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How will I not lose my cool in court tomorrow? My ex-husband is a low life meth head…?

  • Posted on January 24, 2011 at 2:20 pm

He didn’t call or some see our daughter for over 4 mos. so I got a court order stopping his visits so she would no longer have to wonder every Sun. if he was coming, so now he is saying it’s all my fault, waagh, waagh. The judge didn’t believe anything he said the last 2 times but he still just makes me sooo mad. The judge is going to talk to our daughter, she is 13, and I’m not really concerned about the outcome, if I can sit quietly and ignore his lying BS. The judge is also the drug court judge so recognizes his behavior. Help, I’m letting this creep have too much time in my head!
She knows, without me saying a word.
I am a recoverying alcoholic addict, 2 1/2 years clean,–since the day I left him!
thanks guys, for the kind words, it does help settle me down, yes I use the this too shall pass daily. And I have a good man who is also a recovering addict and my daughter adores him. We’ve been together 22 months.

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A question about alcoholic ex-husband?

  • Posted on January 23, 2011 at 11:25 pm

My ex and I have been divorced for 4 years. He is an alcoholic, in denial, and refused to get help. Many people in his family tried to talk to him as well, and it did no good. We have 2 daughters, ages 8 and 5 that I have physical custody of. He takes them on overnight visits every other weekend. My Mom and I are always watching him to make sure he doesent appear intoxicated, both at pick up and drop off. He will come over with his clothes stinking of booze alot of times, but he appears fine so I just figure he must have been drinking earlier in the week. Anyway, this weekend the girls had Girl Scouts and it was his weekend, so he dropped them off at the meeting and hung around. I was there, too. He seemed his usual self, so I didnt think anything of it. Then later this evening, one of their Troop Leaders called to tell me he reeked of alcohol when he stood near her, and it concerned her because he drove the girls. But she said he appeared ok, or she would have asked him to leave. I gave her a little info about our situation, and told her I would talk to him. I decided to take him to Court to have Visitation ammended, because obviously he’s doing some drinking when they are in their care. We already have a Case pending in January bec he insists on taking them to a married friend’s house to play with their 2 boys, ages 8 and teenage. Often they spend the night. I don’t like it, and have told him many times to stop, but he refuses. I don’t know why its so important to go over there, I believe partying is going on, my 5 yr old doesent even want to go over there, either. And to make matters worse, his friend is dying of cancer! I don’t think my girls should be in this position, he gets nasty to me and constantly bad-mouths me to the girls, upsetting them. I want to know if I can request an Emergency Hearing on this issue, since he takes them again in 2 weeks and thats before our Court date. I just don’t trust him to take them anywhere now. Also, what kind of proof would I have to give to the Judge to prove he’s got a problem? He’s a functional Alcoholic.
Thank you all, for your wonderful advice! Your giving me alot of good ideas. Gerry and Piglet, while I realize you have the right to express your opinion, mean and useless comments really don’t help me. Sometimes its best to abide by, “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all”!

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My ex-husband drinks and abuses his wife. Should my daughter go?

  • Posted on January 22, 2011 at 2:17 am

My ex-husband is an alcoholic. He drinks, flies into a rage and abuses his new wife. They are splitting up and he will be working out of town this summer. I feel like our 13 year old daughter should not be in that environment. What should I do?

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Ex-husband and meth charges?

  • Posted on October 16, 2010 at 10:21 pm

My soon to be ex husband is facing meth charges in MS, I was wondering how much time he will get for possession. He had either .5 or 5 grams of meth,I’m not sure. We split before this because I found out he was on meth. This is his first time getting caught, but one time with all of it is enough for me not to want him influencing our daughter. Any info will be helpful. I just figure it will be easier to get complete custody of our daughter if he is in jail, so I don’t have to deal with his antics.

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What can I do about my ex-husband making his 6yr old daughter strip to her panties to sleep with him?

  • Posted on August 18, 2010 at 12:22 pm

Dept of Social Services won’t do anything because he hasn’t actually done anything to her. What do I do? Just wait until he does? Something needs to be done – I refused to bring her over for his visitation and I’m sure he’ll file contempt charges against me. Oh – he’s 42, unemployed, no driver’s license, no car ( too many DWI’s) and lives next to his parents in a very rural area. The only way he goes anywhere is if his mother brings him. Isn’t that creepy? How do I get other people to see it that way? I need help!
I think it’s creepy because he has no adult contact with anyone except his parents and my children when they go over every other weekend. He sprays perfume on her – the same kind I used to use – and never lets her leave his side. He also washes her up in the bathtub! She wasn’t the one to tell me – my 13yr old son also goes over there with her and thought I should know about it.

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ex-husband is now selling ecstasy. should i report him?

  • Posted on August 6, 2010 at 7:22 pm

i was married from 1993-2002 to a man who has never paid child support, abandoned his 3 children and from whom i revoked parental rights 5 years ago (i don’t even think he knows about that). we haven’t seen or heard from him in 7 years. i recently discovered that he is back in my city (alive, well and dealing ecstasy)…he never did drugs while i was married to him, so that’s a little surprising, though he is a known con man and white collar thief. i obtained his cell phone number (unbeknownst to him). should i turn him in to the police for selling ecstasy? would they even prosecute it AND would i have to be involved in any way in his prosecution? he’s a scary individual. what should i do (if anything)? he hasn’t found us or contacted us, though he appeared at my adult daughter’s house a couple of weeks ago, asking for the zip code and was trying to rent the house across the street from her…she turned her head and pretended not to recognize him.
i have NO anger towards him. i’m simply dealing with an ethical dilemma in terms of the knowledge that i’ve been given. i would NOT want him to know that i was the one that reported him, but i WOULD like to see him off the streets so that he cannot bother us or the young people he sells to.

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my exhusband is petioning for custody of our 17 year old daughter?

  • Posted on July 26, 2010 at 11:23 am

My 17 year old daughter has decided she wants to live with her dad. Her teenage years have been difficult, and I suspect that she has lately been abusing prescription amphetamines. We had an argument several months ago and she attacked me, and then called the police because I would not let her leave with the car in the middle of a snowstorm. I let them take her to her dad’s house because I was worried that she would leave and walk there in the snow anyway. For several months preceding this she had been moody, disrespectful, and verbally abusive to me after a drawn out and emotional break up with her boyfriend. I insisted that she go to the doctor and be evaluated for depression and the doctor recommended blood tests and counseling. She refuses to go and her father refuses to get her the help she needs. I have sole custody of her right now and she turns 18 in 5 months, when neither I or her father will be able to force her to get psychiatric or drug counseling. What should I do?

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my ex-husband is smoking crack. how do i get an order of protection for my daughter?

  • Posted on January 1, 2010 at 7:00 pm
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