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How do you walk away from your own mother?

  • Posted on February 19, 2011 at 11:20 am

My mom needs help. She is a drug addict and about to have no-where to live. I want to help her, but I have my own family that I need to put first. I am pregnant & married with 1 daughter already. I do not want the negative influences in my life that a drug addict carries witht them. Especially a meth-addict. The paranoia, the conspiracies, the sneaking around, lying & stealing stuff. It is so very hard to see your own mother in such a horrible situation with no-one to support her. ANY ADVICE????????

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Can the court take away someone’s parental rights if they are not willing to do so?

  • Posted on January 21, 2011 at 4:17 am

My daughter’s father is an alcoholic mess. He has put our life in danger on more than one occassion and has tried to commit suicide two times in the past six months. He does it for attention to try to get us back, but it’s not happening. Can the court take away his parental rights? He is not willing to do that, but I don’t want my daughter to grow up with him as her father.
We were never married, I don’t know if that makes a difference.

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Why won’t my sore throat go away?

  • Posted on December 28, 2010 at 9:23 am

I had a cold about 2 weeks ago that lasted for a week straight.
It was a regular headcold ( sore throat, sneezing ) but no coughing.
My daughter ( 8 months old ) also had it.
It was gone for about a week, and a few days ago i started to get a scratcy throat again.
Now for the past 2 days I can’t swallow not because of pain but becaus it feels like my throat is small and really dry.
I cannot sleep because it gets so dry and it feels like there is so much flem and i cannot help but try to swallow.
Nothing seems to help even drinking water doesnt help in the night it doesnt help I just get this pinch and i feel like gagging.
I have tried gargling salt water, halls, warm tea.
Nothing is working and i need to sleep.

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Why won’t my sore throat go away?

  • Posted on December 28, 2010 at 9:23 am

I had a cold about 2 weeks ago that lasted for a week straight.
It was a regular headcold ( sore throat, sneezing ) but no coughing.
My daughter ( 8 months old ) also had it.
It was gone for about a week, and a few days ago i started to get a scratcy throat again.
Now for the past 2 days I can’t swallow not because of pain but becaus it feels like my throat is small and really dry.
I cannot sleep because it gets so dry and it feels like there is so much flem and i cannot help but try to swallow.
Nothing seems to help even drinking water doesnt help in the night it doesnt help I just get this pinch and i feel like gagging.
I have tried gargling salt water, halls, warm tea.
Nothing is working and i need to sleep.

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I love my wife, I hurt my wife, I need my wife, I miss my wife, when does the this all go away?

  • Posted on December 10, 2010 at 1:23 am

Hello, one year ago I married the prettiest lady in the county. I met her at a local church. At that time I was in a drug and alcohol treatment center. After my wife found out that I was in treatment she accepted me with open arms. She stated to me that my recovery is her recovery as well. going into the relationship I bagan to use again. My wife found out and thats when things started getting bad in our relationship. My wife supported me through this ordeal of relapsing, and she even started going to meetings with me. I did not show any appreciation for her standing behind me. I began to become verbally abusive to her and her kids. I had the ambition to start a lawn business and she supported me with that. She financed me two trucks in which I still drive, She open up credit cards in which I abused. she also emptied her retirement because of me. On one day four months ago, I came home intoxicated, and high, I hit my wife that night and went to jail. she took out a temporary restraing order out on me. that night was my bottom and I admitted myself back into rehab. Even after taking out the restraining order she still allowed me to come over to spend time with the kids.I took advantage of that and became more selfish and controlling. I would call her a hundred times a day, texting her constantly, never taking no for an answer. She finally told me that she needs her space and time to heal. I did not understand that, realizing that I am currently in recovery and I need time to heal myself. My wife is very pretty, smart, intelligent, loving, and most of all she is a true christian lady. she has a 15 year old daughter and son that is going to be 10 in about a week. I love those kids like they were mine. I would express to them the importance of their education, I talked to them about life issues like a real father would. I spent alot of quality time with them, taking them out on fridays and doing the things they desired to do. I love those kids and I miss them. My wife has been out of a job for almost 31/2 months, the only income she is receiving is unemployment. I have been helping her as much as I can, but I lost my job, now I can’nt help her like I was. We both go to the same church, but she told the officials that she has a temporary restraining order and that we should be attendig different services. now she has totally shut me out of her life. she don’nt answer my calls, she don’nt call me, she may e-mail me if it something importat or she is mad. She is very bitter towards me and I have become afraid of her. she still allows me to drive the two vehicles thats in her name and I still have a few of my things in the house. Today, I am doing good in recovery, I am deeply involved in the church, and I am growing in the word of god every day. I am doing it for me now.These are the questions I need help with, she is not telling me anything like she wants a divorce or what our future will be like, when wiill she talk to me again,? I am giving her space and time to heal, when do I know when to contact her? I Got a part time job this week, do I tell her? What do I do now? I have acknowledge my wrongs and I take full responsibility for what I did. I love her and she is the lady I want to be with for the rest of my life. No one knows how I feel besides God. I truly love her. I just want us to live a joyous and happy spirutual life now. And I want to rebuild what I tore down of hers. She is currently atending co-dependency classes and various other groups. When do i ask her will she attend marriage counseling with me after I finish with my individual counseling? At what point do I give up and file for divorce? Or do I just hang in there? Please help me, i need and want my family back.

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Should I have my neice taken away from her mother?

  • Posted on December 5, 2010 at 11:23 am

Long story but, essentially, my sister in law has been using drugs (hard core stuff) for many years. Six years ago, she got pregnant by a fellow junkie-she used heroin during pregnancy. When social services got involved, the mom tried to have the child placed with mom’s mom (child’s grandmother) who drinks and smokes pot. We let social services know and as a result the child was placed in foster care. The mom got angry at us (duh, you’re the one that used!) for letting them know. She eventually got the child back and when the child was about 18 months old, mom got back with the child’s father. He beat her in front of the child, prostituted in front of the child (they were living in a motel), and drugged. An aunt offered to allow mom and child to stay with them. A year later, mom was found using. The aunt kicked mom out but kept the child, allowing the child to have visits. The aunt suspects mom has been using throughout the time, high during the visits. Last week, mom was invovled in a hit and run then overdosed. Mom was hospitalized but is now out of the hospital. Anyhow, I believe the aunt should keep her away from the mother (who is not very nice to her daughter) as her mother poses a physical and emotional risk to the child. Who would put a kid in a car with an intoxicated individual? I believe the trauma of being away from her mom is only one trauma compared to all teh trauma’s she’s going to endure by having the mother involved. What do you think and why?

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Father ‘yanks’ daughter away from mother.. they’re separated…?

  • Posted on November 12, 2010 at 1:22 pm

So a good girl friend of mine is going through the beginning stages of a divorce with her husband and they have a 3 year old daughter. Actually tomorrow is their daughter’s 3rd birthday.
The husband has a history of anger and infidelity. They’ve been married two years but have been together for 4 or 5. The mother, my friend, isn’t the nicest cookie in the box either but she’s always been faithful and supportive towards her husband, despite what he’s done to her physically and emotionally. Compared to him she’s a saint. And I’m not saying this because she’s my friend, he’d actually been my friend before she ever was, so I’m not being bias.
A few weeks ago my friend told me she’d been planning to leave her husband because she was fed up with it all, and she’d come to have feelings for his friend and their neighbor. She told the neighbor how she felt and he felt the same way so she’d prepared to tell her husband she wanted a separation. She never did anything physically with the neighbor, they both wanted to wait until she’d left her husband.
A few days later, she and her husband had been arguing so she came over to my house to relax and get away from him until things calmed down. He ended up showing up at my place because he needed to get his credit cards from her, while he was waiting for her to get them out of her wallet, he took her phone saying, “I’ll take this with me too since you can’t answer it and I pay for it.” So she told him she wasn’t giving him his cards until he gave her the phone. He didn’t give her the phone and he left. In the phone were text messages she had sent the neighbor she’d fallen for that gave everything away, that gave away she’d wanted to leave her husband for him in particular. He saw the text messages and immediately showed back up at my house and began pounding on the door. At this point my friend knew he’d seen them and she was already upset and she told me not to let him in because he’d “beat the shit out of her.” So I didn’t, I told him through the door that I couldn’t let him in and I apologized but he’d have to handle this somewhere else (I have a 10 month old baby so I wouldn’t have let him in regardless for my child’s safety.)
Over the past few weeks they’ve been separated and been splitting time with their daughter pretty fairly. Until today, apparently. Her husband had been upset over an argument they got into earlier today so he came to their house (my friend had been staying at the house with their daughter while he stayed at his grandmother’s.) She and their daughter were taking a shower when he showed up, he came in the bathroom, “yanked” their daughter out of the shower, and left with her still naked, no diaper on or anything. Put her in his truck, locked the door and drove off nearly running my friend over on the way out.
Is there anything my friend can do? She’d filed for temporary custody but the paper work had not gone through.
A few minutes later my friend got a phone call from a deputy saying that her husband had called saying that she’d been abusing their daughter which is COMPLETELY untrue. Based on the kind of person he is, this is something her husband would do to make it harder for her to get their daughter back.
Also her husband is emotionally unstable, and I’m not sure HOW much it is, but he’s been involving himself in cocaine and various painkillers and marijuana.

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Father ‘yanks’ daughter away from mother.. they’re separated…?

  • Posted on November 11, 2010 at 1:21 pm

So a good girl friend of mine is going through the beginning stages of a divorce with her husband and they have a 3 year old daughter. Actually tomorrow is their daughter’s 3rd birthday.
The husband has a history of anger and infidelity. They’ve been married two years but have been together for 4 or 5. The mother, my friend, isn’t the nicest cookie in the box either but she’s always been faithful and supportive towards her husband, despite what he’s done to her physically and emotionally. Compared to him she’s a saint. And I’m not saying this because she’s my friend, he’d actually been my friend before she ever was, so I’m not being bias.
A few weeks ago my friend told me she’d been planning to leave her husband because she was fed up with it all, and she’d come to have feelings for his friend and their neighbor. She told the neighbor how she felt and he felt the same way so she’d prepared to tell her husband she wanted a separation. She never did anything physically with the neighbor, they both wanted to wait until she’d left her husband.
A few days later, she and her husband had been arguing so she came over to my house to relax and get away from him until things calmed down. He ended up showing up at my place because he needed to get his credit cards from her, while he was waiting for her to get them out of her wallet, he took her phone saying, “I’ll take this with me too since you can’t answer it and I pay for it.” So she told him she wasn’t giving him his cards until he gave her the phone. He didn’t give her the phone and he left. In the phone were text messages she had sent the neighbor she’d fallen for that gave everything away, that gave away she’d wanted to leave her husband for him in particular. He saw the text messages and immediately showed back up at my house and began pounding on the door. At this point my friend knew he’d seen them and she was already upset and she told me not to let him in because he’d “beat the shit out of her.” So I didn’t, I told him through the door that I couldn’t let him in and I apologized but he’d have to handle this somewhere else (I have a 10 month old baby so I wouldn’t have let him in regardless for my child’s safety.)
Over the past few weeks they’ve been separated and been splitting time with their daughter pretty fairly. Until today, apparently. Her husband had been upset over an argument they got into earlier today so he came to their house (my friend had been staying at the house with their daughter while he stayed at his grandmother’s.) She and their daughter were taking a shower when he showed up, he came in the bathroom, “yanked” their daughter out of the shower, and left with her still naked, no diaper on or anything. Put her in his truck, locked the door and drove off nearly running my friend over on the way out.
Is there anything my friend can do? She’d filed for temporary custody but the paper work had not gone through.
A few minutes later my friend got a phone call from a deputy saying that her husband had called saying that she’d been abusing their daughter which is COMPLETELY untrue. Based on the kind of person he is, this is something her husband would do to make it harder for her to get their daughter back.
Also her husband is emotionally unstable, and I’m not sure HOW much it is, but he’s been involving himself in cocaine and various painkillers and marijuana.

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Should I take my daughters car away from her at college?

  • Posted on November 5, 2010 at 5:24 am

My daughter, in college, was caught drinking and driving on her university campus. She lives off campus and really needs her car for transportation. What should be her just punishment?

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Should I take my daughters car away from her at college?

  • Posted on November 5, 2010 at 5:24 am

My daughter, in college, was caught drinking and driving on her university campus. She lives off campus and really needs her car for transportation. What should be her just punishment?

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