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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 17, 2011 at 5:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her old fiance! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 16, 2011 at 7:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her old fiance! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 13, 2011 at 3:20 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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My whole life has been torn apart! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS!?

  • Posted on January 15, 2011 at 5:21 pm

Im 26 and was engaged to my amazing fiance who i had been with since i was 13yrs old. I gave birth to our daughter when i was 16 and she was the apple of his eye. My fiance was a musician in a band and he would write me songs or write music for our daughter. I love him so much, every time i seen him i fell more in love with him more. Last year my world came crashing down when he died of a heroin overdose, I tried to make him stop many times but he always told me he could handle it and he never used around our daughter, It was only a few months before he died that he started using heroin and i hated him for doing it. I never grieved for him and everyone says part of me died with him, I feel like i have lost my will to live. I started to write poetry about him and it gives me an outlet, Our daughter always mentions her daddy and listens to his music. I lay awake at night staring into space or break down crying and i feel like there is a huge hole in my heart. When he passed i took his last name and now use it. I find it hard to see his parents but my daughter is still close to them. I feel like a ghost of a person i was when i was with him.I don’t even want to talk to my family or friends about what happened i feel like im in denial. The guy that always had a crush on me is really nice to me and lets me get things off my chest. He was the love of my life and i don’t know how to life without him.

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Custody of my baby girl, Experienced answers only please…. I need to know some things..?

  • Posted on November 21, 2010 at 4:32 pm

OK, here goes. I plan on leaving the father of my two year old baby girl. He’s already stated that he’ll get custody, though I’m not sure why he says that… Let me give you some details. I live in New York State. He works during the day, I stay home with my little girl all day. At night, three nights a week, I work from five to ten thirty. He has her till eight those nights, ans at eight o’clock, she goes to bed. He had my nine year old daughter watch her a lot on the nights I work, and I would be working more, except that he really won’t let me, though after I move, I’ll be able to get more hours. I have custody of my oldest child, not through the courts, but her dad has no problem with her being with me at all, he sees her every weekend, and that’s working out just fine. I haven’t got a drinking problem, drug problem or alcoholism. I am going to school to be a teacher, and I have never abused or been mean to my children. Actually, I think I’m a really good mom. And so do my kids, my oldest and I are extremely close, and my baby and I are as well. I love them so damn much, and it’s stressing myself and my oldest out to be here, he’s possessive, controlling and mean spirited. He yells a lot, and I can’t do a thing, can’t leave the house, can’t do anything without being interrogated. I’m almost developing a nervous condition, and it’s time to go… My question is, I’m terrified when I go to court, he’ll make something up about me, in order to get my kids. My ex’s mother and sister are going in to be witnessed for me, but I’m not sure what is going to happen, and I can’t allow her to be raised by a short tempered man. I’m so scared I could lose her, and I need some advice or experiences from you guys… Please please take the time to answer me today… I’m sick over this, and paralyzed by fear of losing my baby. Please help. I want my life happy, with BOTH of my children.
John, Happy Hunter and KK. Thank you SO much. I need some reassurance through this time.. Unfortunately, Happy Hunter, I can’t put school off, since I’m already halfway through. In NYS, I know I need to have PHYSICAL witnesses, not just statements, or else I would have had a lot more. I know the law guardians will also talk to my eldest, and she will tell them what’s happening, although if I had it my way, I would leave her out of it altogether… On a more personal note, John and KK thank you for the complimentary answers as well, I needed the self confidence boost. Fighting for your child is like fighting for your life… Thank you so much.

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What Would Yahoo Answers Have Been Like?

  • Posted on November 15, 2010 at 7:24 am

If it had existed all through historical times?

For example

Yahoo Answers 8000BC: Dear Yahoo Answers: GRAHHH UCKK Me make FIIRE, OH **** NEANDERTHALS!!?!?!?!

Yahoo Answers 2BC: Dear Yahoo Answers: Why are these Egyptians so hoity toity and won’t let any Roman date their domestic livestock?

Yahoo Answers 410AD Dear Yahoo Answers: My daughter won’t eat turnips, should I have the village monk preform an excorcism? I have four dried cow stomachs and a horned helmet I stole from a drunk viking I could pay with. Sincerely, Larry the Norwegian rat plague boy.

Yahoo Answers 1847AD: Dear Yahoo Answers: How do I stop these Goddamn buffaloes from crapping all over the roof of my sod house. The Comanches say my house stinks so bad the prairie dogs pass out 4 miles away and it’s really annoying.

So, what do You think Yahoo Answers would have been like in olden days?
Great answer Baron, LOL
Love the 1955 one GESM
Nice Avril
Top 5 cave paintings, LOL

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My kids are addicts, serious answers only…?

  • Posted on November 8, 2010 at 9:21 pm

My daughter is a heroin addict and my son has depression problems and just gave his notice at work to go into treatment. He’s also a former “cutter”. I’m about at my wits end trying to deal with all of this. I’ve done everything but get on my knees and beg my daughter to go into detox/treatment, I’ve tried tough love, kindness and nothing works. My son lives at home and I’m worrying about what he’ll do about a job after he does treatment because he was working close to home, got paid pretty well and I see him depleting his savings to live on. I know that should be the last thing to worry about but I do. Do all parents blame themselves for their children’s problems? Are there any others out there? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I feel so helpless.
Thanks to all of you for your serious answers, except boot camp boy. My son went to the Stress Unit and we found out his Seroquel (sp?) had been reduced, doctor increased it and he’s coming home tomorrow. I want to give you all a best answer (except boot camp boy) so this is going to be tough. I appreciate so much your thoughtful responses (exept boot camp boy)
Forgot to mention daughter is still using, if you pray, please keep her in your prayers. I fear that dreaded phone call of an overdose. Once again, thanks for your advice. When it happens to your family, you think this only happens on tv and then you realize you’re not alone.

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this is dedicated to all the dad’s in yahoo answers!?

  • Posted on October 7, 2010 at 1:23 am

A father passing by his teenage daughter’s bedroom was astonished to
see the bed was nicely made and
everything was neat and tidy. Then he saw an envelope propped up
prominently on the centre of the pillow. It
was addressed “Dad”. With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope
and read the letter with trembling
hands:-

Dear Dad,

It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you, but I’m
leaving home . I had to elope with my new
boyfriend Randy because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you.
I’ve been finding real passion with Randy
and he is so nice to me. I know when you meet him you’ll like him too
- even with all his piercing,
tattoos, and motorcycle clothes. But it’s not only the passion Dad, I’m
pregnant and Randy said that he wants
me to have the kid and that we can be very happy together. Even though
Randy is much older than me
(anyway, 42 isn’t so old these days is it?), and has no money, really
these things shouldn’t stand in the
way of our relationship , don’t you agree?

Randy has a great CD collection; he already owns a trailer in the woods
and has a stack of firewood for!
the whole winter. It’s true he has other girlfriends as well but I know
he’ll be faithful to me in his own
way. He wants to have many more children with me and that’s now one of
my dreams too. Randy taught me that
marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone and he’ll be growing it for us and
we’ll trade it with our friends
for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want. In the meantime, we’ll pray
that science will find a cure for
AIDS so Randy can get better; he sure deserves it!!

Your loving daughter,
Rosie.

At the bottom of the page were the letters “PTO”.

Hands still trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read:

PS: Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at the neighbor’s house. I
just wanted to remind you that
there are worse things in life than my report card that’s in my desk
centre drawer. Please sign it and
call when it is safe for me to come home.I love U

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Get answers from millions of real people.?

  • Posted on September 22, 2010 at 4:32 pm

My x employer terminated me 2 weeks after a unforseen event that was not in my control, Also I was asked by the owner of my company about it and is was very important to me (16 years of AA). He assured me my privacy is protected. It was not. He refused unemployment benefits to a threat I had made to another indidual, which is false. I did not inform my employer that I am on Probation through the court house till 2009. They insist this was grounds and a criminal offence. They did not call the police to report it because they wanted to give me a break. What they don’t know is if this was true, I would be thrown in jail for 1-3 years for violating my probation, who I see every month. Can I ask them why they would think in doing such a criminal act if I knew I would go to jail? And lose custody of my daughter? Rip my life to shreds over this? (my probation officer knows all of this and has provided documentaion that discribes what my personal character
shows this is nothing, and unbelieveable, and dilebrately caused harm to me without malace) It is not something I would ever do. Also, I do not use my alcoholism as a weapon to benefit myself. And although I never said anything about my alcoholism nor did the EEOC, the employer said he received a notice in the mail that this is what I am charging them. Did they just discredit themselves? I did not file a claim for alcoholism, because I didn’t, I just filed a claim on what happened when I was terminated and never accused them of anything. Why didn’t tell me I filed discrimination charges because I am a short, blonde, chick who steals every womans husbands who are atleast 6′ tall or over? (funny, funny but what is the difference? which one is more believable?) and they were jealous of me because I’m cool and they’re not?

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