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Get Back Your Man – 4 Tips You Can Apply to Help You Win Back Your Ex

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 10:40 pm

How do you get back your man? Seems I’m getting asked that question a lot lately. Maybe it’s the economy, maybe there’s something in the air, but I have a lot of friends who are either dumping or getting dumped and then having a change of heart and want to get their ex back.

Why do they ask me how to go about doing it? Good question. Rumor has it I’m easy to talk to and I’ve definitely helped my fair share of friends, family and people close to me mend their broken relationships…maybe it’s because they know I’ve been through this experience a good few times myself.

Anyway, I thought I’d try and help as many people as I can by writing a few articles and giving out some tips and advice I know works… from first hand experience. So, if you are wanting to get back your man, here’s something I know that works…

Don’t chase your Ex
Do not text, call, email or try to make any contact within the first week after the break up. That includes spying on him. This just makes you look desperate and weak. Most men get so turned off when this happens so be strong and resist the urge. If you have already been doing this, then stop it right now. It’s not helping your situation at all.

Don’t Focus on The Negative
If you happen to see your ex in this time without intending to, do not appear broken-hearted, do not talk depressed talk, do not beg, cry or complain. You should try your hardest to look confident and strong. I am not talking happy – that will come across as false. He must be able to see that you are getting on with life. Cut the conversation before he does, and tell him that you have to be somewhere and can’t talk for long. Don’t be cold. Just end the conversation on a positive note. Leave him hanging before he leaves you hanging.

Analyze Why The Break Up Might Have Happened.
There were reasons why this break up happened. Now, this might sound harsh,but hear me out. Part of the reason might be because of something you have or have not said or done. You might have been too dependent of independent or whatever, I don’t know. Only you know. Basically, you need to write up a list of things about yourself that you could potentially change that you think might be causing the problems. Hold onto this list.

Get the Timing Right.
The number one reason why many couples get back together is because they spoke the right words at the right time – but without actually realizing it. Timing is so important in all of this and so are the words you speak. If you miss the right timing you could wreck everything you are doing and never get back your man. Don’t apologize in the first call you make. That could seem like you are begging. You want to start the conversation in control and having the upper hand.

Now what is the next step you should take? Actually there are so many things you have to know how to do from this point on and knowing what to do and when to do it will help get back your man Visit www.endbreakupstoday.info for more help.

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Grief- What Can Be Done About It?

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:36 pm

Grief can be overwhelming. A death, separation of loved one, etc. can cause tremendous grief. This kind of grief refuses to get treated for a long period. People say that time is a great healer, but it is also true that the more time passes, the more time you have to grieve. Some time back I used to visit web pages set up by cancer patients. Most of them were young children who were suffering from leukemia. The parents used to write in the pages and share their agony. I recollect a father whose son died when he was very young. This man had uncontrollable grief and no amount of talk could help him. Simply believing that his child has now become a star in the sky did not help him.

Many deaths took place when I was active with those web pages. I learnt a lot during that period. The main lesson was that grief is not logical. To die is certain and we all know that but when somebody very dear to us dies, no amount of logic helps. One must shed tears to heal.

I have interacted with many persons with broken relationships on message boards. I observed that most of these people were ok for some days but went back to depression and pain soon. You could not believe that a person, who was advising others a few days back, has himself or herself broken down again. This was cyclic in many people. Again I learnt a lesson that grief and bitterness of having been left by a loved one do not go away soon. The inner mind carries all emotions that defy any logic that the outer mind proposes.

What is the remedy? I have found that another who is also grieving best understands a person who is grieving. If a grieving person talks to a healthy individual, no amount of interaction helps. But if he/she talks to someone who is also facing grief, understanding is very fast.

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