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To Make Quantum Leaps in Your Life You have to do like Thomas Edison and Act on Your Goals

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 2:20 pm

Chances are you’ve read countless books and articles on how to improve yourself, professionally and personally. You may have even attended a self-improvement or business enhancement workshop or two. But if you’re like the majority of people, despite all this knowledge, your professional and personal life has not changed at all. What went wrong?

As with all things in your life, you have a choice to make. In this case your choice is clear: Are you going to apply what you’ve learned in pursuit of a better life or business, or are you going to file this knowledge away and stay in your comfort zone?

Realize that action is the key to making positive changes in your life. Without action, knowledge is lost. Inaction will not result in fulfillment. There is only one thing standing in the way of achieving all that’s possible: You! If you make the conscious choice to sit back and watch the world go by without ever making an attempt at achieving your goals, you will experience profound regret in your life.

Unfortunately, many people remain idle in the face of challenges and make the decision to stay put in a life of discontent—to remain in a job that brings them no satisfaction and to remain in a world of unhappiness. These people take a passive approach to life. When opportunities present themselves, these people don’t act. They’re not prepared. It’s one thing to know what to do; it’s something entirely different to put that information to good use and turn knowledge into action. If you don’t take the necessary action, you will be left watching opportunity after opportunity pass you by, wondering what might have been.

If you’re ready to take action and make some serious changes in your life, keep the following points in mind.

1. Don’t let fear hold you back.

You cannot let the fear of the unknown or the fear of failure prevent you from taking the necessary action to succeed. You must stick with your vision even when times get tough. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich (Hill 1987), put it beautifully. “There is no substitute for persistence! It cannot be supplanted by any other quality! … Those who have cultivated the habit of persistence seem to enjoy insurance against failure. No matter how many times they are defeated, they finally arrive near the top of the ladder.”

So do not go on believing that the path to success will be without obstacles and challenges. You will certainly have tough times. But don’t let any misconceptions lull you into inaction and eat away at your dreams. Know that all great accomplishments come despite hardship, not in its absence. You have to be aware and prepared, and you must match your vision with action.

2. Eliminate regrets.

The regret of never trying to make the most of your potential will far outweigh any bumps you will encounter along the way. There really is no limit to what you can do with your life. It is sometimes hard to imagine what you will not get out of life if you do not take action. That is a difficult concept for people to get their head around. However, when faced with the idea of finally taking action, many people quickly create a long list of what could wrong and why they should stay in their comfort zone. In fact, most people would never run out of reasons when asked to point out all of the reasons why they shouldn’t try to do something. Yet, the moment you ask them to create a vision for what they want out of life, they suddenly lose their creative prowess.

When it comes to their approach to life, too many people don’t think about what they are losing, because they never had it. This is a flawed way of thinking. You can be whatever you want to be. It is never too late or too early. And make no mistake, by choosing to sit idly by without taking responsibility for what happens in your life, you are giving up a tremendous amount. Just because you might not be able to touch it yet doesn’t make it any less real.

3. Look at your life in totality.

If you are looking for professional and personal fulfillment, you have to look at the whole picture, your daily life in totality. You will be unable to block off ten hours of your day for work and then expect to live the rest of each day in happiness, forgetting about work completely. Work is a part of life; therefore, to live a true life of fulfillment, you must make work part of the total equation. This does not mean you can’t lead a happy life if your job isn’t ideal. It simply means that you can absolutely make your job part of the larger vision for your life where work is exciting and anticipated instead of unfulfilling and dreaded.

So make the time to learn about yourself. Find your purpose. Put in the effort to create a specific vision. Develop the goals and the plan that will turn that vision into your reality. And most of all, take action. Don’t stop with a dream. Take the action that will truly define who you are. Separate yourself from those that only talk about things. You are unique, and you have unlimited potential. These gifts can only be offered to the world if you take action. You were meant to express yourself and contribute your talents. You will make yourself happy, and this will undoubtedly be radiated to those around you.

4. Incorporate more meaning into your life.

Everyone has moments of happiness that they experience. When you can add that extra element of meaning, you will take yourself to a higher level altogether. Think about your job. Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why am I doing this?” Well, if you are not really very interested in what you are doing, you will not truly care about your job, and it will show. But how do you behave when you are excited about something or truly care about the result? Do you act differently? You bet you do. You don’t even think about the time or effort you put into reaching your goal. You just do it. Period. No matter what.

Let’s say you are into woodworking. Is it a chore for you to build an addition to the back deck? Of course not. Why not? Because you love doing it. You are excited about planning it, getting the materials, and hey, you might even need to go to the hardware store and buy a new tool! These are not inconveniences; they are requirements, and you don’t mind a bit. Now what if you were then asked to build an addition to a wildlife rehabilitation clinic and you happened to have a passion for working with animals. Now you are talking about real fulfillment. The feeling associated with such a scenario is what you give up when you settle for a life of the mundane.

Take Action Today

You can discover your purpose, create a vision, and set your goals, but if it is not followed up by action, it is meaningless. Action is the critical component that leads you to a fulfilling life. As obvious as it might seem, taking action is the part of the equation that is most often overlooked. Nobody is going to do this for you.

There are three reasons why you need to picture the life of your dreams. One is to help clarify what it is you really want, two is to create your destination and the road map in getting there, and three is to make you realize just what you are giving up in choosing not to take action. This does not mean that the life you are currently living is any less valid than the life of anyone else. It simply means that you have the capability to make changes and create a life for yourself that is in keeping with your purpose.

Remember the words of Earl Nightingale, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” This is an ongoing process. It will take effort. Taking action is hard work, but it can be fun too. That is why it is so important to be involved in something that you believe in. Because if you feel as though you are working hard out of sheer necessity, and not by choice, you will understandably feel discouraged.

So make the decision to act. You will be glad you did.

Jan Peter Aursnes is the author of “Unlock Your Future: The Key to a Fulfilling Life,” a consultant and owner of Quantum Leaps Consulting, LLC. With a degree in management sciences from the University of Manchester, England, Jan Peter has 27 years experience in the corporate world mainly within the food and beverage industries.

His focus is on assisting people and companies in setting high goals – and reach them. Contact him at 561 868 1815 or visit http://www.quantumleapsconsulting.com

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Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Fear: A 4 Step Process

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 7:15 am

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” – Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

Underneath any unwanted self-sabotaging pattern of behavior is fear. These undesirable experiences can include career self-sabotage, any form of addiction, workaholic or shopaholic lifestyles, a series of bad relationships in your personal and professional life and constant financial struggles.

Repeating the past and making the same mistakes is repetition compulsion. You are repeating the past, making the same mistakes, and constantly complaining about the results and yet we keep doing it! Why do people keep repeating bad experiences over and over again? Because, even though unwanted, this perpetual state of circumstance has become the comfort zone. People cling to comfort zones because they are known, familiar, and therefore ‘safe’. Moving beyond comfort zones into new territory, even if desired, is a scary prospect.

Repeating past experiences involves recreating the same dynamics that you experienced as a child. If your childhood was filled with conditioning that invalidated your authenticity as a creative spirit, then you may be more comfortable living with people who invalidate you as an artist as an adult. You may have been told repeatedly that you could never earn a living as an actor, painter, drummer in a band or novelist. You pick a partner who tells you to put aside your passion and go get a ‘real job’. This is repeating the past. If you spent your childhood as the good kid who didn’t cause trouble and always minded her manner, you may be inclined to make people happy and have become the perpetual obsequious people pleaser. Again, you’re repeating your past and making the same mistake.

Unwanted repeated patterns of behavior often involves getting into business relationships with people who take advantage of you, or accepting jobs that don’t offer a chance of promotion or professional development. Repeating the past is pursuing the same dead ends over and over again, or engaging in the same self-destructive behavior. It’s making the same mistakes. To stop repeating the past, you must first determine if you are repeating the past.

The place to begin is to discover what stops you from moving beyond a comfort zone that is clearly not working for you. What are you afraid of? What could happen if you change the way you show up in your world? What would it mean to live centered in the truth of who you are, authentically, and in integrity with your passions and dreams for your future?

“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.” – Jim Morrison

Fear is a question. What are you afraid of and why? Your fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if you explore them. Fear often shows up in the form of the woefully misguided Inner Critic. Your Inner Critic works hard to keep you safe, keep you in that comfort zone. If you try to move beyond the comfort zone the Inner Critic will serve up fear and drama to pull you back to where it believes you will be safe.

The goal isn’t to get rid of this Inner Critic, this fear. The goal is to recognize it when it presents itself, examine it and master the fear so you can effectively transition into newer and better patterns of behavior. One way to tell that you are making choices and acting from a place of fear is when you are Finding Excuses And Reasons (F.E.A.R.) to do or not do something so that you can ultimately stay right where you are, hold yourself back.

Here are 4 steps to examine your self-sabotaging pattern of behavior.

1. State the pattern, the repeating unwanted experience.

Unwanted experiences can include unsupportive or even damaging personal and business relationships or performance anxiety of any kind including stage performances, auditions, interviews, networking, presenting your work to a person of authority and calling up your agent.

2. Examine the beliefs and thought processes that lead to the choices and actions that created the unwanted experience. Ask yourself, “What within me is creating this experience over and over again?”

Common fear based thoughts and beliefs include a fear of criticism or rejection that are stated in as an “I’m not ________ (talented, smart, young, pretty, experienced, etc.) enough”.

2. Test the validity of the underlying fear.

Is the fear true? Is it absolutely true? Can you identify any experience where you were, indeed – enough? Can you identify other people or other events that fly in the face of this belief? For example, if you are over 40 and you believe there are no roles for actors over 40 can to find any examples of actors over 40 who are working steadily in their craft? What specific circumstances trigger your fear? Is there a pattern? Can you think of an early experience of this fear? What happened?

3. What would your life be like if you didn’t cling onto your comfort zone? Who would you be, what would you have, what could you do if you didn’t have this fear running you?

Imagine and visualize yourself showing up in your life every day as that person. Try it on even if only as a costume at first. What choice would a person living that life make as the events of your day unfolds?

4. Check how you feel.

Your emotions are indicators of whether you’ve moved into or out of fear. Simply stated, you don’t feel good when you are functioning from a place of fear. You can experience that sick in the pit of your stomach feeling, physical symptoms such as sweaty palms or a desire to Fuggedabout Everything And Run (F.E.A.R.). From now on this feeling is a signal to you to stop and take a moment to deliberately and clearly make a newer and better choice; a choice that will result in a different action that will deliver a better outcome, a different experience that breaks the unwanted pattern of behavior from the past.

If you’re feeling good about yourself, your potential and the opportunities available to you then you are mastering your fear. You are headed in the direction of your dreams. You have moved beyond the old unwanted comfort zone into a new zone that supports your desires. If at some point you notice that you slipped back into that not so good feeling of fear just know that you are reacting to the voice of that frightened little Inner Critic who is still scared of this new way of being. Calm it down as you would a 4 year old and show this Inner Critic that you are still very safe even if you venture into newer and bigger experiences.

“Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom.”- Marilyn Ferguson

Copyright (c) 2009 Valery Satterwhite

Valery is a Mentor who helps creative people get out of their own way so that they can move beyond the struggles that often come packaged with the life of a visual & performing artist. Clients learn how to express their full potential deliberately & responsibly to create more passionately, profoundly, productively and profitably. Empower the Wizard Within to express your full creative potential. http://www.InnerWizard.com Get Free tips”!

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Is it Possible to Speed Read

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 9:04 pm

Reading Faster is an essential skill for people in the business world, or kids who want to spend less time studying. This skill seems impossible for many, but the ease of which you can learn about reading faster is very surprising. The process is actually quite simple to learn, and while you do need to use these tips frequently, many kids have found that they can read with more speed just by knowing the theory behind these tips.

Firstly, you need to know about reading in chunks. This means that you should break text down into meaningful blocks of words as you read, so that you are reading independent thoughts rather than single words. Your eyes will stop less as you move them across the page, and that will help you develop quicker reading speed on each line.

Many experts believe that you should practice reading while moving your finger along each line. This will help you move your eyes faster than you normally would when reading, and that can help to keep you going at a steady pace. While this might take you out of your comfort zone as a reader, it is very important to practice Reading Faster than you think you can. You should notice that if you pace yourself to go a little faster than you normally do, you’ll still have full comprehension.

Seems strange, but it’s effective.

A third skill to use when attempting to speed read is that you should try to develop a talent for thinking about your reading on a deeper level. The best kids can take in the lines on the page, and then process them in the back of their minds as a way of increasing their knowledge. When they do this, they are developing the processing power of their brains to take in the knowledge on the page, and make mental connections to the things that they already know about a subject, and as a result, will remember more major details and have a strong understanding of what they read.

While it isn’t easy, you must learn about reading with more speed if you want to be successful. More and more kids are learning the ideas to speed reading, and if you don’t, you’ll be left behind. Nobody likes to look like an idiot when they’re sitting in the board room, still reading the memo that everyone else has already finished, and completely unable to follow along with the new direction everyone is taking. Learn speed reading today, and save yourself all the time and hassle starting right away.

Of course, not all readers should learn speed reading. If you want to know whether or not to try, there’s a great free online speed reading test here. It’s a amazing resource that will make you get started.

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Symptoms of low self esteem you need to know about

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 9:04 pm

One of the major symptoms of low self esteem that you need to know about is low self confidence and this pervades everything about a person that has low self esteem. A person that has low self esteem, for one thing, will always try to avoid making social contact with other people, and this is not to say that they attribute the same symptoms as autistic; they are perfectly able to contend with other people in social situations and make friends, but they are unable to anything that is above or beyond a moderate social situation.

They will often be seen as shy and avoid any sort of eye contact. In the context of self esteem, it sometimes can be said that they will be normal in most social situations. But when these situations escalate, you may notice that their usual shyness will be more attributed and sometimes, they may even decide to exclude themselves from most social situations. These are the people that will tend to leave early at a party, they will tend to avoid making new friends and will stick with the people that they know. This is something that is quite common with people that have low self esteem, and they will often have a comfort zone that they will try to stick with and not go out of. This is not to say that they will lock themselves up in a cupboard or not go out at all, but they will be relatively timid in most situations and will keep to the people that they know.

This is of course much more common in places and events like parties, and they will not be much of a social butterfly. They will of course try to go up to other people, but they will always avoid situations where there is the possibility of rejection, and this means that they know that rejection will bring them down further. People with low self esteem are not active in their social life and they will often employ methods that are electrical in nature for them to meet other people.

This can be anything from online chats to social networking tools online, and they would prefer this to going out for a party. They also will avoid situations where they will have to go up against somebody as they have almost no confidence in their own ability. As you can see, these are the symptoms of low self esteem that you might want to know about, and this can help you to either identify them in yourself or the people around you.

Getting to know about this early on will help them to turn back the personality clock in their body and rebuild their self esteem. There are steps that can be taken to assess and improve the self esteem in someone, and they are freely available online or at a psychologist office near you. With this, you can make someone, or perhaps yourself, more confident than ever before.

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How To Break Out of the Comfort Zone

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:56 pm

This fear of failure is the single biggest “affliction” in society. The comfort zone and a fear of failure paralyze people from making the steps they need to in order to improve their situation. If you look at anyone in a low paying, dead-end job or who stays in an unhealthy relationship you are seeing a person who is in a comfort zone.

Incessant planning and contemplation as opposed to action are a means of maintaining ones place in the comfort zone and can be your own worse enemy.

With the Fire, Ready, Aim strategy, you take your big goals and break them down into smaller, more accessible goals. That’s why we use the belt system in the martial arts. The goal for all of my students is black belt. While I have accelerated courses that can get you to black belt in as little as six-months, it takes most students 3-5 years of classes. That is a long time, so we break that time frame with short-term goals represented by belt colors.

In most schools, the darker the belt, the closer to black belt you get. So in my school, you would start with white belt. The white represented that you didn’t know anything about martial arts or very little. Within six-weeks, you would earn your gold belt and then in eight to twelve week increments, you would go to orange, green, blue, red, 4th degree brown, 3rd degree brown, 2nd degree brown, 1st degree brown and then black.

Each belt was earned through an examination process. With each belt earned the students felt a sense of progress. These acted as mini-victories that motivated them to continue classes. It was important for student retention that the every eligible student take their exams. We knew from tracking our statistics that students who did not take exams were our highest drop out risks. Progress creates motivation. Fire-Ready-Aim creates progress which creates momentum and motivation.

To be clear, Fire-Ready-Aim can create some challenges and set-backs that could have been avoided with more preparation, but in my experience, and this book is only my perspective on this things, the results far outweigh the risks.

Despite what all of the business books say, I’ve never written a business plan nor have I ever used on. I’ve never written a marketing plan either. For small businesses like mine, I don’t see the need to outline and prepare for every contingency. For large businesses, I can see how having plans can help keep everyone’s ladder on the same wall. But for small business with just a few employees, I think that’s less necessary. I would rather spend that time attacking my next project.

Fire-Ready-Aim can create some problems of its own that you may avoid with more planning but the key word is “may.” You may encounter the same problem with planning, who knows? Who cares, just get on with it. I believe that if you pull the trigger you will get the feedback you need to adjust from the market rather than a theory. I guess another way of looking at this to “Make the mess and clean it up later.”

John Graden is the author of The Impostor Syndrome. The Impostor Syndrome is the feeling you’re not as smart, talented, or skilled as others think you are. It’s the feeling you’ve been faking it and are about to be found out. Learn more about the book at:

http://www.theimpostorsyndrome.com

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Are You Your Own Worse Enemy? Overcoming Analysis Paralysis

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:56 pm

Analysis paralysis is a symptom of self-doubt. Analysis paralysis is when you have an idea or a goal that will improve your life, but self-doubt causes you to hesitate initiating the steps towards achieving the goal because you want to make sure that it’s going to work or that everything is in place before you start.

This hesitation shows itself in different ways. Some people take endless courses, which makes them feel like they are immersed in the activity they are trying to improve in. For instance, someone takes sales course after sales course as a way of avoiding going out and actually making a sale.

The character Zonker Harris in the comic strip Doonsbury was a professional student who remained in college for as long as possible to avoid having to go out into the real world.

Others never take the first step because they are entrenched in their comfort zone and would rather avoid trying something new than to try something new and fail or fall short.

“The known devil is better than the unknown devil” is their mind-set and strategy for living. Rather than improving his or her skills to get a better job or to walk away from a bad relationship, he or she stays because he or she is afraid that things will only get worse. This is another example of short-term gain for long-term pain.

These people will talk and complain about their situation, but never take the action to improve it. They will say things like, “It’s too late for me…” “What am I going to do? I’m 46 years old!” “He’s a friend. He doesn’t have the money to give me a raise…” They will come up with all kinds of excuses to justify their lack of action. The truth, as Mark Twain said is that, “You can have a thousand good excuses but not one good reason.”

Here is a great strategy that has worked for me for years. Fire-Ready-Aim is meant to help you kick-start your progress. It’s designed to create a sense of urgency from idea to implementation. The traditional process of Ready-Aim-Fire is a process of preparation (Ready) specific direction (Aim) and then implementation (Fire). The problem with this strategy is that it’s easy to get stuck in the Ready and Aim segments. As I described above, many people seem to spend their entire adult lives “getting ready.”

Here is the reality. Any goal worth reaching will not be achieved without encountering some kind of speed bumps along the way. You can prepare as much as you like, but once you pull the trigger you will start to get feedback that will help you stay on course. The sooner you begin to get feedback, the quicker you can make your course adjustments. Preparation doesn’t give you real time feedback. It gives you theories of what may happen. Theories don’t move your forward. Action does.

Fire – Ready – Aim reverses the traditional process to jump-start your progress and the feedback process. The idea is to “make the mess and clean it up later.” Get on with it. Go! Go! Go! Pull the trigger on the project first and make the adjustments as you go. Develop a sense of urgency in everything you do.

There is an obvious caution that I have to issue regarding this strategy. If your goal is to become an airline pilot, fly-ready-aim would not be a smart strategy. There are plenty of projects and goals where it makes sense to get the skills required to not kill yourself and others.

But, in my experience, the vast majority of projects and goals that people set would be far more easily reached by pulling the trigger before getting caught in analysis paralysis.

Pulling the trigger may well be taking a course of study, but not to avoid the actual activity with endless training programs. I don’t want to diminish the importance of self-education. I attribute my success to what I’ve learned through reading books like this, listening to audio programs and attending courses. But here is a good rule. If you spend three days at a course, spend the next nine days doing what you learned. Spend three times as much time doing rather then learning.

Here are some examples from my life. After my divorce, I was 45, semi-bald, still being sued by my biggest fan and “out there” for the first time in over a decade. One of the key strategies I learned in how to meet women is the three-second rule. The three-second rule is that as soon as you see someone who attracts you, you must approach her within three seconds. This is classic Fire-Ready-Aim. Most guys have approach anxiety, I certainly do. This strategy eliminates the Ready-Aim because the anxiety of making the approach would create self-doubt, which typically would lead you to talk yourself out of doing it. The three-second rule forces you out of your comfort zone and into the arena.

It’s a great strategy and it works like a charm.

John Graden is the author of The Impostor Syndrome. The Impostor Syndrome is the feeling you’re not as smart, talented, or skilled as others think you are. It’s the feeling you’ve been faking it and are about to be found out. Learn more about the book at:

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