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My mom is an alcoholic; I don’t want her to meet my best friend?

  • Posted on March 17, 2011 at 4:17 am

This sounds so bad to say, but I really really REALLY don’t want my mom meeting my best friend. My friend lives around here, but is moving to the other side of the country … So, in a couple months I’m going to see her there. My mom wants to come, since I’m only 16 and “not old enough” to go by myself. I have been best friends with this girl for like, forever, but my mom and her have never met. Mainly because my mom is an alcoholic, bottom line … and I didn’t want them meeting. Now my mom says she wants to meet her when I go to see her. [I don't even know why she does though, she never even cared before.] My mom is also very sensitive and gets very verbally abusive if I bring up her drinking. And that is obviously the main reason I don’t want them meeting. So, is there anything I can do to prevent them from meeting? I was thinking of me meeting my friend in a public place then going back to her house to hang out, or something like that … so they wouldn’t meet but I don’t know. I just can’t directly tell my mom no … because of how she is … & My best friend DOES know my mom is an alcoholic, we have talked about it a lot of times. Especially when I’m really upset. When my mom is drunk [which is pretty much all day] she does crazy things … like taking her shirt off or singing and dancing and stuff like that. It’s embarassing. I just don’t want her to see that … Please help me. I’m not trying to sound like the worst daughter on earth but I really can’t stop thinking about how terrible it will be.

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I don’t want my Daughter to go to her Dad’s?

  • Posted on March 11, 2011 at 4:18 pm

Okay I have a bit of a problem.Maybe somebody who has been through this can help me.I have a daughter who is 18 months old.I had her from a little summer fling I had when I was 16, I am now going on 19 and her dad is 24.When he takes her, he takes her to his parent’s house and stays there with her for the weekend (she is not allowed at his current girlfriends house) My problem is….His mom is an alcoholic and his Dad is a heavy pot smoker, I know that my daughter’s dad smokes too.The house there is filthy and she is always returned to me in the same outfit and has not been bathed.She has only been there a couple of times and I do not want her to at all, but I have been told he has rights and I can’t deny him visitation, but under these circumstances I think it would be fair for me to do so.I guess my question is, what should I do? He pays child support….He was not there for her birth though and never signed her BC,also I was told that I have Full costody of her.Please help me.

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Alcoholic husband..do they ever actually keep their promises..I don’t want to get hurt again!!?

  • Posted on March 2, 2011 at 12:17 pm

so me and my husband have been married for almost two years. when I met him he had a drinking problem. when I got married and got pregnant things only got worse. long nights of sitting up when he wouldn’t come home since he was out at bars with his friends, money missing, coming home from work to a passed out husband, it has been a long road. last summer we had split up after he had left to supposively go to iowa where his mother is to look for work and got incacerated after 2 days of being there for public intox. at that time I had made up my mind and told myself i was done! well six months went by and he started doing good. i talked to him everyday and he got a job and started sending money and i let him come back home. since january he hasn’t drank but I could never give hima fresh start and always brought up the past. his dad who is an alcoholic is on person though I never trusted him around becuase he just was a bad influence on him and I knew what would happen. well off of a sudden he started sneaking around my back and started talking to him and having him meet him up at his work. I would get mad and we’d fight, so bad that I’d even come up to his work starting things. I just never trusted him and couldn’t let the past go. well come to find out my husband started talking to another girl and I’d hear accusations that he was wanting to leave me, that he just couldn’t take the fighting anymore. I just had a hard time, to me I felt I gave you all this time to straighten up and over the years I took so much emotional abuse that my mind was so messed up and I just couldn’t trust him, where was my time?? well my mom and dad start hearing the accusations and I begin to hear more and more that he just wasn’t in to me and didn’t want to be with me so we split up. 2 months has went by and he is now begging me to give him another chance and to try to work things out if I can give him that fresh start but I just don’t know what to say? all these accusations that were made, my parents hate him! how could it ever work,could they ever forgive him?? we are getting divorced no matter what, but what can I say to him. he calls me crying everyday, he sends money to help support our daughter, he isn’t drinking, nor is he trying to see anyone else right now. I also don’t know what was true, al these accusations of things he supposively said and did, I feel like how could he do this after so much I went through with him and tried to be there and stay with him. I just don’t know, so far all I told him is that right now we should be friends. since we spilt up I had to move back in with my parents and if they even had a clue I was talking to him they would probably disown me as their daughter and want us out! I can’t jeopardize a roof over my head right now nor my relationship with them… I’m just so confused and son’t know where to go from here????

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I don’t know what to do now?

  • Posted on February 14, 2011 at 11:21 pm

My oldest son is a drug addict (keep in mind-he’s still my son) – he did live with us and we kicked him out. He has a daughter he doesn’t take care of but supposedly loves. He left town a while ago and came back to “take care of some things” –right. Called last night and said he wants to stop to say “hi” before goes back. Youngest son threatening to move out now because I told him his brother wants to stop and see us before he leaves. Oldest stole everything from us-ruined us financially. I KNOW it’s the drugs that did it. I can’t get him help and he won’t go get help. Now I have to tell him he can’t stop by. Husband left me note (he works nights) and said HE’S been waiting for the birth of youngest son’s child (they live with us – due in Oct) and that HE doesn’t want them to move out (saying it like I don’t care but I care a LOT). Why does it have to be this way? Does ANYONE have ANY encouraging words? I don’t think there are any when it comes to drug addicts (heroin/oxys).
He’s been in jail – is not afraid of the “cops” and we did use tough love kicking him out. I’ve had him arrested in the past.
We’ve dealt with this for YEARS – it’s nothing new. He’s my first born son – I can’t help but still LOVE him. He’s lived on the streets and is VERY STREET SMART — also people love him and will let him in their home until he steals from them.

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is it hiv or anxiety i dont know do you?

  • Posted on February 1, 2011 at 5:23 am

i did something really stupid i had sex with a woman i didnt know. i wore a condom and i had vaginal intercourse for id say 2 minutes after i checked and i saw none of her fluids got on my skin. a week later i got sick i had a small sore throat and later on i got constipated so i took a lax. then i had diarrea and it wouldnt stop so i took imodium ad then i got constipated again and got a 101 temp fever, i drank some prune juice and had diarrea again, i looked up the symptoms online and now im freaking out, i had diarrea for 10 days but only like twice a day, i im better now my cold lasted about a week and a half i still have a dry cough which i normally get. im so paranoid i cant sleep my heart pounds alld day. the lady swore to me she was clean she said she gets checked, plus she has a daughter, is it just anxiety and parania? please help me

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i dont know what to do about my friend and her baby…SERIOUS SITUATION!! need help asap!?

  • Posted on January 12, 2011 at 11:22 pm

first of all let me just say that im am NOT like her at all we’ve just been friends for a long time and she went down the wrong path:

she had a baby a few months ago
shes only 19 almost 20
her babys is “mixed”
so her parents disowned her
shes living in the hood lol
its a really bad bad place to live for her and the baby
she gets everything for free now
her “baby daddy” went to jail
she’s actin like a H O E
she smokes weed in her house around her daughter
drinks… brings a bunch of low lifes around her too
she drives probably drunk with her in the back
she doesnt “need” a baby sitter because she just brings her along in the car every where she goes no matter whos with or what theyre doing
they drive around smoking weed in the car with her there too
i was so happy that she was going to college
because it was free so she had no reason NOT to go
but i dont think she
ever goes or even trys anymore
i went to visit her the other day because her baby is just so precious!
shes always so happy and smiling
but she doesnt even change her diaper unless she pooped!!!!!!
so i changed her diaper and it was soaking wet
then she doesnt feed her because she thinks she only
needs to feed her when she CRIES?!
WHAT the heck is wrong with her???????
she is just such a bad mother
some people just do not need to pro create

i dont know what to do!
i need help!
i cant watch this helpless little baby grow up like this
i know people do it all the time
but not if i can help it..
who do i call?
does anyone know?
the only problem is since her parents disowned her and the fathers in
jail, the baby would have no where to go!
i dont want her to go into foster care and i want to still be able to see her, maybe thats selfish of me but i really dont want anyone to take her away..
i just wish i could adopt her…
im always offering to babysit just to try to help prevent her being put
in these situations but it will still be the same when she has her..
i just dont know what to do
can someone please give me some ideas?!

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What is the skit below from? I know It’s on the lil wyte CD but I don’t know what movie/tv show its on.

  • Posted on January 3, 2011 at 7:23 pm

son- “later dad”
dad-”hey Uhh…I might be late to pick you guys up”
daughter- “why you have a job interview today daddy?”
dad- no hunny i’ll uhh probly just be way to drunk
daughter- thats good we don’t want you drinking and driving
dad- oh i’ll be driving. I’ll just be too shitfaced to remember to pick you guys up

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my prefect girl that i dont like?

  • Posted on January 2, 2011 at 9:24 pm

okay i wanna tell my whole story so don’t just go and say it was to long and you didn’t read, oh and please no trolling.

okay, a few days ago this family moved to my neighborhood, and they had this smokin’ hot daughter, i mean the body plus the tank top, plus the cut off, plus the gorgeous face? how could i resist? so the next day i went over and welcomed them , said hey to the family, complimented the dad, told the mom she was beautiful, and gain some approval points before i talked to their daughter. well later when the girl came, we talked and i invited her to go bowling with some of my friends, and she accepted. so later after i picked her up with a bunch of other friends i had in my brothers van and went to the local bowling alley, we started talking and i started flirting. i found out that she was great at bowling and she told me she was a tomboy guy-girl, which she said were different(apparently a tomboy is a girl who likes sports, and a guy-girl is a girl who acts like a guy).
so after a few more outings i asked her out and we went to a movie, predators, and it was great. after that date, we went to starbucks and drank coffee and talked for like 2 hours straight. i learned that she had to move cause her mom was in the military, that she was Trekkie fan, as was i, that she likes tea more then soda, she plays football, even with the guys, and that she had 5 exclusive boyfriends. then next day, i invited her to go to the beach with a bunch of my friends and do this bonfire. she said yes and we stayed their until around 6:30pm when we started gathering dry wood from a few trees around the place and some grass. i went with her and we started talking, i told her when we took a break on a bench, that she was beautiful and she punched me on the arm and said,” your so cute”, and we made out, right there… the thing was, i didn’t feel a spark. i mean, she was the most perfect girl for me, she was funny, lighthearted, loved football, loved video games, had the body of a model and the face of a god, and i didn’t feel a spark. i could tell she didn’t feel anything either by the look on her face, so i asked,” wanna try again”, and we sucked spit again, but nothing… so the rest of the day went like normal, we did the fire, dance around it like idiots, got our stuff and headed home. i walked her to her door and tried one more time for a spark, but again nothing.

so my problem is, shes smart, she funny, she gorgeous, and she is the greatest girl ive ever met and i want to start a relationship but i cant do that if there isn’t a spark to kindle our fire… wow i just thought of that off the top of my head. so i need some help, or advice to make a spark. i mean i really, really like this girl, but i dont know, should i used more tongue or should i have waited a little longer before i made my move.

PLEASE HELP!!

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I don’t know how to get my husband off meth. Can anyone help?

  • Posted on December 24, 2010 at 10:20 pm

My husband is addicted to meth. We have been seperated for a year now. We have a beautiful 10 month old daughter that he has never met because of his addiction. I still love him very much and want him to get help! I’ve tried talking to him about it but it usually leads to a fight. I feel like the only person that hasn’t given up on him and I refuse to give up. Most of his family has either turned their backs on him or has “accepted” the fact that he will never stop using and I refuse to believe that!! Can anyone help me please I don’t know what else to do

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I don’t know how to get my husband off meth. Can anyone help?

  • Posted on December 22, 2010 at 1:20 am

My husband is addicted to meth. We have been seperated for a year now. We have a beautiful 10 month old daughter that he has never met because of his addiction. I still love him very much and want him to get help! I’ve tried talking to him about it but it usually leads to a fight. I feel like the only person that hasn’t given up on him and I refuse to give up. Most of his family has either turned their backs on him or has “accepted” the fact that he will never stop using and I refuse to believe that!! Can anyone help me please I don’t know what else to do

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