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How did Republicans become such a joke?

  • Posted on January 19, 2011 at 7:20 pm

They talk about family values and right after the election the Vice Presidents gay daughter is having a baby with her gay lover. Weekly conference calls with a meth head minister who employs gay prostitutes. Everything they have done has become a complete joke. How did they do it?
No I think Clinton’s personal life has nothing to do with this conversation. How do you bring up Clinton when we are talking about Republicans and their fondness for gay prostitutes?

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mother has become a recent alcoholic.

  • Posted on January 17, 2011 at 12:17 pm

hi, i was wondering if anybody would have some insight because i am at a loss it seems. my mother who has been a constant all my life has been, for about 2 years now, drinking and has done a good job at hiding it. lately it has gotten worse. ie: falling down stairs, passing/blacking out… i now have a 4 month old daughter and my mother made my pregnancy miserable. calling us to start fights, getting me riled up any way she could. i almost felt at one time i was going to lose the baby she hurt me so badly. my mother and i have always had an otherwise wonderful relationship. well, as of late, i have cut off contact with her for my sanity. i don’t want my young daughter around a drunk. my father works long hours and just doesn’t, i don’t feel, know what to do. if he did, he’d get her into some kind of rehabilitation program. it’s not like they don’t have the money to do it. he works alot and i think has been turning a blind eye. this is killing me and i am not sure what my next move is. i know my mother will not get help because “she just can’t leave her house” for the cold hospital setting. i know that is a cop out… i heard from my sister that she wants to invite us to dinner a few weeks from now. i can’t help but think that it will just be another “brain washing” session, making us think she’s “ok” and that “things are alright because she is a functioning alcoholic.” i am so hurt by all of this. i love her and hate that i am utilizing tough love… any insight would be appreciated. please, serious answers only.

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When and why did our society become so petty and vicious?

  • Posted on December 31, 2010 at 3:22 am

Although I’m not a supporter of the McBain/Palin campaign, I am a supporter of decency and fairness. Why have we, as a society, become so petty, vicious, and morally hypocritical when it comes to choosing the leaders of our country? Sarah Palin appears to be a tough, respected public servant – who happens to be beautiful. Her ability (or lack of it) to run for V.P. should be judged ONLY by her record on the job and NOT on her personal life – just as it should be for any male or female public servant candidate. Mentioning her husband’s drunk driving citation, her daughter’s pregnancy, and showing pictures of her in shorts and a feminine blouse (while probably at a private party) should have NOTHING to do with her ability to hold a high public office.

Personally, I think it’s mostly media who has taught us to be petty, vicious, and morally hypocritical. They are driven to tabloid-level journalism by greed and the need to make money. Shame on them, and shame on those of us who allow media to lead us by the nose instead of thinking for ourselves!

So, what do you think?

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Is it possible to become a Paramedic with a felony?

  • Posted on October 25, 2010 at 1:22 pm

My husband, was charged with Possession of Cocaine, a long time ago, and is interested in becoming a Paramedic. I was just wondering if it is at all possible to get a career in this field, with the background that he has. The felony was from a while back ago, and he has changed from that point in his life. Just wants to get back and do whatever he can to provide for our daughter… Thanx

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How do I become a better daughter in my part?

  • Posted on September 17, 2010 at 3:29 pm

My mom hates me (dont tell me im exagerrating this is how she puts herself out as a person, so im not kidding when I mean she doesnt want me),
I ask her if she does, and she says no I love you.
Then when I want to go to the mall with my friend, she asks and whos gonna take you?
I ask if she can take me, she says I think I’ll have to think about that attitude of yours.
Are we gonna smart off again? I ask when did I smart off? She says excuse me, then she laughs. Then she says you can forget going to the mall. Then she goes on with what activity shes doing.
I tried not to outburst for 3 days, and it was good, but deep down I wanted to slap her and scream all I wanted.
I try so hard, and after those ^^nights of fighting right after I just cry. I have so much anger and emotion bottled up because she hurts my feelings.
She slapped me really hard, and when she tried to hit me again, she tries to make me flinch by acting like shes going to hit me, which I think is rude, like she WANTS me to feel shes abusive and has power. As in, if mom comes around stop what im doing if she thinks its bad like watch twilight, or harry potter, and start reading a book or shell scream and slap me.
Seriously im not joking.
She keeps putting me down, she says all the time: I wish I had an abortion, you arent worth my life I couldve lived. Then she goes saying I wish I could do it all over. I could go to a bar now and drink, but no im stuck here with you.
I get all A’s maybe one B. I do my homework, my room is neatly kept together.
She doesnt say anything to me, I have to study on my own, and I dont eat anymore.
Only because of this, she screamed at me your so unhealthy you fat pig. I am only 13 and I weigh 80 lbs or so. I guess it scarred me pretty bad. So I dont like eating in front of people, or out. I mostly eat bland oatmeal, water, and applejuice, and gum. and thats it..
We were homeless at one point and she blamed me for that.
She doesnt drink, she smokes, and says she has depression.
But, I know she doesnt have depression, shes not suffering from it, its more of her crutch, her excuse so everyone feels sorry for her.
I find my generation ungrateful, as so myself, and I admit to this.
But we’ve had this problem all along, my whole life.
My dad isnt in my life, and I have no one to turn to.
I just cry all the time, and she walks in and starts laughing, as if shes saying your kidding me?!
She judges everything, she asks Jaci, do you listen to that emo music for Jesus?
I have a belief in Jesus, I go to church, and bible study, I love Jesus :)
And shes so stereotypical, she judges people like: Jaci they have gages, theyre going you-know-where. Or Jaci, look at all those tattoos, are they going to heaven?
And I just sit back watching her do this, I think to myself, well what do YOU do for Jesus.
I asked her what she does for Jesus one day during another daily fight of ours…
She looked at me, Jaci dont start with me again, I think yeah your just as f****** up as I’ll ever be.
She never admits it.
She has a fit over a t shirt. (Yes, I just said she had a fit, im not lying, she made a big deal out of something I didnt)
I bought an online unisex t shirt, I told her unisex is for men AND women, so it will be big. She says, Jaci im not buying a shirt your going to wear only 3 times, for like what 5 months till you grow out of it?!
So we get the shirt in the mail…and im just washing and drying it cuz a small unisex tshirt is like WOWZERS big on me -_-
So as I do this she screams, JACI YOU ARE SO F****** ungrateful!!
Im just trying to fit it so it’ll will fit me right. If you saw the t shirt on me, imagine a fat woman, not fat like a teenager with chubbiness, not fat but chubby and tall…im asian, and very small. Not to mention 5ft and all she does is scream at me.
Did I not tell you, fighting is the only way she knows how to communicate.
My aunt even thinks shes annoying..and my older cousin gets a kick out of me telling her what happens at home.
I dont know what to do anymore, I tried as hard as I could to keep it bottled up, and I just cant.
I told her she makes me cry alot, and hurts my feelings, she says how can someone make you cry? you do that all for yourself.
I just dont know what to do anymore, then the next morning she acts like everything was fine and nothing happened.
I have cutted myself many times because of this, I know I am one suffering depression, she says Im two faced and only love her when I want something. But I had cutted before and I feel like going back to that.
It got bad, I had to watch myself wearing short t shirts, so I wore hoodies my whole time of cutting and the healing process, I wear black eyeliner and straighten my hair, people call me emo, and now I feel terrible about myself. The kids in middle school talk about me all the time, and I dont know what to do any longer.
I stopped cutting, and my friend even threatened telling the school counselor, but I thr

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For those who want to become a WWE wrestler. Message from Test?

  • Posted on September 14, 2010 at 9:21 pm

This is a weird message from the wrestler Test before he passed. I found this on Nodq.com. Imma copy and paste this here and give you guys the link as well.

NoDQ.com > Features > Ironic statement from Test about Eddie Guerrero
Posted by Randy Gordon on 03/14/2009 at 04:44 PM

Andrew “Test” Martin posted the following message in 2005 on his official website, AndrewTestMartin.com:

Nov 14

I’ve been up all night and haven’t realy slept as everyone knows by know Eddie Guerrero has passed away. Everybody knows Eddie had his demons but he had been clean for a long time, it was way to soon for him to go and he leaves behind to beautifull young daughters and a wonderfull life my heart goes out to them. Eddie was a huge help to me he helped me progress in the ring and we even wrestles ar wrestlemania in houston in 2001 for the european championship. Eddie i pray you are in a better place and THANKYOU for everything you taught me. Now instead of usually talking about what I’m up to I’m going to break down the reality of this business we call wrestling. When I say “who’s next” I’m not coining Goldbergs line I’m actually wondering who’s next? who’s next to die? I can think of at least 15 to 20 people who have died from various things mostly prescription pain killers. For all you wanna be wrestlers who wanna get in this business..escpecially now when wwe doesn’t pay you anymore than you would make at a 9 to 5 job let me break some things down for you. When I started wrestling I had never seen or heard of vicodin or percocet or soma. How come so many wrestlers die from these medications and football players and hockey players don’t? The answer is simple..wrestlers especially wwe wrestlers work 5 days a week all year long taking bump after bump in the ring, a doctor explained it to me like this..everytime you take a fall in the ring it’s like gettin rear ended by a car going 20mph so how many bumps in the ring a night do you take? multiply that by how many times a week you work all year long..that’s a hell of a lot of whiplash and pain. I can remember hearing a conversation from some unamed wwe head guys talking about how this certain person needs to go to rehab but they couldnt send him because he was to important to the show..that’s the reality people thta is how we are treated…look at me I break my neck in the ring had to have 2 discs taken out of my neck and a steel plate put in and was told at the time by Johny Ace in his exact words were when I asked if my job would be in jeopardy he said “we don’t fire people with injuries like that” Hmm that’s funny cause 2 months after surgery I got fired because I wasn’t working my 7 years of busting my ass for them and putting over the bosses son while my foot was broken in a cast was all forgotten about. I remember when I was bein trained by Bret and I met Bad News Allen he said this to me and I’ll never forget it “all wrestlers are to Vince are puppets and when he is done playing with you he throws you away but sometimes he’ll dust you off bring you back and play with you some more” That is the truth people…when Johny Ace called me and told me they were releasing me which of course he put all the heat on Vince…I said to him what kind of message are you sending the boys that if they get hurt they are going to get fired? So all the guys who don’t want to lose their jobs what do they do…popp a couple of percocet or vicodin and mask the pain cause god forbid they say they are hurt and lose their job…I’m not going to name any names but I know at least a dozen or so wrestlers who are addicted to these things for that very reason…get hurt lose your job…I just turned 30 my back aches everyday, I have a metal plate in my neck and yes I got in the business at the right time and have a lot of nice things but is it all worth it? you guys don’t see the ugly side of this business..yes wrestling is entertainment but the bumps and bruises are real and sometimes they don’t go away…so think long and hard before you get in this business cause I can tell you first hand that if your not working or making them money they don’t give a shit about you….and the sad part is Eddie was clean and I guarantee he won’t be the last one to die in the next 12 months..so that’s why i say who’s next? Don’t take your life for granted it’s a gift..don’t go to bed mad and tell the people you care about you love them because you never know….take care

I was just sadden after reading that. What did you guys think?

Link- http://nodq.com/features/239070226.shtml

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My 6 year old daughter is becoming addicted to junk food, and I’m scared she’ll become overweight?

  • Posted on July 25, 2010 at 1:27 pm

What should I do?

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You might become a cult hero

  • Posted on January 25, 2010 at 10:11 am

You’ve written a few good songs, made a dollar or two jamming with a few bands or busking on the corner. Now, you’re no longer satisfied: dreaming of stardom, you’re hungry for the big time.


The worst thing to do is to hold out for the big break that never happens: Better to play for the love of music. With no false hopes and no illusions, start from zero. Somewhere, there’s an audience for you. Let someone hear you – mother, daughter, friend, lover – and listen to what they have to say. Drink in the encouragement and consider their criticism. It’s all good. Just get someone, anyone, anywhere, anytime to listen to you. Sing in the dark, sing in the park. Play for friends, for strangers, for young and for old.


All you need is a song and a crowd; the rest comes easy, one step at a time. The day will come when you’ll earn a place of respect. People will notice when you walk into a room. You won’t hear a pin drop when you begin to play at a local coffee house. The whole room will “rock” when you plug in and play at your neighborhood blues cafe.


But, if that’s not enough and you still want to get signed to a major record. Pet your dog. Kiss your wife or girlfriend goodbye. You’ll be away for a long, long time playing for people you don’t know in places you’ve never been before. Your chances of becoming a rock star are about as good as winning a lottery. Call it a glass ceiling. Call it a brick wall, mainstream success is rare.


They say the Beatles started their career playing in strip joints in Hamburg, Germany. Forty years ago, Hamburg’s infamous red-light district was where some of the world’s most popular rock musicians paid their dues. One day Brian Epstein discovered the Beatles when they packed the Star Club with whores, pimps, transvestites, sailors and fans of “beat music” swilling alcohol and dancing until dawn. Epstein saw something in them that no one else could see. Somehow he knew one day their raw sound would thrill audiences with a magic that will never return again.


Maybe someone will notice you one day. All you’ve got to is get the right people interested in what you’re doing and hold that interest long enough for them to “buy” what you’re doing. The more interested they are, the longer they stick around, the more ideas they’ll get for selling what you have to offer.


‘The cream always rises to the top’ doesn’t mean the best rise to the top. Without at least some marketing savvy, the average musician won’t make it very far alone no matter how good he is. Which brings me to my next thought. A performing career isn’t for most people. Most so-called pro musicians live below the poverty line spending their daylight hours watching TV in a dingey downtown apartment waiting for the phone to ring with a booking for your next paying gig. When you’re a seventeen year-old drop out, playing bar songs for a crowd of rowdy drunks might be someone’s idea of a good time but there are better ways to make a living.


If you want a life, think again. With a strong regional presence, it’s possible to make a name for yourself as an artist. If you travel a circuit, and stay around long enough your audience will grow and your CD sales will climb. If you’re good, you might become a cult hero or even a regional icon

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How the Family Members of Addicts Become Dysfunctional

  • Posted on January 9, 2010 at 8:06 pm

How the Family Members of Addicts Become Dysfunctional by Ken P

 Nobody escapes paying the price for alcoholism, drug addiction, and codependency in society. Even if you are fortunate enough not to be a drinker at a level that is diseased, (about 10% of our population drinks enough to hamper their daily performance) or one of the four adults who are in line daily enabling one who is (i.e., 48% of all adults over the age of 18 were either directly impacted by a diseased drinker as they grew up, or are being effected at the moment), then you are paying for the disease through higher taxes and insurance rates.
   It requires four reasonably functioning people to maintain a single non-functioning addict. These four others are forced to practice a unique sharing of the lies that form the spider web supporting the addict. In truth, these four usually come from the addicted person’s immediate family. These are the people who pay the highest price of all for addiction, with the possible exception of the addict. Let’s take a closer look at these people.
   First, there has to be one primary enabler. For alcoholic women, for example, this is typically a high functioning husband, a wealthy father, or a boss who spreads the work the alcoholic doesn’t do among many other workers. In time these dysfunctional enablers are sucked into the alcoholism vortex because alcoholism is a disease that is progressive. It creeps into systems slowly over many years. As the alcoholic gradually declines in functional capacity others, in terribly subtle ways, take up the slack.
   Maybe in the early days the drunk or hung over wife’s husband will cover for her by doing routine chores. He prepares more meals, washes more clothes, or stands in as the only parent during back-to-school night. Here is the husband taking his kids to the pediatrician, or playing with them at the park while mom is at home throwing up, or, less dramatically, she’s “…just too tired.” These are what my sons and I used to call “one of those Saturdays.”

Those Saturdays start like this.

“You guys just go ahead and go. I have to stay home with this headache.”

   The reasons for the headache are as diverse as the alcoholic’s imagination, but whenever she manages to shift her guilt to anybody else (usually her husband and/or kids), she makes them responsible instead of her alcoholism. And they all accept the terms!
   The husband hears her bad mood like this;

“She is mad at me because of the fight we had last night when I said that awful thing about her mother.”

   The oldest daughter, who is probably in the super-enabler role, might interpret this as;

“Mom is upset this morning because I didn’t do enough of the housework yesterday.”

   Little brother, who might be in the disappearing child or mascot role might translate;

“Mommy is mad because I wet the bed again last night and she has to stay home to wash the sheets.”

   The important truth that they all must ignore is that none of their guilt-ridden reasons apply. Their mother and wife has gone months now without feeling good. She hurts inside…physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. She lives in a world parallel to that of her husband, where the single goal each moment is to minimize pain. But for her part, she has the added burden of minimizing the pain while planning every event to coincide with her need for the security she knows only the bottle can provide.
   Here is a beautifully right on description of the “hunger” taken from Caroline Knapp’s best selling book, Dinking, A Love Story.

“The need is more than merely physical: it’s psychic and visceral and multi-layered. There’s a dark fear to the feeling of wanting that wine, that vodka, that bourbon: a hungry abiding fear of being without, being exposed without your armor. In (AA) meetings you often hear people say that by definition, an addict is someone who seeks physical solutions to emotional or spiritual problems. I suppose that’s an intellectual way of describing that brand of fear, and the instinctive response that accompanies it: there’s a sense of deep need, and the response is a grabbiness, a compulsion to latch onto something outside of yourself in order to assuage some deep discomfort.”

(PP 58)

   So the whole family is in the tight grip of the lady’s deep need for alcohol. That is why program people call it “a family disease.” The great lie, the great secret kept by everybody, is that the lady of the house is an alcoholic. The issue is beyond a moral question, beyond shame. It is an absolute. It is refusal by everyone in the family to be willing to admit this truth, even deep within themselves. This refusal perpetuates everybody’s pain.
   Both partners in the addiction dance are highly subject to what retailers call POP, or point of purchase advertising. This dynamic involves a momentary feeling of happiness that comes when some eye-appealing object is seen on the store shelf and immediately purchased. At the height of our disease process, Deb and I were having garage sales every month because we both bought so much junk. It was always just “stuff,” like books, bobbles, and beads. That did no help our financial situation either. I eventually learned to check myself by asking myself a question every time I started to buy some new toy. I would ask myself…”how much will I get for this in the next garage sale?”
   When this evolves into making major purchases such as cars, it can lead to a common outcome with addiction…bankruptcy. I once heard a wise AA quote his sponsor about this form of self destruction. His sponsor told him;

   “You are broke all of the time because you keep buying things you don’t need with money you don’t have trying to impress people you don’t know!”

   If you recognize yourself or someone you love int his description of a dysfunctional family, THERE IS HELP! Call Al-Anon or Nar-A-Non to learn where there are meetings right in your community…right now!

Al-Anonis at 1-888-4AL-ANON.

Nar-A-Non is at 1-800-477-6291.

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