My husband and I have been happily married for almost 3 years now; we both have daughters from previous marriages and would like to start trying for another child. My daughter is a real sweet girl and cares about others as well as obeys her parents. However my step daughter’s behavior is totally unacceptable and she does not want to listen to me or her father, and yells at us whenever we confront her.
She recently came to live with us after she was in a rehab facility for anorexia and drug abuse. We have had uncountable episodes where she would come home at 4 in the morning totally drunk and high on drugs. After she was grounded. I recently found drugs in her room, and seen cuts on her arm. She also skips school, barely eats and I haven’t seen her sleep at all in a while, I have even caught her having sex. She knows the rules in our house, yet she disobeys them.
My husband and I have no idea what to do, I have tried talking to her, but I don’t know what to say.
She has had a really hard live, her little sister died when she was 4 and that totally shattered her father and mother’s relationship. Her mother, an alcoholic, then took off with her and no one could find them.
Her mother’s boyfriends severally abused her and raped her. After her mothers suicide she was sent from foster home to foster home, because she would cry, kick and scream all the time. Only after her suicide attempted did my husband and I track her down and admitted her to a rehab facility, however we felt so guilty leaving her there we wanted to give her a chance at a normal life, since she’s only 16. I have no idea what to do.
thank you for the advice.
