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Am I considered an alcoholic?

  • Posted on April 26, 2011 at 12:17 pm

I feel like I’ve been drinking to much for the past 2 years but my wife doesn’t say anything

Heres my schedule. I drink Fri, Sat, Mon and Wed and I start around 7pm and stop at midnight on workdays, on my days off I don’t stop at a set time. We’re new to our current city so i don’t have any friends here our closest friends are 12 hours away so I drink at home by myself and I’m 25 married with 1 child. I drink the same amount everytime which is 4 bottles of Budlight and a pint of Hennessy and when it’s done I eat then go to bed btw I’m 6’1″ 190lbs so that doesn’t get me wasted just a good buzz. But the problem is that on those days i mentioned I feel like I have to drink on those nights even though at times in the afternoon when I’m at work I tell myself I won’t drink tonight but I usually give in. I’m not a sloppy drunk, I don’t stagger unless I drink more than the usual and I’ve been drinking the same amount since we got married and moved away. My drinking doesn’t effect my job I’m always on time and I don’t start fights with the wife and we still have good sex but I still feel guilty the next day like I’m not being a good husband because when I drink I stay quiet so my wife gets on the computer, my daughter watches Tv in her room or plays with her toys and I usually play Madden, listen to music or talk to my friends on the phone. So at times I feel like I’m neglecting my family but my wife said theres nothing wrong with my drinking. And also my mom use to be an alcoholic so I’m scared I might turn into her one day.

So do you think I have a problem. I’m off of work tomorrow so that means I will drink tonight. BTW I use to drink alot more before we got married, I and my friends would be up all night drinking going to clubs but now I mellowed out but I feel it’s not good enough

How many of you are the same or do you drink more and or do you have a drinking schedule?
Also another reason why I think I must drink is because of boredom. When i don’t drink I and the wife watch tv together and I’m usually forced to watch Dancing with the Stars, Glee, Real Housewives of whatever city they’re in and we use to watch that god awful Kate plus 8 but give me a couple shots and a beer and it doesn’t really bother me. I will just go outside and find something to throw on the grill
To Matt: WTF only blacks and wiggers enjoy Hennessy. I would much prefer Remy Martin and I would settle for Courvoisier, Maybe Patron, Greygoose and or Belvedere. What the phuck does race have to do with this. Maybe I should of mentioned Heineken, Jagerbombs and Jack just to make you feel better

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Could this be considered neglect?

  • Posted on April 22, 2011 at 9:23 pm

My 12 year old daughter has been living with her father since February. She informed me the other day, that her dad and/or his family has not been picking her up after school. She has told me, on at least two different occasions, she sat at the school for over an hour, before the principal told her she had to leave school grounds, then walked 1.5 miles to the house her father is planning to purchase, (he’s currently remodeling it) and then sat there for 45 min + till someone showed up to get her. She has a cell phone, but nobody has ever called her to tell her that they weren’t going to pick her up. The school has a teen center, a safe place she can go after school, but she has to go there directly after school lets out. I don’t see why they can’t just send her a message telling her to go to the teen center after school. Instead, they let her sit, (sometimes in the rain) and wait for them. Then she walks 1.5 miles, unaccompanied, only to sit in front of a vacant home. (There is a convicted child molester living not more than 2 blocks from there, and her father is aware of this.)

She also called the other day, from the bar. She was there with her dad. At 11 o’clock. On a school night. This upsets me greatly, as he’s had 2 prior dui’s. He has no qualms with driving drunk, whether she is in the car or not.

It sounds to me like my ex-husband is neglecting our daughter. Am I overreacting?
She went to live with him, because she has some anger management issues, and violent tendencies. I have a 2 year old at home, and my 12 year old threw a chair at her. She also is going through diversion for an assault ticket. I can’t have her come home until she gets some help (Which he is supposed to be doing). She has a psychiatrist, and a therapist. She was prescribed Abilify, a mood stabilizer. Her father took them away from her, won’t let her take them, because “there’s nothing wrong with her”. He says all her issues are because I’m a b**ch. The only reason he lets her see her therapist, is because it’s court ordered through diversion. I think that if she were to take her meds, and continue with therapy, she could come home… I currently have legal custody, but he’s fighting me for it, so he won’t have to pay child support anymore.(She’s with him, because I asked him to care for her while she gets help, to protect my younger child.)
She can’t get a key to the house, as he doesn’t live there. He doesn’t own the property yet.
Doing zilch? I’ve been taking this kid to therapy since she was 5, when her dad and I split. She has been violent for the past 3 years. I’ve tried stragegy after strategy after strategy. We’ve been in family therapy. I sent her to her father, thinking maybe he would step up and HELP in parenting her. I have to do what I can to insure my younger daughter’s safety.

Obvously you’ve never parented a child with a mood disorder. Until you’ve walked a mile in my shoes, don’t criticize my parenting.
GerberaC – After viewing your profile, and reading some of your other answers, I now know why you responded like you did.

I’m sorry you had a rough time growing up. But it sounds like your situation, and my daughter’s situation are not the same. She has a loving mother, who has, and will continue to do everything in her power to help her. She has been diagnosed with O.D.D. and has been prescribed the proper medication. She gets therapy, and has a large extend family that supports her. I really do feel bad, that your childhood was rough, but don’t project your anger management issues onto this situation… She is getting help, not being punished. I’m sorry that you see it that way.

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I need to know what is considered child abuse?

  • Posted on April 19, 2011 at 5:21 am

‘My boyfriend introduced you to a guy who was married but had another female companion living with them in which they share the same bed with and an 8 month old daughter who sees this sexual acts taken place along with the child’s father who smoke marijuana and heroin, he also has a photo studio set up in which he invites different women for sex and pornography..is that considered child endangerment and abuse? We suspect the other woman may be a sex offender, she was spotted touching the child a few times, when I tried talking to the mother about ti she told me to mind my business. I live in Rochester NY where cops don’t care and CPS is ran by humans services which isn’t considered competent Child services it is run by the same Office that does welfare assistance and you don;t need a degree in child care to do this type of work. What can I do?
Okay I live in Rochester,NY where CPS in not doing it’s job correctly. I have called for a woman who did not clean up her house there were moldy food containers on the floor her children smelled terribly she lived in a roached infested environment. Guess what? CPS did not do anything for those poor kids. They looked the other way. So I highly doubt they will do anything about this.I’m so scared I did send an email. I even sent pictures. The child looks healthy but the father was kicked out of college for fondling another student he tried groping my breast once. My boyfriend moved his hand away. People in this town are strange and cold and distant. It is always cloudy the crime rate is ridiculous here. I want to post a picture on here that to me looks disgusting it doesn’t look like fatherly love. http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h255/frankibus/unaturallookpeter.jpg

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Can someone be neutral in regards to gay marriage and NOT be considered a bigot?

  • Posted on February 9, 2011 at 11:21 am

Why must we be FOR gay marriage?

Why must we advocate it or else we will be labeled as homophobes or hypocrites?

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I think smoking is an unhealthy habit.
I think heroin use is an unhealthy habit
I think that having promiscuous sex is unhealthy.

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That said…if people want to smoke in their own homes. Fine.
If people want to totally mess up their health by using heroin. Fine.
If you want to have sex with whoever and where ever you want. Fine.

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The problem is when these behaviors are forced upon me.

When I go to eat at a family restaurant and the cigarette smoke wafts over from the smoking section…
When that heroin addict contracts Hep C, HIV, and is admitted to a methadone clinic…and my taxes go to pay for his/her healthcare.
When that promiscous person contracts HPV, herpes, and gets pregnant…and my taxes go to pay for his/her medications and abortion.

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The same concept can be applied to homosexuality.

I have my own personal views about it. I am not going to force them on others. I will not vote in regards to bills on gay marriage or gay rights. That is my right…I do not have to choose.

If people want to get married to someone of the same sex. Fine.
But when my daughter is in school, do not try to force her to believe that what you are doing is okay, normal, and healthy.
I don’t force your children to pray to God in school do I? So do not force my children to learn about your sexual behaviours and be okay with it.
I am not a proponent of Prop 8.

I am also not an opponent of it.
Did no one read the questions?

There were three total.

You could have skipped the “rant.”
I don’t care if homosexual couples live next door to me.

It is what my children will be forced to learn in school that I have a problem with.
In regards to interracial marriage:

I am also neutral.

I do not care if two people of different races marry. And I do not care if two people of the same race marry.

Just do not force my child to believe anything about the two.
LOL “Hellish” mother.

Who is labeling now?

I want my children to learn about math, science, language, history, etc.

Not marriage and sex. I will teach them about that.
I never mentioned a religion.

I mentioned “God.”

That is it.

Look up the word religion.

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Is it legally considered rape if both parties were intoxicated?

  • Posted on August 13, 2010 at 7:26 pm

I’m a college student, who more often than not does not go to parties or to bars with my buddies due to studies. However, last night — as we have a week long break in the semester — I decided I’d go to a party one of my friends was throwing. While there, I got completely hammered to the point where I remember bits and pieces.

I recall a girl striking up a conversation with me, which ended up with her (clearly) stating that she wanted to have sexual intercourse with me; I did not bring the issue up at all. Both of us certainly were drunk at the time. So, we ended up going into a secluded room and began kissing. Since the girl said she wanted to have sex, I started to oblige her request. After she stripped her clothes, however, she said that she didn’t feel like having sex anymore. I figured she was joking as she had only just asked for it minutes ago and suggestively removed her clothes. Therefore I ignored her and continued on. Soon afterward, she began to scream; I thought she was role-playing so I covered her mouth and proceeded with the act. Apparently, in the process, I ended up hitting her accidentally.

I cannot ascertain how either of us exited the room, but today, I awoke to a call from the girl’s mother. She verbally harassed me for well over twenty minutes and threatened to alert both the police and my attending university to her belief that I raped her daughter! I tried to explain to her what had happened but she just would not listen!

I did not know what I was doing at the time. Both of us had been heavily drinking and the girl was asking for it. Am I going to be in trouble here? I’ve worked incredibly hard to get where I’m at and am on the cusp of graduation. I can’t lose all of that! Just by the very accusation, I’m virtually guaranteed to lose community standing.

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If I leave my 6 year old with my mother is it considered abandonment?

  • Posted on July 30, 2010 at 7:24 pm

My 6 year old is violent. I have sought tones of treatment…believe me I have exhausted my resources. She is physically abusive to her 5 year old sister (who is also adopted, but does not have “issues”). She has punched her in the face, slammed her face into a door frame, stabbed her with a fork, kicked her in the stomach…the list goes on and on. As she gets bigger and stronger I am becoming more and more afraid for my 5 year old daughter’s life. I know she is only 6, but it is SEVERE. She is an adopted child who’s biological mother did crack while pregnant. My 6 year old and my mother do beautifully together. She is very good for her grandmother. If I were to leave her with her grandmother and take my 5 year old away to protect her is it considered abandonment?

Understand, I have EXHAUSTED other resources. I have talked with the school system, worked with psycho therapists, had her on special diets and minerals and vitamins, had her try many various prescription drugs, etc. NOTHING works. “Running away” is a last and desperate resort.
I understand that everyone is concerned about the 6 year old…but what about my 5 year old? She is the one who is constantly neglected because I have to give my full attention and time to the 6 year old. My 6 year old has tried to KILL my 5 year old. She has put her hands around her sisters trhoat on several occasions chocking and shaking her. The last time she did it I physically could not pry her hands off of her sisters throat and had to get a wooden spoon and smack her arm to get her to let go. I fully realize the implications of abandoning a child, but what about the implications of NOT protecting my other daughter? What if she ends up dead? Who is to blame then?

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