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18 Year Old drinking and (maybe) driving?

  • Posted on December 21, 2010 at 1:23 am

Another parent sent me several pictures of my 18 yr old, recent HS graduate son holding a beer at a variety of parties over the last several months-she got them from her daughter’s facebook account. While I had suspicions my son drank, I don’t get the feeling he overdoes; he has to come up and say goodnight when he gets home and I’m doing my best to look for drunken behavior. I do not condone underage drinking-but I’m not an idiot and I was 18 once (and it was legal to drink at 18 then). Anyway – he has a car, which he drives to and from these parties (friends are few blocks up to less than one mile away). Do I take it away and risk him getting into a car with someone else who had more to drink? I would be willing to go get him, but does that solve the problem? Does it appear that I’m saying “go ahead drink sweetie, mom will pick you up”? Not interested in punishing an 18 yr old leaving for college shortly-just don’t want to know he’s doing this and do nothing about it. Thanks

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If you found out that someone you trusted was drinking and driving with your child in the car?

  • Posted on November 29, 2010 at 11:23 pm

My teenager (16) went out with a friend and his mom. When she got home she told me that the mom met up with another friend and went to a bar, leaving the kids and two other younger children (12 and 9) in the car in the parking lot. They didn’t know where they were so I couldn’t go get them- so my daughter didn’t call me (she knew I would call the police and put out an Amber Alert or something). The mom and friend then drove the kids home drunk.
I will yell at this woman when I next see her but what else can I do?
What would you do? What could you do?
Please help me before I myself break the law and beat the crap out of this person.
This happened last night. My daughter didn’t call the police because she was really freaked out and was afraid of what they may do to her (yell at her, get mad at her ect.) I told her that’s better than her being dead because of them!. She’s never been around people drinking and knew I would totally freak.

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Is it illegal to set someone up to be caught drinking and driving?

  • Posted on November 29, 2010 at 1:24 am

Trying to get custody of my daughter and her dad is a alcoholic.. I know that he drinks and drives and probably is putting her in the car and driving while drinking with her in it. I know if he is caught doing that it will make this so much more easier for me to tell him to give her back to me.. Which he should do without fighting me.. I would think. But can I do that.. Is it legal to hire a police officer to sit and wait for him to catch him doing that.? Or if it is how do I go about proving he does this to the law.. I know that he sits at the house and drinks all night long with her there what can I do about that..
Just to add to your answer about my life and why I don’t have her.. I do have her it was just a verebal mutual agreement that i said ok to for the 50/50 split I asked him not be drinking with her and now he is contioning to do so.. But we have nothing in paper as far as any court order is concerned so as of right now he could keep her and there is nothing that i can do until I take him to court.. I am a dam good mom I work two jobs I sure there hell don’t drink when i have my kids and I make sure they have what they need.. I just don’t have a 5000.$ retainer to give to a attorney or have any idea how to come up with that. I do what I can and have no bad record on me.. Im just a single mom trying to make ends meet and not have to drag my daughter through a battle Becasue of him..

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Should an illegal be drinking & driving with wife in car & failing to provide a child-safety seat for baby?

  • Posted on November 28, 2010 at 3:22 am

Felix Benitez, 31, of Atlantic Street, was arrested Saturday night on Pearl Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated.
Police allege Benitez was swerving while driving along the statehighway and was observed to be driving about 15 mph less than theposted 35 mph speed limit at Pearl Street and Mulford Drive.

Benitez’s 2-year-old daughter and his wife were in the car with him at the time of his arrest.

In addition to drunken driving, Benitez was issued tickets for recklessdriving, careless driving, failing to provide a child-safety seat whenrequired, failing to keep right, possessing an open alcoholic beveragein a motor vehicle, DWI with a minor in the motor vehicle, failing toexhibit motor vehicle documents and slow speed impeding traffic.

Benitez’s blood-alcohol content level was 0.11 percent, or 0.03 percent above the state’s legal limit, police said.

A suspected illegal immigrant, Benitez was lodged in Cumberland CountyJail without bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

http://www.nj.com/cumberland/index.ssf/2010/06/bridgeton_police_blotter_inclu_132.html

And another illegal arrested…….Moises Mejia, 24, of North Laurel Street, was arrested Saturday nighton West Broad Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated afterpolice found the car he was driving to be blocking the entrance to theRiverfront parking lot.
Mejia apparently fell asleep at the wheel of the idling car.

In addition to drunken driving, he was issued tickets for driving whileunlicensed, reckless driving and refusing to submit to blood-alcoholcontent testing.
A suspected illegal immigrant, Mejia was lodged in the county jailwithout bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

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Should an illegal be drinking & driving with wife in car & failing to provide a child-safety seat for baby?

  • Posted on November 27, 2010 at 5:23 am

Felix Benitez, 31, of Atlantic Street, was arrested Saturday night on Pearl Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated.
Police allege Benitez was swerving while driving along the statehighway and was observed to be driving about 15 mph less than theposted 35 mph speed limit at Pearl Street and Mulford Drive.

Benitez’s 2-year-old daughter and his wife were in the car with him at the time of his arrest.

In addition to drunken driving, Benitez was issued tickets for recklessdriving, careless driving, failing to provide a child-safety seat whenrequired, failing to keep right, possessing an open alcoholic beveragein a motor vehicle, DWI with a minor in the motor vehicle, failing toexhibit motor vehicle documents and slow speed impeding traffic.

Benitez’s blood-alcohol content level was 0.11 percent, or 0.03 percent above the state’s legal limit, police said.

A suspected illegal immigrant, Benitez was lodged in Cumberland CountyJail without bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

http://www.nj.com/cumberland/index.ssf/2010/06/bridgeton_police_blotter_inclu_132.html

And another illegal arrested…….Moises Mejia, 24, of North Laurel Street, was arrested Saturday nighton West Broad Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated afterpolice found the car he was driving to be blocking the entrance to theRiverfront parking lot.
Mejia apparently fell asleep at the wheel of the idling car.

In addition to drunken driving, he was issued tickets for driving whileunlicensed, reckless driving and refusing to submit to blood-alcoholcontent testing.
A suspected illegal immigrant, Mejia was lodged in the county jailwithout bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

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MOTHER IN LAW IS DRIVING ME LITERALLY INSANE! PLEASE HELP ME!?

  • Posted on November 21, 2010 at 5:22 pm

I have married into the family from hell! My mother in law especially is terrible! She is convinced that I am evil, even going so far as to call me the “devil himself”! This lady deliberately starts things with me, on facebook for example, then after I respond to her nasty remarks, erases hers so that all her family and friends see are mine. That leaves them thinking I am this awful person also, and she just goes with it! She has convinced my husbands entire family that I am worthless and a terrible wife and mother. Let me give you a little background on her and I both. MIL: 53 years old, no job, lives in a hotel with Step FIL, whom she cheats on constantly. She smokes crack and is an alcoholic. She has been caught drinking and driving with my children in the car with her. I have had to come to get my children from her care after she hit her husband with a 9 iron to the head in a drunk ed rage a 3 a.m. when the cops phoned my husband and I. My daughter had a concussion after being in her care a few months ago because Grandma didn’t make them wear seatbelts, thought it to be fun to jump a speed hump and my daughter hit her head on the car window. MIL didn’t tell me either, a CT from the hospital did. AND MIL’s response to that was a phone call to my husband after the police left her house saying “I can not believe that you let her call the cops on me!! You knew that she did that and you didn’t even call me to warn me?! She is a young mother and has a lot to learn!” Yes, really! Why were my kids in here care again you ask? Because she is a christian woman and after going to rehab had the entire world, including myself, fooled into believing she was sober. I now know that is a lie, but the rest of the family doesn’t believe me. She miraculously has them believing it is ME making all this stuff up, and that I have my husband BRAINWASHED into believing it also! WTF!?!?!
Background on me:
I do what I am supposed to do! I love her son, have never cheated on him. I have always done my motherly duties! I am a 28 year old epileptic with stress induced seizures, which this lady knows about and swears to God are FAKE.
HOW DO I KEEP DEALING WITH THIS LADY?
My kids want to see Grandma but I want to tell her to go to hell, and I also want her family to know that I am NOT who she says that I am! And how in the world can she claim to be a christian? Who gets smashed on Sat night and goes to church saying BLESS YOU on Sunday morning? I just don’t get it?
Oh, one more thing! The day I found out that my best friend was very sick and dying, I was hysterical. I called MIL and asked her to come stay with the kids for a few minutes so that I could go for a walk to clear my head and calm down so that I didn’t seize. her response? You have got to calm down. you can’t do that with the kids there! Then hung up the phone! LIKE I HAVE CONTROL OVER THE SEIZURES! She swears I have seizures because I am possessed! OMG WHAT DO I DO! I hate these people hating me! I am a good person, she just pushes me to so much negative thinking and I hate it!

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Should an illegal be drinking & driving with wife in car & failing to provide a child-safety seat for baby?

  • Posted on November 12, 2010 at 6:23 pm

Felix Benitez, 31, of Atlantic Street, was arrested Saturday night on Pearl Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated.
Police allege Benitez was swerving while driving along the statehighway and was observed to be driving about 15 mph less than theposted 35 mph speed limit at Pearl Street and Mulford Drive.

Benitez’s 2-year-old daughter and his wife were in the car with him at the time of his arrest.

In addition to drunken driving, Benitez was issued tickets for recklessdriving, careless driving, failing to provide a child-safety seat whenrequired, failing to keep right, possessing an open alcoholic beveragein a motor vehicle, DWI with a minor in the motor vehicle, failing toexhibit motor vehicle documents and slow speed impeding traffic.

Benitez’s blood-alcohol content level was 0.11 percent, or 0.03 percent above the state’s legal limit, police said.

A suspected illegal immigrant, Benitez was lodged in Cumberland CountyJail without bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

http://www.nj.com/cumberland/index.ssf/2010/06/bridgeton_police_blotter_inclu_132.html

And another illegal arrested…….Moises Mejia, 24, of North Laurel Street, was arrested Saturday nighton West Broad Street on the charge of driving while intoxicated afterpolice found the car he was driving to be blocking the entrance to theRiverfront parking lot.
Mejia apparently fell asleep at the wheel of the idling car.

In addition to drunken driving, he was issued tickets for driving whileunlicensed, reckless driving and refusing to submit to blood-alcoholcontent testing.
A suspected illegal immigrant, Mejia was lodged in the county jailwithout bail on a detainer issued by Immigration and CustomsEnforcement.

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Minor injured driving my go-kart, am I responsible for hospital bills?

  • Posted on November 6, 2010 at 3:23 am

13yo friend of 13yo daughter was driving my daughter’s go-kart (without permission). Went off of our property onto the road and rolled the go-kart. Only driver was injured, she was taken to ER and had mild concussion, otherwise fine, thank God. Find out after the fact that the kids had been drinking! They’d gotten alcohol from an older teenage boy. This happened 2-1/2 months ago. I just got a copy of the hospital bill and a request from the parent of the driver today asking me to pay what their insurance did not pay. The last time we spoke was 2 days after the accident, I had called again to make sure her daughter was OK. I went to the ER with them and called multiple times after the accident to make sure all was OK.

The accident didn’t happen on our property, the girls didn’t have permission to be using the go-kart at the time, the girl driving was the one who got injured and they certainly didn’t have permission to be drinking. Are we responsible for this hospital bill? I feel splitting it with the parent of the driver would be more than fair. However, if we do that would we be admitting some kind of fault or responsibility that could later come back to haunt us? I don’t want any hard feelings with this parent, I’m just surprised they waited so long to address the situation and I don’t know what to do. (I want to mention that if it had been my daughter driving I would definitely be paying the whole bill!) Thanks for any help!

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Drinking And Driving…?

  • Posted on November 2, 2010 at 11:23 am

I have a question for all the people that drink and then drive…

Do you know that drinking and then driving might not kill YOU but it might kill someone else?

(coming from someone who lost a sister to a drunk driver)

Why do SO many people seem determined to do stupid things?

Because its “fun”?
Because its “cool”?

Yeah…well, it wont be so fun or cool when your in handcuffs watching a family crying because you just killed their daughter because you were stupid enough to get behind the wheel…

Why do people do things like that?
When they know they shouldn’t?

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Help…Neighbor Driving Us Nuts?

  • Posted on October 25, 2010 at 5:23 am

I rent a duplex with my husband and 2 children. My neighbor is driving us nuts and I don’t know if I have any recourse to get her to stop. We moved in about 2 and a half years ago. The first conversation I had with her she told me in explicit detail about her sex life. I decided that this was not someone I wanted to be associated with too closely and kept our relationship to “hi, how are you?”. When we moved in it was only her and her daughter who lived there and we suspect she is on Section 8. Our landlord has a lot of section 8 housing around town. The first incident was when she decided to go drunk driving. She took out a parked car 5 house away and slammed into a tree. She left the scene of the accident and tried to hide her car in my back yard. But she left her bumper at the scene with her front license plate attached. My family and I awoke to 5 cop cars surrounding our house. About a year ago she met a man who I assume has become a boyfriend. One night I see things flying into my driveway. She is throwing things out of her second floor window and screaming at him outside. This goes on until 2:30 in the morning. He would speed away in his very loud HEMI truck and come back…and leave and come back. The next morning I woke up at 7:30 and yelled down the stairs to the kids and asked if they were ready for breakfast. My neighbor starts banging on the wall we share and told me “to shut the f**k up, I am trying to sleep”. I lost it. I was up until 2:30 listening to her and her boyfriend fight and now she is telling me to shut up. She called the landlord and said I threatened her (which I didn’t) and he called and told me if I can’t get along with her he was going to kick us both out. Her and I share a driveway. We each have 2 spots and there is one visitor spot. If 5 cars are parked it is a tight sqeeze. For the last week she has had her car, her boyfriends HEMI truck and his SUV parked in the driveway. My husband and I have to sqeeze our 2 Sebrings in and out of the driveway everyday. When we moved in we made sure it was ok to have our 10 lb. dog in the duplex. The landlord told us small dogs and cats are ok. NO BIG DOGS. He was real clear about this. Well it seems that the boyfriend has moved in his 150 black lab into the house too. I have to listen to this dog run up and down the stairs. And he takes the dog for walks not on a leash and does not pick up after it after it goes to the bathroom in the yard. My dog is on a leash each and every time she leaves this house and we have doggy bags attached to the leash so we never forget to pick up after her. My children play in the yard every single day and I have to warn them to watch out for dog messes. The lack of sleep from the noise of his truck that he revs on purpose, the dog and their fighting is killing me. My children start their summer activities at 6:30 in the morning and I really can not afford to lose much sleep. Is there a way I can find out if she is in fact on section 8 so I can report the boyfriend moving in, and if she isn’t what are my other options? My landlord seems less than helpful. I love living in this dulpex. It is 3 floors which is the perfect size for my family. It is affortable in this sucky ecomony and it is in the perfect neighborhood right across the street from my younger sons school. I don’t want to move until we save enough for a house, so what can I do??
I have in fact been keep written detail of the goings on over there. I have picture of the cars parked all over the driveway and of him walking the dog without a leash. My husband, who is usually a very laid back guy is starting to lose it too. I think we are going to go to the landlord with all of the pictures and the log we have. I just don’t think he will care much because he is getting his Section 8 money for he apartment.

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