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My daughter 26. her boyfriend of 5yrs wants me to go to his grandparents for xmas.?

  • Posted on April 30, 2011 at 4:17 am

Im divorced since she was little. She spent Thanksgiving with xhusbands family. and xmas with me.
4 years ago when she graduated college i went to her boyfriends family for xmas. They live 2hrs away. I am permantly disabled. Have had 5 back operations. This takes a toll on me. I spent Thanksgiving alone. Her and boyfriend stop by for short visit day after Thanksgiving. Now because he came down and spent thanksgiving with her fathers family he expects me to travel and spend xmas with his family. I only get to see her maybe 8 days a year. With her job and her living 4hrs away. Ive been in a relationship with a man for 15yrs. off and on because he is an alcoholic. He went to florida last dec. and got in program an is sober for 1yr. I spent 8mons in florida with him and had to come home in Oct. to take care of some business. His sisters live near me and we are close . they have invited my daughter and i for xmas dinner. I accepted the invitation. My daughter likes their company an agreed. But now her boyfriend is throwing the card i went to your families for thanksgiving. you should come to mine on xmas. My daughter is uncomfortable going to his families because he gets all moody and has issues with his mother. his parents are also divorced. Its complicated. Then her fathers side of family wants her to run all over to see them. She usually comes down on xmas eve day spends xmas day and leaves to spend xmas with her father on 26th.
I dont feel i am being unreasonable asking her to spend the 2days with me. What do you feel.

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Daughter mad because i won’t help her plan wedding to alocholic boyfriend?

  • Posted on March 27, 2011 at 6:17 am

My daughter is mad at me because i will not help her plan her wedding to her alcoholic boyfriend of 6 month. She has been living with him for 5 months. She said he has stop drinking because she told him she would leave if he didn’t. This is what she has told us, however her last boyfriend was messed up with drugs and she told us he wasn’t. So we don’t know what to believe from her. She has always been this way if she does not hear what she want to hear than she cuts us out of her life. But this has been the hardest of all because i want to help her with her big day but don’t feel this is the best thing. I came from an alcoholic family i understand how they work. If he has stopped drinking then its only been a month or 6 weeks. I told her give him two years without drinking and i would help. The guy doesn’t have a license to drive anymore. He has been abusive to her when he has been drunk but she will not face up to that. She says he is a fun loving guy. I know she will marry him no matter what I do, but i just can’t ok this. I can’t help her marry someone like this. I don’t know what to do.

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My daughter’s boyfriend broke up with her. Advice?

  • Posted on March 8, 2011 at 10:17 pm

She is almost 19, bf has just turned 21. His birthday wish was to go to a bar and get drunk. He did. My daughter and his friends have tried to get him to at least drink less, but he told her today that she’s “too much on his case” about the drinking. It’s his life, but he’s being a butt. I have no advice to give her because I’ve never been there. I told her that maybe she should give him some space. She had already said something to him in that direction, but he told her he’s an alcoholic and he can’t change for her. Anyone out there with some words of wisdom?

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My daughters boyfriend killed her in a wreck because of alcohol.?

  • Posted on February 26, 2011 at 9:23 pm

My daughter (18 yrs) and her boyfriend (22 yrs) went to a party two weeks ago. He was drunk and driving, and killed my daughter in the wreck. He has had 3 major wrecks due to alcohol…two of which involved my daughter, and he has walked with no punishment all three times. Now, we are waiting for blood test to come back to determine if this is a manslaughter case. I don’t understand why he is still walking around able to flee at any time. Now I found out that he is drinking and going to party’s again and already sleeping with another girl. I feel as if I am gonna lose my mind if something is not done soon. I want Justice to be served. What can I do to put him behind bars….he is going to do it again to someone else.

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What should I do about my mom’s boyfriend?

  • Posted on February 21, 2011 at 9:24 am

So my mom has this boyfriend. And apparently we live with him. He is extremely lazy. Our grass in the yard is five feet high. we have mud all in our yard. we can’t leave the house without stepping in mud.The mud thing has been a problem for over two years. Every time it dries up, he says he’ll fix it by putting road base down but he never does. The house is in bad shape. We have roaches everywhere. And he never calls an exterminator. He never cleans. All he does is sit down and watch tv. THAT’S it. He doesn’t do anything. He doesn’t discipline his children. His two boys, 11 and 12, fight all the time. They hit each other and yell at each other non stop. And all he’ll do is sit on the couch from the other room and yell, “stop.” His 16 year old daughter is a fake. She gets everyone in trouble. And he believes everything. He doesn’t do anything because he’s lazy. when he wants something to drink, he’ll yell “get me something to drink.” what should I do about this?
For the most part. The thing that irritates me is the yard problem. He is LAZY!! He doesn’t do anything but sit on his A$$. Does anyone know of a website where I can turn someone in or something? I need to do something about this. It’s irritating. He’s not a good father at all. He should even be a father. Thank god he’s not mine!!!!!
I forgot to say that he doesn’t ever get up and go by a lawn mower. that’s one reason why that’s not getting done. But he does have the money. And as far as the cleaning. I’m the only one that cleans around there. I’m tired of being the only one out of 7 people
BTW i’m 17 years old. My mom talks to him about it. But he doesn’t even care.

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was i wrong? and why isn’t my boyfriend on my side about this? molestation ?

  • Posted on February 15, 2011 at 9:22 pm

i have 3children my daughter 3, son almost 2, and a newborn 5months old. For almost a year i have had a bad feeling towards my sisters boyfriend. they always want my daughter to spend the night and not my oldest son. i cannot explain why.. but her boyfriend makes me really uncomfortable. he is an ex heroin addict, i know he used to pick up prostitutes.. so he isnt the best of people. my sister is in love with him and they have been together for 2years..

now to my question.. everytime my daughter spends the night over at their house she comes home red in her vagina and always complaining about her butt hurting.. (she just turned 3 on dec. 5) so its not like i can ask her cause she doesn’t really understand what i mean. i have taken her to her dr. and had her looked at.. even gone as far as getting std check on her.. just in case.

there has never been any real proof, just a bad feeling. my boyfriend, her father, tells me that if i dont approve of him dont send her.. she has spent the night over there maybe 4 times and for the last 6months she hasnt spent the night at all.. i try to convince myself that nothing happened and i am just over reacting.. so i let her spend the night again on monday. again she came home with a bump on her lip and red, along with pain.

i texted my sister “i dont want to ask this but i have to, was your boyfriend alone with her at anytime?” she replied, “no, but why” i didn’t reply immediatly and she texted me again “i think i deserve to know why, you are accusing someone i love very much of something terrible” i texted her back “i have noticed she is red everytime she comes home, and i always have a bad feeling when she is over there” she then texted back and said “it really sucks that you may have just ruined my life in a text” i replied with “wow.”

she later texted me something along the line that she doesn’t want to talk anymore and that i am wrong.. i wrote her back saying that “i would rather be wrong and have said something then to be right and not have said anything.. my children come first no matter what!!”

her boyfriend called my boyfriend and my boyfriend said that he doesn’t have a problem with him at all and i am shouldn’t have said anything..

though my sister and i are pretty close, i am not sad.. i’m mad. i do not feel that i am wrong about him and even if i am, i feel i have the right to ask questions. my sister and i were molested when we were younger and our mom didn’t do anything about it until my sister told other people. i feel like of all people she should understand where i am coming from.

i have been with my boyfriend for almost 4years and though we have been through a lot.. this might be the one thing that breaks us up.

my questions are: was i wrong? and why isn’t my boyfriend on my side about this?
She will NEVER
She will NEVER
She will NEVER
i never had any proof and i already told my sister that she cannot come over anymore.

thank you all for making me feel more confident in my situation. though i love my sister very much and will miss her not being in my childrens and my life, my children are always first!

I just hope my boyfriend will understand where i am coming from

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My boyfriend Banged my head against the wall when drunk and kicked me?

  • Posted on February 4, 2011 at 9:23 pm

I went out with my boyfriend on Saturday night to the pub for his Birthday night out.There was a group of us including my older brother, my boyfriends cousin and lots of friend. He had lots to drink and was getting into a heated argument in the pub with someone who was out with us both over football. He was very loud at this point which is unusual for him as he is probably one of the most laid back guys i have ever met in day to day life. Me, my partner and his cousin ended up going into town and when we was waiting to get into a club he ended up nearly having a fight with another guy for no reason. The police had to pull him aside and have a word with him. We entered the club and he saw his other cousin in the club and started having ago at him for not coming out for his birthday, then i saw a guy i knew i was saying hi to him and he went mad at my left the club and left a horrible voice-mail message on my phone calling me a slag and that he was off to get our daughter from his mums. I panicked and jumped into another taxi stopping home first to see if he was there and he was stood outside smoking a cigarette. He then went up to the taxi driver that dropped me off shouting saying ‘ring through your radio and find out which taxi driver has stolen my mobile phone’ The taxi driver drove off because my boyfriend was being so aggressive.My boyfriend decided to chase the taxi down our street shooting a kicking the taxi. He then ran back to our house where i was and started calling me a slag, saying i have ruined his life and hes gonna take our daughter away. Because i got mad at what he said he banged my head against the wall repeatedly till i went all dizzy, he then kept leaving and coming back and each time he either kicked me on the floor banged my head against the wall again or spat at me. He then kept driving off in our family car and then when he come back and he went for me again i just said”Go on hit me you cant hurt me anymore than what you already have” and he just stood there laughing at me as tears poured down my cheeks. He has broken my house phone, broken my bin and threw this at me and also punched holes in our house walls and smashed glass everywhere. He woke up the next morning crying, begging and apologizing. I now don’t know what to do. He is now being moody with me because im in a mood and keeps saying “what more do you want me to do, ive said sorry so many times, i know ive acted wrong and i will stop drinking like that to prove to you. But it isn’t the first time he has attacked me when drunk but this time is definitely the worse. I have two children, my oldest daughter isn’t his just my youngest. i need help i don’t no what to do i have been with him for 3 years and he is normally so nice to me. He even said the day after that he will get help now hes saying he doesn’t need help but that he is just not gonna drink as much as that ever again

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How to get my 17 yo daughter home from staying with her 20 yo boyfriend without reporting her as a runaway?

  • Posted on January 30, 2011 at 9:22 am

Situation: They live in towns about 80 miles apart. She met him 9 months ago and spent time with him.Then he has a fling with an older girl he claims was “just a booty call”. This girl gets pregnant, and decides to have this baby, and raise it on her own. She moves to NY. About a month later my daughter gets pregnant by him also, after much upset she firmly decides to have his baby. Sadly, her pregnancy ends in miscarriage.
She now has dropped out of school, and has him pick her up to stay with him for days at a time. She tells me he is “safer” for her to be with than her girlfriends: “they like to pick fights in bad hoods, drink and drive, and pop pills on the weekend.”
She says he does none of this. He dosen’t have a job, a high school diploma, or drivers license either. She and I have always had a very open and loving relationship, but now she is hostile and verbally abusive when I tell her to come home.
How do I get her to come home short of reporting her as a runaway?

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I kicked my jobless boyfriend and his daughter out. They contributed absolutely no money to the household.?

  • Posted on January 27, 2011 at 2:17 pm

He has been unemployed for 2 months and is an alcoholic and the drinking is worse. His daughter is 18 and doesn’t work either. They acted like they owned the house, which they didn’t. He never hit me, but we never did things together. I know I did the right thing, just need some reinforcement, he was a good man and would have been better if he didn’t drink. Before he left he was crying and told me he loved, but obviously not enough, because he wasn’t giving me any money towards bills and was spending all of his on cigarettes and beer. Are there any good men left out there? I wasn’t asking for too much was I?
The daughter is 18 and goes to college from 9 am to 2 pm, so she can’t (or won’t) work.

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Should I press charges on my ex boyfriend?

  • Posted on December 21, 2010 at 11:23 pm

We got intoxicated and I hit him first he then choked me and pushed me down to the floor and told me he was going to kill me. I was afraid but I know that he would never try to hurt me and I felt like in a way I am the wrong at fault for putting my hands on him.He called his friends and family and told them that I was crazy and that he could not stand me, I feel that I should not be the only one to blame here and that he should pay for his actions because after chocking me he has the nerve to then say that he was just holding me back and that was all.He has been very emotionally abusive to me and rarely has it been physical this has been the third time.
I know if I stop calling him he most likely will never speak to me but I wonder if I should make him pay for what he did to me.Also he wants to take my daughter away from me and I fear that she would not be properly taken care of with him, I feel his family should know exactly what he is.
Can i still press charges although this happened 4 days ago? Also I fear that his friends and family will retaliate against me how can i make sure that i can keep them away from me?

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