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I just realized my husband is an alcoholic. What now?

  • Posted on May 15, 2011 at 6:17 pm

What do I do? I’ve teased and thought for a while that maybe he was and we’ve been starting to have a lot of problems and are looking for a counselor but haven’t made it yet, I just don’t get the feeling he really wants to, you know..I don’t know how to explain it to someone who isn’t or hasn’t been in a similar situation. Well, anyway after a while, I’ve read up and I’ve studied the so called steps they take and well they are about 3-4 steps and he’s on his way to the second step. I know his parents notice it. His real dad is a alcoholic and he’s never met him nor ever wanted to and swore when his mom told him (after my husband got a DUI**, Yeah I know) he didn’t want to turn into his dad that he’s been turning into him. things were fine until certain events in our life happened. We have a two year old daughter and I just don’t what to do, as of now I just don’t feel like things will change but I don’t want to give up. I don’t know if I should leave for a while and let him get his sh*T together or what, but if I leave him I don’t know how our finances will work, our set up is weird. Please anyone, I don’t know what to think or what to do, or what to say to him or should I go to his parents.
He hasn’t touched either of us and I truly don’t believe he will, but I didn’t think I’d be in this situation with him he really is a complete different person then I married, a lot of people are telling me it may be because he’s cheating on me, I can say sometimes I truly believe he is, but I don’t have proof and can really say either way.

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hop do i help my alcoholic mum in denial?

  • Posted on May 6, 2011 at 2:17 pm

my mum is an alcoholic – every night she sits alone downstairs and drinks 1-2 bottles of wine, passes out on the sofa and finally gets herself to bed at about 4 am. i don’t live at home anymore-i’m 23 and have a daughter, but i worry for my family. my sisters live there (aged 12 and 14) and my dad and older brother too. my bro doesn’t stay there much though. dad said she stinks of alcohol in the morning but if he ever tries to speak to her she tells him its all his fault. she’s so abusive when drunk i heard her try to glass my dad once. my sisters don’t see it as they are in bed thankfully but they know she drinks a lot. they don’t have the happy childhood i remember as no-one seems to have the time or energy for them now. they always hear mum and dad arguing at night, and my mum is negative about my dad all day that they pick up on it and treat him the same. i feel sorry for him as he gets abuse from everyone! he loves my mum so much he wont give up on her. She’s got quite fat from her drinking too, which concerns me as its so dangerous.dad had a heart attack this week (stress induced) and even in hospital she was having a go at him, just cos the doctors asked him how much he drinks. i am close to my mum but she seems to think this is all a big joke. i just don’t know how to get through to her. im worried for her health and that of my family too.

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my ex-girlfriend is an alcoholic- Can i help her?

  • Posted on May 5, 2011 at 4:18 pm

My ex-girlfriend (whom I am friends with still) is 23 and is an alcoholic. She was admitted to a mental health facility for 5 days a few weeks ago after a suicide attempt, and they said she could never drink again. She said that since then she has been drinking every single night, several times to the point where she blacks out. She confessed last night to having unprotected sex with someone she met in the hospital (a male, where i am female).

She has had a very rough life, especially as a child. I am going to do what I can to see that she gets Professional help regarding her alcohol abuse- She has many more issues but this is one i want to tackle first.

Do you have any suggestions? is AA meetings her only option? I think she was already in some but isn’t going (I could be wrong, just guessing on something I heard). I want to help her but I can’t do everything for her.

Last night she got shitfaced drunk and ended up in the ER getting her stomach pumped after I called her roommate (who is out of town), who in turn called the police.

My ex-girlfriend tried to admit herself to the mental health facility but they denied her saying that she “was just there, they already diagnosed her with depression, what more does she want?” :(

I am going to talk to her roommate and tell her she can’t drink with my ex-girlfriend around.
I am going to email her mom and tell her to step up and get involved in her daughter’s life again.
ANY helpful advice is appreciated. I am going over to her house in a few minutes to help her get the apartment cleaned up before her roommate comes home.

I just need help. Advice, words of encouragement, ideas. I simply cannot sit back and watch her wither away with alcohol.

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my mom is a bad alcoholic?

  • Posted on May 2, 2011 at 10:17 pm

my mom is and has been an alcoholic for year since i can remmebr im 23 now. Its not even funny. She drinks Vodka .. its not a funny drunk its like a big B8tch drunk who’s completely different adn embarrassing. I moved out 2 years ago. I had a baby a year ago.. and i refuse to even elt her watch er bc of this.. Shell come to my house on holiday and get plastered.. ewhen she is sober shes great so kind a nd generous.. so i feel bad when don’t let her see my daughter or when id ont invite her over.. she trys to be sneaky and put vodka in a water bottle and come up.. im not dumb. Im getting to the point where i feel im fading from here because of this.. ive tried to bring it up in the past several times.. it all ends bad.. there is nothing i can do or say.. i thought having a granddaughter would help but no… shes ruined many friendship because of this and i don’t think anything will help.. i mean i don’t even wanna introduce her to anyone.

anyone ever go through this/ im an only child/ shes a single parent too.

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my daughters friend’s mom is an alcoholic..?

  • Posted on May 2, 2011 at 12:17 am

they are 12 and in the 7th grae but i dont think she should be allowed to sleep over at this friends house. do you agree or am i being a little to harsh?

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Two characters, one is an alcoholic and the other is a drug user?

  • Posted on April 29, 2011 at 6:17 am

Even though I’m writing a dark fantasy story I need a few things from reality. The husband is an alcoholic and real heavy with prostitutes. The mother is lazy, uses drugs and wishes she had a daughter instead of a son. She dressed him up as a girl when he was young, hoping he’d grow up forgetting that he’s a man. The husband hates that his wife is turning his son into a sissy. But one night a neighbor calls the police because he hears yelling and crying and is afraid something is severely wrong. My question is what could the two be fighting about? Should the husband hit his wife or slap his kid? I’m already keeping with the wife being angry about her husbands affiliation with prostitutes. The kid is put into foster care.

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Have I done the right thing with my Alcoholic mother?

  • Posted on April 28, 2011 at 8:17 am

My mother is an alcoholic and has been for all my life. She gets so bad sometimes, she passes out on the couch and gets really aggressive.
She’s never hit me (although she has done to both my sisters and my brother), but has emotionally abused me ever since her and my father split, almost 5 years ago. But tonight it got so bad that I walked out and went to my fathers just to get away from her.
Now, she’s threatening to got to court to get full custody of me and is saying that I might not even be my fathers child, but it’s all a lie as I am the double of his other daughter (my older sister) and I don’t even know if I want to go back to her’s.

I am so confused as to what to do. Am I a bad daughter for walking out on her, even though she had been doing nothing but shouting at me since I had arrived, or did I do the right thing by going to my dad.

Has anyone else been in the same situation or have any advice for me.

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My Dad is an alcoholic? What should i do?

  • Posted on April 27, 2011 at 10:17 am

Ok, my Dad has been an alcoholic since I can remember. Due to his excessive drinking, he developed the disease Pancreatitis. Recently, we had a really bad scare. According to his wife, he got out of bed and had symptoms of a stroke. He went to the doctors after we forced him to by calling the police and his blood work came back really messed up. They made him come back for more testing and a full body scan (forgot what it’s called). We were all thinking the worst, cancer or something along those lines and my dad was very scared. When the results came back, surprisingly, everything was fine. He had slight liver damage but was told it could easily be repaired if he changed his lifestyle. Fast forward two weeks… Last night, my dad shows up at my place, where me and my 4 month old son live drunk. I was so pist, it was like a huge slap in the face. So i told his wife today and she said she knew he was drunk yesterday too, that she could tell. She went home on her lunch break and told him that if he doesn’t stop she’s going to leave and told him what I said about how he was drunk last night. He texts me an hour later and tells me “Thanks” (meaning thanks for telling his wife, what she already knew!) And i told him “Thank youself.” And then he went on to insult me and tell me to worry about my dead beat bf and blah blah blah. I simply told him he could insult me all he wants if it makes him feel better. I’m done caring about him because he obviously doesn’t. And he told me not to contact him anymore and I said Gladly.What would you do in this situation? I really want to disconnect from the dysfunction all together but feel like I have a responsibility as his daughter to help him. Keep in mind, we have tried everything and nothing seems to work. I am at a loss…
Aside from the fact that he’s killing himself with alcohol, he is completely abnoxious and inappropriate when he’s drunk and says things that make me really uncomfortable. Like last night he was talking about how his upstairs neighbors are gay guys and said “yea.. i heard one say, “ugh i got poop on my weiner.” He obviously didn’t hear them say that… but he says inappropriate stuff like this when he’s drunk ALL THE TIME.

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Am I considered an alcoholic?

  • Posted on April 26, 2011 at 12:17 pm

I feel like I’ve been drinking to much for the past 2 years but my wife doesn’t say anything

Heres my schedule. I drink Fri, Sat, Mon and Wed and I start around 7pm and stop at midnight on workdays, on my days off I don’t stop at a set time. We’re new to our current city so i don’t have any friends here our closest friends are 12 hours away so I drink at home by myself and I’m 25 married with 1 child. I drink the same amount everytime which is 4 bottles of Budlight and a pint of Hennessy and when it’s done I eat then go to bed btw I’m 6’1″ 190lbs so that doesn’t get me wasted just a good buzz. But the problem is that on those days i mentioned I feel like I have to drink on those nights even though at times in the afternoon when I’m at work I tell myself I won’t drink tonight but I usually give in. I’m not a sloppy drunk, I don’t stagger unless I drink more than the usual and I’ve been drinking the same amount since we got married and moved away. My drinking doesn’t effect my job I’m always on time and I don’t start fights with the wife and we still have good sex but I still feel guilty the next day like I’m not being a good husband because when I drink I stay quiet so my wife gets on the computer, my daughter watches Tv in her room or plays with her toys and I usually play Madden, listen to music or talk to my friends on the phone. So at times I feel like I’m neglecting my family but my wife said theres nothing wrong with my drinking. And also my mom use to be an alcoholic so I’m scared I might turn into her one day.

So do you think I have a problem. I’m off of work tomorrow so that means I will drink tonight. BTW I use to drink alot more before we got married, I and my friends would be up all night drinking going to clubs but now I mellowed out but I feel it’s not good enough

How many of you are the same or do you drink more and or do you have a drinking schedule?
Also another reason why I think I must drink is because of boredom. When i don’t drink I and the wife watch tv together and I’m usually forced to watch Dancing with the Stars, Glee, Real Housewives of whatever city they’re in and we use to watch that god awful Kate plus 8 but give me a couple shots and a beer and it doesn’t really bother me. I will just go outside and find something to throw on the grill
To Matt: WTF only blacks and wiggers enjoy Hennessy. I would much prefer Remy Martin and I would settle for Courvoisier, Maybe Patron, Greygoose and or Belvedere. What the phuck does race have to do with this. Maybe I should of mentioned Heineken, Jagerbombs and Jack just to make you feel better

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My mom is an alcoholic………………?

  • Posted on April 25, 2011 at 2:17 pm

I don’t really have much of a question, I just want to talk about it and hear other people’s situation.
My mom has been an alcoholic all of my life. Not only that, but she’s done meth for a couple years at some point. She is insane. I hate her so much. She has no reason to hate her life. Her childhood was perfect. Her two past husbands were really good people, including my dad. She’s tried to kill herself numerous times, but purposely tells people beforehand so they’ll stop her. She wouldn’t actually do it. She had the perfect family. She was well loved. Since my dad has gotten re-married a year and a half ago, she has been harrassing us with messages and calls calling him evil and a bastard. Recently, she accused him of making me be his porn star and I HATE HER SO MUCH FOR THAT. I could go on about all the crazy things she’s done.

But I just really want a mom. More than anything I would give everything up. All of my friends can say “I’m going shopping with my mom.” I can’t do that with my stepmom because she already has an evil daughter. It kills me that I don’t have a mom. I desparately want my dad to marry someone without children, but I know he loves my stepmom. Idk why I’m posting this, I just want to write my feelings down is all. The worst part is I can’t confide anything into a best friend because I don’t have one. I only have good friends who already have best friends.
That’s why I’m posting this.

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