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having a hard time coping with my alcoholic father…i feel like it’s an excuse?

  • Posted on March 14, 2011 at 10:17 am

My father (54) suffered a heart attack this weekend. As a diabetic, addicted to cigarettes, and an alcoholic for at least the last 20 years he’s treated his body badly of course. He wakes up and goes to work everyday, and has never physically, or emotionally abused anyone in my family. I guess you could say hes a high functioning alcoholic. Since suffering the heart attack, after being in the hospital for a couple of nights, he began to suffer from the Dr’s for which he was heavily sedated and still is (5 days later) The Dr’s have been going back and forth trying to wean him slowly off the ativan that they are using to treat him, but he’s been such a heavy drinker for so long, and still 5 days later even the slightest decrease in the meds leads him to fits and convulsions. I love him dearly, as he is my father, but seeing him with a breathing tube, completely sedated the way he is, im finding it hard to feelsympatheticetic, but rather i find myself feeling angry that it seems to be all self inflicted. I understand many people call alcoholism a disease and although i believe this may be true it’s very difficult for me to see that, looking at him so pathetic right now. I feel like a horrible daughter for feeling this way, but I just cant shake the thought that he’s done this all to himself. doesn’tesnt help that his #1 drinking buddy is my mom, who all along is making excuses for him, saying we can’t come down on him, because it just wont help. For the record, she drinks just as much as he does. theyre a toxic combination in my mind. How do I stop feeling angry at him, and resenting him, and act like the sympathetic daughter I should be in the face of his medical crisis. I know he needs caring and love, at the moment hes a heart attack victim, suffering frophenomenamnia which he developed. Hes breathing only thrventilatorator currently, its just so sad to see what hes done to himself. How do I stop blaming him??
sorry for all the typos. I have no idea what happened. At the moment, I am 25, and not living in their house. I am a new mother to a 1 year old who my parents have nothing to do with (Due to the fact that as soon as they finish work, they go to the bar 5 nights a week, only to spend 10 hours days there on the weekends…)

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having a hard time coping with my alcoholic father…i feel like it’s an excuse?

  • Posted on October 13, 2010 at 4:32 pm

My father (54) suffered a heart attack this weekend. As a diabetic, addicted to cigarettes, and an alcoholic for at least the last 20 years he’s treated his body badly of course. He wakes up and goes to work everyday, and has never physically, or emotionally abused anyone in my family. I guess you could say hes a high functioning alcoholic. Since suffering the heart attack, after being in the hospital for a couple of nights, he began to suffer from the Dr’s for which he was heavily sedated and still is (5 days later) The Dr’s have been going back and forth trying to wean him slowly off the ativan that they are using to treat him, but he’s been such a heavy drinker for so long, and still 5 days later even the slightest decrease in the meds leads him to fits and convulsions. I love him dearly, as he is my father, but seeing him with a breathing tube, completely sedated the way he is, im finding it hard to feelsympatheticetic, but rather i find myself feeling angry that it seems to be all self inflicted. I understand many people call alcoholism a disease and although i believe this may be true it’s very difficult for me to see that, looking at him so pathetic right now. I feel like a horrible daughter for feeling this way, but I just cant shake the thought that he’s done this all to himself. doesn’tesnt help that his #1 drinking buddy is my mom, who all along is making excuses for him, saying we can’t come down on him, because it just wont help. For the record, she drinks just as much as he does. theyre a toxic combination in my mind. How do I stop feeling angry at him, and resenting him, and act like the sympathetic daughter I should be in the face of his medical crisis. I know he needs caring and love, at the moment hes a heart attack victim, suffering frophenomenamnia which he developed. Hes breathing only thrventilatorator currently, its just so sad to see what hes done to himself. How do I stop blaming him??
sorry for all the typos. I have no idea what happened. At the moment, I am 25, and not living in their house. I am a new mother to a 1 year old who my parents have nothing to do with (Due to the fact that as soon as they finish work, they go to the bar 5 nights a week, only to spend 10 hours days there on the weekends…)

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Desperately in need of an excuse to a parent to miss school.?

  • Posted on October 11, 2010 at 9:19 pm

Please answer quickly, I need these answers by atleast 5:45am!

I normally don’t miss school. Im usually just late because I miss the bus or something. I haven’t even missed school all year actually. But I have issues with procastination.. its really becoming quite a problem. I’m going to talk to my guidance counselor next week because (im a freshman in high school now) i’ve had it since like 5th grade and it just seems to be escalating. it affects my grades.. i mean i could have had a 97-98 in 2 classes but because of procastination i got a 94 and an 88.

but please don’t answer that. I have to miss because I have 2 big projects, one that is already late, and another due today that I totally didn’t do. I have school in 2 hours from now and I wasted all of yesterday and I even woke up at 2am to do hw but once again i procastinate so nothing is done. and then i also dont have my math homework done so im just screwed all over and because this is Friday it would be perfect to go back to normal again over the weekend. other than that we arent doing anything big in class so im not too worried about that.

please i need excuses! i have no idea what to do. im really tired since i’ve been sleeping for 4-5 hours and not getting much done all week. but i’ve slept in before and it just pisses my mom off and she eventually drives me back to school. so i cant do that. i guess i could fake a headache or stomachache but idk how to do that right. i just had my period so unfortunately i cant do that either.

HELP! for a worthy cause. im not sure if i should just tell her the truth. she’d probs get pretty mad at me.. she knows i procastinate but idk if she’d want me to go to school and face the consequences or want to help her daughter not fail in school! ughhhh.

Its so annoying how i procastinate. like theres so much to do online. when i come back from school im stressed and usually tired from not sleeping much so I either fall asleep and wake up early and not do much, or I release stress by binge eating, watching tv, and going online. its horrible and is really starting to affect my life and i hate it. i’ve gotten a packet on how to manage time better but it didnt do squat. i suck at doing schedules like “do this from 7-8pm” too

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Is heredity a poor, good, or reasonable excuse for poor behavior?

  • Posted on January 5, 2010 at 11:06 am

I was watching “Intervention” and during the intervention this dad said:

(Some what)
“Well alcoholism does run in the family. I am one, my dad was one, and his dad. So is it my daughters fault if she has an addiction”

If a person with addiction in their family becomes addicted is it their fault. Is it right to expect people to not do things they are strongly born to do?

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Your Health and Fitness Should Be Your High Priority Goal

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 9:30 pm

We all take our health for granted until we get sick. People who claim they don’t have time for proper exercise and self-care find themselves hospitalized or in bed sick and out of commission for weeks or months. When our bodies force us, we have to make time for illness. Suddenly our health becomes much more valuable to us after we lose it.

But why wait until this happens? Take a moment and think about your future and all that you hope to do in all areas of your life. Isn’t your good health an essential component for the achievement of those goals? Does it make good sense to you that unless you take care of your health, you cannot take care of business, family and other interests?

A proper exercise program is absolutely necessary to ensure good health but exercising seems to remain a low priority for many. If you have difficulty finding time for your exercise program, you are not alone as a perceived lack of time is the most common reason people fail to stick with an exercise program.

Too often we get caught up in the short term demands, the little things that have to be done somehow do get done, but the larger, really important issues like our health can get put on indefinite hold. Ask yourself, if you are too busy now to make exercise and your health a priority, when in the near future will you be less busy? Will it be weeks, months, or years? Will it be when the kids leave home, when you retire, or some other obscure reason (excuse)?

If you are waiting for a better time to make exercise a priority, you may wait too long, and it may be too late to regain health once it has been taken away from you.

Many busy people manage to find the time to exercise regularly. It would be fair to say someone who is busier than you is exercising right now!

But how do they do it? The answer to this is they make their health and fitness a high priority goal. They focus on the multitude of benefits they receive from their commitment to their exercise program. Although exercise helps prevent chronic disease and disability, it also helps control body weight, slows the aging process, boosts energy, keeps us mentally healthy and helps manage daily stress levels.

People who exercise regularly make it a habit and part of their daily and weekly routine; it is totally programmed into the day. The day would not be complete without it.

Early in the morning is the most popular time. If you want to exercise consistently and long term (like the rest of your life), exercise in the morning, before the rest of the world tries to derail you. The odds will be greatly in your favor as over 90% of people who exercise ‘consistently’, do so first thing in the morning.

People ask how can I be healthy and avoid all of these diseases without actually having to exercise? Is there a way that I can get the benefits of this activity without having to move my body? And the answer to that is simply, no, you have to actually do it if you want to get the benefits from it.

No one can do it for you, no prescription drugs, no surgical procedure can give you the same health benefits that your body would create on its own when you engage in a proper exercise program. Become your own personal trainer and get yourself going so you can experience the positive health results proper exercise offers.

With the extra energy and vitality that ‘being strong and fit’ provides, you will become a more productive person, not just at work, but in all areas of your life. When you are more energetic and feel great, you make better decisions, and find more creative solutions to problems. You will be much more fun to be with, and you will have more to give to those you care about.

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Rid Your Life of Gambling

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:36 pm

I want to help you rid your life of gambling. This is a tough problem to live with because it is hard to quit. Many people try to go cold turkey, but that is surprisingly difficult to make work. Gamblers are psychologically driven to want to do this and there is a pay off in your brain for doing it. I think it is more important than ever for gamblers to get a hold of this problem in these tough economic times. When people and families need every single dollar, you can’t be blowing it in a casino or in some sort of internet gambling. I’m going to help you rid your life of gambling.

This is an addiction, but often people use that as an excuse not to deal with it. You don’t do things because it is an addition. You do things because you get some sort of emotional pay off and that is what you’re addicted too. You need to identify what you’re looking for as pay off. That’s the key to getting past this problem. Maybe you’re someone that likes the adrenalin rush of putting a lot on the table and winning. Maybe you do it to avoid other problems in your life.

If you want to rid your life of gambling, you have to able to identify the real reason you do it and find another way to get the pay off. If you do it for the rush, maybe you should find a hobby that gives you a rush. If you do it to avoid dealing with a failing relationship, maybe you should try and fix it. Identifying the root cause of gambling is essential to ridding yourself of it.

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