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friends daughter pregnant please advice?

  • Posted on February 27, 2011 at 6:17 pm

hi guys can do with a bit of advice here please. my daughters friend who’s almost 14 has just found out shes pregnant. long story short.my own daughter made her take a test and come straight to me for advice.
i know her parents need to be told but i really don’t know how to go about it as her parents are alcoholic’s and drug users and couldn’t give there daughter a 2nd thought.
i know she will have a good beating when they do find out as shes had many over the years.
she knows what a stupid thing she had done and believe me she is in bits. more so over the facts of how her parents will react.
should social services be involved before her parents are told as i am really concerned for her well being and can see her father trying to kick the baby out of her. she has missed 2 periods so im guessing shes at least 8 or 9 weeks pregnant.
please any advice will be much appreciated on how to handle this situation
thanks in advance
because i got the tile wrong way round. was meant to be daughters friend sorry for the confusion

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Fiancee is living in the past, How can i get her to get over her old fiance? Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 26, 2011 at 9:20 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 23, 2011 at 5:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 22, 2011 at 7:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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How can i make her move on, its driving me crazy! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 21, 2011 at 9:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a few months ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Two years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. She sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 20, 2011 at 11:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 17, 2011 at 5:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her old fiance! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 16, 2011 at 7:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her old fiance! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 13, 2011 at 3:20 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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