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We’re both teenagers, 5 years apart. Read and give an opinion, please?

  • Posted on December 28, 2010 at 9:21 am

I know there’s probably a lot of unnecessary crap in here, but It matters to me, so sorry for the long read

It was late October when He found me on a SN site. I had left a comment on a musicians page. When he saw it, he looked at my page. I was 12 at the time, but my profile said I was 17. He was a few days short of 17. I do look a bit old for my age, so he believed it. We had a lot in common. Music, likes, dislikes, and we both ranted about the same problems going on in the world today. He sent me a friendly hello, and we wrote back and forth for sometime as he revealed we lived about 2 miles away from each other (He told his street name). He gave me his number, and I called. After about 2 hours of conversations ranging from the lunacy of Chris Crocker to what we wanted to do when we grew up, I told him my age. He flipped out, and kindly said he had to help his dad with a few things. We didn’t really talk again for about a year, and I watched as girlfriend after girlfriend walked all over him. around late 2008 we started talking again, still hours a night. In February of ’09, we met at a church down the road from us, and sparks flew. I remember a few friends, him and I were goofing around before the service, and I hit my head on the brick wall. Not too hard, but it did leave a knot. His amount of care towards me and the amount of assurance it took him to know I was okay surprised me, because no one’s really cared that much about something like that in a LONG time for me. We’ve been together for 14 months now, I’m 15 and he’s turning 20 this year. We haven’t had sex, and haven’t gotten past kissing. I know that’s a long time to make a guy wait, but I admire his love and acceptance for my own health issues. His family isn’t the most functional, and mine sees him and his younger sisters as our family. My family thinks he’s 16 while his thinks I’m 17. His mother has told me I’m the best thing for him, and she claims she sees me as a daughter.

He’s helped me through a heroin addiction. He’s helped me through problems at home, and I’ve done the same. He’s helped me mature, and from what his mother says, I’ve helped him do the same.

I know there’s nothing wrong with us as we are, but I’m tired of hiding. My mother IS stingy about older guys. At one point awhile back she said all they want from females my age is ‘a tight tw@t.’

I know Cody sees more, and I want her and our families to understand. I just don’t know how to confront him or our families about it.

Opinions and advice are appreciated.
-Missy
I didn’t lie directly to him, when i created the page i selected a random date.he wasnt aware of thAt until the first phone conversation, and even then he was in disbelief.

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I’m thinking about divorce, however worried about my 8 year old daughter, she loves us both?

  • Posted on October 8, 2010 at 4:17 pm

She hasn’t seen any problems because I have kept her sheltered as much as possible, so she feels like she has a good family unit. However, it has been a nightmare for me with him being an alcoholic. What do I do?

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My husband and daughter both critisize my poor driving skills?

  • Posted on September 7, 2010 at 1:22 pm

My husband has totaled two cars. He got my keys one morning before I got out of bed, went drinking, and flipped my car five times that afternoon. He has wrecked his car many times and finally totaled it. He finally got a long sentence in rehab. Tonight after a weekend pass, he made fun of my driving as I was taking him back to the halfway house.

My daughter that is sixteen failed the computerized driving test two days ago.

I have been driving over thirty years and have been in one minor traffic accident that was my fault and that was over twenty years ago. I have had one speeding ticket in my life. What should I do about the constant criticizism of my driving abilities?

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Legal advice:Is it okay for my soon to be ex husband have the locks changed on the house we both own?

  • Posted on August 26, 2010 at 4:22 am

We are in the middle of going through a divorce. He has his ex-wife staying there. He had the locks changed. I can’t get and half of my and our 4 year old daughter’s things are still in the house. We both have a toorneys but they are closed for the weekend. I sent my husband a text saying I was on my way over to get my new key with a cop escort. He said I have no right to do that and he would call the cops too! It’s still my house! Do I not have a right? My husband is getting drunk at our home and he is on probation for a dwi with our daughter in the car.
sorry for all the typos! I was typing fast!
Texas. I left b/c we were fighting, not b/c we were divorcing. He texted me later that week he wanted a divorce.

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Is it legally considered rape if both parties were intoxicated?

  • Posted on August 13, 2010 at 7:26 pm

I’m a college student, who more often than not does not go to parties or to bars with my buddies due to studies. However, last night — as we have a week long break in the semester — I decided I’d go to a party one of my friends was throwing. While there, I got completely hammered to the point where I remember bits and pieces.

I recall a girl striking up a conversation with me, which ended up with her (clearly) stating that she wanted to have sexual intercourse with me; I did not bring the issue up at all. Both of us certainly were drunk at the time. So, we ended up going into a secluded room and began kissing. Since the girl said she wanted to have sex, I started to oblige her request. After she stripped her clothes, however, she said that she didn’t feel like having sex anymore. I figured she was joking as she had only just asked for it minutes ago and suggestively removed her clothes. Therefore I ignored her and continued on. Soon afterward, she began to scream; I thought she was role-playing so I covered her mouth and proceeded with the act. Apparently, in the process, I ended up hitting her accidentally.

I cannot ascertain how either of us exited the room, but today, I awoke to a call from the girl’s mother. She verbally harassed me for well over twenty minutes and threatened to alert both the police and my attending university to her belief that I raped her daughter! I tried to explain to her what had happened but she just would not listen!

I did not know what I was doing at the time. Both of us had been heavily drinking and the girl was asking for it. Am I going to be in trouble here? I’ve worked incredibly hard to get where I’m at and am on the cusp of graduation. I can’t lose all of that! Just by the very accusation, I’m virtually guaranteed to lose community standing.

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For Better Or Worse, Your Kids Need Both Of You

  • Posted on January 9, 2010 at 7:06 pm

Copyright (c) 2009 Lucille Uttermohlen

I had a case today that was very typical. Two divorced parents who generally got along found themselves in court because of their 15 year old daughter. She is a poor student, had some rather unsavory observations on her “My Space” page, and generally has shown herself to be a pain in the nether regions.

The father is one of those people who is so laid back, it is amazing he can stand up. He isn’t a bad guy, just a little distant and self involved. He works 5 nights a week, and is more interested in being a buddy to his kids than a parent. In short, if he gets the custody decision he wants, the daughter’s step-mother will be raising the girl.

The mother is from the old school. She believes her kids should do what they are told, and she monitors their computer and cell phone use. When the daughter lived with her, she had a strict curfew, and could not go out with her friends unless she told her mom where she was going, with whom, and when she’d be back. The daughter wasn’t allowed to date, and most of her social activities had to be approved by Mom beforehand. This may sound strict, but it will also sound familiar to those of us of a certain age.

Judgipoo was not happy with either parent. He felt the father was supporting the child in her disrespectful behavior. He didn’t reveal his deepest thoughts to the mother, but he wasn’t happy with the daughter’s grades when she lived with either parent. He was not interested in hearing the testimony of one of my witnesses to whom daughter dearest tried to sell drugs. In short, he came into court mad, wasn’t too happy when he listened to the parents, and was madder still when the hearing ended. All of the tropical plants in his courtroom were amply steamed, and the lawyer eating snakes went to bed tonight with full bellies.

The sad thing about this situation is that it could have been avoided. The parents apparently talked together about their kids and the behavior they expected from them earlier this year. The daughter announced that she would like to live with her father. The mother was willing to let her do it, thinking that a few weeks of not seeing Dad anymore than she would have during visitation would convince her that she may as well move home.

The daughter found that lack of supervision at Dad’s was a fun thing, and decided she wanted to stay. Throw in the step-sister with driving privileges, and the fact that no one made her do anything she didn’t want to, and it is easy to understand why she did not want to come back to her mother’s more regimented environment.

Dad refused to listen to Mom when she tried to tell him why she didn’t think things were working out. The girl admitted to Mom that she no longer had friends, and that she no longer engaged in the school activities she used to love. Dad testified that the only reason he had brought his custody case was that the “daughter wanted to live with him”. He didn’t know what grade she was in, nor did he know who her friends were, and that she had put her cell phone number on “My Space” where all the little perverts in the world could find it and call her for a nice sexy chat. If she’s lucky, she can have a date with a sex offender in 24 hours or less. Dad would be at work, so he needn’t be the wiser.

Both parents love the daughter. Dad just thinks he is being a good father because the girl relates to him like she does with the rest of the kids in her class. Mom thinks the kid ought to tow the line, and that she should be accountable for her time and attitudes towards people.

They are both right. Kids need to feel they can confide in their parents. There is a lot of confusing influences in today’s high schools, and a kid needs to be confident that the person who is responsible for their well being understands their feelings. However, they also need to be stopped from making choices that are not good for them, and Mom and Dad are the ones who have to guide them in this regard.

When people divorce, they need to forget their feelings towards each other when they are raising their kids. As hard and unpleasant as it can be, they should sit down and discuss what their kids are doing, and what actions they should be taking. Unfortunately, too many kids of divorce end up being parented by judges because the parents can’t agree between themselves what is best for their children. Not only does the court end up deciding where they will live, and how they will be supported, it also ends up having to decide whether the kids should have to go to reform school, or whether their drug use was a one time thing. This fact, more than anything else often results in a disconnect between society and the next generation. This is why divorcing couples should be very careful that living separately doesn’t mean they will no longer parent together.

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My 3 yrs old daughter is not drinking much. do you offer your kids drink with meal, after meal or both?

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 2:32 am

I do both but not sure when she is expected to drink more – during meal (say dinner) or after dinner (meaning drinking less while eating is normal)?
THANKS.

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Authorities on both sides of the border detain suspects in regard to the killing of U.S. Border Patrol agent

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 8:27 am

 

By Michael Webster: Syndicated Investigative Reporter. July 26, 2009 at 3:00 PM PDT

 

 

Authorities in Mexico claim they have arrested four men in relation to the murder of U.S. Border Patrol agent Robert Rosas. Many U. S.  news outlets reported over the week end that U.S. authorities also arrested three people in connection with the Thursday killing of a Border Patrol agent in San Diego County were arrested at O’Connor Hospital in San Jose Friday the two men and a woman where discovered as authorities searched hospitals for a person or persons possibly wounded in the murder of agent Rosas.

The detainees in Mexico according to Mexican law enforcement are allegedly part of a drug and immigrant smuggling organization. More than 20 Mexican nationals were together with the suspects when police detained them. Mexican police report they seized weapons among this group near Tecate, Mexico, said Elias Alvarez Hernandez, coordinator of federal police in Baja California.

Whether it was illegal immigrants or drug smugglers is not immediately clear. What is certain is Border Agent Robert Wimer Rosas, was killed in the line of duty by unidentified individuals at 9:15 PM on July 23rd while on duty patrolling the U.S. Mexican border.

At the news conference held Saturday Mexico police did not say what evidence if any they had against the four, identified as Jose Quintero Ruiz, 43, and his brother Jose Eugenio Quintero Ruiz, 49, and taxi drivers Jose Alfredo Camacho, 34 and Antonio Valladares, 57.

Agent Robert Rosas was killed Thursday while responding alone to a suspected border incursion near Campo, a town in rugged, arid terrain in southeastern San Diego County. He was shot in the head and body and was dead when other agents arrived, said Keith Slotter, special agent in charge of the FBI’s San Diego bureau.

Federal police reported one of the four suspects told police that a man detained Friday with a handgun had shot Rosas. Tecate police said Friday they had arrested 36-year-old Ernesto Parra Valenzuela near the crime scene with a Border Patrol-issued weapon after the shooting.

FBI spokesman Darrell Foxworth told The Associated Press in an e-mail late Saturday that he could not confirm or comment on any arrest reports.

The San Diego County Sheriff’s Department confirmed that agent Rosas was shot in the head.

U.S. investigators said blood evidence at the scene indicated at least one culprit and possibly others had serious injuries, possible wounded by Rosas.

Warning alerts by American officials have expressed concerns that the drug cartel battles plaguing Mexico could spill into the United States with the targeting of U.S. law enforcement.

Investigators aren’t ruling out the possibility that Rosas was slain by drug smugglers, human smugglers or even terrorist.

Arturo Sarukhan, the Mexican ambassador to the United States, said Mexican law enforcement agencies are cooperating in the case.

“This is a tragic example of the violence we keep facing at our common border as President (Felipe) Calderon continues to roll back transnational organized crime, and underscores the need for both our countries to keep working as full partners to guarantee the safety and security of those living on both sides of our border communities,” Sarukhan said in a written statement Saturday.

Rosas was the first Border Patrol agent to die in a shooting in more than a decade, according to The Officer Down Memorial Page Inc., which tracks fallen officers using information provided by law enforcement agencies. Another agent, Luis Aguilar, was intentionally run over by a fleeing man driving a drug-laden Hummer in January 2008.

Rosas, a three-year Border Patrol veteran, had a 2-year-old son and an 11-month-old daughter, said Richard Barlow, acting chief patrol agent for the Border Patrol’s San Diego sector.

Authorities could not confirm reports that he called for backup and then went ahead before anyone arrived, but said it isn’t unusual for agents to work alone along the border.

Since 1919, 108 Border Patrol agents have died on duty, according to The Officer Down Memorial Page. Gunfire was the leading cause with 30 deaths, followed by automobile accidents and aircraft accidents.

The FBI is offering a $100,000 reward for information that leads to the arrest and conviction of the killer or killers.

Secretary of Homeland Security Janet Napolitano, told the AP “I am deeply saddened by the tragic death of one of our own,” Napolitano said in the statement.

Rep. Darrell Issa issued a statement Friday about Rosa’s slaying.

“What happened last night was a tragedy and a painful acknowledgment that at any time, our Border Patrol agents may be put into an extraordinary circumstance,” Issa said. “The thoughts and prayers of our entire region are with the family and friends of this fallen agent.”

 

Rep. Brian Bilbray (R-Calif.) warned that Rosas’ killing was a wake-up call and another example of how the violence related to illegal aliens and drugs crossed over the border along with the smugglers

The Minutemen group reported that the shooting incident occurred on U.S. territory about 100 feet north of the border after several agents responded to a call from a minuteman scout/ observer that four persons had trespassed over the border in front of his outpost at about 8:45 pm last night. The outpost is located at the border in Campo, Ca., about 60 miles east of San Diego.

The minuteman scout, a member of the Campo Minutemen organization, told Minuteman Project president Jim Gilchrist that within minutes of his call about a half dozen agents responded and approached the intruders on foot. A foot chase ensued whereupon one of the intruders opened fire on Agent Rosas. He died at the scene from a gunshot wound to the head. The shooter and his accomplices are believed to have fled back into Mexico.

Sources:

Arturo Sarukhan, the Mexican ambassador to the United States

Associated Press / NBC TV Bay Area

The Officer Down Memorial Page

San Diego County Sheriff’s Department

ICE

FBI

Tecate Police Dept.

Elias Alvarez Hernandez, coordinator of federal police in Baja California.

Mexican Federal Police

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