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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

  • Posted on December 10, 2010 at 1:20 pm

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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What do i with my 17 year old daughter who lives with me in ca..who is behavingly wild and doing wild things?

  • Posted on December 8, 2010 at 5:23 am

my 17 year old daughter who lives with me in los angeles ca. is behaving badly she has been kicked out of 2 of the los angles area high schools for fighting and recently citated for a underage drinking driving charge ..i have tried everything taken her brand new car away. taken her laptop away taking her cellphone and credit card again and sitting her down and telling her what is going on and grounding her..im really not understanding her actions she is an honor student when she does attend school and she was cheer-leading and playing sports up until her sophomore year i don’t know if it is resentment for me divorcing her father who lives in texas ..should i send her to live with him i tried everything

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why do you assume it’s me doing drugs?

  • Posted on November 20, 2010 at 7:20 pm

I asked about the half life of heroin and some very judgemental people assumed it’s me doing drugs-In fact this is about my daughter who I found out is and addict and the only way she can be admitted into the hospital for detox and rehab is if she tests “dirty”, What’s wrong with you people? I’m trying to save her life.

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why do you assume it’s me doing drugs?

  • Posted on November 19, 2010 at 9:20 pm

I asked about the half life of heroin and some very judgemental people assumed it’s me doing drugs-In fact this is about my daughter who I found out is and addict and the only way she can be admitted into the hospital for detox and rehab is if she tests “dirty”, What’s wrong with you people? I’m trying to save her life.

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why do you assume it’s me doing drugs?

  • Posted on November 18, 2010 at 11:21 pm

I asked about the half life of heroin and some very judgemental people assumed it’s me doing drugs-In fact this is about my daughter who I found out is and addict and the only way she can be admitted into the hospital for detox and rehab is if she tests “dirty”, What’s wrong with you people? I’m trying to save her life.

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How to get SIL to stop doing the MIA’s every weekend?

  • Posted on October 26, 2010 at 12:17 am

My SIL & brother come in from the city every weekend. Just about every weekend she diaspears to do crack and binge drink, leaving the care and responsiblity of my two nephews with us. They just dont care, they lack total empathy. My youngest nephew (3) has down syndrome and frequent seizures, he is tube fed. The ‘button’ is infected and I’m so scared I will over dose him in on his meds bc I just dont know when he is suppose to have what. I feel so incompetant and stressed. I live with my parents bc they are elderly and have some health problems. I have 2 daughters 5 & 5mos, plus a neices & nephews that we raise 7 & 10. My father just had a knee surgery & my mother is just getting over pnemonia. Last night my Sil & brother came to town. He left to help a friend who got stuck. Not long later my SIL was talking with me in the kitchen, she left the room and I heard a door open and close… she snuck out! She most likely wont return till Monday, stay in the guest room for 2 days and come out angry w/ us! This all just happens so often that its become normal. They do this on birthdays, Thanksgiving, Easter, Christmas. I mean when I was 39wks pregnant, my mother was sick w/ pnemonia, my father had strep, and they left for a week! This was when my nephew w/ down syndrome just started getting tube fed & no one was told about anything. Its difficult bc you just learn how to give him his meds and the docs change them and she doesnt inform us on ANYTHING! Her oldest son was living with us last year bc he couldn;t miss any more school or he would fail. He started coming to me with owiies and problems and she got mad at me! He’s 9 and when they disapear I’m the one talking to him, telling him its not his fault. She cant even use the excuse that the youngest is stressful bc this has been going on 4 ten yrs! She misses they youngest ones appointments and takes none of it serious. It does no good to talk to them bc nothing changes & it causes even more problems. We all feel like we’re enablers but what do we do? If she did this to her family once, they would call CPS on her in a heart beat. she never does anything like this to them EVER and I’m soooo angry! What do I do?
I guess why I’m letting my brother ‘off the hook’ or not coming down as hard is because he has a disability as well & his finer motor skills are lacking thus he can’t really give meds or do feedings. Thank you for all the feed back.

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How to get SIL to stop doing the MIA’s every weekend?

  • Posted on October 23, 2010 at 12:16 pm

My SIL & brother come in from the city every weekend. Just about every weekend she diaspears to do crack and binge drink, leaving the care and responsiblity of my two nephews with us. They just dont care, they lack total empathy. My youngest nephew (3) has down syndrome and frequent seizures, he is tube fed. The ‘button’ is infected and I’m so scared I will over dose him in on his meds bc I just dont know when he is suppose to have what. I feel so incompetant and stressed. I live with my parents bc they are elderly and have some health problems. I have 2 daughters 5 & 5mos, plus a neices & nephews that we raise 7 & 10. My father just had a knee surgery & my mother is just getting over pnemonia. Last night my Sil & brother came to town. He left to help a friend who got stuck. Not long later my SIL was talking with me in the kitchen, she left the room and I heard a door open and close… she snuck out! She most likely wont return till Monday, stay in the guest room for 2 days and come out angry w/ us! This all just happens so often that its become normal. They do this on birthdays, Thanksgiving, Easter, Christmas. I mean when I was 39wks pregnant, my mother was sick w/ pnemonia, my father had strep, and they left for a week! This was when my nephew w/ down syndrome just started getting tube fed & no one was told about anything. Its difficult bc you just learn how to give him his meds and the docs change them and she doesnt inform us on ANYTHING! Her oldest son was living with us last year bc he couldn;t miss any more school or he would fail. He started coming to me with owiies and problems and she got mad at me! He’s 9 and when they disapear I’m the one talking to him, telling him its not his fault. She cant even use the excuse that the youngest is stressful bc this has been going on 4 ten yrs! She misses they youngest ones appointments and takes none of it serious. It does no good to talk to them bc nothing changes & it causes even more problems. We all feel like we’re enablers but what do we do? If she did this to her family once, they would call CPS on her in a heart beat. she never does anything like this to them EVER and I’m soooo angry! What do I do?
I guess why I’m letting my brother ‘off the hook’ or not coming down as hard is because he has a disability as well & his finer motor skills are lacking thus he can’t really give meds or do feedings. Thank you for all the feed back.

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Is baby’s father doing cocaine?

  • Posted on October 21, 2010 at 1:22 pm

I just recently ended a year-long relationship with the father of the child I’m expecting. Through the entire pregnancy his support has been very inconsistent and he has more issues than I want to deal with (especially being pregnant), so I ended the relationship. Just last night, I was told that he had a cocaine problem. He is constantly around drug users,which is part of the reason we broke up and I admit I had suspected; however, he would was almost insulted one time when I did ask him. The source I heard this from is questionable, but if he is using a lot of other things he’s been doing would make sense. I have not confronted him on this, because the relationship is over. However, before I heard this I was at least going to allow him to be involved in our baby’s life and have visitation–now I am seriously considering having his parental rights relinquished. I want to act in our daughter’s best interests. What would you do?
I do not intend to file for child support. He’s been unemployed since May 06′. I make enough to support my two children (my 9 yr old and the one on the way), so to me filing child support is asking for more trouble than I personally care to deal with.

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Is baby’s father doing cocaine?

  • Posted on October 20, 2010 at 1:21 pm

I just recently ended a year-long relationship with the father of the child I’m expecting. Through the entire pregnancy his support has been very inconsistent and he has more issues than I want to deal with (especially being pregnant), so I ended the relationship. Just last night, I was told that he had a cocaine problem. He is constantly around drug users,which is part of the reason we broke up and I admit I had suspected; however, he would was almost insulted one time when I did ask him. The source I heard this from is questionable, but if he is using a lot of other things he’s been doing would make sense. I have not confronted him on this, because the relationship is over. However, before I heard this I was at least going to allow him to be involved in our baby’s life and have visitation–now I am seriously considering having his parental rights relinquished. I want to act in our daughter’s best interests. What would you do?
I do not intend to file for child support. He’s been unemployed since May 06′. I make enough to support my two children (my 9 yr old and the one on the way), so to me filing child support is asking for more trouble than I personally care to deal with.

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Is baby’s father doing cocaine?

  • Posted on October 19, 2010 at 1:21 pm

I just recently ended a year-long relationship with the father of the child I’m expecting. Through the entire pregnancy his support has been very inconsistent and he has more issues than I want to deal with (especially being pregnant), so I ended the relationship. Just last night, I was told that he had a cocaine problem. He is constantly around drug users,which is part of the reason we broke up and I admit I had suspected; however, he would was almost insulted one time when I did ask him. The source I heard this from is questionable, but if he is using a lot of other things he’s been doing would make sense. I have not confronted him on this, because the relationship is over. However, before I heard this I was at least going to allow him to be involved in our baby’s life and have visitation–now I am seriously considering having his parental rights relinquished. I want to act in our daughter’s best interests. What would you do?
I do not intend to file for child support. He’s been unemployed since May 06′. I make enough to support my two children (my 9 yr old and the one on the way), so to me filing child support is asking for more trouble than I personally care to deal with.

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