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I’m confused, and looking for some other people’s input…?

  • Posted on March 4, 2011 at 4:21 am

I’m struggling with the way a family member is handling her current pregnancy, and I don’t know where to go from here. I’ll start with a little background, so you can hopefully understand where I’m coming from.

She’s high-risk, having had extreme HBP early on during her last pregnancy. She ended up having the baby at 27 weeks gestation but only 24 weeks developed. He was less than 1.5 pounds at birth. Tough little guy won the fight for his life, but those first couple of months were very difficult for him. We know he’s a miracle baby because now, other than being a bit small for his age (he’s about 1 year old and the size of the average 8-9 month old), he’s as developed as a normal 11-12 month old.

Although this baby had a happy ending, I fear she’s pushing her luck with her current pregnancy. She smokes like there’s no tomorrow and drinks a bottle or two of Mountain Dew each day. She’s almost 6 months along, and the doctors are fairly certain she will go early with this baby also, they just don’t know how early. (We don’t know if she smoked or had so much caffeine when she was pregnant with the baby before this one, I haven’t dared to ask. It was a shock to find out about it this pregnancy.)

She adores her little guy and she anticipates the healthy arrival of a new little one, but I don’t understand how a woman that cares that much for her children can treat her body this way during her pregnancy. She’s asking for another premature delivery with likely birth defects and/or the chance this baby won’t survive, and it scares me that she would do that to her child.

The worst part is, she understands the loss of a child: she already lost two daughters in a car accident a few years ago and had another daughter taken away from her by the state. She’s now trying to repair her life and show the state she’s now a good mom so she can get her daughter back.

I know addictions are hard to beat, but aren’t healthy children worth it? Isn’t giving up cigarettes worth having a baby with a higher chance of healthy lungs and lower chance of birth defects? Not to mention the poor effects of so much caffeine every day? I trust that she truly loves her kids, I see it in the way she interacts with her little guy, but her habits say the opposite.

Is there someone who can help me understand how a loving, caring mom can be this way? Or am I out in left field with this one? I probably wouldn’t have such a personal attachment to the matter, except these children are my flesh and blood and I care deeply for them, including the baby yet to be born.

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I want to divorce my husband, but I’m confused financially and we have a daughter toegether. Help!?

  • Posted on December 28, 2010 at 8:18 am

I want to divorce my husband because he pays my daughter (3 yrs. old) and I only negative attention, doesn’t help with house work or childcare, and lies about money. He is also a recovering alcoholic who promised he’d stay in counseling, and that didn’t happen. He is never affectionate, does not parent, runs away from it, and is just plain irresponsible, leaving me to work my full time job, clean house, take care of our daughter, do all financial tasks, etc., everything but wipe his butt.He has burnt bridges with my family who had offered him work doing carpentry at $40/hr. under the table, blew them off and never called people back after making promises and he’s burnt my inlaws by borrowing a ton of cash.My credit is crap now, and has been mentally abusive.My daughter is displaying angry behavior at school like that at home when her father is home.Her teachers and I are working hard to help her through her feelings safely and responsibly.Our mortgage is jumping from $2000 to $2300/mo

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What is this about, I am confused?

  • Posted on November 11, 2010 at 10:22 pm

Shell Shock Venus, aborted at sea.
Her youthful uniform torn open and free.
Floating where the whirlpools swirl
Men came diving for her pearl.

They’d scour her surfaces,
She’d dredge up their deep.
In a chaotic universe, shallow and sweet.
And as the merman hurled
Woman went careening from the girl.

And no line of questioning
Could penetrate her nerve.
But something was tapping her reserve.

Ashes of innocence, splinters of dreams.
Her anger in residence, ripping the seams
And petrifying fast;
She anchored to that mast.

Through waves of ecstasy
They’d compromise.
But something was lacking in her eyes…

Reptiles in water, a goddess in hea;
We dreamt of a daughter, Venus and me.
Floating where the whirlpools swirl
Men came diving for her pearl…

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Are you Confused about Republicans VALUES as well?

  • Posted on November 4, 2010 at 3:22 am

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re “exotic, different.”
* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American story.

* If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.
* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

* Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
* Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well grounded.

* If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.
* If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000 people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second highest ranking executive.

* If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re not a real Christian.
* If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a Christian.
* If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.
* If , while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no other option in sex education in your state’s school system while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant , you’re very responsible.

* If your wife is a Harvard graduate laywer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s values don’t represent America’s.
* If you’re husband is nicknamed “First Dude”, with at least one DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely admirable.

Please explain if you think this is OK.

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Sorry if I’m confused…?

  • Posted on November 3, 2010 at 4:23 am

Please let me know, after reading this, who you think should be in the White House: Barrack Obama and Joe Biden or John McCain and Sarah Palin?

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re
“exotic, different.”
* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American
story.

* If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.
* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

* Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
* Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well
grounded.

* If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become
the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter
registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12
years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State
Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become
chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee,
spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a
state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving
on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s
Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

* If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city
council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000
people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000
people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second
highest ranking executive.

* If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while
raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches,
you’re not a real Christian.

* If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left
your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re
a Christian.

* If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education,
including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the
fiber of society.

* If , while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with
no other option in sex education in your state’s school system
while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant , you’re very
responsible.

* If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position
in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner
city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s
values don’t represent America’s.

* If you’re husband is nicknamed “First Dude”, with at least one
DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to
vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated
the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely
admirable.

OK, much clearer now.

Sadly, Facts and Truth Seem not to Matter

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Sorry if I’m confused…?

  • Posted on November 1, 2010 at 6:23 am

Please let me know, after reading this, who you think should be in the White House: Barrack Obama and Joe Biden or John McCain and Sarah Palin?

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re
“exotic, different.”
* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American
story.

* If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.
* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

* Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
* Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well
grounded.

* If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become
the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter
registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12
years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State
Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become
chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee,
spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a
state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving
on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s
Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

* If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city
council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000
people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000
people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second
highest ranking executive.

* If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while
raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches,
you’re not a real Christian.

* If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left
your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re
a Christian.

* If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education,
including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the
fiber of society.

* If , while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with
no other option in sex education in your state’s school system
while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant , you’re very
responsible.

* If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position
in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner
city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s
values don’t represent America’s.

* If you’re husband is nicknamed “First Dude”, with at least one
DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to
vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated
the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely
admirable.

OK, much clearer now.

Sadly, Facts and Truth Seem not to Matter

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Are you also confused?

  • Posted on October 10, 2010 at 5:22 am

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

1. If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents,
you’re ‘exotic, different.’

– Grow up in Alaska eating moose burgers, you’re a quintessential
American story.

2. If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

– Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

3. Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.

– Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well
grounded.

4. If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become
the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a
voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend
12 years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a
State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people,
become chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human
Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate
representing a state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131
bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public
Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real
leadership experience.

– If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city
council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000
people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000
people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second
highest ranking executive.

5. If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while
raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches,
you’re not a real Christian.

– If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left your
disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a
Christian.

6. If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education,
including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber
of society.

– If, while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with
no other option in sex education in your state’s school system
while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant, you’re very
responsible.

7. If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position
in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner
city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your
family’s values don’t represent America’s.

– If you’re husband is nicknamed ‘First Dude’, with at least one
DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to
vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that
advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is
extremely admirable.

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Sorry if I’m confused…?

  • Posted on September 29, 2010 at 4:22 pm

Please let me know, after reading this, who you think should be in the White House: Barrack Obama and Joe Biden or John McCain and Sarah Palin?

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re
“exotic, different.”
* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American
story.

* If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.
* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

* Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
* Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well
grounded.

* If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become
the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter
registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12
years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State
Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become
chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee,
spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a
state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving
on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s
Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

* If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city
council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000
people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000
people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second
highest ranking executive.

* If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while
raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches,
you’re not a real Christian.

* If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left
your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re
a Christian.

* If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education,
including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the
fiber of society.

* If , while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with
no other option in sex education in your state’s school system
while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant , you’re very
responsible.

* If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position
in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner
city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s
values don’t represent America’s.

* If you’re husband is nicknamed “First Dude”, with at least one
DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to
vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated
the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely
admirable.

OK, much clearer now.

Sadly, Facts and Truth Seem not to Matter

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I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight?

  • Posted on September 28, 2010 at 5:23 pm

* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re “exotic, different.”
* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American story.

* If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.
* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

* Graduate from Harvard Law School and you are unstable.
* Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well grounded.

* If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as aConstitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in theUnited States Senate representing a state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

* If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000 people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second highest ranking executive and next in line behind a man in his eighth decade.

* If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re not a real Christian.
* If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and then left your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a true Christian.

* If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.
* If, while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no other option in sex education in your state’s school system while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant, you’re very responsible.

* If your wife is a Harvard graduate laywer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s values don’t represent America ‘s.
* If you’re husband is nicknamed “First Dude”, with at least one DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely admirable.

Is this how the double standard works?

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im a little confused about the presidential election 08`?

  • Posted on September 24, 2010 at 9:22 pm

I’m a
little confused. Let me see if I have this  straight…..

If you grow up in Hawaii,
raised by your grandparents, you’re ‘exotic, different.’

Grow up in Alaska
eating mooseburgers,  a quintessential American story.

If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic  Muslim.

Name your kids Willow,
Trig and Track, you’re a  maverick.

Graduate from Harvard law School and you are
unstable.

Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well
grounded.

If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community  organizer, become the
first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive
that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years  as a Constitutional
Law professor, spend 8 years as a State Senator
representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of
the state Senate’s Health
and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United  States Senate
representing a state of  13 million people while sponsoring 131  bills
and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and 
Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership 
experience.

If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4  years on the city
council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than  7,000
people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people,
then you’re qualified to become the country’s second highest ranking 
executive.

If you have been married to the same woman for 19  years while raising
2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re not a
real Christian.

If you cheated on your first wife with a rich  heiress, and left your
disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a
Christian.

If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex  education, including the
proper use of birth
control, you are eroding the  fiber of society.

If, while governor, you staunchly advocate  abstinence only, with no
other option in sex education in your state’s school system while your
unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant, you’re very responsible.

If your wife is a  Harvard graduate lawyer who gave  up a position in a
prestigious
law firm to work for the betterment of her  inner city
community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s values
don’t represent America’s?

If you’re husband is nicknamed ‘First Dude’,   with at least one DWI
conviction and no college education, who didn’t register  to vote until
age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the  secession
of Alaska from the USA,
your family is extremely admirable??
none of you guys answered my question!
ok so obama smoked some pot, shame shame shame on him!….i smoked pot too and alot of people have 2. . . :-\ experience? but drinking while driving, cmonnnnn thats common sense. every one knows not to smoke pot in public . & i thought everyone knew not to drink & drive

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