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Positive Personality and Attitude will take you far in Life

  • Posted on January 15, 2010 at 10:08 am

A) DEVELOPING POSITIVE PERSONALITY

1. Subconscious Programming :

Most of us sometimes get programmed / conditioned by a wrong messages that “ do not do that”, “don’t take the risk”, “you cannot do that” “you are not good in …” and so on…..
You can imagine the bad effect such message can have on any person.
Our Conscious Mind is like a watch man. And the Subconscious Mind is a store of all the previously programmed or conditioned information / knowledge/ beliefs. Now programming personality means putting positive beliefs/ information into the store with out the knowledge of the watchman (conscious mind).

Suppose you tell yourself that “you are good at Public Speaking”. And the store has stored based on peoples comments and experience that “you are poor in communication” “you can not speak well in public”, “you don’t have an impressive body language” …..
The watch man sees your sentence and compares it with the knowledge in its store and says “this information is wrong”. The watchman throws the new information away. He does not allow the new positive information into the store. This is the fundamental difficulty in changing personality & behaviour of a person.

Now the question is how and when we could programme our mind for positive personality traits without the obstruction of the watchman…

The answer is we can programme our mind for positive personality traits during the Twilight period just before sleeping and just before waking up. This is the time when the conscious mind is active enough to generate the positive traits for entering into store but inactive to judge/compare and will not obstruct to the positive traits to enter into the subconscious store house.

2. Reinforced Programming / Conscious Programming :

Auto suggestion and Repetition of the positive traits despite negative response from comparison with the store house also gives success in programming for personality traits.

Auto-suggestion is a statement made in the present tense, of the kind of person you want to be. Auto-suggestion are like a commercial about “Super You”, or “Future Super You” for yourself what you want to be or achieve. They influence both your conscious and subconscious mind in the long run shaping your personality and attitude.
Auto-suggestions are the conscious way to programme the subconscious mind for positive traits. It is the effective method of voluntary development of positive traits and attitudes.

Auto-suggestion should be mixed with emotions. All such reinforced / conscious programming which have been emotionalized (giving feeling) and mixed with applied faith, begin immediately to translate themselves into physical or real equivalent.

Auto-suggestive thoughts which are mixed with any of the feeling of emotions constitute a “psycho-magnetic” force which attracts other similar or related thoughts.

Our subconscious mind resembling a fertile garden spot, in which weeds will grow in abundance if you the seeds of more desirable crops are not sown therein. Auto-suggestion is the agency of control through which an individual can voluntarily feed his subconscious mind on thoughts of creative/ positive nature or by neglect permit thoughts of a destructive nature to find their way into the rich garden of mind. So Caution should be taken while programming your mind for positive traits only.

3. Defensive Approach :

One of this type of approach is protest or deny the negative traits at it’s very beginning of the entering in the subconscious store. And the second is to consciously avoid this type of environment or situation. In real life situation it is very difficult because it may lead to confrontation and argument or Inaction.

Another problem in this is that most of us have some negative traits previously in our store house due to our past experience and conditioning.

4. Imaginary Anchoring or Invisible Counselling Committee :

While watching a picture we anchor the Hero, placing ourselves in place of Hero. Similarly we can anchor Great men in imagination and let them shape our personality.

Another is the Invisible Counselling Committee comprising of great personalities of your choice. We can counsel from these great minds at times or situation. What decision or action he would have been taken in my situation..

Winston Churchill, the war time British Prime Minister was following this principle. He had his Imaginary Counselling Committee by the side of his Chamber. Many great decisions he used to take by following these principles.

I follow the habit of reshaping my character by trying to imitate some great personalities whose lives and life works have been most impressive to me. These personalities are Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Abraham Lincoln, Napoleon Bonaparte, Albert Einstein,Narayana Murthy,Dalai Lama & Bill Gates. I held an imaginary council meeting with this group whom I called my “Invisible Counsellor”. In these imaginary council meeting I called on my cabinet members for the knowledge I wished each to contribute addressing myself to each members in audible words as follows :

Mahatma Gandhi, I desire to acquire from you the ideology of truth and Non-violence and devotion towards practicing these in every odd hours and to acquire the magnet leadership to attract millions to join in the peaceful struggle for freedom and Humanity.

Mother Teresa, I desire to acquire from you the ability to provide relentless humanitarian services to the most unprivileged, poor diseased and intense spirit to serve the mankind despite all odds.

 Abraham Lincoln, I desire to build into my own character the keen sense of justice, the untiring spirit of patience, the sense of humor, the human understanding, and the tolerance which were your distinguishing characteristics.

Napoleon Bonaparte, I desire to acquire from you, by emulation, the marvelous ability you possessed to inspire men and arouse them to greater and more determined spirit of action. Also to acquire the spirit of enduring faith, which enabled you to turn defeat into victory, and to surmount staggering obstacles.

Albert Einstein, I wish to acquire from you the Scientific Bent, ever inquisitive mind, the spirit to innovate and contribute to Humanity.

Narayana Murty, I want to acquire from you the ability to nurture the human resources and to give the society the magic formulae of success of wealth and fortune and helping people realize their true potential.

 Dalai Lama, I want to acquire from you the skill and understanding to motivate the people towards positive ends and to offer the world the blue print for positive and spirituall life.

Bill Gates, I wish to acquire from you the Brilliant Intelligence, Innovation, Intense drive to succeed, persistence, personal intensity and conscientiousness dimensions

5. Physical Action / Body Language Approach :

In general it is the positive practice or experiencing desired traits whether the desired perfection achieved or not.

It is generally said that our personality traits control our body language. But it is a fact that the reverse is also true. This means we can change our negative traits towards positive traits by consciously practicing the body language for positive traits.

6. Domino-effect. Direct exposure to good personalities or environment :

Here the direct environment is the driving force in shaping the personalities. When one constantly remains in direct contact with great personalities will enriches his own to be the one. Similarly the organization culture and structure also many times influences ones personality. Sometimes it is the guiding principle for job satisfaction / recruitment.

Caution should be taken while programming your mind for positive traits only. Because these processes give results for negative traits also. Mahatma Gandhi and Adolf Hitler both successfully applied these principles but one positively and other negatively.

B)POSITIVE ATTITUDE WILL TAKE YOU FAR IN LIFE

 One Dozen Lessons from Life

*1. Attitude is what Life is all about…….

Soldier: Sir, we are surrounded by enemies from all sides.Major: Excellent! Now we can attack in any direction.

*2. Everyone has heard about Alexander Graham Bell, who invented the telephoneNobody knows he did not make a call ever to his family.Because both his wife and daughter were deaf. That’s life- “Live for others”.

*3. The worst in life is “Attachment”.It hurts when you lose it.

*4. The best thing is “Loneliness”because it teaches you everythingand when you lose it..you get everything.

*5. Life is not about people who act true to your face..it’s about the people who remain true behind your back.

*6. Egg broken from outside ….”A life ends”.Egg broken from within….”Life begins”.”Great things always begin from within.”

*7. It’s better to lose your ego to the one you love than to lose someone you love to your ego.

*8. A relationship does not shine by just shaking hands during good times but it blossoms by holding firmly in critical situations.

*9. The more the pain you get in your life, more you become valuable…….

.Heated Gold becomes ornaments,

.Betted Copper becomes wires

.Depleted stone becomes statue

*10. Why do we have so many temples and churches, if God is everywhere?……….”Because air is every where but we need a fan to feel it”.

*11. Tolerance is the greatest gift of the mind…….It requires the same effort of the brain that it takes to balance one self on a bicycle….

*12. When you trust someone trust him completely without any doubt…..At the end you would get one of the two:Either a lesson for your life or a very good person.

 

 

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Sex, Lies and Video Tapes – Identify Bad Attitude Before You Hire it

  • Posted on January 10, 2010 at 10:07 am

This week’s read is not so much about the famous 1989 movie, “Sex, Lies and Videotapes,” as much as it’s about the behaviours of employees within the workplace.

As this is the political season on many fronts, it’s only appropriate to draw analogies of what may cause headaches for HR professionals and managers alike – behaviour that can get a company in hot water. 

I won’t speak so much of NZ politics as I would violate the basic premise that in business, one should never talk about politics and religion. However, when it comes to BEHAVIOUR in politics, everything is fair game…

As managers, our fundamental principle is to ensure a profit (or least of which, ensure break-even for non-profit organisations) and protect the assets – plain and simple.  Everything we do should be centred on this core mantra.

It amazes me how many times in business (and political) processes; this fundamental charge is ignored or even wilfully violated.

In most Western business practices, the antics of leaders, and employees, has a direct impact on the health of an organisation.  Example: I remember clearly how President Bill Clinton wagged his finger at the American people on TV – “I never had sexual relations with that woman…”  Clinton’s folly had a profound affect on the Democratic Party and contributed to the loss of Senator Kerry – the legacy was too distasteful in some American’s minds.

As managers in charge, we have to be very, very clear about the ego states of our employees.  We don’t have the luxury of politics.  In fact, it seems that politicians are somewhat immune to the laws that we as managers must hold true, or face the devastating judgment of the Employment Relations Authority or – worse of all – Fair Go.

Employee attitudes (ego states) are learned behaviour.  These attitudes are measurable and can be a good predictor of future behaviour.  As a management consultant in North America, I was shocked at the number of transgressions I witnessed:

* I actually happened upon a client’s daughter, caught in a sexual encounter with the sales manager (found in the company supplies closet).  The daughter was the general manager; the man was HER subordinate!

* Husband-wife owners (my client) of a successful garden supply centre in the States eventually divorced.  The husband paid the wife $1.2 million tax free!!  Auditors have just discovered that she had been embezzling over $100,000 each year for the past 5 years.

* The president of a very successful grocery chain in Los Angeles told me that on the application form for all front-line staff, the following was asked, “If a package fell from a delivery truck, would you put it on the delivery dock or would you put it in your car?”  Over 60% answered that they would put it in THEIR CAR!!  He said that he was so grateful that 60% of the workforce in LA admitting to being thieves!!

* And finally – one of the most shocking to me – the CEO of a drug testing centre in Sacramento, CA detailed how she tests almost all construction workers, commercial delivery drivers and other front-line staff in the area.  The percentage of positive results to drug use?  85% !!!!!  I mean, 85% of the truck drivers in the mid-San Joaquin Valley are on marijuana DURING THE DAY, if not on more debilitating drugs.  They “counselled” the pot users.  The heaver drug users were biffed out.  Oh, that’s a relief…NOT!!

So, the moral of the story is, if you hear someone say that they smoked marijuana, but never inhaled (Clinton); or if they question the verb “is” with regard to what “is” sexual relations (Clinton again), then we have a serious breach of reality.  And a former First Lady will never make it to the seat of the White House partially as a result of those types of indiscretions (among other things).

As managers, you have to ask yourself, “At what level of risk am I prepared to take with regard to protection of assets and the continuity of this business?”  In essence, what part does “sex, lies and videotapes” affect your organisation?

I’m not one to pass moral judgment on anyone.  Heaven knows I haven’t been an angel all my life.  However, in the work place, I have to be a saint.  As do all my reports.  The laws are clear and ultimately I have a responsibility to the shareholders.  Improprieties need to go out the door.

If attitudes is currently a problem within your organisation, then you must CAREFULLY follow due diligence to either rectify the situation NOW, or move that risk-point out the door – legally.  Or least of which, you may have to legally install the use of surveillance cameras within your workplace – it can have a detrimental impact on morale, but it also let’s everyone know that they are “on deck” with regard to improper behaviour.

If bad or unlawful attitudes are potential risk-points within your organisation, then get some testing done as a condition of pre-employment.  There are several quick, affordable and effective tools for pre-screening on sexual harassment, computer misuse, hostility, drugs, alcohol abuse and theft.  Would an investment of around $45 be well worth saving the potential loss down the road?

If you want to protect yourself with future employee appointments, consider applying a validated pre-employment psychometric test. An ounce of prevention (attitudes testing) may be worth more than the pound of cure (lengthy and possibly expensive termination proceedings).

Brent Lawrence contributed to this article – he holds an MBA in International Marketing and Finance from Thunderbird Graduate School of International Management.  He is currently Operations Manager at AssessSystems Ltd.

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Factors Distracting Alcohol Rehabilitation Procedure

  • Posted on July 3, 2009 at 5:13 am

The major factor that distracts an alcohol rehabilitation procedure is the environment. If the alcoholic does not feel comfortable or neglected, he will search out escape routes. If the people carrying out the rehabilitation procedures are not caring or the alcoholic feels uncomfortable, he or she may act as if they have rehabilitated just to end the procedure. Alternatively, they may react violently towards the people carrying out the rehabilitation procedures.

An alcoholic has reached this state definitely because of some reason. The only way to rehabilitate him or her is by making them desire for rehabilitation. The rehabilitation cannot be forced. Either alcoholics will require rehabilitation because they may lose their lives if they are not rehabilitated, or they are suffering from a health problem caused by consuming too much alcohol.

However, whatever may be the case it’s the alcoholic’s own will power that will do the trick. An alcoholic must have the will to live and to stop drinking. This is what a rehabilitation procedure is supposed to do. If the recovering alcoholic cannot get on with the psychiatrist or psychologist, how is he going to recover? If he feels that he is devoted with insufficient time, he’s not going to recover.

If after rehabilitation, he has to go back to the same environment. Facing the same set of social and family problems, he will return to drinking. Therefore, a number of factors matter in a rehabilitation procedure. First is the attitude of the staff of the rehabilitation center. They must recognise that an alcoholic is a disease like any other disease, and requires proper nursing and care.

They must not be treated with disdain or like social outcasts. They should not be made to feel rebellious. In fact, they must be treated as normal human beings. Alcoholics are human beings who are suffering from an acute problem! Secondly, the atmosphere of the rehabilitation center must be serene and soothing. However, most important is getting the alcoholic to speak about what drives them to alcohol, and how can this urge be removed.

The family plays a major role in this. Family support, acceptance, and spending time in good company are what an alcoholic needs. The alcoholic may be deeply disturbed and may feel a sense of loneliness. Having no responsibilities, an ample income and nothing to do can drive a person to alcohol. There are no wonder cures for this ailment and even the best rehabilitation procedures can fail.

The doctors can be the best, the atmosphere friendly and serene. Yet the rehabilitation procedure can fail. Until the alcoholic is not ready to change and has the will to change, the procedure is doomed to fail.

Rehabilitation requires building a one on one relationship with an alcoholic. Getting them first to speak about what drives them to drink, then building their will power to leave drinking and making them mentally strong. This is what will work. An alcoholic must genuinely believe in change. Only when they develop this attitude, the rehabilitation procedure will work. One on one session group therapy and other procedures can fail if the alcoholic refuses to budge mentally.

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How to Deal With A Break Up After Your Boyfriend Dumped You

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 10:40 pm

I feel like dying because my boyfriend dumped me! It isn’t the end of the world and it isn’t even close. Even though it hurts, it isn’t going to kill you. This is something that you can and will get over. It will take some work, some help, some readjusting in the way you think, and some time. Be sure that just because you are upset that my boyfriend dumped me doesn’t mean that life stops, life goes on. Be ready for it.

Getting past the idea that my boyfriend dumped me isn’t going to be easy but it also isn’t going to be impossible. You are going to have to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move along. The alternative means that you will be stuck wallowing in your own misery. If that is no life that you want to have then do what it takes to get out of it. It takes work to climb back out of the pit but the work is worth it.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help but be careful where it is that you ask for it. If you are battling depression because of it, seek professional help. This doesn’t mean that you are going crazy, depression is something that many people deal with so don’t worry about people judging you. Do try to beat it, though.

It may be, though, that you have good friends or family that can help you out while you are trying to deal with that fact that my boyfriend dumped me. Be careful to not lay too much on these people, though, and when you ask for advice, follow it.

Stop complaining about your life all the time. There is no sense asking for advice from people close to you if you don’t listen to their suggestions at all.

You might need to rethink your attitude about being dumped. Look at it from another angle or someones point of view. You might think that your life is over now that he is out of your life but that might not be true for another person.

Make sure to keep yourself busy to take your mind off things. Perhaps you would like to take up a new hobby to better yourself. Discover a new passion for things now. Channel your energy into something positive.

The end result will be a happier you. Once you have found that happiness, it will become magnetic and draw in the person that you dream of, the one that makes you smile and makes you feel like you belong. It will make you look back on this dark time in your life when you were crying because my boyfriend dumped me and see it as one of the best things that ever happened to you.

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Do You Chase a Man to Get Him Back?

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 10:40 pm

Actually this is a way that you could lose him forever. Seriously – here me out on this one. Men don’t want to be chased if they have just broken up with you. And the majority of women who do chase after the ex’s don’t ever win them back.

One of the best things you could do to get him back is to make it look as though you are fine with the decision to break up. Yeah right! Easier said than done. Yes! It’s going to take a ton of effort on your part to control your emotions and not let on that you are hurting real bad inside.

Lets see… what is something you usually enjoy doing on your own or with other girlfriends? Can’t you try and do more of those kind of things with the free time you now have. Try to pack as much into your day as possible to take your mind off him. Then if you cross paths from time to time but don’t make the effort to contact him, he will start to think twice about the whole break up. He might even start to wonder if you still love him or not.

Do you know that men often chase after things they can’t have. That’s why they will do so much to get that women they have got their eye on. So your chasing after them now, since the break up, is not going to help one bit. You need to give him a huge amount of space and if he starts to feel that you are a bit beyond his reach, you are in a much better position of getting him back.

So are you getting the answer to your question, “Do you chase a man to get him back?” I hope you are seeing that the answer is a definite NO! You have to play the hard to get game and make out as if you are actually the one who is happier with the break up than he is. Sorry if you came looking for easy advice! I know this idea doesn’t look the easiest, but it works. And you want to do what works right?

But in order for this all to work, there are some super important things you need to do along the way, so that your “hard to get” attitude doesn’t push him too far away. The timing in this whole process is ultra, super important. Doing this wrong could end the relationship for ever.

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Is Being a Perfectionist Holding You Back?

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 7:14 am

Recent studies have shown that perfectionist attitudes do actually interfere with success. This attitude can actually rob you of the feeling of satisfaction, whilst at the same time creating an enormous fear of failure. This in turn becomes a barrier to even starting a task – you do not even “get past go”. If this is happening to you then it is important to seek success in a more balanced way.

Do you believe that anything less than perfect is unacceptable? Do you feel that what you do is never good enough? Do you put things off as you wait for the perfect moment to begin? If your answers to these questions are affirmative then it is clear that your attitude is getting in the way of your success and fulfillment in life.

If you always strive to do your best, nobody can ask for more than that. A perfectionist knows that this is true of everyone else; they know that no-one else expects any more of them. But they expect more of themselves; they themselves expect perfection. It is a chicken and egg situation. By seeking perfection you push yourself harder, and you start off by achieving greater things, but this is never enough. You always expect even more and so never quite have that feeling of satisfaction, which eventually demoralizes you and de-motivates you, until in the end you see no point in attempting things at all.

We all need a feeling of achievement, a feeling of success to make us feel good, to feel worthwhile and to motivate us. How can you learn to temper your expectation of perfection, and change your attitude so as to maximize your potential? You are not born a perfectionist. This attitude is something which has been learned by you, probably whilst you were a child in the process of growing up. Everyone’s deepest beliefs about themselves tend to be formed within the first seven to twelve years. Once these self-beliefs are formed, we then tend to live out our lives within the parameters of them.

You’re not born with a perfectionist attitude, it is learned. And no matter how deep rooted a belief is, what can be learned can be unlearned, with the help of hypnosis. Hypnosis is the key as this state allows access to your subconscious mind, where your deep rooted beliefs and attitudes are stored. With hypnosis you can access the inner workings of your mind and make suggestions which will temper the quest for perfectionism. With hypnosis you can adjust your mindset so that you always do your best and are happy with your best, so that you experience a feeling of satisfaction. With the help of hypnosis you can learn to enjoy your successes and this in turn will motivate you to achieve greater and greater things.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for motivation, well-being and success.

With a degree in psychology and qualifications in hypnotherapy, NLP and sports psychology, Roseanna Leaton is one of the leading practitioners of self-improvement. You can get a free hypnosis download from http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com and peruse her extensive library of hypnosis cds .

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How to Deal With Anxiety Attacks Effectively

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

Anxiety is part and parcel of like. We get nervous when we are about to give a presentation on stage and we worry and fret over a particularly tough examination. In the process, we learn how to deal with anxiety. More importantly, this anxious feeling needs to be there. It helps us to stay focus and drives us to perform better.

However, there is also a group of people that are affected by anxiety in a negative way. They suffer from anxiety attacks and it disrupts their normal life. They become crippled by anxiety and may even be unable to leave their home or even carry out their work.

The most common symptoms of anxiety attack can include:

-Rapid heart pounding
-Dizziness
-Difficulty in breathing
-Fear that they are going mad or crazy
-Fear that something terrible is about to happen and they are dying

There are a lot more symptoms to anxiety attacks but that is not the main issue here. The main problem for most anxiety attack sufferers is the fear of having another attack – the fear that something is wrong with them.

Naturally that fear is not totally unfounded as there could be an underlying illness or health problems that causes their symptoms. If you have not done so, please do visit the doctor and get a full medical examination. More importantly, if you are given a clean bill of health, you MUST believe in the diagnosis and stop thinking that something is wrong with you.

In absence of a real medical problem, you must accept that you are suffering from anxiety attacks and do everything you can to overcome it. The next step from now on is to change the mental model and attitude towards anxiety attack.

Sufferers are very often trapped in the vicious cycle of anxiety attacks. From their initial experience of anxiety attack, they become convinced that a particular situation causes their panic attack. For example: their anxiety attacks triggers when they are alone at home, and from that point onwards they become fearful of being alone for fear of not being able to get help when it happens again. Needless to say, they are constant aware of their fear and when they are put into that situation again; they suffer from another anxiety attacks. This reinforces their fears and their anxiety attacks get worse because it happens again…and again…and again.

Discover the Best Treatment For Anxiety Attacks and learn how you can break that cycle of fear now!

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The Best Ways To Reduce Stress And Anxiety

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

Dad, is it OK if we have a quick chat? I always have time for you son, you know that. Thanks Dad, well as you know and can no doubt hear I have this stuttering problem and it is causing me all kinds of problems. I am often stressed out and anxious as I constantly fear the fact that I am going to stutter when speaking to people. I just want to be able to relax, smile and be happy – in the same way that other people do. Son, I realise it is tough for you and I will do everything that I can to help. Thanks Dad, it is much appreciated.

The above is a conversation that I had with my father when I was aged fifteen. My whole family had been a massive support for me since the age of four which is the age when I developed the stutter.

My dad did manage to help me to reduce the amount that I stressed. He did this by taking me to specialists and by bringing home books about the subjects of stress, anxiety, depression, confidence and self-esteem from the library.

This helped to understand that I should appreciate the things that I have in life rather than always focusing on the things that I haven’t.

I should approach life with a positive, I can do, attitude and that the words “I can’t” do not exist.

Where I am not happy with a particular aspect of my life I need to work hard to try to improve the situation.

I should not accept second best in life as to do so would be to accept failure.

I have been doing these things for a long time now and I have to say that the difference it has made to my life has been incredible. It also helped me to overcome the stutter when I was aged twenty-two.

Steve Hill is a webmaster from Birmingham, he has interests in a number of websites including:
stuttering information
lower call charges
DVD replication

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How to Deal With Anxiety Attacks Effectively

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

Anxiety is part and parcel of like. We get nervous when we are about to give a presentation on stage and we worry and fret over a particularly tough examination. In the process, we learn how to deal with anxiety. More importantly, this anxious feeling needs to be there. It helps us to stay focus and drives us to perform better.

However, there is also a group of people that are affected by anxiety in a negative way. They suffer from anxiety attacks and it disrupts their normal life. They become crippled by anxiety and may even be unable to leave their home or even carry out their work.

The most common symptoms of anxiety attack can include:

-Rapid heart pounding
-Dizziness
-Difficulty in breathing
-Fear that they are going mad or crazy
-Fear that something terrible is about to happen and they are dying

There are a lot more symptoms to anxiety attacks but that is not the main issue here. The main problem for most anxiety attack sufferers is the fear of having another attack – the fear that something is wrong with them.

Naturally that fear is not totally unfounded as there could be an underlying illness or health problems that causes their symptoms. If you have not done so, please do visit the doctor and get a full medical examination. More importantly, if you are given a clean bill of health, you MUST believe in the diagnosis and stop thinking that something is wrong with you.

In absence of a real medical problem, you must accept that you are suffering from anxiety attacks and do everything you can to overcome it. The next step from now on is to change the mental model and attitude towards anxiety attack.

Sufferers are very often trapped in the vicious cycle of anxiety attacks. From their initial experience of anxiety attack, they become convinced that a particular situation causes their panic attack. For example: their anxiety attacks triggers when they are alone at home, and from that point onwards they become fearful of being alone for fear of not being able to get help when it happens again. Needless to say, they are constant aware of their fear and when they are put into that situation again; they suffer from another anxiety attacks. This reinforces their fears and their anxiety attacks get worse because it happens again…and again…and again.

Discover the Best Treatment For Anxiety Attacks and learn how you can break that cycle of fear now!

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Act As If: A Good TC Maxim

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:57 pm

“Act as if” is a basic concept for those who travel through the Therapeutic Community. This concept at first glance seems to run counter to the perceived wisdom of changing the way we think before we can change the way we act. But it requires at least an element of thinking that we can change the way we act before we embark on this course.

“Act as if” requires us to behave in a way that we would rather be, than the way we have been. We have all at some time put on an act of confidence when we feel like hiding in a hole. We may have attended a job interview where we feel inside that we may be out of our depth, or had to stand up in public and speak to a group of people when the butterflies start. But we take a deep breath and enter in to the part of acting confidently and we begin to adapt to the part.

Despite feelings to the contrary, we often “act as if” in our families and communities. It means keeping a right attitude and adopting shared values. It avoids stereotyping and discrimination and includes being self motivated and adopting an optimistic outlook about our future. George de Leon, whose work founded the Therapeutic Community model, suggests, “In the Therapeutic Community view, acting as if is not just an exercise in conformity but a powerful mechanism for making a more complete psychological change. Feelings, insights, and altered self-perceptions often follow rather than precede behaviour change”.

So, this means that trying a new role often leads us to embrace a new way of thinking. As we act on our desire to become, we reinforce the behaviours necessary for the new role. Act as if you already are, and you will become. The new role will start to fit and the need for acting as if will no longer be necessary. You become the person you want to be.

If you want to become a writer, start writing. If you want to be an actor, start acting (isn’t that what we are doing when we act as if?). If you want to change your self centred lifestyle, start helping others, become a volunteer. Want to be addiction free? Start acting as if you are already there.

Acting as if does not have room for the negative. There is no “I Can’t”, or “I am not good enough”. What do you want to become? You already know it. That still small voice inside will guide you. You will pick up the skills as you go along. This is ‘on the job’ training.

Positive feelings lead to positive actions. “Acting as if” is focusing on what is beneficial to us as well as others. So the order is ‘act as if, think as if, feel as if, believe as if’.

A variant of acting as if is the phrase, “do it right, then you will understand why you have been doing it wrong”. This helps to overcome scepticism. In particular, it speaks to those individuals who resist acting as if, often seeking intellectual understanding before they try to change.

This instruction directs us to go ahead and change the behaviour even before we understand why the change is good for us. It helps to bypass the question “What if?” and goes straight to the heart of the matter. More generally, by living right, we come to understand why we have been living wrong.

Alan Butler is a freelance writer. He has worked with recovering alcohol and drug addicts for the last 10 years. Three years were spent as a resident staff member on the Ovis Farm Project in North Devon England this is a Christian run Therapeutic Community. His interests are Internet Marketing, Walking and Grandparenting. He would welcome your comment on this article or any of the postings on http://www.therecoverycoach.co.uk

Article Source: Act As If: A Good TC Maxim

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