My daughter is only 11 months old, her sperm donor hasn’t had anything to do with her since she was about maybe 4 months old. That was when he ran out on us and moved away, Well recently not even 3 months ago he moved in with a girl in Pekin IL and he is now taking me to court cause he NOW wants to have something to do with her aparently. The only way he got the money to take me to court was by claiming her on his income taxes and lieing and NO he didn’t have permission ( im gonna take cause of that with the IRS trust me ) but yea i never told him he couldn’t see her i told him to stop by anytime ( i never kept her from him hes the one who decided to move away and not have anything to do with her ) i told him to come and get her and take her over to his mom and dads so they could see her too ( but yeah that was the only place he could take her ) i told him to come and spend the day with her on her first birthday, i told him to spend time with her and when i last saw him 3 weeks ago he refused to see her he told me he didn’t want to see her. Yea so whatever but anyways back to the point he decided he was now going to take me to court behind my back and not tell me anything and i found out when i got served with the papers. but anyways I went to Pekin and i got a lawyer and i just wanted to know what everyone thought about this ( cause yes i am pushing for supervised visits either here where i live or an hour away where his mom and dad lives in Eldorado depending on how long the visits will be. I want Supervised visits, no overnights and not far away from me and not for long periods of time like either here where i live supervised by his parents or at his parents house in Eldorado, IL supervised by them. Like i said shes only 11 months old and shes never been away from me and she does not know him or his family at all. By the way You don’t think he would have overnights anyways, at what age do the courts normally do that?? now anyways here’s a little bit about my ex and why i don’t want him to take her by himself and always be supervised.
He was sentanced 14 yrs in prison he served 7, he just got off parole in Feb of 2009. he has 9 total on his criminal history, 4 class 1 felony’s for Residential burg, 7 others that are Res Burg but they weren’t classified as felony’s, and 2 that just criminal that doesn’t say what they are. He has put his hands on me in the past also when i was preg by choking and biting me and slamming me up against doors and even one door is broke and i have proof of it i took pictures. he has told me hes had a problem with sex and even had to take some kind of sex addiction classes, he would never change a diaper he told me he was scared of that area and that her private area looked weird ( yeah strange ) he was very violent when he got mad he would punch holes in my walls, i have pictures that he took and posted on his Facebook of him not using a car seat and instead placing her in the steering wheel of his truck on the interstate and driving way over 80 ( u can see the speedometer ) and you can tell its the interstate you can see other cars in some of the pictures, he has never been there for her he doesn’t even know her she has no idea who he is she hasnt seen him since she was 9 months old and that was for one day when i let him take her for a day, yeah he was one of those guys who would stop by every few months and see if she was still alive. he pretty much hasnt seen her since Christmas Eve and his parents never call and check on her or anything, they haven’t seen her since Christmas eve and They just don’t care at all about her at all They have other crap to worry about.I have told my lawyer about everything with my Ex and that’s why i don’t want her going far from me and not for long periods of time ( NO OVERNIGHTS ) and Supervised visits either by myself or a family member i can trust.
He is asking for unsupervised visits for us to meet halfway for the exchange of the child ( pick up and drop off ) halfway is 2 hours for both of us. its 4 hours to where he lives from mt house is Mt.Vernon. I don’t think a 11 month old child should have to sit in a car for that long ( 4 hours there and 4 hours back I don’t think so ) i think either here in town or an hour away at his parents house is Fair. What does everyone think about this situation?? Do you think i have a good chance in winning this in court, I did hire a lawyer to fight for me and my needs and wants?? if you ask me the SOB shouldn’t have any visitation and should only have to pay child support, it would be that way if it was up to me!!! Please Help everyone, Please let me know what everyone thinks about this. Ive tried with him and hes not had no part in it…
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by the way we were never married, the only thing he did was sign the birth certificate and give her his last name other that that NOTHING. he hasn’t given anything for child support, less than 50 dollars the past 7 months ( he left us when she was almost 4 months old ) and yeah he hasn’t done Sh** at all!! he doesn’t care about anything but himself and trying to hurt me and take my baby away from me. he’s just trying to hurt me this has nothing to do with the baby. every time he would come around she would cry when he would walk in the door and try and pick her up. he didn’t like him and i have no idea why… it just doesn’t make sence at all!! Please help me
I had no idea he was this type of a guy when i got preg trust me, i never would of got with someone like this. and yea it is horrible that i now have to deal with this SOB for the rest of my life. i love my daughter to death and i wouldn’t give her away for nothing But I do wish i would of had her with a diff guy and someone who wasn’t like him. Anything would of been better than this guy :-( i just hate it that this has happend, i just wish she would of had a good daddy and someone who would be here for her. i feel soo sorry for her, I love her with all of my heart she is my world and i will fight till the day i die for my daughter :-) she is my life. Thank-You soo much for your answer :-) thank-you for the advice and I will be calling them right away Monday morning… Thank-You
you have no idea what i went through in this relationship and im glad it ended when it ended and I’ve never went back to it cause i don’t deserve that and i wont be treated like that, and my daughter doesn’t deserve that either. she wouldn’t of been happy with him around. and yeah I was scared that’s why i couldn’t come out with anything till i was finally free of him. he wasn’t a good person okay, and yeah it was my fault by getting with him but i had no idea of what kind of a person he was.. now I am protecting my daughter, she is all I am worried and thinking about right now. NOT HIM.. my daughter is my life and I won’t let him hurt her and yeah he hasn’t had any interest in her hes had plenty of time to get to know her shes almost a year old. that was his decision not to be in her life I’ve never denied him his daughter NEVER. I just didn’t want to be involved with him again. he didn’t even want to see her, he is the one who has pushed her away Not Me..
I HAD NO IDEA WHAT TYPE OF A GUY HE WAS WHEN I GOT PREGNANT!!! HES NEVER BEEN THERE AND HE DOESN’T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER. SHES ALMOST 1 YR OLD AND HE’S A SPERM DONOR. I DON’T CARE WHAT ANYONE SAYS: I DON’T WANT NEGITIVITY I JUST WANT SOME ANSWERS. IS THAT TO MUCH TO ASK FOR???