My husband has a long history of drug abuse. Before we married, he told me about it and also promised he was clean. Twice in the past 7 years he smoked crack and cleaned up again when I said I would divorce him. Now, he has become addicted to Vicodin which his doctor gives him for a pain issue. I found out 2 days ago he took 140 pills over a period of 2 weeks. I called his mother, his brother, and his adult daughter to tell them what problem I am having with him because I want help. I love my husband and I want everyone to help me to help him. This led to a huge fight which got out of hand last night because now that he ran out of pills he is drinking alot of alcohol. He threatened to leave the house and live on the streets because he would prefer “freedom” over my “control” of his addictions. Things calmed down and now I’ve convinced him to go inpatient and get detoxed.
The problem is the family is blaming me… and saying I was on a mad woman rant when I called them to say he was using drugs. They said they already know he has a drug problem… and only he can deal with his drug problem. I guess they don’t want to help him… I don’t know. But when I listen in on their phone calls with him, they are talking to him as if they need to protect him from me because I am a psycho, or abusive, or controlling… but in reality he has got to the point in his life where he can’t take care of himself and I am the only one who works and does everything around the house. He stays on his pills or drunk and I am scared to death the man I married is going to kill himself on his addictions.
I guess it was wrong to ask his family to help me. What is wrong with everyone over here?
enjoy – I really appreciate your honesty. Believe me I want to help him and I thought I was doing the right thing. I feel so lost because I never dealt with a drug addiction before and I didn’t know what would happen in my marriage. I feel lost. I thought his family would all come to my aid and tell him he needs to clean himself up. I didn’t expect them to blame me when I have never done anything wrong.
