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Hubby may be out of work but expects me to sit at home and do all for his children is this fair? help!?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 1:20 am

My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!

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Hubby may be out of work but he expects me to sit at home and do all for his children, is this fair? help!?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 3:23 am

My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
oh god people and their you marriend the children too! please…i didnt marry them i agreed to help out when i can but i am NOT THEIR MOTHER! it doesnt mean i dont love them but again i am only their step mother. dont give me that bull shit. anyways we have no relatives around here willing to do that or friends that stay at home (all of our friends work). anyways even if we did have relatives to watch the children, they wouldnt be willing to drive a kid all over kingdom come to school and back. its not that i dont want his children, but yes i can sub every day and i need to be able to be available. I live in a big school district area where there are lots of schools around. and even if i dont get called a lot i am perfectly willing to get another job. i want to work and i feel it is my duty. his children are welcome on the weekends and i dont think thats to much to ask for. he would still see them a significant amount of time and not have to care for them
if the ex girl friend (NOT WIFE) would let us have the kid go to school in our district it wouldnt be so bad cuz he could ride the bus and problem solved but for her week that would be an inconvience cuz she’d have to drive him in and back. UP a SHIT CRICK EH:?

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Hubby may be out of work, but expects me to sit at home and do all for his children, is this fair? Help!?

  • Posted on August 28, 2010 at 11:20 am

My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!

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What is the film where some children lock their alcoholic mother in a sauna?

  • Posted on August 25, 2010 at 4:17 pm

It’s a British film about children who lock up their alcoholic mother to dry her out, the oldest daughter impersonates her voice.

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How do drug-addicted rock stars hid their drug habits from their children?

  • Posted on August 16, 2010 at 1:22 pm

Drug addiction and having young children is never a good thing. For instance, Jimmy Page had trouble with cocaine and heroin when his little daughter Scarlet was a toddler, and Elvis Presley was on drugs the same time that he was raising his daughter Lisa. How do they hid it from their children? If they don’t, don’t they realize what it might do to the child?

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What can I do as a (custodial) parent If my children…..?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 5:23 am

Were on visitation on Halloween and Non-custodial parent allowed our teenage daughters to get intoxicated and our 10 yr. old to “bar tend” or serve alcohol? Other teenagers brought alcohol, and he provided as well.
Law enforcement were notified but didn’t show up. The ten yr. old would have mentioned it.

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Connecting and Building Relationships with Parents for Better Outcomes in the Children You Work With

  • Posted on January 25, 2010 at 9:20 pm

It’s well known that when professionals who work with children build strong relationships with parents, better outcomes are often the result. But how do you go about connecting with parents to forge meaningful, long-lasting partnerships? It’s not always obvious or intuitive, even to the best or most experienced professionals.

I’ve been on both sides – both professional and parent. In my days as a high school teacher, invariably my students improved in all kinds of ways when I took the initiative to reach out to their parents. Now, as a mother of a child with special needs, I see the wisdom, and the results, of professionals and practitioners who consider their relationship with parents to be just as important as their relationship with the children who are their patients, students, group members, etc.

Part of what I do is help professionals who work with children to refine and enhance their parent-professional relationship building skills. Here are some tips and strategies you may find helpful:

1.  Great communication is key.
How and when can parents reach you if they have questions? Interestingly, the more available you make yourself for questions and discussion, the more comfortable and confident parents will feel about you and your services.

2.  Offer ways for parents to help out.
Parents are often very grateful to you for the work you’re doing with their sons and daughters. If there are some simple ways they can be of help in your organization, practice, or agency, invite them to become involved.

3.  Invite parents into the classroom.
If you work in a classroom setting, make parents feel welcome to visit. This may be an open invitation, or a list of dates and times parents can choose from. Parents love to visit and see their children in action!

4.  Invite parents into therapy sessions whenever possible.
What they learn from observing you will make it easier for them to follow through at home.

5.  Be open to parent research and ideas.
Parents of children with special needs and special health care needs often do their own research and talk with other parents. They may bring you a copy of a study they found interesting, or they may ask whether a certain type of therapy, treatment, or classroom intervention might be appropriate for their child.

6.  Give parents copies of relevant articles, and recommend books you think they should read.
Even if they don’t read these right away, parents appreciate not only the information you’re giving them, but also the fact that you value their intellectual side.

7.  Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know.”
As a professional, parents often see you as the expert. Constantly trying to live up to that expectation can be stressful and draining! If a parent asks a question and you aren’t sure of the answer, it’s okay to say you’ll look into it or do some research and then get back to them. Parents will appreciate your thoroughness.

8.  Acknowledge parents’ fears, worries, and hesitations.
Parents of children with special needs often have been through a lot with their children, and may be reluctant to try things that are new or different. Transitions are often difficult as well. You can help them along their learning curve by validating their feelings.

9.  Speak and write about the good stuff, too.
In your conversations with parents, and in your progress notes, always mention the positives. Tell of the child’s strengths, of some nice moments … find SOMETHING positive to say, even if on some days it’s a stretch! Parents of children with special needs are so used to hearing about what’s wrong with their child – they’ll be grateful for your insights into their child’s good points, too!

10.  Be a resource.
Especially for parents who have just received their child’s diagnosis, if you can recommend some local resources for them – such as a support group, organization, or agency, you will be doing those parents a HUGE favor. Often, these parents are too overwhelmed to find these resources on their own.

11.  Ask parents whether they’ve run into any obstacles to implementing your recommendations at home.
If they have, brainstorm with them some possible solutions. Based on your own past experience, as well as experiences of other families you’ve worked with, you may often know of some simple solutions that might not occur to parents. And any time you can help parents find ways to follow through on your recommendations, the result is more successful outcomes for the children you work with.

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Autistic Children – Pride and Prejudice

  • Posted on January 23, 2010 at 1:20 pm

The news that a child in the family is autistic is most often met with a number of reactions. While all family members, even extended, would be supportive in an ideal world, the sad truth is that many are disgusted or disappointed. Does a family member scold the autistic child often? Does he or she look at your autistic child unfairly? Does this family member insist on treating your autistic child the same way he or she treats all the other children in your family, even when it is inappropriate? These are signs that this relative is not receptive to either your autistic child or the situation. This may often be the case when discovering a child is autistic, so as a parent, be aware and prepared for this to happen.


Often, unreceptive relatives simply do not understand what autism is or what it means for your child and your immediate family. Though many see autism as a mental retardation, many autistic children and adults are highly intelligent; they are just unable to communicate this in the same ways that others would. Try explaining what autism means to this family member, and have him or her spend some time with you and your autistic child. Allow them to see the effects of autism and the methods you can use to cope.


If the family member continues to be unsupportive or refuses your explanation, ask why this family member is so unreceptive to the situation. Are they scared of hurting the child? Are they worried about the added responsibility when spending time with the child? Perhaps they feel guilty or are embarrassed. If you can pinpoint why a family member is unreceptive, you can better address the issue and hopefully help him or her overcome their original perceptions.


Perhaps no amount of talking or spending time together will help this family member overcome their prejudice. If this person has stubbornly made up his or her mind, you will never be able to show him or her how beautiful your son or daughter is autism and all. If this is the case, eliminating this person from your life may be difficult, but it will also rid you and your child of this family member’s negative energy and personality. In this developing situation, you need the best positive support available. Remember that other family members have been supportive; that your children are adjusting well and are a source of strength for you. Strengthen your support network by participating in parent support groups for autistic children. And remember that you can surround yourself with those who do accept and love your child’s family or not.

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Detangling Directives for Children With Dry Hair or From Mixed Cultures

  • Posted on January 15, 2010 at 1:06 pm

We tend to complain about our children’s hair not growing, breaking constantly, and manageability. With busy schedules we unconsciously neglect their hair and take it for granted until it begins to break like straw.

Yet we seem to take the time each day to moisturize our hands and bodies with lovely creams and moisturizers. We do this because we know that our skin will crack and get rough if it is not cared for. So why don’t we apply this same concept to our children’s hair?

We repeatedly use harsh styling gels or alcohol based hair sprays that dry their hair out immensely. We use relaxers also that tend to dry the hair out also. In addition, their braided or twisted hairstyles tend to be dry and brittle as well. All of these factors cause our children’s hair to tangle and break easily.

The variety of hair textures has an impact on the amount of tangling on a child hair, however hair that is moisturized and hydrated tends to tangle much less than dry and brittle hair. Whether a child has thick hair, coarse hair, curly hair, fine hair or mixed textured hair due to multi-racial parents; it must be cared for in the same manner.

When the hair and scalp are not moisturized with some sort of hair lotion or oil-based cream; the scalp can become extremely dry, rough, irritated and itchy. Sometimes the scalp will begin to form scabs and sores or even crack. Therefore hair growth is reduced due to the scalp being sore and damaged.

And in addition to not caring for our children’s hair externally, many of us do not assure that our children drink enough water to hydrate their bodies internally. Nor do they eat enough green vegetables and fruits to provide their growing bodies with natural vitamins.

The only solution to prevent dry hair is to change our way of thinking. The TAKE DOWN ®, Moisture Restoring Hair lotion is one of top selling products for moms to detangle matted hair. And also for children with multi cultural hair textures. It is a very strong cross over product, for all types of children and hair textures. This product line also offers great maintenance and styling products for ethnic hair.

We must value our children’s hair and stop taking it for granted. Our children should not be forced to wear hair extensions when they become matured adults. Especially if it is as a result of their parents not taking the time to moisturize their hair and scalp with alcohol free hair lotions or oil-based creams. Their God given natural hair is an important part of their self esteem and self worth.

If children wear braids or dreadlocks use leave-in conditioners, oils, or oil-based creams. Shampoo their hair weekly-dust and dirt prevents healthy hair growth. Take the time to massage these moisturizers in their hair 2-3 times a week; it will only take 10 minutes out of your day to care for their hair. Or show them how to massage their own heads after you apply the moisturizers- make it fun for them. That is even easier than moisturizing our hands/bodies daily!

Please incorporate more water in their daily diets, as well as more green vegetables and fruits in their weekly diets.

A good source of vitamins for healthy hair, skin and nails are Vitamin E, A, & D. When you take the time to love your child’s hair it will respond by getting thicker, healthier and longer. And their hair textures will become softer and shinier as well.

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Kidney Problems in Children

  • Posted on January 14, 2010 at 12:20 pm

The kidneys are like the body’s refuse collection and disposal order. Through microscopic units called nephrons, the kidneys delete fallow yield and above water from the food the qualities eats, returning chemicals the body needs (such as sodium, phosphorus, and potassium) back into the bloodstream. The extra watered combines with other spare to become urine, which flows through watery tubes called ureters to the bladder, where it stays pending it exits through the urethra (the tube that carries urine out of the body from the bladder) when superstar goes to the bathroom.

When parents first gather their daughter has kidney disease, they may miracle what they could have done to rest it. These feelings are mutual. In most gear, however, there is no way somebody could know their teenager would get kidney disease and commonly nothing that could have been done to rest it. Focusing on what can be done now, such as receiving prim behavior, next surgeon’s guidance, working with your result’s vigor anxiety lineup and education all you can about the disease are the best conduct to help your product after the diagnosis.

Kidney Disease in Children is a cycle of verity sheets developed by the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (NIDDK), National Institutes of Health. These fact sheets begin the foremost causes of kidney disease and kidney letdown in children, impart detailed explanations of the treatment options, and converse complications of kidney disease and its treatment.

The kidneys start vitamin D so that it promotes the absorption of calcium from food into the intestines. This vitamin D hormone also helps bones absorb the right total of calcium. Calcium and vitamin D are central rudiments for the routine progress of bones. If the kidneys are impaired, bones do not get enough calcium to grow. One sanity is that the production of the vitamin D hormone may be poor. Impairing kidneys may also let too much phosphorus build up in the blood; consequently, phosphorus keeps calcium from getting to the bones.

A daughter with this syndrome will urinate less often, so the water left in the body causes bump around the eyes, legs, and stomach. The small quantity of urine the body makes contains high levels of protein. Healthy kidneys keep protein in the blood, but hurt kidneys let it leak from the blood into the urine. Nephrotic syndrome can commonly be treated with prednisone to stop protein outflow, and sometimes a diuretic is worn to help the toddler urinate and lower the abscess. Usually, the youngster can take lesser and slighter doses of prednisone and eventually arrival to regular with no lasting kidney spoil.

The causes of kidney disease are also different for children than adults. Among the children under the age of 12, the most general causes of kidney letdown troubles with the shape of the kidney, bladder, or anywhere along the urinary treatise. Most children are natural with these evils. In many gear of structural kidney disease, surgery is necessary also to reserve kidney task, to survive urinary troubles, or to cook patients for renal transplantation. In children over the age of 12, glomerulonephritis (inflammation of the kidneys) is the most repeated begin of kidney failure.

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