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Okay Im back, asking you to be my jury! Custody issue here?

  • Posted on October 30, 2010 at 8:23 am

Well i was a real good momma , I thought. My children were 18 months and 3 years old when my ex surprised me and servd me with a petition for custody. I had left him, took the kids and moved in with grandma.The ex and I were both using drugs, he drank everyday-I was more of a weekend drinker, we both on ocassion used cocaine after a night drinking-Me one line, him a lot. After I was served with papers I appeared in court a few days later. He demanded I be tested for drugs-A shock to me, cuz I figure we both are gonna lose the kids. HE WAS CLEAN, I was dirty-SHOCK!! He knew it was coming, I didn’t. I immediatly called and got help for my problems. Now, almost two years later, I am remarried to a wonderful man whom has a daughter, does not drink or use, he has supported me 100% in my recovery, I attend AA, sponsor a woman myself,have beeen through drug out patient rehab for 2 months last year. over 150 hours of counseling and I am happy, clean and sober, with 10 drug test (hair, and urine) to prove it.
In the beginning the oppsing lawyer demanded that I give up custody of the girls to get help for 90 days. 90 days came and went one and a half years ago. We went back to court and they all laughed and said “that wasn’t written in the record”. Bad attorney I had.. I used to get the girls everyother weekend. They were always sick as dogs, bleeding diaper rashes,ear infections e.t.c I always took them to the doctor and helped them, because he would not. Then they accused me of having Munchausen syndrome by proxy! Then they insisted on Supervised visits only. Then they put me on supervised after having a P.I follow me last year and he lied in his testimony about seeing me take the kids to see my father whom had an injunction on him not to see the girls because they dug up an old charge that was public lewdness from 1986! They won-supervised visits only for me. I pay $200.00 a week to see my girls for 4 hours. This actually turned out to not be so bad, because the supervisor documents all the abuse the girls are claiming, the jealous new 15 year younger girlfriends negative comments about me, e.t.c Now comes trial in a few months, I have opted for a jury of my peers. His side of the story- A bad mom who was on drugs and her family has a history of drug abuse (yep, family of origin issue here). Me- A mom who has proof I paid all the bills, he never worked, has no tax returns, sold dope (will have witnesses), used drugs, had DWI, jailed 7 times in the past 7 years for tickets, has been through no recovery, drinks like a fish daily and in the car with kids (they tell on him) ,non payment of his support for his son, warrants for bad checks e.t.c. I also despite my smoking weed a couple times a week, took my children to the library, parks,had great b-day parties, was very involved in every aspect of their life. Now of course I can do even better with NO addictions. Let me know what yall think my chances are of regaining custody. I hear the longer the kids are there, the harder it will be to get them back with me. They cry when they leave me, they beg to come and live with me, this is all documented. But the law in my state clearly states-There must be a substantial or material change to warrant the removal from him of custody-I think it’s there do you?
thanks,
sad lost mommy without my babies

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My ex keeps calling and asking for me and our 2 kids to hang out with him and his g.f and her new baby….?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 4:32 pm

The baby is not his. A little background. He has supervised visits due to his alcoholism and abuse/neglect issues he had with our girls when they were in his care. I offer to supervise his visits, as well as his mom or sisters, but my youngest hates hanging out with his new g/f and her son when they are with her dad. The g/f works at walmart and anytime alice sees her there she is very happy and even seeks her out. The g/f hates me, for whatever reason and the atmosphere is tense to say the least when we are all together. Which is probably why alice dislikes it so much.

I don;t want to subject my child to spending time with people she doesn;t want to. When her dad is on his own and comes to visit or when we go to his place to visit and he is alone my daughter is fine and very happy to see her dad, as long as i am there with her. How can I make him understand that his visitation is for him alone, when i am the one supervising.
he has a list of expectations he needs to complete before he can get unsupervised time with his girls, after almost a year and a half he has yet to complete anything on it, and just recently has started calling more often. it used to be once or twice a month for a few minutes.

the g/f does dislike me, but I am very respectful to her when I am in a situation that involves both of us, for the sake of my kids, and because I feel nothing really but pity for her. She tends to ignore or make snide comments to me in front of my children, which I find unacceptable.

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Does anyone have good ideas on how to retain funds for legal fees with poor credit? Not asking much, just $2K

  • Posted on August 19, 2010 at 11:22 am

I was charged with DWI last week on my family vacation, and will need representation to try and mitigate my punishment. The legal fees and fines that I am facing, total $1500-$2000. I am already on an extremely tight budget and have challenged credit, but need decent representation, so that I can keep limited driving capabilities to take my daughter to school in the morning, and drive to and from work. I am far too embarrassed to ask for help from my extended family, because this is a problem that I created for myself and my wife, and I refuse to make my issue their burden. Does anyone have a good idea on how to obtain funds for legal fees for those who are having trouble financing it? If anyone has any experiences with this, or ideas, please let me know. Thanks!

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in reference to my recent question, the only reason i am asking this question is my daughter is a drug addict ?

  • Posted on August 6, 2010 at 10:21 pm

and she has been on methodone therapy at least a year to get over her addiction to opiates, now she is pregnant somewhere from conception to 3 months, i am trying to find a way other than abortion, i read that this procedure had been done once before and was successful, but, i read it online and i am not sure it is true. but, with the technology now i thought maybe it was.

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Everything You Want to Know About Asking for Help but Were Afraid to Ask

  • Posted on January 12, 2010 at 6:24 pm

What do these women have in common?

A young mother overwhelmed with caring for both a newborn and a two year old

A college student who realizes she is not as passionate about her major as she thought

A manager who feels she is not connecting with those who report to her

A daughter trying to help her aging parents who live in another state

A new widow whose husband handled the finances in the family

As you may have guessed, they all could use some kind of assistance. Yet, how many of these women will ask for it? Help can come in many forms. The young mom could ask a friend to watch the kids for a few hours so that she could take a nap. The college student could seek the advice of a favorite professor. The manager could ask a colleague that she respects, to be her mentor. The daughter could attend a local family-caregiver support group for ideas on how to care for her parents’ needs at a distance. The newly widowed woman could ask a trusted friend to advise her on the basics of family finance and act as a sounding board for any decisions that need to be made.

Why is it so hard to ask for what we need? I have learned over the years that there are times when even the most capable among us must ask for help. At times when I needed help but didn’t ask, I wondered whether it was because I’m a woman, a first-born, or just didn’t want to impose that I found it extremely difficult to turn to others for even the simplest of aid. When I examined my reluctance to request help from others, such as my friends and relatives, I came up with some heartfelt but often ridiculous reasons:

• I didn’t want to appear weak, disorganized, or incapable.
• Everyone has his or her own challenges and is too busy to deal with mine.
• Asking for help would make me feel dependent.
• I didn’t want to be a bother.
• It would be easier just to do things myself.

What about you? Do you find it easy or hard to turn to people who care about you and ask for their assistance when you need it? Asking for help is a skill. Many of us don’t possess it. For most of us it is one we could improve upon. It would make our life so much better if we didn’t hesitate to ask for help when we needed it.

Recently when a friend and I were talking about people’s reluctance to ask for help, it occurred to me that we are actually doing those who care about us a favor by coming to them for assistance. You give a gift when you ask for help. The people you ask feel important, useful, and, in many cases, honored that you approached them.

Think about the last time someone asked you for help. Did you find yourself making a judgment about him or her? Probably not. Didn’t your mind start clicking to what you could do? If you couldn’t help, you may have even felt guilty that you didn’t do your part to help your friend. How many times, when you discovered that a family member had a hardship or challenge, have you said, “Why didn’t you ask for my help?”

There may be some things that you would rather pay a stranger to do than ask friends to do. Nevertheless many other favors will give meaning to the words family and friend. The next time you are feeling overwhelmed, need advice, or a shoulder to lean on, rather than hesitate, push yourself to ask for what you need. You will not only be helping yourself but also giving the person you asked a chance to feel better too!

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“Please, i’m asking them to release my son. Give him back to me”

  • Posted on January 5, 2010 at 12:28 am

By Michael Webster: Syndicated Investigative Reporter. May 6, 2009 at 12:00 PM PST

 

The Mother of kidnapped little 3-year-old, Briant Rodriguez Rosalina Millan embraces her son’s shirt against her chest during a news conference at the San Bernardino County Sheriff s Department in San Bernardino. Young Rodriguez was forced at gun point from his modest San Bernardino home by two armed men during a home invasion Sunday. “They grabbed my kid, told me, ‘I’m going to take the kid to Mexico and I’m going to kill him,’ ” said Briant’s mother

Briant’s Mother spent over five hours relating to investigators and sketch artists Tuesday, drawing on painful memories to help compose pictures of the two men suspected of tying up her and her youngest five children Sunday afternoon before abducting the boy.

Briant’s Mother continues to make desperate pleas for her son’s safe return.

“Please, I’m asking them to release my son. Give him back to me,” she said as she cried. “Why did they take him? Let him go. Don’t harm my boy. My boy, my life. He’s a good boy.”

The suspects are both said to be skinny, Spanish-speaking Latino men. One is said to be 18 years old, 5-foot-8 and wearing a black ball cap, blue jeans and a green T-shirt. The second suspect was about 24 years old, 5-foot-10 and was wearing a black shirt, black pants, black boots and a white bandana.

The San Bernardino County Sheriff’s Department has released these composite sketches of the suspects involved in the kidnap of 3 year old Briant Rodriguez. The suspect on the left is approximately 18 years old and the suspect on the right is approximately 24 years old. (Courtesy of the San Bernardino County Sheriff’s Department)

Millan, her husband and their six children have only lived in the home about three months. For some unknown reason no information is yet available on the people who previously lived in the family’s home.

 

Both parents deny that the family was involved in any illegal activity and said they do not know why anyone would take their baby. Sheriff’s spokeswoman Jodi Miller said the kidnappers have not contacted the family for ransom and “we are concerned the child has been taken across the border.”

Briant Rodriguez was kidnapped from his home in the 8000 block of Pedley Road on Sunday after the two gunmen spent about 20 minutes ransacking the home while his mother and five of her children were tied up, San Bernardino sheriff’s officials say.

One of Briant’s siblings was able to free himself and untied his family members.

Also taken from the home was Millan’s cell phone, so she made the emergency call from a nearby liquor store.

“It’s horrifying,” sheriff’s Lt. Rick Ells told the Associated Press. “I don’t think I could impress on you how rare a kidnapping like this is.”

Briant’s father, who lives with the family, was at work at the time of the robbery and kidnapping, Ells said.

“The family is saying there’s no motive and they do not know the kidnappers,” Ells said, adding that the kidnapping does not appear to be a family abduction.

Briant’s mother told sheriff’s officials that she heard a vehicle door slammed just outside the family’s home when the men left, leading her to believe that the gunmen fled by car.

San Bernardino sheriff’s spokeswoman Jodi Miller told the Associated Press that authorities along the Mexican border have been put on alert, and FBI investigators were also helping in the investigation. Detectives emphasize that Briant’s parents are not suspects.

Less than 200 stranger abductions nationwide are reported annually, according to the FBI.

Last year another young boy, Cole Puffinburger, was abducted from a Las Vegas home by three men posing as police officers. Police said they believe the men were Mexican drug dealers and that the kidnapping at gunpoint was a “message” to the Childs grandfather.

Clemons Fred Tinnemeyer, 51, the grandfather of the kidnapped 6-year-old Nevada boy, was arrested by the FBI’s fugitive task force in Riverside. According to police Tinnemeyer allegedly stole millions of dollars from a powerful Mexican drug cartel out of Tijuana, Baja Mexico and believe as a result a contract hit was ordered. Unconfirmed reports say Tinnemeyer turned himself in rather than be found by the Mexican cartels assassination team. It is believed that Tinnemeyer played a major roll in the distribution and sells of drugs in Nevada, California, Arizona, Texas and New Mexico.

Federal officials say they believe the kidnappers were attempting to locate Tinnemeyer to collect the debt or to take other serious action, but because Tinnemeyer was not there the Mexican gangsters took Cole and were seeking a ransom as payback and would trade Cole for the amount owed. Investigators in the Rodriguez kidnapping in San Bernardino are checking for any similarities.

 

Briant Rodriguez

VICTIM DESCRIPTION:
BRIANT RODRIGUEZ, MALE, HISPANIC, WEIGHT: 40LBS, EYES: BROWN, HAIR: BROWN, CLOTHES: YELLOW SHIRT BLUE SLEEVES, BLUE STRIPED SHORTS. BLACK  SANDALS.

 

Organized, well-financed and violent Mexican drug cartels kidnapping cells are targeting a growing number of U.S. citizens; many victims are believed family members of drug dealers. The MDT’s are ordering murders, kidnappings and other violence against innocent Americans and some of the victims are children.

Some of the kidnappings are believed retaliation for drug dealers owing the MDC’s cash for drugs.

Authorities believe this is about terrorizing people for retaliation.

Many American residents were kidnapped and held for ransom in Mexico and others kidnapped from the United States and taken to Mexico.

“Some of the kidnapped were recovered, some were hurt and some were killed,” said agent Alex Horan, who directs the FBI’s violent-crime squad in San Diego.

“It’s not a pleasant experience. Victims have reported beatings, torture and there have been rapes.  . . . Handcuffs and hoods over the head are common,” he said. “I would certainly be concerned,” Horan said.

He described the kidnapping groups as sophisticated operations similar to terrorist cells, each with a boss and clear divisions of labor. Usually, one group is involved in scouting, another carries out the kidnapping, a third holds the victim and a fourth handles the ransom.

“They know who they’re going after. I think they have a list,” Horan said. “These are kidnapping cells.  . . . That’s what they do. They do kidnappings all year long.”

While the FBI wouldn’t say what the ransom demands are, or how often they’re paid, agents said money is driving the increase.

 “We’ve had victims held for days to months,” Horan said.

Not every victim is Hispanic, but there have been “very few cases where a tourist is targeted at random,” said Eric Drickersen, who supervises the FBI’s border liaison office in San Diego.

Some of the kidnappings go unreported because people fear retribution, Drickersen said.

From Brownsville Texas to San Diego California Mexican cities bordering American cities are where most Americans are being killed by assassinations and executions. But other Americans are being killed by the long arm of the Mexican drug cartels which reach deep into America. There are accounts of Mexican drug cartel surrogate terrorist’s invading the U.S. by crossing the porous international border and killing Americans in Dallas Texas, Atlanta Geo, New York City, Phoenix Ariz, Las Vegas Nevada, and is believed to have reached Shelby County Alabama where five people were found murdered gangland style by Mexican nationals.

 

Many Americans were kidnapped in the U.S. and taken to Mexico where they were murdered. Still other Americans were abducted and slain in Mexico while visiting, others where shot gangland style in country. Dozens of U.S. citizens have been kidnapped, or held hostage, or killed by their captors in Mexico and many cases remain unsolved. Moreover, new cases of disappearances and kidnap-for-ransom and Americans being killed continue to be reported.

 

Carey Marcella McClintock was threatening to testify against a prominent and well known El Paso Texas criminal defense lawyer who has represented Mexican and American drug traffickers and that he himself was beholding to the drug cartels and their gang members.

Carey’s father has been independently investigating his daughter’s killing and now believes that Carey was taken from a Texas town near Dallas to Juarez Mexico across the border from El Paso Texas on a ruse, and was brutally murdered on August 31, 2008 in Juarez so she could not testify.  She was found in an abandoned house in the desert minutes outside of the city.  She had been beaten and stabbed multiple times. Carey’s father believes that his daughter was about to testify against the attorney and others in a federal and on going investigation involving the Mexican drug cartel and there hired assailants the El Paso Barrio Azteca gang. “I believe she was coerced into going to El Paso by the attorney and the attorney’s girl friend where she was provided transportation and was put up in a hotel in Juarez and all paid for by the same attorney. Her family fears that what really happened to Carey has happened to others and that her murder and others like hers will never see the light of day and will never be solved by the corrupt Mexican authorities. He also says the American authorities refuse to investigate because they claim the crime was in Mexico. The El Paso Police Dept has been informed as to the details surrounding the case where the local attorney illegally transported and harbored a known fugitive, yet no investigation is underway. The father also thinks the same attorney had something to do with his daughter’s murder.

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Mexican Drug cartels terror reaches deep into the U.S.

 

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