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Atheists: I just came back from checking my amoral atheist daughter, Mary, into a Christian based recovery …?

  • Posted on July 25, 2010 at 1:46 pm

house for her alcoholism and the root cause, atheism. What are her chances of recovery?

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The Evil Old Lady – Based on True Stories Thats Presently Happening

  • Posted on January 25, 2010 at 7:08 am

Hello to All My Readers!!

Today I will be writing about an evil old lady based on true stories also presently happening as you read.. Her name is Gwan Yuk Lan. No, I do not know the meaning of her name. Mrs. Lan is 80 years old and very healthy. She has all her teeth, she can run fast, jog, perfect vision, great hearing and memory. Mrs. Lan has 5 daughters and 2 sons. 4 daughters in Ottawa, 2 sons in Ottawa and 1 daughter that chose to stay in China. Mrs. Lan is my grandma, my evil grandma. I am the youngest child in my family of 5 one older sister at 24 and one older brother at 25r. Mrs. Lan has lived with our family of 5 since all three of us were born!

1. Mrs.Lan use to be the one to bring us to the bus stop for school and pick us up from the bus stop from school just like every other granny’s would do. She was normal until we all hit our teenage years. So, who was the one who first noticed about Mrs. Lan’s evilness? Yes, indeed it was me! How? Let me tell you.. When I was about 14 years young I started catching Mrs. Lan doing all these annoying daily, evening routines that were absolutely pointless. I would also catch her do nasty things that would harm another human being. Not any other human being but blood family members including myself.

2. One day my family was out shopping and I decided to stay home while my grandma was downstairs. I got hungry and started to crave for milk so I went downstairs. As I was walking towards the kitchen Mrs. Lan did not hear me walk in and you would never believe what I seen. You know when you boil water you will pour it into those jugs to keep the water to stay hot? Well those.. So she got the water thing out and poured herself a glass of hot burning water. Right when she drank it near the end she poured back the rest of her leftovers back into the “thing”. That is very nasty. WHY? because we all drink from that, its like her telling us silently without anyone knowing to drink her saliva! Ewww.. like is she serious? On top of that how do we know how long she’s done that for. So now we gave her, her own personal water thing.

3. Many years back Mrs. Lan went to China to visit her oldest daughter. Thats when we realized that not only she was evil but her 5 daughters are worse. You would never believe what Mrs. Lan told her oldest daughter to do. So.. one day the family was eating dinner at home and next thing you know there was a phone call for my mother. Who was the other person on the other line? Yes, Mrs Lans oldest daughter. We never even met this lady that we call our aunt. anyways back to the point. So my mother is on the phone now asking who are you about 10 times. And the lady goes “your husband does’nt like you, he’s with “so and so”. You guys will divorce soon my brother told me so. My mom obviously don’t believe bullshit that she doesn’t see with her own eyes. So she told her I don’t believe what you say, I know who you are and don’t call back and hung up. Its obvious that Mrs. Lan has told her to do that or else how would she get our house number? I means its not in the phone book! I don’t know what it is with my grandma, or what she has against our family but whatever it is.. is not right at all..

Lest’s get straight to the point.. Why do I dislike her? what has she ever done to me?

Alot! not only what she does to me, shes the one who causes all the commotion in this house my parents put over her head. Shes the one whos trying to get my parents to have a divorce. Shes the one who makes my loving mother a life of a living hell. Nobody hurts my mother!! So let me tell you about the annoying things she does to me. I never use to have allergies until one day I thought allergies grown in me haha. One morning out of no-where I started to have very teary eyes, and I would keep on sneezing until I got my bum out of the bed to blow my nose because if I didn’t I would just keep sneezing with druling boogers down my nostril. I found out that it wasn’t allergies infact it was my grandmothers shedded skin I’ve been breathing in every night for the past 2 years. It became severe! How do I know its her shedded skin? Me and my grandma Mrs. Lan share rooms together and one day I snook into my room to see what she does. Mrs. Lan is a very sneaky person and you never know what she does so don’t blame me for being a curious young lady haha. Okay, So before I go on… You now how they say the older you are the more dry your skin is, so the more dry your skin is.. the more you get itchy.. so the more your itchy the more you shed? Well its true and whats worse is Mrs. Lan does not use lotion eaither. Mrs. Lan coming straight out of China she probably still don’t even know what lostion is and its 2009! anyways… So I sneak up the stairs and looked into my room and I catch her taking off her sweater, her shirt, her pants.. and basically each piece of clothing that she takes of she would shake the clothes over my bed where my pillow area is. Then she would take her pajama pants and wipe down her bed then take the pants and shake the pants over my bed again. Right now I got real mad but some how I needed evidence. So what did I do? I took my cellphone out and put it on record and got the evidence to show my parents. For the past 2 years I’ve been sniffing up all her dead skin cells including the extra dust tat was put onto my bed. That is just dusgusting!! 2 months ago I told my father that I will buy a lock to my room and lock my room up everytime I am out if she does that one more time. And of course.. 1st strike…2nd strike.. 3rd strike.. No.. I didn’t end up buying no lock because A. I didn’t know how to screw one on and B. My dad would object me from doing so. So what did I do.. I made my own.. I made my own by taking the entire door-nob OFF and now I am using the door-nob as a key to open the door! It’s not my fault! We gave her many warnings to stop but she wouldnt’ so she asked for that herself. Its not like we want to you know? Yes we feel sorry for her but really in truly I do not want to have that feeling of the so called allergies I had for 2 years. I know its her. and I know it was that because right after I made my own lock thing. I never even had a runny nose every again. IM happy! We are a chinese family, my parents and all the old generations believe in spirits, Buddha etc. So in my living room there is a stand with Mrs. Lans husbands picture on the stand because he’s passed away many years ago. And its there so she can pray to him. Its very hard to explain but you can ask the chinese about that and maybe they can define it better than I can. So anyways A couple days ago Jan/31/08. She was caught talking to the picture of her husband telling him to help her and to listen to her. And this is what she had said in Cantonese “You listen to me now, Their mother do not respect me at all.. Help me get them. I hope you get them. I hope they get hit by a car when they walk out of this house and die. I hope they get hit by a car and die!” ARE YOU SERIOUS? Does she not notice the things that she does is totally wrong? we tell her what mistakes she does what did we do wrong. Ya we know shes old but that doesnt mean we can let he do all those stupid nasty things right? Everything in her mind is normal how hard is it to just stop? Why only to this house? When she sleeps over its like different grandmother overcomes her body. To her other family she would show care.. she would call them by their names.. she would bring their shoes to them.. jackets.. whatever! To us? She never even said our names once.. does nothing but try to kill us.. I don’t get it!! Soo many other things on the list I want to write about but unfortunately there are too many.. I will stop now and keep looking out for more serious issues. Too Be Continued!

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The Evil Old Lady – Based on True Stories Thats Presently Happening

  • Posted on January 25, 2010 at 7:08 am

Hello to All My Readers!!

Today I will be writing about an evil old lady based on true stories also presently happening as you read.. Her name is Gwan Yuk Lan. No, I do not know the meaning of her name. Mrs. Lan is 80 years old and very healthy. She has all her teeth, she can run fast, jog, perfect vision, great hearing and memory. Mrs. Lan has 5 daughters and 2 sons. 4 daughters in Ottawa, 2 sons in Ottawa and 1 daughter that chose to stay in China. Mrs. Lan is my grandma, my evil grandma. I am the youngest child in my family of 5 one older sister at 24 and one older brother at 25r. Mrs. Lan has lived with our family of 5 since all three of us were born!

1. Mrs.Lan use to be the one to bring us to the bus stop for school and pick us up from the bus stop from school just like every other granny’s would do. She was normal until we all hit our teenage years. So, who was the one who first noticed about Mrs. Lan’s evilness? Yes, indeed it was me! How? Let me tell you.. When I was about 14 years young I started catching Mrs. Lan doing all these annoying daily, evening routines that were absolutely pointless. I would also catch her do nasty things that would harm another human being. Not any other human being but blood family members including myself.

2. One day my family was out shopping and I decided to stay home while my grandma was downstairs. I got hungry and started to crave for milk so I went downstairs. As I was walking towards the kitchen Mrs. Lan did not hear me walk in and you would never believe what I seen. You know when you boil water you will pour it into those jugs to keep the water to stay hot? Well those.. So she got the water thing out and poured herself a glass of hot burning water. Right when she drank it near the end she poured back the rest of her leftovers back into the “thing”. That is very nasty. WHY? because we all drink from that, its like her telling us silently without anyone knowing to drink her saliva! Ewww.. like is she serious? On top of that how do we know how long she’s done that for. So now we gave her, her own personal water thing.

3. Many years back Mrs. Lan went to China to visit her oldest daughter. Thats when we realized that not only she was evil but her 5 daughters are worse. You would never believe what Mrs. Lan told her oldest daughter to do. So.. one day the family was eating dinner at home and next thing you know there was a phone call for my mother. Who was the other person on the other line? Yes, Mrs Lans oldest daughter. We never even met this lady that we call our aunt. anyways back to the point. So my mother is on the phone now asking who are you about 10 times. And the lady goes “your husband does’nt like you, he’s with “so and so”. You guys will divorce soon my brother told me so. My mom obviously don’t believe bullshit that she doesn’t see with her own eyes. So she told her I don’t believe what you say, I know who you are and don’t call back and hung up. Its obvious that Mrs. Lan has told her to do that or else how would she get our house number? I means its not in the phone book! I don’t know what it is with my grandma, or what she has against our family but whatever it is.. is not right at all..

Lest’s get straight to the point.. Why do I dislike her? what has she ever done to me?

Alot! not only what she does to me, shes the one who causes all the commotion in this house my parents put over her head. Shes the one whos trying to get my parents to have a divorce. Shes the one who makes my loving mother a life of a living hell. Nobody hurts my mother!! So let me tell you about the annoying things she does to me. I never use to have allergies until one day I thought allergies grown in me haha. One morning out of no-where I started to have very teary eyes, and I would keep on sneezing until I got my bum out of the bed to blow my nose because if I didn’t I would just keep sneezing with druling boogers down my nostril. I found out that it wasn’t allergies infact it was my grandmothers shedded skin I’ve been breathing in every night for the past 2 years. It became severe! How do I know its her shedded skin? Me and my grandma Mrs. Lan share rooms together and one day I snook into my room to see what she does. Mrs. Lan is a very sneaky person and you never know what she does so don’t blame me for being a curious young lady haha. Okay, So before I go on… You now how they say the older you are the more dry your skin is, so the more dry your skin is.. the more you get itchy.. so the more your itchy the more you shed? Well its true and whats worse is Mrs. Lan does not use lotion eaither. Mrs. Lan coming straight out of China she probably still don’t even know what lostion is and its 2009! anyways… So I sneak up the stairs and looked into my room and I catch her taking off her sweater, her shirt, her pants.. and basically each piece of clothing that she takes of she would shake the clothes over my bed where my pillow area is. Then she would take her pajama pants and wipe down her bed then take the pants and shake the pants over my bed again. Right now I got real mad but some how I needed evidence. So what did I do? I took my cellphone out and put it on record and got the evidence to show my parents. For the past 2 years I’ve been sniffing up all her dead skin cells including the extra dust tat was put onto my bed. That is just dusgusting!! 2 months ago I told my father that I will buy a lock to my room and lock my room up everytime I am out if she does that one more time. And of course.. 1st strike…2nd strike.. 3rd strike.. No.. I didn’t end up buying no lock because A. I didn’t know how to screw one on and B. My dad would object me from doing so. So what did I do.. I made my own.. I made my own by taking the entire door-nob OFF and now I am using the door-nob as a key to open the door! It’s not my fault! We gave her many warnings to stop but she wouldnt’ so she asked for that herself. Its not like we want to you know? Yes we feel sorry for her but really in truly I do not want to have that feeling of the so called allergies I had for 2 years. I know its her. and I know it was that because right after I made my own lock thing. I never even had a runny nose every again. IM happy! We are a chinese family, my parents and all the old generations believe in spirits, Buddha etc. So in my living room there is a stand with Mrs. Lans husbands picture on the stand because he’s passed away many years ago. And its there so she can pray to him. Its very hard to explain but you can ask the chinese about that and maybe they can define it better than I can. So anyways A couple days ago Jan/31/08. She was caught talking to the picture of her husband telling him to help her and to listen to her. And this is what she had said in Cantonese “You listen to me now, Their mother do not respect me at all.. Help me get them. I hope you get them. I hope they get hit by a car when they walk out of this house and die. I hope they get hit by a car and die!” ARE YOU SERIOUS? Does she not notice the things that she does is totally wrong? we tell her what mistakes she does what did we do wrong. Ya we know shes old but that doesnt mean we can let he do all those stupid nasty things right? Everything in her mind is normal how hard is it to just stop? Why only to this house? When she sleeps over its like different grandmother overcomes her body. To her other family she would show care.. she would call them by their names.. she would bring their shoes to them.. jackets.. whatever! To us? She never even said our names once.. does nothing but try to kill us.. I don’t get it!! Soo many other things on the list I want to write about but unfortunately there are too many.. I will stop now and keep looking out for more serious issues. Too Be Continued!

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The Evil Old Lady – Based on True Stories Thats Presently Happening

  • Posted on January 25, 2010 at 7:08 am

Hello to All My Readers!!

Today I will be writing about an evil old lady based on true stories also presently happening as you read.. Her name is Gwan Yuk Lan. No, I do not know the meaning of her name. Mrs. Lan is 80 years old and very healthy. She has all her teeth, she can run fast, jog, perfect vision, great hearing and memory. Mrs. Lan has 5 daughters and 2 sons. 4 daughters in Ottawa, 2 sons in Ottawa and 1 daughter that chose to stay in China. Mrs. Lan is my grandma, my evil grandma. I am the youngest child in my family of 5 one older sister at 24 and one older brother at 25r. Mrs. Lan has lived with our family of 5 since all three of us were born!

1. Mrs.Lan use to be the one to bring us to the bus stop for school and pick us up from the bus stop from school just like every other granny’s would do. She was normal until we all hit our teenage years. So, who was the one who first noticed about Mrs. Lan’s evilness? Yes, indeed it was me! How? Let me tell you.. When I was about 14 years young I started catching Mrs. Lan doing all these annoying daily, evening routines that were absolutely pointless. I would also catch her do nasty things that would harm another human being. Not any other human being but blood family members including myself.

2. One day my family was out shopping and I decided to stay home while my grandma was downstairs. I got hungry and started to crave for milk so I went downstairs. As I was walking towards the kitchen Mrs. Lan did not hear me walk in and you would never believe what I seen. You know when you boil water you will pour it into those jugs to keep the water to stay hot? Well those.. So she got the water thing out and poured herself a glass of hot burning water. Right when she drank it near the end she poured back the rest of her leftovers back into the “thing”. That is very nasty. WHY? because we all drink from that, its like her telling us silently without anyone knowing to drink her saliva! Ewww.. like is she serious? On top of that how do we know how long she’s done that for. So now we gave her, her own personal water thing.

3. Many years back Mrs. Lan went to China to visit her oldest daughter. Thats when we realized that not only she was evil but her 5 daughters are worse. You would never believe what Mrs. Lan told her oldest daughter to do. So.. one day the family was eating dinner at home and next thing you know there was a phone call for my mother. Who was the other person on the other line? Yes, Mrs Lans oldest daughter. We never even met this lady that we call our aunt. anyways back to the point. So my mother is on the phone now asking who are you about 10 times. And the lady goes “your husband does’nt like you, he’s with “so and so”. You guys will divorce soon my brother told me so. My mom obviously don’t believe bullshit that she doesn’t see with her own eyes. So she told her I don’t believe what you say, I know who you are and don’t call back and hung up. Its obvious that Mrs. Lan has told her to do that or else how would she get our house number? I means its not in the phone book! I don’t know what it is with my grandma, or what she has against our family but whatever it is.. is not right at all..

Lest’s get straight to the point.. Why do I dislike her? what has she ever done to me?

Alot! not only what she does to me, shes the one who causes all the commotion in this house my parents put over her head. Shes the one whos trying to get my parents to have a divorce. Shes the one who makes my loving mother a life of a living hell. Nobody hurts my mother!! So let me tell you about the annoying things she does to me. I never use to have allergies until one day I thought allergies grown in me haha. One morning out of no-where I started to have very teary eyes, and I would keep on sneezing until I got my bum out of the bed to blow my nose because if I didn’t I would just keep sneezing with druling boogers down my nostril. I found out that it wasn’t allergies infact it was my grandmothers shedded skin I’ve been breathing in every night for the past 2 years. It became severe! How do I know its her shedded skin? Me and my grandma Mrs. Lan share rooms together and one day I snook into my room to see what she does. Mrs. Lan is a very sneaky person and you never know what she does so don’t blame me for being a curious young lady haha. Okay, So before I go on… You now how they say the older you are the more dry your skin is, so the more dry your skin is.. the more you get itchy.. so the more your itchy the more you shed? Well its true and whats worse is Mrs. Lan does not use lotion eaither. Mrs. Lan coming straight out of China she probably still don’t even know what lostion is and its 2009! anyways… So I sneak up the stairs and looked into my room and I catch her taking off her sweater, her shirt, her pants.. and basically each piece of clothing that she takes of she would shake the clothes over my bed where my pillow area is. Then she would take her pajama pants and wipe down her bed then take the pants and shake the pants over my bed again. Right now I got real mad but some how I needed evidence. So what did I do? I took my cellphone out and put it on record and got the evidence to show my parents. For the past 2 years I’ve been sniffing up all her dead skin cells including the extra dust tat was put onto my bed. That is just dusgusting!! 2 months ago I told my father that I will buy a lock to my room and lock my room up everytime I am out if she does that one more time. And of course.. 1st strike…2nd strike.. 3rd strike.. No.. I didn’t end up buying no lock because A. I didn’t know how to screw one on and B. My dad would object me from doing so. So what did I do.. I made my own.. I made my own by taking the entire door-nob OFF and now I am using the door-nob as a key to open the door! It’s not my fault! We gave her many warnings to stop but she wouldnt’ so she asked for that herself. Its not like we want to you know? Yes we feel sorry for her but really in truly I do not want to have that feeling of the so called allergies I had for 2 years. I know its her. and I know it was that because right after I made my own lock thing. I never even had a runny nose every again. IM happy! We are a chinese family, my parents and all the old generations believe in spirits, Buddha etc. So in my living room there is a stand with Mrs. Lans husbands picture on the stand because he’s passed away many years ago. And its there so she can pray to him. Its very hard to explain but you can ask the chinese about that and maybe they can define it better than I can. So anyways A couple days ago Jan/31/08. She was caught talking to the picture of her husband telling him to help her and to listen to her. And this is what she had said in Cantonese “You listen to me now, Their mother do not respect me at all.. Help me get them. I hope you get them. I hope they get hit by a car when they walk out of this house and die. I hope they get hit by a car and die!” ARE YOU SERIOUS? Does she not notice the things that she does is totally wrong? we tell her what mistakes she does what did we do wrong. Ya we know shes old but that doesnt mean we can let he do all those stupid nasty things right? Everything in her mind is normal how hard is it to just stop? Why only to this house? When she sleeps over its like different grandmother overcomes her body. To her other family she would show care.. she would call them by their names.. she would bring their shoes to them.. jackets.. whatever! To us? She never even said our names once.. does nothing but try to kill us.. I don’t get it!! Soo many other things on the list I want to write about but unfortunately there are too many.. I will stop now and keep looking out for more serious issues. Too Be Continued!

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Intensity of Grief is Based on the Relationship

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 11:07 pm

DEALING WITH DEATH:

RELATIONSHIPS DETERMINE GRIEF

 

It is a very different experience to lose a spouse, husband, wife or partner who you love and are living with than to lose a spouse if you are estranged, separated or the relationship is full of problems

It is different to lose a child, son or daughter who is at home and for whom you are responsible to teach and raise as opposed to a child who is grown up and has been living on his or her own for several years. While you will always be a parent to your child no matter what age. Your responsibility for that child changes when he/she leaves home to make a life on their own and the nature of the relationship changes.

Life and loss go hand in hand. We all have many losses in our lives. Grieving is the common thread. Bereavement is the process of healing emotions after the death or separation from someone you love. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Feelings of loss are very personal and unique. You are the only one who knows what is important to you. People commonly associate certain losses with strong feelings of grief.

The relationship is one factor in determining the intensity of the grief. When your mother, father, sister, brother, wife, husband, son, daughter or friend dies the relationship you had with her/him will determine the strength and duration on your grief.
 
The death of someone you are living with is much more traumatic and the grieving process is prolonged as the habits of being in the same space must be broken and adjusted to. Little things like where your loved one sat at the kitchen or dining room table, what side of the bed she slept on, preparing his favorite foods, shoes left out or put away.

 Then there are the personal possessions issues to be deal with like clothes, nick-knacks, books, jewelry, maybe vehicles and furniture. Final bills need to be paid, notification of distant friends, magazine subscriptions are more reminders of your loss.

If your son or daughter dies you have the toys, clothes, bedroom and friends to cope with.

Special days like birthdays, anniversary, Christmas and other holidays are especially difficult the first year after the death. Most people dread the approaching holiday but are grateful after they pass. After the day is over you will feel relief that you got through it. You may reminisce and remember past celebrations making your pain worse. The next year will be easier and in time new memories will replace the old painful ones.

The first year will be a time of emotional turmoil and change. Your feeling will be so close to the surface that you may be surprised to find yourself crying at the drop of a pin or the sound of a familiar voice, mistaken for your loved one’s voice.

On the other hand you may grieve very little or not at all for a relationship that is distant, casual or had less emotional connection to you. An aunt, uncle, grandparent’s death may affect you very little.

I was 13 when both of my grandmothers died. I was closer to my maternal grandmother and went to her funeral. I was deeply touched and sad by losing her. My father’s mother on-the-other-hand and lived in another state and I had little contact with her in my young life. I didn’t go to her funeral and her death barely touched me emotionally.

Relationships within a family are impacted when a member dies. If a son or daughter dies the parents are devastated and often so emotionally drained in dealing with their personal grief that they don’t have the foresight or energy to deal with the grief of other family members.

Men and women tend to grieve differently. Women are more apt to express their feelings overtly by crying, and talking about the death and their feelings. Men tend to internalize their feelings and use escape tactics to bury or hide their feelings, alcohol and sports are havens for hiding.

Siblings of a child who had died are left out and their feelings of grief are overlooked even ignored. It may take a sensitive relative, friend, neighbor or teacher to realize that they are in emotional pain too and need to have their grief recognized.

The situation is similar when a parent dies. For at least the first year the surviving spouse will be in a state of acute grief and may not have enough emotional reserves to cope with the grief of her children. Outside assistance with the children is necessary to allow their emotional needs to be met and facilitate healing.

I recommend support groups for parents and children to work on grief issues after losing a sibling, parent or other caregiver. This is a place where professionals can give guidance and support to a grieving child or spouse. Sharing in a group the special circumstances of your loss is therapeutic and healing. There are several very good supports around. Look for one in your community. If you can’t find one start one.

 

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Mania, Causes and Treatment.Research based case history of mania patient

  • Posted on January 7, 2010 at 7:20 pm

Introduction

Mr. Y was 66 years old; father of five children visited me with his son. His son complained that his father (Mr. Y) is much aggressive (specifically with wife and all other female family members), talkative and having problem of sleeplessness. Although sometime he got episodic attack and during attack he looks very hopeful and energetic and his other problems disappear during attack. The duration of this kind of attack usually is 3 to 4 days and by the end of this attack again he got much aggressive, talkative and with sleeplessness. He has also strongly believes that he has some strong spiritual powers and no one can hurt him in this world. His previous psychiatrist diagnosed that he was patient of Mania.

 Assessment

I took some unstructured interview from him, his wife and his sons. I got some information from those interviews that they were not a well-settled family but belongs to a poor family. Mr. Y has a younger brother (still unmarried). Mr. y was just 4 years old when his mother was expired and his younger brother was just 2 years old at that time. There were only four persons in home but after the death of his mother, only father with two sons were left. His father used to go to his work being farmer so both child, my patient and his 2 years old younger brother remained in home alone without any elder person at home. After few months his father got married again with another women and her step mother started to misbehave from very beginning of joining there home as step mother. She used to misbehaved, insulted and even physically tortured both of them and sometime she tortured his younger brother to give patient mentally torture. Patient used to keep out of home with his younger brother and try to spend their most of the time on streets and masjids to escape from bad behavior of their step mother. But during they remained out side home, he used to face different remarks mostly sympathetic remarks about them that they have lost their real mother and now facing  a cruel step mother. By the passage of time, her mother succeeded to misguide her father also about them and their father also started to misbehave them with insulting and taunting behavior. At last the bad behavior of his father and his step mother towards patient and his younger brother force them to leave that house and they shifted to their real in laws grand mother (mother of his real mother) due to. After shifting he felt responsibility of his younger brother also and he did not want to make burden on their grand mother so he started to do labor work by his own at his early age to look after himself and his younger brother. He was got married when he was 30 years old and after marriage he got a chance to go abroad for labor work. He went abroad leaving his family in Pakistan and he struggled hardly to earn more income and when he came back after 3 years, he has handsome amount with him so he started to do his own business as contractor successfully. Now, his all child are well qualified except one who is running his business very well and others are also doing well in their life. He has two daughters and both are married and happy with their married life. Now Mr. Y is living with his wife and sons in his own well furnished home.

 Treatment

After getting required information by interviews and their assessment, treatment of patient was started but it was a much difficult task as the patient is illiterate and it makes very difficult for me to even make conversation with him because he can just speak in a local language (Punjabi) not Urdu or English. So, there was no chance to use of specific writing technique which usually very helpful for this kind of patient. That’s why my treatment could only be depends on interviews and cross questioning in 45 sessions as described in following stages;

 Stage-1

Stage-1 was consist of 30 sessions and during first 10 sessions the early age of patient till death of his mother was discussed and cross questioning was made. It was assessed that although they were not financially well off but patient didn’t feel insecurity during this period of his life. He felt first time the insecurity (fear instinct) after death of his mother. This insecurity referred to trigger for fear instinct but technically it was not stimulus for fear instinct.  After the death of his mother, his father used to go to work as farmer and keep my patient with his younger brother of just 2 years old in home alone. During the time when his father remains out of home he had to look after his younger brother and it was too early to face any responsibility like this in early age of a child of just 4 years.

 After the second marriage of his father, behavior of his step-mother became stimulus for fear instinct which has already been triggered by the death of her real mother. The bad and insulting behavior of his step-mother which also included physically and mentally torture to him as well as his younger brother became the reason to enhance the sense of deprivation that they had lost their real mother and his unconscious level of mind lost the trust on women. And the situation became worst when his father also started to behave with them badly due to brain feeding by his step- mother which made his sense of deprivation more strong.

 During next 10 sessions, memory of his real mother during his early age till 4 years was recalled by cross questioning again and again. When memory of his real mother was recalled, he became more sensitive and even started to weep while feeling pressure on his shoulder. And by the same technique, memory of his step-mother was recalled and he became more aggressive during the session and passed negative comments about women but at the same time he again feels pressure on his shoulder as well as his nervous system. After that memory about his father was recalled by same technique, but during this session he tries to justify the bad behavior of his father while making his step-mother responsible for all that. It was clearly shown by analyzing results of these 10 sessions that generally all females and specifically family female members including his wife, daughters, and daughters-in-laws have become reference for stimulus (step-mother). These negative associations with females have become so strong that even when any of his sons shows love or care for his mother, sisters or wife, Mr. y again gets more aggressive with his son also.

 During last 10 sessions of this stage, cross questioning were made about his believes of spiritual powers and recalled the memory that at what age he felt that he has give these spiritual powers from GOD. It was observed that due to bad behavior of his step-mother, he along with his younger brother usually spend their time out of home and mostly they liked to go to Masjid (Place where Muslims offer the prayers) where they feel some security from GOD. In Masjid, after every prayer, the Imam (persons who leads the prayers) usually had some preaches about Islam and they listened it carefully because in these speeches Imam always told that GOD never do injustice and always help victims and as Imam usually gives the example of Islamic leaders that how GOD helped them by giving them some spiritual powers. Mr. Y knew that he was a child and not physically strong so his unconscious level of mind made a shelter (shelter is not compensation, compensation can vary from age to age and situation. However compensation may become habit but can not be believes of people which affect the entire personality.) That he has also some spiritual powers.  He became more energetic while discussing about his spiritual powers and pleased to tell the events when he used his spiritual powers. He was much relax and looks more confident without any burden on his shoulder and nervous system.

 Stage-2

Stage-2 consisted of 15 sessions and during these sessions, stimulus (step-mother, reference (females) and shelter (Spiritual powers) were linked with each other that how shelter was made by his unconscious level of mind and explore the association of reference with stimulus. These all links and associations were explored and brought into his conscious level of mind in a logical sequence. During theses session, the main emphasis is on making him realizing the facts consciously that whenever he sees any women (reference) which triggered stimulus (step-mother associated with fear instinct) which ultimately made him aggressive especially at home during any conversation with wife or any other female member of his family. Basically fear in his unconscious level of mind became reason of aggressiveness and then his unconscious level of mind starts to exploit shelter in terms of spiritual powers which actually does not exists but he always try to impose his believe (false) that he is having spiritual powers. So, it was realized him that due to this scenario, all other possible positive associations were suppressed by his unconscious level of mind due to stimulus for fear instinct. When all positive associations with reference (women) were realized by his conscious level of mind (every women is not step-mother) and he started to realize the fact that the women may b mother, daughter and sister without having any reference for stimulus and his unconscious level of mind also accept the possible associations of reference while leaving the grip on all negative association with reference as well as left the grip on shelter also.

 Resistance

During the therapy (Fear Therapy) whenever any attempt was made to unconscious level of mind to grip all other positive associations of reference while leaving those negative associations which have already been developed by his unconscious level of mind due to stimulus, every attempt triggered his stimulus and his unconscious level of mind resisted at its maximum level. Same situation faced and same resistance level was shown when attempts were made to him to realize the fact consciously that he has no spiritual power in real and he never do any work related to spiritual power. These feelings to be having spiritual power were just a shelter due to stimulus by his unconscious level of mind.

 Resistance level was kept increasing during treatment and at once he refused to continue treatment and visit to me. His son again bring him to me after much hassles and by the passage of time resistance level was becoming down and at last his conscious and unconscious level of mind finally accepted the facts.

 Findings

Mr. Y was a patient of Mania as per diagnosed by a psychiatrists. Basic reasons were death of his real mother and behavior of step-mother (stimulus). Female became reference for his stimulus. Unconscious level of mind (defense mechanism) made a shelter against stimulus that he is having spiritual powers. Treatment could not be possible without deep analysis of his unconscious level of mind that what was the stimulus and reference for fear instinct. It was necessary to explore all positive associations about his reference (female) to make his personality unsuppressed and make it at normal. When all other positive associations were realized by his unconscious level of mind and negative associations with stimulus and reference removed so there was no need of any shelter so the role of shelter was also wiped out. Minimum 5 sessions per week required for treatment because if there was gap between each session and next session may not be conducted on consecutive day, the fear which was explored in one session may again suppressed and resistance level of the client may also again suppressed. So continuity in sessions without having gap is very important in treatment for proper cure.

 

 

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