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how should i go on with this depression?

  • Posted on February 7, 2011 at 3:23 pm

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How do i keep going with this depression?
Okay i had a normal childhood the only thing that is different is that when i was like a few months old my biological father ditched me and my mom. she meet the man i called my dad when i was like a year old. He adopted, but he was going through issues with his ex wife and won custody of his daughter and she came to live with us. this all happened when i was about 8. everything changed there attention was all on her i was just someone in the house. i didn’tt mind it but it hurt i was pretty much forgotten about. i became overweight and form like 2nd grade on i was made fun of i had maybe one freind from about 2nd -8th grade. when i was 12 my biological dad wanted to be apart of my life. we became good friends i met that whole side of my family it felt good to get to know them. about after a year contact they all stoped talking to me i tried calling them but they ignored me. it hurt me so bad, i eventually ignored it and hid it away and tried to avoid thinking about it cause it hurt. from that point on i lost everyone i had no freinds i talked to i spent all my time at home watching tv, or staring into nothingness. i felt like my life was worthless and i was good for nothing. im now 17 and i started my senior year in highschool i still have no freinds. well on the first day of school i met this girl i got her number and we’d sit and talk on the phone for hours about a week went by and we kissed. everything felt so good my life finally felt good for once. she went and stayed with one of her freinds for a weekend and then everything went to **** and she stoped talking to me. i thought i ruingeed my life even more. i felt so bad i tried to find out what happened and she said that being with me made her relize how much she was in “love” with her x. we fought and didnt talk for like a week and eventually we made up and were just freinds well sort of. every time i see her i feel good inside and horrible at the same time. having someone that cared for me the way she did felt so good and now its the only think i want to feel. but i have no one i barely see her anymore i cant talk to anyone, when i try to i start like crying and cant talk im going to see a doctor about antidpressants cause im afraid if i keep going like this im gonna end it. the feeling i had when i was with her was so intoxicating its the only thing i want to feel. i dont know how to go on with my life. i try to find an empty classroom and just sit there at lunch when im at school. people know my name but i dont know anyone i have no idea how to go about and make friends i cant stand feeling this way anymore its killing me inside and im not sure what its gonna do to me in the long run. I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE

im tired of feeling this way i want friends i want to fit in for once in my life. i dont know what to do or how to do it. im so lost and im afraid if it werent for the fact im too afraid of dying i would of tried to kill myself.
So i started me senior year and me and this girl started talking and we kinda went out for a few weeks and we even kissed. She goes and spends a weekend at her friends and then was a total *****. we made up but we stoped going out and then we tried to be just Friends. she got back together with the guy she dumped for me and during class she like insults me and puts me down for no reason but its only when hes around. shell ignore me for a few days, and pretends that i dont exist during class. Then a few days pass and then shell be all fine and act like nothing is happening. should i even bother trying to keep her as a freind i still like her a lot but i have to much other **** going on now.

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I need advice. I am a 31 year old with BiPolar, Depression and Generalized Anxiety with panic attacks. I’m?

  • Posted on December 22, 2010 at 4:33 pm

having a hard time handling life and motherhood and I feel I’m dragging my loved ones down with me. In the last 8+ years I have been employed quite a few times and haven’t held a single one. I started drinking when I was young and alcoholism and my choices have caused a great deal of problems and worry. I have 2 DUI’s and have 6 months left of probation but worry about paying anything. I have become a loser. My credit is so bad and I don’t have a single penny to even get Anything put in my name. I’m trying to keep pressing on. I have gone to numerous detoxes and most recently successfully completed 8 1/2 months in residential treatment facility. My daughter was 3 months when I entered. I am still sober but it’s not easy. I almost fatally shot myself in July of 2006 and tear my family up with my problems. I want to be alive and be happy and healthy but I’m having a hard time building a ladder to crawl out of this hole. No job, no money, no license. I want to go to school. I want to contribute. I need to fight harder. I’m stuck. Jails, institutions and near death. I know you can’t answer this for me but can I pull out of this and be the person I know in my heart I’m meant to be?

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I need advice. I am a 31 year old with BiPolar, Depression and Generalized Anxiety with panic attacks. I’m?

  • Posted on December 9, 2010 at 4:32 pm

having a hard time handling life and motherhood and I feel I’m dragging my loved ones down with me. In the last 8+ years I have been employed quite a few times and haven’t held a single one. I started drinking when I was young and alcoholism and my choices have caused a great deal of problems and worry. I have 2 DUI’s and have 6 months left of probation but worry about paying anything. I have become a loser. My credit is so bad and I don’t have a single penny to even get Anything put in my name. I’m trying to keep pressing on. I have gone to numerous detoxes and most recently successfully completed 8 1/2 months in residential treatment facility. My daughter was 3 months when I entered. I am still sober but it’s not easy. I almost fatally shot myself in July of 2006 and tear my family up with my problems. I want to be alive and be happy and healthy but I’m having a hard time building a ladder to crawl out of this hole. No job, no money, no license. I want to go to school. I want to contribute. I need to fight harder. I’m stuck. Jails, institutions and near death. I know you can’t answer this for me but can I pull out of this and be the person I know in my heart I’m meant to be?

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linking of depression?/??

  • Posted on September 26, 2010 at 12:17 am

i know i ask a lot of questions having to do with an eating disorder, but im trying to fight this on my own cuz i dont have the guts to tell my parents
anyway, after trying to recover last summer and gaining a lot of weight, i couldnt stand losing my control and so i started to binge and throw up
it was sad cuz i promised myself i wouldnt do that
anyway, it has gotten addicting, somewhat
but ever since i started that, i feel extremely sad
its been a month since ive stopped binging, but i still throw up sometimes and over excercise, or eat little
but i feel tired, if someone shakes my body or hugs me my body hurts for some reason, i feel like crying all the time, i dont like to talk to anyone anymore, im never hungry anymore, i feel blah, i dont want to do nething nemore, i feel hopeless, but i still keep my grades up….idk how but i have to or else my parents will suspect something
am i depressed or just sad or wat
im not planning to tell my parents or doctors cuz i feel their picture of a perfect daughter will be ruined and ill be ashamed forever
i know that stupid….but thats how i think…for a smart girl i think stupidly =[ oh well idc anymore

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Do you think this sounds like depression?

  • Posted on September 20, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I have A lot of stuff going on in my life at the moment, my mum being mentally unwell and my dads alcoholism.
I am a 23 year old single mother and living at home due to my daughters Dad being abusive and into drugs / alcohol.

Lately i have felt like the only thing i want to do is sleep, i wake up in the morning with my daughter and an hour later i just wanna go back to bed and sleep the day away… on the odd occasion my daughter wants to sleep anyway so i get to go back to bed..
When i am awake every tiny little thing annoys the heck outta me!! i get so hot and frustrated at every little thing.. its not fair on my daughter who is a really good kid.
At night time particularly i feel really down and tired even if i have slept half the day..
Im afraid i will go to the Dr’s and burst into tears.. i don’t even know if i am depressed and scared he will shove it off as stress or something.
However in saying all that.. i still have good days where im quite happy and think on days like this i am over reacting. hypohypochondriac?? i don’t know…

Does this sound like depression?

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Separation depression?

  • Posted on September 7, 2010 at 8:18 pm

Let’s face it. I was a lousy parent. Step parent to be exact. When my wife and I got married, she had a daughter that was 5 years old. I tried to be a parent, but I guess the connection was never there. Her real Father was not in her life and I think she resented him over it. I wasn’t much better. I spent a better part of her child hood hooked on meth and binge drinking. I always managed to hold down a job and support my family. But I was young and not prepared to be a parent. I never had any children of my own.

My step daughter gave birth to a baby boy 5 years ago. The moment I held him he became mine. I have never been able to separate myself from him. Thankfully my daughter lives just 2 streets over so I get to see him all I want. Yet, when I am apart from him I get really depressed. I think now I know what it is like to be a parent because I have now been around a child since it was born. His Father is not in his life so I am the next closest thing. I can not begin to tell you how much this child has changed my life. People tell me I am not the same person anymore. I have done a radical change for the better.

Is it possible to become so attached to a child that you can become terribly depressed to be apart from them? Is it possible to be so attached to a child that they change your life forever?

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Depression in adolescents and young people

  • Posted on January 22, 2010 at 4:23 pm

One in five children and adolescents is affected by mental health problems and disorders. Those aged 18-24 have the highest prevalence of mental disorders of any age group.

Depression in this age group should be taken seriously. Youth suicide is the third most common cause of death in this age group.

The Lawson Clinic, a leading mood disorder facility based in Sydney Australia, believes that both biological and developmental factors contribute to depression in adolescents. If Bipolar disorder or psychosis is suspected, biological causes would need to be examined.

Signs of depression in an adolescent

It is often hard to distinguish adolescent turmoil from depressive illness, especially as the young person is forging new roles within the family and struggling with independence, and academic and career decisions.

An adolescent who is depressed may not show obvious signs of depression. Instead, he or she may start to behave uncharacteristically, for example by:

- Becoming socially withdrawn.

- Falling in their performance at school.

- Engaging in risk-taking behaviours (e.g. reckless driving, inappropriate sexual involvements).

- Engaging in drug and alcohol abuse.

- Sometimes a minor physical problem is used as a disguised appeal for help.

Where to get help for an adolescent

If you think your son or daughter, or someone you are close to, might be depressed, the first step is to either take them to a general practitioner, to the local Community Health Centre. The general practitioner will either conduct an assessment or refer the adolescent to a child and adolescent psychiatrist or mental health worker. Other initial sources of help are school counsellors and trusted close family members to whom the adolescent feels comfortable talking.

Sometimes the adolescent may not want to seek help. In this case it’s best to explain that you are concerned and perhaps also provide them with some information to read about depression.

There are also some excellent websites designed for young people, as well as confidential online and telephone counselling services. It’s important for young people to know that depression is a common problem and that there are people who can help.

If there is any talk of suicide this should be taken seriously and immediate help sought from a mental health professional.

Key points to remember

- Depression among young people is common, with one in five affected by mental  health problems.

- It can be hard to distinguish depression from adolescent turmoil.

- Depression in an adolescent may be indicated by uncharacteristic behaviour such as withdrawing socially, dropping in performance at school, using drugs or alcohol, or engaging in risky behaviour.

- Professional help from a general pracititioner or counsellor should be sought if depression is suspected.

- Immediate help should be obtained from a general pracititioner or other mental health practitioner if an adolescent talks of suicide.

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Stories of Life After Depression

  • Posted on January 7, 2010 at 5:24 am

With depression, when it happens, it’s the same way.  You can’t just return to your old ways of dealing with stress and use the same coping skills that got you depressed in the first place. It’s time to see what your priorities are and what needs your attention most.

Let’s take Ralph:

He’s 64 years old, retired, and enjoys playing golf, going fishing, and hanging with his old friends who are also retired. He drinks a little more than he should but he never had a DUI so he thinks he is OK. His wife has many friends and is involved in church work and helping the local animal shelter raise money.  Ralph’s wife meets Tom at the senior citizens’ center and they immediately have a good mojo. Within weeks she and Tom are planning a future together.  When Ralph learns of his marriage falling apart he drinks a quart of alcohol and runs his truck into a cement post.  He is not seriously hurt but is diagnosed as seriously depressed.  He is treated for two weeks in the hospital. His wife has shown concern but does not plan to stay with him.  Ralph needs to find a way to live his life in a way that he does not need a steady flow of booze to keep going. He realizes after he’s gone through detox that he will have to change his lifestyle and become more active doing things that don’t involve booze. He tells himself that maybe getting divorced isn’t the worst thing in the world since he and his wife were never really that happy.

Annie is another example.

She is 46 years old and her 24 year old daughter was killed by an abusive husband. Annie has not been able to deal with her depression over this and has had to go to court to see her former son in law tried and sentenced. She takes sleeping pills and tranquilizers; sometimes to the point she slurs her words and stumbles when she walks. She is a realtor and does not have to report for work at any given time so she lays in bed much of the day.  She has a friend who is handling her real estate closings. Annie was very close to her daughter and was not really close to her son who lives nearby. Her husband died of a heart attack and she lives alone in a lovely condo. Her diet is terrible and she looks bad. Her son comes over one day and tells her that he is taking her to a mental health clinic, that he has already made an appointment.  She agrees reluctantly and when she tells her problem to a counselor, she is given anti depressant medication. Within 3 weeks she is feeling better and has more energy. She realizes that she will always grieve for her daughter but that relationship she counted on was gone.  She checks out the local recreation center to see what classes she can take and she signs up for a gym member ship. She also feels much closer to her son and is trying to repair old grudges and arguments with him.

Jim was in a toxic relationship.

Jim is 28 and was living with Laura, 26. She is a nurse and he works for a drafting company.  He dated her for five months before asking her to move in with him. When she did, their relationships seemed to go south.  She never wanted to help with the cleaning and cooking and felt that they should go somewhere every night.  The sex was good but she was always suggesting how he could make it better.  He was very turned on by Laura because she was pretty and well built.  However, he noticed there were phone calls coming in and Laura would take them in the bedroom and talk for an hour. He asked who it was but she didn’t say.  Finally he answered the phone and talked to the man who had been seeing Laura on the sly. Jim blew up and screamed at Laura to get out of the house. There was a terrible scene and the neighbors called the police who decided to arrest Jim.  When he got out on bail, Laura had cleaned out the TV, stereo, and his computer.  He was so depressed he could barely go to work.  His mind would wander back to how he had gotten involved with a woman like her.  He didn’t want to go out with any friends and just got fast food to eat.  His parents called and asked him to come visit as they only lived an hour away but he wouldn’t go.  He just sat and brooded. Finally he was causing so many screw ups at work that his boss told him to get help or he would be out of a job. Jack went to see a psychologist and let it all out. The counselor was understanding and arranged for Jack to get on antidepressants.  He also told Jack that he needed to find out why he had been attracted to a woman like Laura and decide what was important in a woman that he would want to have a relationship with.

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Five Facts About Depression, Therapy, Treatment And You

  • Posted on January 6, 2010 at 8:20 am

Depression is one of the most common psychiatric disorders that is found in people around the globe. Yet despite its universality, it’s frequently misunderstood.

To help you obtain better insight into depression, therapy and you, this article focuses on five facts about the disorder you probably didn’t know.

(As always, if you feel you are severely depressed or potentially suicidal, seek attention at a mental health clinic immediately.)

Fact #1: Depression Can Affect Children as Young as Preschool Age

Depression isn’t just a disorder found among teens and adults. It’s also become more prevalent in children. This reality emphasizes the need for parents to be diligent about addressing any depressive behaviors in their sons or daughters before they become debilitating. Additionally, moms and dads may want to consider long-term therapy treatment for their kids and their entire family to stave off more intense depression or uncover other disorders in addition to the depression.

Fact #2: Around Four Out of Ten People Are Too Embarrassed to Seek Depression Therapy Treatments

Even though depression is a household word, it’s still one that has a stigma attached. Consequently, many depressed individuals abstain from telling their physicians about their depression out of a fear that they’ll be labeled as “crazy”. Ironically, this kind of “hiding” or sheltering of one’s problems can actually create a deeper depression. As always, it’s best to look upon therapy treatment with a healthy attitude, not an uncomfortable one.

Fact #3: The Majority of Depressed People Are Not Engaged in Depression Therapy

Whether because of presumed cost or perceived social humiliation, most depressed men, women and children never seek out depression therapy, even when they have a mental health clinic in their neighborhoods. In fact, even those covered by health insurance will often eschew therapy treatment for their depression. This simply leads to more issues and may be one of the reasons that the suicide rate among depressed persons is high.

Fact #4: Depression is on the Rise around the World

This fact probably comes as no surprise to anyone who has read the latest news. Economies are waffling, families are experiencing stress, companies are closing their doors… this kind of anxiety can be the springboard for depression in those who are predisposed to the disorder. As a result, it may be wise to visit a mental health clinic for a depression evaluation if any major stressors have happened within the past 12 months, such as the loss of a job or the breakup of a marriage or relationship.

Fact #5: While Antidepressants are a Tool to Combat Depression, They are More Effective When Coupled with Depression Therapy

Many individuals erroneously believe that pills such as Prozac, Wellbutrin or Paxil will be cure-alls for their depression. However, without depression therapy, antidepressants can only scratch the surface and may only mask the underlying issues. Thus, therapy treatment such as cognitive behavioral therapy, couples therapy, individual therapy or another therapy method is always recommended.

Don’t allow depression to take over your life. See a professional at a local mental health clinic today.

For more information, visit TheClinicForEmotionalWellness.

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Addiction to Wrong Deeds and the Knowledge of Doing Something Wrongful Can Trigger Off Depression!

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 4:21 am

It is hard to understand that a mental disorder like depression stems from certain hereditary causes. However, medical studies have testified that the genes do have a very important role to play in carrying depression from generation to generation. Often, external factors are also responsible for a mental disorder like depression. Depression can also spring from some other disease or ailment and sometimes even from addictions. Addiction is a term that is mostly used in the negative sense and the term is not just limited to dependence on addictive substances.

The term addiction can also be applied to helpless dependence on any habit or manner. There are many instances when a person moves ahead to complete a particular task in spite of knowing that what one is doing is wrong and detrimental to the interests of either the self or others. Addiction of either a substance or a habit and the knowledge that the addiction is bad is also a very potent cause of depression. There are people who derive some kind of sadistic pleasure from addictive dependence on a particular deed. Some among these people who derive pleasure by hurting others are termed psychopaths. Altogether, when people can’t abstain from doing things that they consider to be wrongful, they are considered to be under the influence of a specific addiction. Depression creeps into the psyche of these people unknowingly.

However, addiction, depression and bad memories are interrelated in many cases. In many people, it is seen that a bad memory leads to some form of addiction and eventually triggers off depression. Depression is very much a curable disease. But when depression is related to some other problem, the cure is easier said than done. People who are suffering from multiple disorders sometimes seem to be very normal. It becomes hard to decipher that they are in the grip of mental problems. This is altogether very dangerous. Seemingly normal human beings who are actually sick are really dangerous to themselves and also to the ones around them. It is also hard to influence these people into opting for treatment because they feel that they are alright. In many cases, the patient knows that he is sick but acts otherwise in front of the world. These patients can go for depression drugs that are available online in case they feel embarrassed to accept their illness in public. Xanax is one of them and a patient can buy xanax online from a reputed online pharmacy. In order to buy xanax, however, xanax prescription is necessary.

Coming back to the original topic of other illnesses or conditions being interrelated with depression, early treatment is the only option before it is too late. To quote an example, recently a man named Joseph Fritzl was caught in Austria for having forceful sexual relationship with his own daughter for period of 24 long years and fathering 7 children from her. The daughter Elizabeth was locked up in the cellar of their house and was raped for 24 years by her own father. The guilty, when caught, admitted that all the time he knew that what he was doing was wrong but he couldn’t control himself. He was addicted to doing it. The guilty had a rough childhood and was afflicted with mental disorders though one cannot be sure whether it was depression. In this case, a proper early evaluation of Joseph Fritzl`s mental disorder and subsequent treatment might have been able to restrain him from committing the heinous crime.

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