“ALL exams are so hard! They strike up with unexpected, brain-cracking questions, which are nowhere near possible to answer correctly! That’s why my Chemistry test failed! This is so unfair! How are we supposed to ace it? Gee. Why do we EVEN NEED exams??”
Are you nodding to the statement, or shaking your head to it? While reading the statement did your brain come through several of arguments against and for it? If you were, did you always find yourself in the middle of an argument a lot of times? Well, then, you’ve find the right bible to hold on and read!
Have you ever wonder, why you are in arguments in the first place? Statements. Statements are the seed to blooming arguments. According to an interview with Ines Liu, whom is a very philosophical student, she said, “Nearly all arguments start by statements. Then people would start to think if it’s wrong or right automatically. It’s like debates. Every debate starts by a statement, where the opposing or proposing side would have to argue for their side.”
Think about it, if there was no statement, what is there to even argue? But on the other hand, Alice Wong, a best friend of mine, who was once my enemy, has other thoughts. She thinks the disliking and jealousy of someone is the seed of an argument. “I think arguments start with disliking this person you are arguing to. For example if the person you are arguing with is an enemy of yours, you would disagree on what they had said instantly by instinct. I think most of the disliking habit is also due to jealousy.”
Well once you’ve known why arguments start, do you know, how to resist and prevent an argument? Having different opinions and needing to accept that everyone has different point of views is a way of preventing arguments. Dr. Kilagore, a Psychologist from Johns Hopkins Hospital in US, states, “I’m the head of the Mental and Social Health department
in my hospital, so half of the patients that come everyday have both Mental and Social Health problems. From the patients I have, half of them asked me how to stop yourself being included in an argument. There are a range of ways to, but first, you have to accept the fact that, everyone has different point of views, so you can’t expect everyone to agree with you. So you will have to listen and think about what the person you are arguing with said, instead of disagreeing them right at the point when you haven’t even thought about it thoroughly.”
Another way to stop an argument after accepting the fact that people has different point of views is to ignore them. Student Iris Lok says, “I and my brother argue a lot. Sometimes I find him so annoying, I want to stop arguing with him. So I ignore him and let them shout until they eventually stop. It always work. Always.”
Besides preventing arguments, do you know how you resist your parents? Especially, to the daughters out there, did you always think that your mom is so annoying because they are always saying “no” when you ask them for something? Or to do something? Where then you go and ask your dad instead?
Right when your mom or your dad disagrees with something you asked for, you let out your screaming self didn’t you? Well, hold that, and think. Did it work? By rare chances it may…but, you don’t want to go screaming your head off do you? The best way to get a bigger chance on what you are longing to get is to…calmly talk to them. Smart talk them. Don’t raise your voice, just say all the good points about what you want to get with strong, bold reasons.
Do you know how to break out bad news or news that are embarrassing or something you need to tell them where at the same them you don’t want to tell to your parents? Well here are a few tips you can pick up to break the news!
First, you need to tell them one at a time if you are breaking the news to more than one person. Make sure they are alone with you; where the place you chose is quiet and comfortable. If it’s extremely bad news that isn’t music to ears, make them something to eat or drink. It can be as simple as a cup of tea. Start by talking about good things you did today. You can lead this to school on how your grades are high. Bring them into a good mood. Then slowly turn your direction of conversation to what the news is about. Right before you spill the bad news, say this or in the lines of this, “I need to tell you something important. But it isn’t good. It’s bad news.” The point of this is to make sure they are prepared for what’s coming next. If the news is really bad add the extra sugar, “Promise you won’t get mad, please, promise.” At least they won’t get THAT mad.
On the other hand, if you are planning to say some news you don’t want to tell, but need to, you could do the same above except say this instead, “Okay. So I need to tell you something really important. Just listen to me say all of it first. BUT promise not to freak.”
So, from dodging arguments to breaking special news, good luck with succeeding!
