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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on March 4, 2011 at 9:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on March 3, 2011 at 11:20 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on March 2, 2011 at 1:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 23, 2011 at 5:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 22, 2011 at 7:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 20, 2011 at 11:21 am

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years, even though we weren’t together until a year ago. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a well known musician in a band & never really talked to her only him a few times. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, he was a guitarist and would write her songs, he worshiped them. Four years ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart, she disappeared for a while and doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. The only way she ever tries to deal with stuff is by writing poetry about him or her pain. We ended up getting together and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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Fiancee is living in the past & still aching for her fiance who died! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS?

  • Posted on February 17, 2011 at 5:21 pm

Im a 29yo firefighter and have been in love with my now fiance who is 26 for 7years. She was 19 when i met her and she had a 3yr old daughter with her then fiance who was a musician. I knew i never had a chance with her at that point as she was crazy in love with her then fiance who she dated since she was 13, she honestly couldn’t stop expressing her love for him, basically everyone knew how in love they were with each other, 4yrs ago he died of a heroin overdose and she completely fell apart. We ended up getting together and 2yrs ago and we are now engaged and her 10yr old daughter is so lovely i love both them but she always talks of her daddy. My fiance sometimes looks like she is falling apart, she never grieved for him and everyone says part of her died with him. I turned on her the other day for living in the past when i wanted to talk about having a baby together & she told me she wasn’t ready, i felt horrible after. She told me that she loses what she loves most both her parents,brother,nephew,aunt have died. I also asked her if she thinks we would have been together if he hadn’t of died and she just looked through me and didn’t say anything and i ended up walking out. I love this woman with all my heart and i feel close to her daughter, i wont give up on her. How can i help her get over this completely?

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My daughter died 3 years ago and I am still having a hard time coping?

  • Posted on October 20, 2010 at 3:23 pm

She was in a car wreck drinking and driving. She was just shy of 21. All I have left is my husband and two boys. There is no counseling near me locally and when you do, it is a long wait. Help.
Today I was crying for the mother of the kids that were stab in Chicago. Anything breaks me out in tears and I feel low for awhile.

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How much do i tell my 5 and 7 year old daughters about their uncle (age 27) who died from a heroin overdose?

  • Posted on August 9, 2010 at 5:20 am

My brother passed away on New Years Eve. My brother was in and out of their lives so the fact that they have not seen him in 8 months is not a big difference than when he was alive. I keep preparing myself to tell them and then I stop myself because I don’t know what to say was the reason he died. They saw a video of him today and asked where he is. If anyone has had this type of situation and would like to share what they did, I would be very grateful.

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