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Anyone raising your husbands child from a one-night-stand?

  • Posted on May 16, 2011 at 5:20 pm

My husband & I have custody of his child that resulted from an on-night-stand that happened just before we met. We didn’t know about her until about a year ago. I know she needs me (her biomom is a meth-head) and I will take care of her. The problem is, I’m having problems with treating her totally different than my daughter. My husband tries to understand but ultimately thinks it’s not fair. My take on this is…I don’t mind to take care of her but I’m going to make 100% sure my daughter does not suffer because of it in any way.

P.S. We also have my step-son every other weekend, holidays & summer. He’s awesome and we couldn’t have a better relationship.

My daughter is 12, Step-son is 11, new step-daughter is 10.

Looking for comments/advise. Thanks

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After the father of my child and I split up I slept with his cousin, now we are talking again,should I tell hi

  • Posted on May 13, 2011 at 8:20 pm

He and I were together for 3 yrs. he was addicted to meth and abusive, I had our daughter and decided to leave him, his cousin always liked me and I kinda liked him, So we had a one nightstand, that was 5mos. ago. Now my ex and I are talking about getting back together, Should I tell him?Or keep it a secret and have a chat with his cousin and tell him to keep it secret too?I really need help!I can’t sleep at night.My heart is saying be honest, and my mind is sayin if I love him just let go and let God, and hope for the best,Help Please!

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single moms! WHO filed for child custody in california?

  • Posted on May 9, 2011 at 9:21 am

where you married?
who filed for divorce if any?
how long was court?
did u provide any evidence? what was the outcome?
does any one have supervised visitation?
any details that will help me

Iv been married to a marine for 6 months now. IM about 5 months pregnant and he has anger issues and takes it out on me hes been physically mentally verbally abusive to me i have proof in pictures and texts. I dont know anything about divorce or child custody. He tries to control me and my money. We have tried counseling and it doesn’t work. He has a violent past i have proof of him admitting it in text. Even though IM pregnant he still abuses me iv been slapped pushed and fell hes threatened to drownd me in the shower and toilet shoved and pushed agaisnt walls tackled to the floor from high stools has tried to suffocate me w his hands and pillows hes been on top of me pulling my hair grabbing my face yelling at me hes been suicidal w pills and a razor hes hit me multiple times IM scared when he gets mad i try to go to the room and he insists all the time yelling hitting walls getting in my face screaming, i always have to conform to him if i want things to work out hes manipulative all i want is safety for my child and me. He keeps me from my family when we go visit. He has a daughter and has me doing everything for her while he plays video games or watches TV and tells me shes my responsibility. He demands respect even though he cant give respect he has packed my clothes and kicked me out of the house a lot! douring the night hes told me to leave if i cant handle it.hes admited to be bipolar.hes grabed me from the neck and raised me agaisnt the wall while my feet dangle, hes covered my nose and mouth telling me he wishes i was a guy so he can do more damage, hes said your lucky your my wife, hes piked me up and thrown me after he hits me he tell me hes going to jail and wants to go to jail and wants to take me to the hospital hes done this and more WHILE IM PREGNANT
what counts as evidence?
i have texts admiting he needs help ,that he wants to go to jail for hurting me , i have videos of his doughter at parties where there is alcohol, he rather come clean w the truth, he feels hes lossing it, hes afraid,b he saying that he might go to a mental hospital or jail if he says the truth, he doesnt want to keep hurting me or the baby, he admits hes wrong, hes going crazy in his dead, he feels fake and isnt proud hes tot this far, there is a text he sent me saying hes done cocaine at 7 years of age, addicted to cocaine, extacy, heroin weed, he inhailed fumeshes robbed and killed to get money.
would this help me in court?
my lil sister is witness of his doughter being at a beer pong party where there was weed. his baby mama was abused and she stated that when she filed for child custody and support.
i just want supervised visitation fo my child.

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need help quick with child custody issue?

  • Posted on May 9, 2011 at 1:20 am

anyone know a quick for sure way i can get my 3yr old daughter removed from mothers custody?she is many diffrent me staying the night at her home my daughter tells me about it.she uses meth around child,she mentaly and physical abuses her and tells her to tell me she hates me and im friggin stupid,dumb,mean and so on.ive got tape recordings of child saying all this got pics of abuse and been to dss,cps,police and had lawer and they let her walk on 3 diffrent felony neglect and abuse charges!no one will take any action agianst her for the terrible things my child is going through i think she is a informant for the police and they protect her plz someone tell me something i can do to get my child out of there and to my saftey!plz anyone?godbless you

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child custody, supervised visitation in california?

  • Posted on May 1, 2011 at 3:20 am

where you married?
who filed for divorce if any?
how long was court?
did u provide any evidence? what was the outcome?
does any one have supervised visitation?
any details that will help me

Iv been married to a marine for 6 months now. IM about 5 months pregnant and he has anger issues and takes it out on me hes been physically mentally verbally abusive to me i have proof in pictures and texts. I dont know anything about divorce or child custody. He tries to control me and my money. We have tried counseling and it doesn’t work. He has a violent past i have proof of him admitting it in text. Even though IM pregnant he still abuses me iv been slapped pushed and fell hes threatened to drownd me in the shower and toilet shoved and pushed agaisnt walls tackled to the floor from high stools has tried to suffocate me w his hands and pillows hes been on top of me pulling my hair grabbing my face yelling at me hes been suicidal w pills and a razor hes hit me multiple times IM scared when he gets mad i try to go to the room and he insists all the time yelling hitting walls getting in my face screaming, i always have to conform to him if i want things to work out hes manipulative all i want is safety for my child and me. He keeps me from my family when we go visit. He has a daughter and has me doing everything for her while he plays video games or watches TV and tells me shes my responsibility. He demands respect even though he cant give respect he has packed my clothes and kicked me out of the house a lot! douring the night hes told me to leave if i cant handle it.hes admited to be bipolar.hes grabed me from the neck and raised me agaisnt the wall while my feet dangle, hes covered my nose and mouth telling me he wishes i was a guy so he can do more damage, hes said your lucky your my wife, hes piked me up and thrown me after he hits me he tell me hes going to jail and wants to go to jail and wants to take me to the hospital hes done this and more WHILE IM PREGNANT
what counts as evidence?
i have texts admiting he needs help ,that he wants to go to jail for hurting me , i have videos of his doughter at parties where there is alcohol, he rather come clean w the truth, he feels hes lossing it, hes afraid,b he saying that he might go to a mental hospital or jail if he says the truth, he doesnt want to keep hurting me or the baby, he admits hes wrong, hes going crazy in his dead, he feels fake and isnt proud hes tot this far, there is a text he sent me saying hes done cocaine at 7 years of age, addicted to cocaine, extacy, heroin weed, he inhailed fumeshes robbed and killed to get money.
would this help me in court?
my lil sister is witness of his doughter being at a beer pong party where there was weed. his baby mama was abused and she stated that when she filed for child custody and support.
i just want supervised visitation fo my child.

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Supervised visitation for child? please help crazy ex..?

  • Posted on April 27, 2011 at 11:22 am

Hi I have a 21 month lil girl. Her father was verbally abusive as well as physically, though i left shortly after he laid his hands on me. Since our breakup 7 months ago, i have called the police at least 5-6 times. for him threatening to “beat my ass”,always screaming and fighting in front of our child, pushing me and ripping my necklace off. i was letting him see her regularly until this last time when he put his hands on me again. We have an appointment for the attorney general tomorrow, i have sent them several police reports, and i also have texts messages he sent me this weekend threatening to kill himself, and driving drunk. I am requesting supervised visitation, i would prefer no visitation but i feel like my daughter should see her father, but i dont know if that would be best for her with his past behavior. We have a hearing tomorrow to enforce child support, and they also handle visitation. Do you think i will be granted supervised visitation? and if he doesnt agree to it then will we have to go to court? my dad is helping me save money to hire a lawyer and im also going into for a consultation this week. i am also going to file a protective order against him. If anyone has any experience, personal, or legal i would greatly appreciate it. thanks.
also the last time he had her he refused to give her back to me, because he heard rumors about me cheating while we were together, i know he wants me back so i had to trick him and pretend i would go back to him, just to get my daughter back.
i live in tx
amy- i am very concerned about what you said about cps because i did let her go with him several times, and i was stupid to do so but he is very manipulative and charming when he wants to be, so he would act all nice and great, so i thought, well finally he has come to his senses. do you think they would take her form me because i have been letting him see her?
we have never been to court, so there is no order. i let him see her because he was being nice and acting normal so i thought i would give him another chance even though my gut told me not to, but his whole family was lecturing me and making me feel guilty about how much he missed her etc so i let him take her.

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help me get my child out of a dangerous home???????

  • Posted on April 23, 2011 at 5:20 pm

please help me!i have a 2 yr old daughter and her mother is a meth head whore she has mutiple sex partners in and out of her home or my daughter with her at guy’s houses and even staying at meth labs with my child there and seeing all this stuff takin place i heard she has sex with my daughter laying in the same bed with them!she allows her 16 yr old to smoke grow pot in her home and every time i report it she cleans the place up or the law dose not go investigate and social services what a joke the dont even file my complaints ive tried state and local police dept and nothing even cps dose nothing!i cant afford a private investigator and i dont know how to stop this even called FBI and they said they couldnt help me!im so afraid for my child and her mother has started brainwashing her to not tell on her and she says she hates me cause mommy said she couldnt love me anymore dady is mean!she changes the subject when i ask about where her and mommy stays!not normal for 2 yr old!!

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Should I worry about custody for child?

  • Posted on April 22, 2011 at 6:20 pm

Step daughters mother is addicted to meth. she went to treatment yesterday for 30 days. wanted to leave child with now ex boyfriend who on the first day bailed to go skiing .. leaving his kid and step daughter with his mom, aunt and niece to trade off and watch them…. Mother called furiously after she was served papers on her way out the door to rehab… saying she will fight for her daughter etc.. she thinks we are trying to ruin her. Told daughter a lie that she was going to go take care of grandfather who broke his hip… after papers were served, we picked up step daughter from school.. we are continuing to take her to school 1 hour away from home until the hearing… Does mother have any legal grounds to get her back? If she leaves rehab early to go to hearing feb 5 or gets a lawyer to represent her.. how can she beat the system? We are in Texas. step daughter was in wierd situation. after mother got found to be on meth 3rd time in a few years, boyfriend says “hes done,move out”
she doesnt have anything… and 30 days in treatment for meth is not desirable. We should have stepped in the very first time and taken her… but we gave mother benefit of the doubt….

ex boyfriend wants step daughter to stay there… home is unstable.. mom and daughter have moved out twice in past 2 years to small apartment and then moved back in with him….

fiance and i have very stable relationship.. dont fight [ just the occasional argue about something stupid, but no fighting] and are well able to provide.

am i worrying too much?!
btw.. we have got step daughter in counseling and she is very understanding… more so than we thought… scared about change, but open to it.. we are very proud of her.
daughter 10

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I need to know what is considered child abuse?

  • Posted on April 19, 2011 at 5:21 am

‘My boyfriend introduced you to a guy who was married but had another female companion living with them in which they share the same bed with and an 8 month old daughter who sees this sexual acts taken place along with the child’s father who smoke marijuana and heroin, he also has a photo studio set up in which he invites different women for sex and pornography..is that considered child endangerment and abuse? We suspect the other woman may be a sex offender, she was spotted touching the child a few times, when I tried talking to the mother about ti she told me to mind my business. I live in Rochester NY where cops don’t care and CPS is ran by humans services which isn’t considered competent Child services it is run by the same Office that does welfare assistance and you don;t need a degree in child care to do this type of work. What can I do?
Okay I live in Rochester,NY where CPS in not doing it’s job correctly. I have called for a woman who did not clean up her house there were moldy food containers on the floor her children smelled terribly she lived in a roached infested environment. Guess what? CPS did not do anything for those poor kids. They looked the other way. So I highly doubt they will do anything about this.I’m so scared I did send an email. I even sent pictures. The child looks healthy but the father was kicked out of college for fondling another student he tried groping my breast once. My boyfriend moved his hand away. People in this town are strange and cold and distant. It is always cloudy the crime rate is ridiculous here. I want to post a picture on here that to me looks disgusting it doesn’t look like fatherly love. http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h255/frankibus/unaturallookpeter.jpg

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How does the Father get his child from DHS if mother was arrested?

  • Posted on April 17, 2011 at 12:20 am

A little over a year ago my ex(common law married in Alabama: papers signed and everything) took my daughter to Oklahoma to visit her parents and had a round trip plane ticket but did not come back. 2 months later she came back to get her things and did not bring my daughter. I tried calling to police dept, but all they could tell me was to get a lawyer and I could not afford one. I had a phone number but she refused to give me an address and would never answer the phone but would call me for money. So about a month ago my ex was arrested in Oklahoma for manufacturing and distributing meth and had our daughter in the house. When she was taken to jail social services took my child and never notified me of anything. Apparently she told them she didn’t know how to get in touch with me at all which was a lie. I found out what happened from my ex’s sister and contacted DHS immediately. Now I have to go through a process which may take 6 months or more to get my daughter back but they told me had she given them my info they would have contacted me to come pick her up and bring her back home with me immediately. I have all the paperwork birth cert/social sec/hospital records/common law marriage papers and EVERYTHING but I am being treated as if I was never in the picture at all. I have a court date next week and I am driving to Oklahoma from Alabama for this which is a long drive and expensive and I will also have to take off work to do so. I have been in touch with the social worker and the foster parents and they have even let me video chat with my daughter. But why is this such a process? I have been trying to get my daughter back with me for over a year now and SHOULD have been contacted immediately when my ex was arrested. I am at a loss and have no idea what to do now. I should have been informed to just come pick my daughter up but now that she has gone into foster care they wont let me take her. What should I do and why are they doing this to me? I have absolutely no criminal background and have a very nice house with my daughters stuff still here and everything. Shouldn’t they just release her to me? Please if anyone could help me I would be very grateful!

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