Okay, This might be a little long, sorry….
I have a friend that I have been “besties” with for about 5 years now but recently (the last year or so) we have grown apart, because I lived away, and I got pregnant had my baby and my own life, etc. Every once in a while I’ll go to her house and see her and her 20 month old daughter and we talk on the phone weekly.
Its been about 3 months (since my son was born) since I’ve seen her so yesterday I went over to see how she was doing and show her my son for the first time. Well, I was appauled at the sight I saw. Her furniture had been repo’d so there was only a chair in the living room, the house was a hot MESS!!! Dirty as hell, clothes and whatever else everywhere, dirty dishes, the stove was a mess, the floor was dirty. I was scared to even touch anything. First thing she did was offer me a line of cocaine when I walked in the door! This doesn’t surprise me as much as the fact that she did one off of her kitchen counter RIGHT in front of her kid!
We used to party a LOT and I’m not saying I’m perfect because yes, I used to do that and smoke and drink recreationally until I got pregnant and now that I have my son, I wouldn’t think of doing any of that (i go have drinks on occasion)! Anyway, I think, If you ARE going to do that, don’t do it when your kid is in your care, and ESPECIALLY not right in front of her! RIGHT? Well, since the house smelled like cigs, I told her we could not stay in there and we should chat outside, and I was just really disgusted so I cut it short and went home….
She was on state assistance, and now I guess she says she goes to Labor Ready everyday (which is probably a lie to make things sound better than they are) and they give her fifty bucks a day, which she lives on? Her husband (baby’s dad) does not work and they just recently got married, i have no idea why because hes abusive (he once beat her so bad that her head was bleeding and she had to go to the hospital)! All he does is try to hustle…OH YEAH! She even called me a couple hours after I left because she said her and her friend did a twenty sack of coke and she couldn’t pay her dealer and her husband was going to “beat her A$$ if she came home without the money” and she needed to borrow twenty bucks!…I told her I didn’t have the money.
Since then its really been eating at me. Do you think I should call her and tell her what I think, and that she should take a look at her life because it seems to be in shambles? What would I say, I don’t want to offend her. Or call CPS? Can you do that anonymously?…..HELP, I want to be a friend
