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Father’s custody rights in Texas?

  • Posted on April 14, 2011 at 3:21 am

My son has a 5 yr old daughter. He was never married to her mother. When daughter was 3 mos. old they went to court for child support. The Atty General handled everything. Mom was given custody of child. Child is now 5 yrs old, the mother has been living with the child at her parents house. In the last 5 yrs the mom has lived w/her boyfriend for at least 2 yrs and has left the grandparents to raise daughter. They have joint custody but mom is the “primary”. My son has asked several times if daughter could come live with him and he could become primary. He has been more involved in her life. They (grandparents are involved) have said no that mom is a good mom and there all the time for her daughter. Since then the mom has admitted to my son (on tape) that she was on Meth. from the time daughter was 3 mos old to just recently. She is hardly ever around. She also stated (on tape) that her mother (grandma) has controlled everything. My son had a few legal problems (marijuana) several years ago but not since. He is 25, is going to school full time, has been offered a presidential scholarship from the college and is trying to get into a work study program. He has his own place & I am helping with finances until he can get thru school. One attorney has told me that because of his prior legal problems, no job right now and the fact that his daughter has lived with grandparents for last 5 yrs that even if he could prove mother is unfit and their daughter would be in a better enviroment with him, that the grandparents could sue for custody and could very well win. I do not understand how they could do this if his daughter living with them is only due to her mother not wanting to take on the responsibility. He has talked to them several times about her living with him and they have not wanted to work this out. Mom has had 5 years to get it together and he wants to raise their child but now I am being told that the grandparents can try to get custody and could. What about the “parents” rights?
The first time they went to court, they didn’t say anyone was unfit. They put her in her mother’s custody because they were never married and I assume that’s what they felt was best at the time. They were both young.

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Father’s custody rights in Texas?

  • Posted on April 13, 2011 at 4:22 am

My son has a 5 yr old daughter. He was never married to her mother. When daughter was 3 mos. old they went to court for child support. The Atty General handled everything. Mom was given custody of child. Child is now 5 yrs old, the mother has been living with the child at her parents house. In the last 5 yrs the mom has lived w/her boyfriend for at least 2 yrs and has left the grandparents to raise daughter. They have joint custody but mom is the “primary”. My son has asked several times if daughter could come live with him and he could become primary. He has been more involved in her life. They (grandparents are involved) have said no that mom is a good mom and there all the time for her daughter. Since then the mom has admitted to my son (on tape) that she was on Meth. from the time daughter was 3 mos old to just recently. She is hardly ever around. She also stated (on tape) that her mother (grandma) has controlled everything. My son had a few legal problems (marijuana) several years ago but not since. He is 25, is going to school full time, has been offered a presidential scholarship from the college and is trying to get into a work study program. He has his own place & I am helping with finances until he can get thru school. One attorney has told me that because of his prior legal problems, no job right now and the fact that his daughter has lived with grandparents for last 5 yrs that even if he could prove mother is unfit and their daughter would be in a better enviroment with him, that the grandparents could sue for custody and could very well win. I do not understand how they could do this if his daughter living with them is only due to her mother not wanting to take on the responsibility. He has talked to them several times about her living with him and they have not wanted to work this out. Mom has had 5 years to get it together and he wants to raise their child but now I am being told that the grandparents can try to get custody and could. What about the “parents” rights?
The first time they went to court, they didn’t say anyone was unfit. They put her in her mother’s custody because they were never married and I assume that’s what they felt was best at the time. They were both young.

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Father’s custody rights in Texas?

  • Posted on April 12, 2011 at 5:20 am

My son has a 5 yr old daughter. He was never married to her mother. When daughter was 3 mos. old they went to court for child support. The Atty General handled everything. Mom was given custody of child. Child is now 5 yrs old, the mother has been living with the child at her parents house. In the last 5 yrs the mom has lived w/her boyfriend for at least 2 yrs and has left the grandparents to raise daughter. They have joint custody but mom is the “primary”. My son has asked several times if daughter could come live with him and he could become primary. He has been more involved in her life. They (grandparents are involved) have said no that mom is a good mom and there all the time for her daughter. Since then the mom has admitted to my son (on tape) that she was on Meth. from the time daughter was 3 mos old to just recently. She is hardly ever around. She also stated (on tape) that her mother (grandma) has controlled everything. My son had a few legal problems (marijuana) several years ago but not since. He is 25, is going to school full time, has been offered a presidential scholarship from the college and is trying to get into a work study program. He has his own place & I am helping with finances until he can get thru school. One attorney has told me that because of his prior legal problems, no job right now and the fact that his daughter has lived with grandparents for last 5 yrs that even if he could prove mother is unfit and their daughter would be in a better enviroment with him, that the grandparents could sue for custody and could very well win. I do not understand how they could do this if his daughter living with them is only due to her mother not wanting to take on the responsibility. He has talked to them several times about her living with him and they have not wanted to work this out. Mom has had 5 years to get it together and he wants to raise their child but now I am being told that the grandparents can try to get custody and could. What about the “parents” rights?
The first time they went to court, they didn’t say anyone was unfit. They put her in her mother’s custody because they were never married and I assume that’s what they felt was best at the time. They were both young.

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drunk mother wants custody, hasn’t bothered to see our four year old daughter in two years?

  • Posted on April 4, 2011 at 12:17 pm

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.
i was acting not nicely??? did you even read the story? why would i let my daughter go spend the weekend with someone she doesn’t know? someone who chose a life of partying over a life with her daughter..someone who didn’t bother to call her own daughter for two years? Would you let your child go with a complete stranger?

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my 2 yr old and custody and a drug addict father..help me?

  • Posted on March 31, 2011 at 9:21 pm

i have a great two yr old named cadence leigh. her father has always had a struggle with drugs off and on throughout the yrs but when he and i were together i assumed he had the urges under control. we stayed together for 3 yrs and he just walked out 1 day when our daughter was 3 months old. he has lived in 2 apts since then and now he lives in a drug community. the apartments are trashed and theres partying all of the time. he has no custody rights, due to a magistrate and a judge ordering that he needed to get his life in order and by no means he have any rights or visitation. he hasnt paid child support since july. it is hard because she asks for him all of the time and for the past 2 months i have taken her to his apt and stayed with her and him and watched him snort pills up his nose with our daughter in the livingroom. i know it is wrong to even take her there, but it pulls at my heart to watch her cry and to ask for her father. he is so good with her when they are together and they have always had the strongest of bonds and he turns it all around on me until i get to the point and give in. i love him so much and want him to get help and i love our child so much that i just feel like keeping her from him will damage her in the long run. it isnt just pills now, its heroin, drinking, coke and basically all he can get his hands on. i buy dinner and put groceries in the house when i go there and last weekend i met his roomate and he is 65 yrs old and drinks a lot of beer. i dont know what to do…can someone please help
i typoed when i typed she was 3 months old when he left, she was actually 8 months. and yes i have tried to get his family involved for an intervention but they either ignore the issue or dont believe me. the hate me ne how

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I have a 4 year old grandchild, Zoe’, that I KNOW is being abused. What can I do? Can I get custody? PLEASE

  • Posted on March 31, 2011 at 5:20 pm

I love my son Jeff, more than life. 4 yrs ago he had a baby with a girl that ran off to New York to be a Stripper when Zoe’ was a few months old. Immediately, this 18-yr-old girl came out of nowhere. She and her mother are full blown narcassists. They have treated Zoe’, me and Jeff HORRIBLE. Recently, birthmom comes back, demands DNA test and of course Jeff is not Zoe’s biological father. Jeff’s dad is a well known child molester. Jeff and Natalie had a baby, didn’t want to be bothered with Zoe’ so she was sent to the pedaphile. Zoe’ stayed with her other grandmother, Carol. Carol’s 16 yr-old daughter on probabtion for meth, has been waking Zoe’ up in the night making Zoe’ suck her nipples and God only knows what else. This child is in severe trouble. Her mother Jessica has mentioned that her new husband wants to adopt Zoe’. This guy is bad news, I just know it. Zoe’ needs to be completely taken away from ALL of those people, including my beloved son. Please someone…help

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dead beat mom wants custody, hasn’t seen four year old daughter in two years?

  • Posted on March 30, 2011 at 10:17 pm

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time and my wife had been out drinking. This was the case when she lived farther away too. Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter. Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible, I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again, She stopped calling after a few days. Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday. When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny. My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy) and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her. We have met with our lawyers and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of actually winning full custody or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

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I’m suing my ex for back child support but he wants to sue me back for custody. Does he have a chance?

  • Posted on March 21, 2011 at 7:21 pm

I am in the process of taking my deadbeat ex to court for over 6 years of unpaid child support. During the time we’ve been divorced, he has never paid me a penny in support, nor has he contributed in any way to the ongoing medical bills for our daughter or our disabled son. He sees them every other weekend, but is otherwise not involved in their lives in any meaningful way. He doesn’t come to their school events, attend birthday parties, or take any interest in their well being, especially if it requires any effort on his part. He has also been unemployed for over 4 years, but this past spring, his mom died & left him a huge sum of money (about 200k), ALL of which he has managed to blow through in just under 6 months, without using any of it to pay any of his support arrears or put any aside for the kids future. This was the last straw & I finally saved up enough for a lawyer & am suing him for contempt.

Since he has been served the papers, he has been making remarks to our daughter that lead me to believe he is going to try and paint me as an unfit mother & maybe try to get custody of them, purely out of spite. I am a hardworking mother who has worked up to 3 jobs to keep a roof over their heads & food on the table. I have no history of drug use, abuse, or any other lifestyle that might be damaging to the kids; they are safe, happy, and well cared for. Yet I know how sneaky he is & I still worry because I am unfamiliar with the legal system. Does he have any chance at all of getting custody of children that he’s never helped to support? He has lots of questionable things in his past (heroin addiction, unpaid loans, bankruptcy, and more). No court would ever think he’s a more capable parent than I am…or would they? Hoping for some peace of mind…thanks in advance.

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My boyfriends baby momma is breaking probation, shes in another state, we would like to get custody of the….?

  • Posted on March 20, 2011 at 9:23 pm

baby but her parents are pretty high up in the political latter here. She has driven drunk with the baby(4yrs old) in the car, and the child knows what is going on, thats the worst part. one night she asked who was going to drive them home “mommy drank bad stuff” and this week alone she has spent 1 night with her daughter, the other 6 shes been with the grandmother. should I report her? to help us get custody?

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I’m suing my ex for back child support but he wants to sue me back for custody. Does he have a chance?

  • Posted on March 20, 2011 at 9:21 pm

I am in the process of taking my deadbeat ex to court for over 6 years of unpaid child support. During the time we’ve been divorced, he has never paid me a penny in support, nor has he contributed in any way to the ongoing medical bills for our daughter or our disabled son. He sees them every other weekend, but is otherwise not involved in their lives in any meaningful way. He doesn’t come to their school events, attend birthday parties, or take any interest in their well being, especially if it requires any effort on his part. He has also been unemployed for over 4 years, but this past spring, his mom died & left him a huge sum of money (about 200k), ALL of which he has managed to blow through in just under 6 months, without using any of it to pay any of his support arrears or put any aside for the kids future. This was the last straw & I finally saved up enough for a lawyer & am suing him for contempt.

Since he has been served the papers, he has been making remarks to our daughter that lead me to believe he is going to try and paint me as an unfit mother & maybe try to get custody of them, purely out of spite. I am a hardworking mother who has worked up to 3 jobs to keep a roof over their heads & food on the table. I have no history of drug use, abuse, or any other lifestyle that might be damaging to the kids; they are safe, happy, and well cared for. Yet I know how sneaky he is & I still worry because I am unfamiliar with the legal system. Does he have any chance at all of getting custody of children that he’s never helped to support? He has lots of questionable things in his past (heroin addiction, unpaid loans, bankruptcy, and more). No court would ever think he’s a more capable parent than I am…or would they? Hoping for some peace of mind…thanks in advance.

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