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I cant seem to understand one thing why does everyone put the blame on hispanics for what happen to those t

  • Posted on May 7, 2011 at 1:23 pm

my daughter was hit by a drunk driver a few days before the tragedy of those two baby girls and nothing was done to make her pay the consequnses for drinking and driving

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Should I take the blame for something I didn’t do, if it means I can avoid breaking a promise?

  • Posted on March 12, 2011 at 3:20 pm

Out of me and my younger sister, I was always the ‘bad’ daughter, because I smoked cigarettes and weed, was addicted to amphetamines and opiods (including heroin, occasionally), was an alcoholic, and most of my friends were dealers. I was like that from about 13 til two months ago, when I suddenly had a change of heart (I’m almost 19 now). I’ve quit all drugs (apart from caffiene and nicotine :P) and quit drinking, cold turkey. I decided to be healthy, and on top of that, to be an honest person, and live in a moral way, so I could start making up for how awful I’d been in the past.

Part of my new life is my decision that I would NEVER break a promise, because I want to be honest. Another thing I decided was that I would do everything I could to avoid causing people harm, and I would protect and look after my family as best I could.

This is my problem: my 14yr old sister (who, as far as my mom knows, is 100% good and has never done anything wrong) came home from school stinking of weed. My mom smelled it, and immediately assumed it was me who had been smoking it, because of my past. I said I hadn’t been smoking weed (which is true), but she doesn’t believe me, and is pulling a huge guilt trip which is making me really upset. My sister told me that not only did she smoke weed today, but that she smokes it very often, and drinks. She’s planning to go out and get drunk and stoned tonight, having lied to my mum about where she’s going. But she made me PROMISE not to tell our parents any of this.

What is the right course of action here? I would hate to break my promise, but on the other hand, I’m afraid she might get hurt or go down the same path I did if I don’t break the promise. And that would break the vow I made to protect my loved ones. Also, it’s unfair that I should be punished for something I didn’t do.
But then again, I feel like it’s my fault that she’s got in with a bad crowd (a lot of her friends do drugs, and she’s started to help her dealer friends measuring, packing and moving the weed on), because of the awful role model set to her. Should I set that right by telling my mom and hoping she will stop my sister ending up like I did? Or should I just take the blame and do nothing?

What is the moral course of action here?

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Should I take the blame for something I didn’t do, if it means I can avoid breaking a promise?

  • Posted on March 11, 2011 at 5:20 pm

Out of me and my younger sister, I was always the ‘bad’ daughter, because I smoked cigarettes and weed, was addicted to amphetamines and opiods (including heroin, occasionally), was an alcoholic, and most of my friends were dealers. I was like that from about 13 til two months ago, when I suddenly had a change of heart (I’m almost 19 now). I’ve quit all drugs (apart from caffiene and nicotine :P) and quit drinking, cold turkey. I decided to be healthy, and on top of that, to be an honest person, and live in a moral way, so I could start making up for how awful I’d been in the past.

Part of my new life is my decision that I would NEVER break a promise, because I want to be honest. Another thing I decided was that I would do everything I could to avoid causing people harm, and I would protect and look after my family as best I could.

This is my problem: my 14yr old sister (who, as far as my mom knows, is 100% good and has never done anything wrong) came home from school stinking of weed. My mom smelled it, and immediately assumed it was me who had been smoking it, because of my past. I said I hadn’t been smoking weed (which is true), but she doesn’t believe me, and is pulling a huge guilt trip which is making me really upset. My sister told me that not only did she smoke weed today, but that she smokes it very often, and drinks. She’s planning to go out and get drunk and stoned tonight, having lied to my mum about where she’s going. But she made me PROMISE not to tell our parents any of this.

What is the right course of action here? I would hate to break my promise, but on the other hand, I’m afraid she might get hurt or go down the same path I did if I don’t break the promise. And that would break the vow I made to protect my loved ones. Also, it’s unfair that I should be punished for something I didn’t do.
But then again, I feel like it’s my fault that she’s got in with a bad crowd (a lot of her friends do drugs, and she’s started to help her dealer friends measuring, packing and moving the weed on), because of the awful role model set to her. Should I set that right by telling my mom and hoping she will stop my sister ending up like I did? Or should I just take the blame and do nothing?

What is the moral course of action here?

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How to kick alcoholic out of house after they have been thru 5 rehabs. continue to need someone else to blame!

  • Posted on September 27, 2010 at 4:19 pm

Seems to me that I have been a huge enabler to my brother for many many years. All the time receiving far away phone calls when he even became homeless. When is it ever enough for them to hit ‘rock bottom’? Despite losing everything he has MANY times over, including the trust of his own 16 yr old daughter, it does not seem to be enough.

I now fully realize it’s so important to take care of oneself, not to mention my own ‘newer’ family. But alcoholic seems always to need someone to blame for their screw ups, and I’m usually ‘it’.

Also realize that they must WANT to help themselves first and foremost. No matter what you try to do to help them, nothing ever seems to be enough. They always want the past to just remain the past.

But until they get around to making amends, to me….one can forgive, but never forget; especially when continually rubbed in your face.

Only thinks he’s harming himself; but it affects our whole family! How to get them to realize the impact? HELP PLEASE!

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Why does everybody blame me for the death of my step-daughter?

  • Posted on August 17, 2010 at 11:23 am

It wasn’t even my fault that I drove under-the-influence. My wife forced me to drive drunk so that she could watch the series-finale of Lost! Please help! I don’t want to go to prison.

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