handling life and motherhood and I feel I’m dragging my loved ones down with me. In the last 8+ years I have been employed quite a few times and haven’t held a single one. I started drinking when I was young and alcoholism and my choices have caused a great deal of problems and worry. I have 2 DUI’s and have 6 months left of probation but worry about paying anything. I have become a loser. My credit is so bad and I don’t have a single penny to even get Anything put in my name. I’m trying to keep pressing on. I have gone to numerous detoxes and most recently successfully completed 8 1/2 months in residential treatment facility. My daughter was 3 months when I entered. I am still sober but it’s not easy. I almost fatally shot myself in July of 2006 and tear my family up with my problems. I want to be alive and be happy and healthy but I’m having a hard time building a ladder to crawl out of this hole. No job, no money, no license. I want to go to school. I want to contribute. I need to fight harder. I’m stuck. Jails, institutions and near death. I know you can’t answer this for me but can I pull out of this and be the person I know in my heart I’m meant to be?

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Will New York cave into Caroline Kennedy’s demand & give her the senate seat? ?

  • Posted on December 21, 2010 at 4:32 pm

Governor Patterson has intense pressure by New York liberals to gift Caroline Kennedy a senate seat because she is JFK’s daughter. The same people who ridiculed Palin for being unqualified for VP, want to give Caroline a position just for her name alone. Caroline has absolutely no qualifications whatsoever but somehow liberals have no issue with this. Huh?

Please take a look at the Kennedy family; not the whitewash that the liberal media created but look at the history of this family.

Kennedys are known for their arrogance, elitism and not earning their way in life. Caroline’s mother, Jackie, was raised to be a socialite, to marry rich and powerful men. Her grandfather Joe, was Irish mafia, who led life of crime, earning his money the same way John Gotti did BUT somehow the liberal media loves the Kennedys and has spun heavy propaganda to fool the public about the Kennedys.

The entire family has lived off of others earnings, not believing in hard work or making your own way in life- the family has lived selfish elitist lifestyles, littered with alcoholism, drug abuse, one committed murder, one committed felony manslaughter, one raped a woman then used the media to disparage the victim, none of have achieved anything through hard work and self reliance. Truly the Kennedys mirror and represent everything wrong with liberalism.

Should Governor Patterson give in to Caroline’s demand to be senator, although she has no right or qualification for the position?
Heidi- were you one of the libs claiming Palin was unqualified for VP? I thought so……. Liberals are not entitled to control congress or the media as you think!

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Do all Moon/Pluto people have mother (parent) issues? Please tell me it ain’t so! No astrology bashers PLEASE!?

  • Posted on December 20, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I come from a very plutonian/neptunian family. I am one myself. My son has moon in scorpio and my daughter has moon square pluto. I know this is only a small piece of the personality. But, every moon/pluto person I know was either emotionally or physically abused or had a parent suffering alcoholism. My mom abandoned me. My dad was great most times, but he was a liar, manipulator and he physically assaulted me and every wife or girlfriend he has ever had. I know that’s strange to say that he was great most times, but it’s true. I could “see” his heart, which was great, but his ego was out of control! My kids’ also have moon square pluto and he can never have a “real” conversation with his mom; she never validates his feelings and experiences. she also used to cry before he could even express his perspective of her. He’d say, “mom, in childhood I couldn’t go out with friends and….” but she would have tears rolling down her face before he could finish his sentence. “Well if you think I’m a bad mother, why don’t you right down all the horrible things you think about me and I’ll stay away since I’m not wanted,” she would reply. Our parents/family labeled us as the sensitive one, but they were the ones being abusive or pouting all the time.

Now we are afraid that we will be like our parents. Can we change for our children? Even if we do better than our parents is it fate for our kids to feel the same about us as we do our own parents. Sometimes it seems that, based on a person’s inherited personality traits, he or she will interpret the parent(s) based on their own outlook-he or she will “hold onto” certain parts of the parent. Because, as I said, my dad had many great qualities. I just can’t let go of the hurtful ones!

I want to be a good mother. Even more than that, I don’t want to do anything to cause deep psychological scars to my babies. I know no parent is perfect, I just need any type of HELPFUL info! We can’t go to our families for advice; those plutonians don’t want to HEAL!
Lorraine, my kids’ father has moon square pluto and moon square saturn-serious mother problems!
ADDED: Jolie, that gives me hope! I’m sure even without astrology I would try to be more self-aware because that’s what my heart wants. Thanks

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Do all Moon/Pluto people have mother (parent) issues? Please tell me it ain’t so! No astrology bashers PLEASE!?

  • Posted on December 19, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I come from a very plutonian/neptunian family. I am one myself. My son has moon in scorpio and my daughter has moon square pluto. I know this is only a small piece of the personality. But, every moon/pluto person I know was either emotionally or physically abused or had a parent suffering alcoholism. My mom abandoned me. My dad was great most times, but he was a liar, manipulator and he physically assaulted me and every wife or girlfriend he has ever had. I know that’s strange to say that he was great most times, but it’s true. I could “see” his heart, which was great, but his ego was out of control! My kids’ also have moon square pluto and he can never have a “real” conversation with his mom; she never validates his feelings and experiences. she also used to cry before he could even express his perspective of her. He’d say, “mom, in childhood I couldn’t go out with friends and….” but she would have tears rolling down her face before he could finish his sentence. “Well if you think I’m a bad mother, why don’t you right down all the horrible things you think about me and I’ll stay away since I’m not wanted,” she would reply. Our parents/family labeled us as the sensitive one, but they were the ones being abusive or pouting all the time.

Now we are afraid that we will be like our parents. Can we change for our children? Even if we do better than our parents is it fate for our kids to feel the same about us as we do our own parents. Sometimes it seems that, based on a person’s inherited personality traits, he or she will interpret the parent(s) based on their own outlook-he or she will “hold onto” certain parts of the parent. Because, as I said, my dad had many great qualities. I just can’t let go of the hurtful ones!

I want to be a good mother. Even more than that, I don’t want to do anything to cause deep psychological scars to my babies. I know no parent is perfect, I just need any type of HELPFUL info! We can’t go to our families for advice; those plutonians don’t want to HEAL!
Lorraine, my kids’ father has moon square pluto and moon square saturn-serious mother problems!
ADDED: Jolie, that gives me hope! I’m sure even without astrology I would try to be more self-aware because that’s what my heart wants. Thanks

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Will New York cave into Caroline Kennedy’s demand & give her the senate seat? ?

  • Posted on December 16, 2010 at 4:33 pm

Governor Patterson has intense pressure by New York liberals to gift Caroline Kennedy a senate seat because she is JFK’s daughter. The same people who ridiculed Palin for being unqualified for VP, want to give Caroline a position just for her name alone. Caroline has absolutely no qualifications whatsoever but somehow liberals have no issue with this. Huh?

Please take a look at the Kennedy family; not the whitewash that the liberal media created but look at the history of this family.

Kennedys are known for their arrogance, elitism and not earning their way in life. Caroline’s mother, Jackie, was raised to be a socialite, to marry rich and powerful men. Her grandfather Joe, was Irish mafia, who led life of crime, earning his money the same way John Gotti did BUT somehow the liberal media loves the Kennedys and has spun heavy propaganda to fool the public about the Kennedys.

The entire family has lived off of others earnings, not believing in hard work or making your own way in life- the family has lived selfish elitist lifestyles, littered with alcoholism, drug abuse, one committed murder, one committed felony manslaughter, one raped a woman then used the media to disparage the victim, none of have achieved anything through hard work and self reliance. Truly the Kennedys mirror and represent everything wrong with liberalism.

Should Governor Patterson give in to Caroline’s demand to be senator, although she has no right or qualification for the position?
Heidi- were you one of the libs claiming Palin was unqualified for VP? I thought so……. Liberals are not entitled to control congress or the media as you think!

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Do all Moon/Pluto people have mother (parent) issues? Please tell me it ain’t so! No astrology bashers PLEASE!?

  • Posted on December 15, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I come from a very plutonian/neptunian family. I am one myself. My son has moon in scorpio and my daughter has moon square pluto. I know this is only a small piece of the personality. But, every moon/pluto person I know was either emotionally or physically abused or had a parent suffering alcoholism. My mom abandoned me. My dad was great most times, but he was a liar, manipulator and he physically assaulted me and every wife or girlfriend he has ever had. I know that’s strange to say that he was great most times, but it’s true. I could “see” his heart, which was great, but his ego was out of control! My kids’ also have moon square pluto and he can never have a “real” conversation with his mom; she never validates his feelings and experiences. she also used to cry before he could even express his perspective of her. He’d say, “mom, in childhood I couldn’t go out with friends and….” but she would have tears rolling down her face before he could finish his sentence. “Well if you think I’m a bad mother, why don’t you right down all the horrible things you think about me and I’ll stay away since I’m not wanted,” she would reply. Our parents/family labeled us as the sensitive one, but they were the ones being abusive or pouting all the time.

Now we are afraid that we will be like our parents. Can we change for our children? Even if we do better than our parents is it fate for our kids to feel the same about us as we do our own parents. Sometimes it seems that, based on a person’s inherited personality traits, he or she will interpret the parent(s) based on their own outlook-he or she will “hold onto” certain parts of the parent. Because, as I said, my dad had many great qualities. I just can’t let go of the hurtful ones!

I want to be a good mother. Even more than that, I don’t want to do anything to cause deep psychological scars to my babies. I know no parent is perfect, I just need any type of HELPFUL info! We can’t go to our families for advice; those plutonians don’t want to HEAL!
Lorraine, my kids’ father has moon square pluto and moon square saturn-serious mother problems!
ADDED: Jolie, that gives me hope! I’m sure even without astrology I would try to be more self-aware because that’s what my heart wants. Thanks

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