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what should i expect when seeing my mom after 6 years?

  • Posted on January 27, 2011 at 4:21 am

i haven’t seen or spoken to my mom in 6 years, i recently heard from her and we made plans to meet but between then and now i got married and had ababy 6 weeks ago, she missed out on this part of my life because of drug addiction, she got married too to a man i have never met. can anyone tell me what to expect when i see my mom after all these years, im bringing my daughter and my husband is that a good idea?

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I am going for a custody hearing, what can I expect?

  • Posted on November 21, 2010 at 9:22 am

(We are in Washington state)
My first major issue is that I am young. I am 20 and their mother is 18. I know this happens everyday in the US but I’ve never talked to anybody who’s been through this at this age.

I am petitioning for primary custody of my twin daughters who are now 8 months old. I am nervous because I really want this, however my lawyer even told me “To be honest, it will be very hard for you to get primary custody of these children.”

We were married for about a 6 month period of time, at which point we got a legal separation. At that time I agreed to pay child support but it also said I was entitled to 6 hours of visitation a week, which she is refusing to give me.

How does means of supporting the child come into play? I am a registered nursed, with an associates degree, and I do feel I make enough to support them… maybe not give them everything they want, but enough to keep them healthy. Their mom works at a daycare and makes about $9 an hour. She is not financially independent, and relies on her grandparents to support her and they end up paying most of her bills. Would that show I am “more fit” to support them? Would that help my case?

Also, the mother has a DWI on her record from last year, would that also help me? Or is that insignificant?

I know that there is frequent drug use going on in the mothers home (I have witnesses that will confirm she has used LSD and Marijuana while caring for the children) Can I use this to try and prove she is an unfit mother?

I know that fathers rarely get custody, but do you think under these circumstances I have a chance?

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Given how they abuse their positions, how can Cops expect the respect of THE PEOPLE or themselves?

  • Posted on October 14, 2010 at 4:33 pm

Yesterday, after being held in jail for seven hours for committing the “crime” of being rear-ended by a cop’s daughter, I noticed a poster handing in the police station with a glorified picture of a police officer and the word “respect” written accost it.

Given how often and how egregiously police officers abuse their positions, lie, and generally prey upon the American citizens they swore to protect, they can expect any respect either from the American public or even from themselves when they look in the mirror (that’s assuming that they still can look in the mirror).

Specifically, I was rear-ended by the seventeen year old female offspring of a Passaic (NJ) cop while waiting at a red light in Wayne, NJ.

Immediately after the accident occurred, the girl began telling anyone who’d listen that she was the daughter of a cop (something her father likely trained her to do to ensure she received favored treatment from other cops).

Once the police arrived, she reiterated that she was the offspring of a cop and the (Wayne, NJ) police proceeded to take her statement first.

When the officers went to take my statement, they waited until I’d gotten half way through my first sentence and claimed that they smelled alcohol on my breath. This is odd because, due to a family history of alcoholism, I elected not to drink and, other then Communion, never have.

Without allowing me to finish my statement, the officers placed me under arrest, handcuffing me in front of all the witnesses to the accident, and placing me in the squad car. Despite the fact that I told the officer that my back was hurting from the accident, they refused to loosen the cuffs or cuff me in the front where my arms wouldn’t be pulling on my shoulders and back.

Once we arrived at the station, they told me that all the officers who were qualified to operate the breathalyzer were “busy” and that I’d have to wait in a cell until one of them had the time to administer the breathalyzer.

It turned out that all of them were “busy” for the next eight hours during which I was forced to sit in a damp disgusting cell, handcuffed to the bench, with my back throbbing.

When the breathalyzer was finally administered, it registered a BAL of .0002% (an attorney and friend of mine informed me that this reading could result from the inherent inaccuracy of the machine or from alcohol naturally released when food ferments in the stomach-something that happens when someone hasn’t eaten in a 10 hours) well below the legal limit of .08%*.

I was then released but still had to pay for the towing of my vehicle to the impound lot (the state CLAIMS that it will reimburse me for this in 10-12 weeks) and pay for a cab to take me to the impound lot (an expense I won’t be refunded).

After this disgusting display of corruption and favoritism, I found the “respect” poster highly ironic.

After engaging in behavior like this, how can police officers respect themselves???

Furthermore, how can these same police officers expect the public to respect them???

*Furthermore, my friend told me that while the actions of the cops were immoral, they can be made to appear technically “legal” and thus it wouldn’t be worth pursuing LEGAL action against these officers…I can’t say what would happen if I met any of them or the b*tch who started this by hitting me in a dark ally…

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What outcome should I expect in my custody case?

  • Posted on September 27, 2010 at 5:23 pm

My abusive Ex-husband and I are in the child custody phase of our divorce. He has been arrested 7 times for abusing me and 1 time for cruelty to a child on our daughter. The court has awarded him supervised visitation and warned him if he did not maintain his sobriety and keep his visit schedule he would suffer greatly in the case. Up until our last court date he had kept all of his scheduled visitation, however has been photographed and eye witnessed very intoxicated on a weekly basis. When he is under the influence he calls at all hours of the night night demanding to speak to the our 3 year old daughter, and verbally abusing me over the phone. At our last court hearing his visitation was increased to 2 times per week still supervised. He canceled the very first visit after the hearing claiming he had a “family emergency” About 1 week after the “family emergency” I noticed he had posted pictures on his web blog of him doing beer bong races and refereeing and oil wrestling match. The photographs were date stamped for the day of the missed visit. He has since only schedule 2hrs. of visitation out of 48 potential hours. since we last went to court. Our daughter is becoming very emotional because she “never get to see daddy”. I encourage “healthy” telephone conversations for her and daddy, however I recently had to end a call abruptly because he was telling her “I’m sorry mommy doesn’t let you see me, I’m crying for you” causing her to cry hysterically and act out against me for most of the remainder of the day. Recently our daughter was diagnosed with a genetic disorder and requires medications. Some of which are not covered by her health insurance. I have called and all but begged her father to help pay for the associated cost of the prescriptions but he boldly refuses. We are due back in court on 10/20/09 for the judge to make a final ruling on the custody portion of our divorce. Do I have the right to request the court denies any visitation? Or how will the father’s behavior in this case effect the outcome?

Allow me to clarify the situation. The father in this case had convinced the court, childrens services and mediation that he had been sober from alcohol and drugs since before easter of 2009. When attending mediation 2 weeks ago I presented the mediator with the photos disproving his so call “family emergency” and “Sobriety” the mediator was very disappointed because he had been so convincing in his seperate mediation appointment. The father in this case is an illegal alien, and repeated abuser. He has been caught drinking and driving by mutiple family members with our daughter in the car. I am extremely terrified of what may happen if he is allowed to continue visitation with our daughter. When attending mediation the mediator kept pushing for me to agree to a trial period of unsupervised visitation.
He has also been convicted of multiple DUI offenses and has 2 other children that he has cut off all relations with.
He is also using his new girlfriend (our ex-daughters pre-school teacher) as a witness in his defense. My problem with that is, she knowingly is encouraging his drug and alcohol abuse by participating in the behavior with him. Is her credibility as a preschool teacher witness damaged because she is also pictured in the photos participating in the wreck-less behavior?

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