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my husband has a 7 year old daughter who has told us her mothers boyfriend has been hitting her and her mother

  • Posted on December 6, 2010 at 8:17 am

her mother says she does not believe her daughter. although her mother has left her boyfriend in the past for abuse and even filed a restraining order against him. she dropped the restraining order the next day. she refuses to let his daughter come live with us. she knows her situation is bad neither her mother or boyfriend work and they have a convicted felon living with them on house arrest. also last year her mother made her miss 23 days of school. her mothers boyfriend is an alcoholic too. we called the police and they made us give her back to the mother because he only has joint custody. we filed emergency custody and seeked an attorney. does anyone know what happens in an emergency custody hearing and who all has to be present? based on the info i gave you do you think this is enough for her dad to get custody? any advice and help would greatly be appreciated. also, we called CPS and they did nothing.
there is prrof when the mother filed a restraining order she reported abuse and then dropped the restrainig order and moved back in with him.

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My 19 yr old daughter has been ditched by a boyfriend for the 3rd time and keeps going back.?

  • Posted on November 26, 2010 at 6:17 am

A couple of days ago, she caught him riding in a car with 4 girls and she got upset and he said if she was going to act that way, to get out and packed her crap and sent her on her way. She has been thru this before with him and everytime, she ends up going to mental health and becomes all anorexic and pale. She loses a whole bunch of weight and then he asks her to come back and she crawls back to him like a beat dog. She cannot eat or sleep. This guy is such a user. He is an alcoholic, has no real job works for a temp agency. He managed to get her to put all the utility bills in her name and now has creditors chasing her. He is 26, married and has a 3 yr old. My daughter was 17 when they hooked up and she is such a pretty girl. How can I help her. Its ridiculous.
I did not know about him when she was 17. She graduated high school and pretty much did her own thing. I thought she was getting ready to start college. I was suspicious about her 18th birthday when she disappeared and I found out had moved in with him.
Police does not do anything to help you with your kids in this county. They figure if your kid is 17, they cant stop them anyways. She has put me thru the hell of my life and its still going on. I pray for this hell to end every day. Real story would take a book.

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I think my mum’s boyfriend is a pedophile?

  • Posted on November 20, 2010 at 7:23 pm

My mum has been dating this guy for about 15 months now, he lives with us, just him, although he does have 2 kids of his own. A girl, 28, and a boy, 26. The girl moved up to our state just recently and stayed with us for a few months, she kept having dramas with her father and moved out. A few months ago, it was revealed that when she was 13 he was intoxicated and was lying on the bed… she went over to him and patted him on the back, he took things to the next level and fondled with her breasts and put his hands inside her pants. According to him, he said as soon as he found out it was his daughter he stopped and felt terrible. But according to her it is a different story. Now ofcourse he is going to deny everything. He has nothing to lose and everything to gain. After this little family drama was over – we all talked about it and decided that what was in the past was in the past. Let bygones be bygones. My mother had given him the benefit of the doubt, althought she was worried for mine and my brother’s safety, she had a gut feeling that he wouldn’t try anything though. I am 17 and my brother is 13.

Over the past month I’ve noticed some changes in my mum’s boyfriend’s behaviour. My brother had his bestfriend sleep over a few weeks ago and my mum’s boyfriend made a comment because my brother’s bedroom door was closed… he said, “what are you doing in there? comparing the size of your penis’s?” he has also said, “what are you doing in there? having sex?”.

The other day I got a phone call from my biology teacher and my mum’s bofriend answered, and when I came to the phone, he said loudly, “tell her I taught you about the birds and the bees”.

He has also made comments about my breasts. He said to me, “you have boobs just like your mother” – and I was wearing a tee-shirt with no bra on. He has also asked my mother if I wore a padded bra.

And the most recent… my boyfriend and are best friends. We’ve known eachother since I was 11 and we are really close. We are more like close bestfriends than boyfriend and girlfriend. My boyfriend has a great relationship with my mum and a ok one with her boyfriend. But last night my boyfriend came over and my mum’s boyfriend was curious to know what we were doing in my room. He said to my mum, “whenever I am here they are always in her room… what are they doing in there?”

What do you think???
I just think it is all a little creepy to me.

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I think my mum’s boyfriend is a pedophile?

  • Posted on November 19, 2010 at 9:23 pm

My mum has been dating this guy for about 15 months now, he lives with us, just him, although he does have 2 kids of his own. A girl, 28, and a boy, 26. The girl moved up to our state just recently and stayed with us for a few months, she kept having dramas with her father and moved out. A few months ago, it was revealed that when she was 13 he was intoxicated and was lying on the bed… she went over to him and patted him on the back, he took things to the next level and fondled with her breasts and put his hands inside her pants. According to him, he said as soon as he found out it was his daughter he stopped and felt terrible. But according to her it is a different story. Now ofcourse he is going to deny everything. He has nothing to lose and everything to gain. After this little family drama was over – we all talked about it and decided that what was in the past was in the past. Let bygones be bygones. My mother had given him the benefit of the doubt, althought she was worried for mine and my brother’s safety, she had a gut feeling that he wouldn’t try anything though. I am 17 and my brother is 13.

Over the past month I’ve noticed some changes in my mum’s boyfriend’s behaviour. My brother had his bestfriend sleep over a few weeks ago and my mum’s boyfriend made a comment because my brother’s bedroom door was closed… he said, “what are you doing in there? comparing the size of your penis’s?” he has also said, “what are you doing in there? having sex?”.

The other day I got a phone call from my biology teacher and my mum’s bofriend answered, and when I came to the phone, he said loudly, “tell her I taught you about the birds and the bees”.

He has also made comments about my breasts. He said to me, “you have boobs just like your mother” – and I was wearing a tee-shirt with no bra on. He has also asked my mother if I wore a padded bra.

And the most recent… my boyfriend and are best friends. We’ve known eachother since I was 11 and we are really close. We are more like close bestfriends than boyfriend and girlfriend. My boyfriend has a great relationship with my mum and a ok one with her boyfriend. But last night my boyfriend came over and my mum’s boyfriend was curious to know what we were doing in my room. He said to my mum, “whenever I am here they are always in her room… what are they doing in there?”

What do you think???
I just think it is all a little creepy to me.

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how should i get my boyfriend off crack and cocaine?

  • Posted on November 19, 2010 at 1:22 pm

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years and now have a 7 month baby. I know he does cocaine behind my back but just learned he also smokes crack more than usual! What should i do?? other than drugs we have no problems i don’t wanna leave him but want him to snap and stop for me and our daughter! I am so in love with him SOMEONE PLEASE HELP.. oh ya not to mention he doesn’t even know i know he does it… what can i do to help him stop.. everytime we discuss the coke he gets mad. his attitude is changing he is more grumpier than usual and i hate it! We discuss all the time how much i hate drugs and he has the nerves to do it behind my back! UUUGHH

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wife,s boyfriend in jail?

  • Posted on November 17, 2010 at 1:23 pm

my wife, we are separated, took our two daughters to see her boyfriend in jail.he was picked up for dwi and parole vilation.i told her i did,nt the idea of her doing that. idont want my daughters expose to that. she said it was no big deal and it would,nt hurt the girls . they are 15 and 11. dont i have right to be a little upset?

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My parents want me to chose living with them or my boyfriend?

  • Posted on November 8, 2010 at 10:22 pm

I am really stuck in a hole here. I love my parents and I know they want whats best for me. But believe if someone constantly was telling you somethings stupid and you do it anyway it doesn’t fly with them. So if I don’t break up with my boyfriend they dont want me living here anymore. I can understand why because my boyfriend has a DWI, breaking and entering, shoplifting all on his record. He is twenty and works part time at buffalo wild wings. He is always trash talking them. But he is a good boyfriend however I don’t see us getting married. We have a daughter and when she was delivered everyone ran to see the baby but he said he would stay with me. I love him but im not in love with him like I said he is a good boyfriend and I know he is in love with me not because of what I can do for him but because of who I am. But we have different views hes conservative im liberal, ETC. And I really wasn’t looking to break up with him for a long time. But what am I going to do? Im scared of any birth control but condums, sponges I if I move with him and his parents I could possibly have 6 children with no job no nothing and he isn’t good with keeping a job. Arkansas is like a ghosttown with jobs one of the 8th worst employment states. If I go the other way im very shy so I could just be a lonely old cat lady just being with my parents. Blood is thicker than water but I don’t think its cold hearted to just break up with him for no reason when I seemed happy when I called him. What would you do?

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I think my mum’s boyfriend is a pedophile?

  • Posted on November 7, 2010 at 1:23 am

My mum has been dating this guy for about 15 months now, he lives with us, just him, although he does have 2 kids of his own. A girl, 28, and a boy, 26. The girl moved up to our state just recently and stayed with us for a few months, she kept having dramas with her father and moved out. A few months ago, it was revealed that when she was 13 he was intoxicated and was lying on the bed… she went over to him and patted him on the back, he took things to the next level and fondled with her breasts and put his hands inside her pants. According to him, he said as soon as he found out it was his daughter he stopped and felt terrible. But according to her it is a different story. Now ofcourse he is going to deny everything. He has nothing to lose and everything to gain. After this little family drama was over – we all talked about it and decided that what was in the past was in the past. Let bygones be bygones. My mother had given him the benefit of the doubt, althought she was worried for mine and my brother’s safety, she had a gut feeling that he wouldn’t try anything though. I am 17 and my brother is 13.

Over the past month I’ve noticed some changes in my mum’s boyfriend’s behaviour. My brother had his bestfriend sleep over a few weeks ago and my mum’s boyfriend made a comment because my brother’s bedroom door was closed… he said, “what are you doing in there? comparing the size of your penis’s?” he has also said, “what are you doing in there? having sex?”.

The other day I got a phone call from my biology teacher and my mum’s bofriend answered, and when I came to the phone, he said loudly, “tell her I taught you about the birds and the bees”.

He has also made comments about my breasts. He said to me, “you have boobs just like your mother” – and I was wearing a tee-shirt with no bra on. He has also asked my mother if I wore a padded bra.

And the most recent… my boyfriend and I are best friends. We’ve known eachother since I was 11 and we are really close. We are more like close bestfriends than boyfriend and girlfriend. My boyfriend has a great relationship with my mum and an ok one with her boyfriend. But last night my boyfriend came over and my mum’s boyfriend was curious to know what we were doing in my room. He said to my mum, “whenever I am here they are always in her room… what are they doing in there?”

What do you think???
My mum doesn’t love him as she used to after she found out that he had molestered his daughter. She has told me she will never look at him in the same way again. As you wouldn’t. I have spoken to her about the issues with him and his comments and she went off at him. We are bestfriend’s also and tell eachother everything. He cried to her and said he has had to live with the guilt of doing things to his daughter and, according to him, he regrets it. The daughter and the son said to my mum that if she was to leave him (like his kids have) he would probably do something stupid. She is in a situation where she doesn’t know what to do.

As for her boyfriend’s comments on me and my boyfriend… he is fully aware that I am a proud virgin. I am saving mysef for a time when I think I am ready. So for him to take an interest in what we do in my bedroom really disturbs and concerns me.

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My boyfriend will just not give up drugs and he continuese to lie about it, what do I do?

  • Posted on November 7, 2010 at 1:22 am

My boyfriend and I are both drug addicts. I’m in recovery and have been clean for some time. He, on the otherhand, continues to use. Our drug of choice is Heroin. He uses for a few weeks and then gets clean for a week and then uses for a couple of months and gets clean for a while. It’s an endless cycle. He thinks he can just use “once in a while” too! I’m not dumb. I’m an addict too. He finally got a job 2 weeks ago. He SWORE that he wouldn’t get high when got his first paycheck. He even went through a week of being sick for this job and not using. The first Friday he gets paid, he calls and says he is just “hanging out” with his friend (BTW, the friend is a junkie) and swears he isn’t using. Well, today he confessed he got high that Friday which was last week. He gets paid again tomorrow and I’m ready to give him an ultimatum! I know he’s planning on getting high the second he gets paid. What do I do? I don’t want to lose him but I’m going to lose him anyways if he continues to use ’cause he’ll either die of an overdose or end up in jail or prison, right? WHAT SHOULD I TELL HIM? Please don’t just say “dump the loser”. It’s not that easy. We’ve been together 8 years. We don’t live together right now so I can’t moniter his every move. He’s living with his parents and they know about his addiction. His Mom searched his room today while he was at work and found two syringes. He’s pissed and feels like they had not right looking for his room. I think they do. Their granddaughter is one and stays in that house a lot (their daughter’s daughter). What if she found one of those needles? Sometimes I just feel he needs to get arrested to learn his lesson. He’s never been to jail more than a night. Nothing else seems to work. My pleading and crying are in vain. Thank you for reading this and for any advice that may help me. I’m miserable.

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Why does my boyfriend have such a problem with my daughter’s and grand daughter’s?

  • Posted on November 4, 2010 at 10:22 pm

I have a boyfriend that I’ve been in a relationship with for nearly 15 years. We moved in together 5 years ago, and things have been up and down. I stood beside him and supported him when he went through his drug addiction three years ago, and nearly lost all contact with my daughters because of it. Now, just recently, he has become very jealous of my relationship with my daughters whom have been going through some times of their own, having divorces, and now being single parents. I received a settlement from a workman’s compensation claim, and bought a piece of property in which we both reside. Now, my daughter’s have had some financial problems and I am helping them out a little at a time. He becomes very jealous, and just sits in the room pouting when they come to visit, and acts worse than my 3 and 4 year old grandchildren. He made a statement last evening which made me start to rethink my whole thoughts on our relationship. He said, “the only reason the girls are around now is because I have money and when the money’s gone, they will be too.” He said he never wanted this type of relationship where he has to “share” me with them. I was very taken aback. What do I do? I tried to talk to him about it, and all he said was, “we haven’t been together that long, so if I’m not happy, we can just call it quits.” I’m at a loss. I pretty much think being together for as long as we have been, and going through the things we have gone through, was a good sign that we WERE in it for the long haul. As far as I’m concerned, there is no choice. These are my daughters, and I will always love them. I feel as though he’s just torn me in two.

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